I don't even know how to start my confession. For a long time I thought about whether to write it at all and whether it makes any sense at all. In the end, I decided that I should share it with someone, even complete strangers. Maybe it's easier for me ... a little. I am a 28 year old boy and I have never had a boyfriend, I have never met love, I have never loved, I have never been loved. And it hurts me, it hurts terribly, I hide it from people, but recently it started eating me from the inside, it sucks to eat me, to the point that I get depressed from the thought that if I continue like this I will be alone forever. In general, I have never felt weak in my life, now for the first time I feel, and I feel really weak. I can't control my feelings and emotions. I know where my problem is, I just don't have any approach to women, I've never had, I don't even know what to talk to them, after all, they are not men to talk about cars, football, etc. I am more anxious and shy internally, although outwardly it seems the exact opposite and I have no experience with women. I am horrified at the thought of going out with a girl I like, standing together and having nothing to say and just looking at our phones. I can't imagine anything worse. And how can I find a boyfriend nowadays? With this huge gap in communication between people? Writing to complete strangers on Facebook and stocking them up ... seems super dumb to me and I would never do it. And so day after day, my life goes on, the people around me get married, have children, families, and I ... stand alone and I'm not even close to finding my soul mate. It's like waiting for a girl to write to me, take the first step, and say, "Hey, I like you, be with me." which I know can't happen. I will soon hit 30 and everyone will make fun of me for being an "old bachelor". I think I have to stop here, I'm starting to make even bigger movies ... Thank you all for your attention!
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You have identified the problem well. Either you do something about it, or you sink deeper and deeper. There's no girl to come and tell you, "I like you, let's try something." Not that we women don't do things like that, but we do them with cool, walking men. And not with someone who is still called a boy at the age of 28. It's up to you to overcome stupid worries. And this is not done by seeking empty reassurance, but by action.
You are not looking for love, but just some, so that you are not alone. I'm sorry for the one who will tie you up.
I will be as short as possible, it is up to you whether after this comment you will take matters into your own hands and improve your life. 1. You are to blame 2. You have the Internet, even in Bulgaria there are trainings for downloading women 3. Get out of your comfort zone 4. The best thing is that today you can take the first step towards your goal. Up to you!
I am the same way. I want to kill myself. I didn't love anyone or me. I have not worked. I wasted my life in front of a computer. Smart, beautiful, and for what? I'm even thinking of posting a topic here. My problem is low self-esteem, bad temper and psyche. I feel empty and sick. I am 25, from a big city. I have an education and friends. They're already married, aren't I? Depression kills me, I went to a psychologist, it doesn't help. I'm getting worse. But I understood the key to n, I just don't love myself. If I learn to love myself, miracles will happen. And I try. Try it too. Love yourself. Look positive. Be yourself. Do what you want. Only then will you understand your desires. What are you up to? Eat. Watch films. Get out. Dance in front of the mirror in the evening. If you love yourself, others will love you. Including the girls. I overcome shame. Try and drink. And don't care that the others got married. Everyone knows their life. For example, I will not get married, and what? You are young now, live. You can get married at 50. Life is not a scheme. Others should not be our role models. Sign up for a site. Read books. There is yoga, psychological literature. Analyze yourself. Every moment of your life. Do not stay on the net, but go back to your childhood to find out what stuck there, what traumatized you. Take a notebook and write inside, a diary, whatever you want. Set goals, desires, plans. It's not easy, I know. And don't wait for the girls. You go to them. Start with the girls you know, meet their girlfriends. Speak to them first. Be active. I don't know what else to say. Chocolate and alcohol are a temporary solution, as are drugs, and pills, and faith, and porn, and the net. Escape. Love yourself and see how precious you are. You are only 28! Good luck, boy. I'm in your position, but a girl ... still ... alas.
Who do you think being tied up is a fairy tale? You know that at times I prefer to be a virgin and erase all the disappointments of the past. I've always pulled hard in a relationship. That's exactly what happened to me, the ones I take off don't tie me up, they hit me .... Now I'm alone and I started living again. I am 37 years old. I'll tell you something - 90% of relationships are unhappy. People poison each other's lives because of these complexes like yours. Sakun, don't leave the poor alone.
Exercise, find a hobby and be naughty. Do not tie yourself to a landfill lesson, because the landfill is elementary and not learned. It happens spontaneously! Be confident and cheerful and it will happen. Women fix cool, smiling and visually attractive men. As long as you are not short, ugly, fat or convulsive, you will have a chance. Makes facial, squats for shape and tightness. I have been doing facials every day for six years and thanks to that they look at me in restaurants, parks and all sorts of places with people. I'm a potential father to a hell of a lot of women. I'm 27 and they stare at me and those who haven't graduated, and those over 30! However, I choose, not you. Do not listen or seek their attention. The man is the one who makes the choice. That's how it should be, that's how it was and that's how it will be. By 22 I was a confused and crazy young man. The sad thing is that those in their 30s and 35s do not come out of this state. They will never sleep with a woman. But if you become very strong and confident mentally and physically, you cannot be an outsider. I understood it. I wish everyone like you to understand it. Ignore even the beauties! That's how you crush them and they degrade themselves. A friend roared at him in front of the block and wanted to blow on him because he was cool and cut her, and before that he played with her and gave her hope. And one more piece of advice - don't fall in love with girls under 25 for serious relationships, nor with women in their 40s who put horns on their husbands. Don't tell them "I love you" they will make fun of you a lot. I could sleep with ten for 4 years, but I made a selection and slept with three. Three, but for a miracle and a story in bed! M27 with experience and outlook on life. Ignore even the beauties! That's how you crush them and they degrade themselves. A friend roared at him in front of the block and wanted to blow on him because he was cool and cut her, and before that he played with her and gave her hope. And one more piece of advice - don't fall in love with girls under 25 for serious relationships, nor with women in their 40s who put horns on their husbands. Don't tell them "I love you" they will make fun of you a lot. I could sleep with ten for 4 years, but I made a selection and slept with three. Three, but for a miracle and a story in bed! M27 with experience and outlook on life. Ignore even the beauties! That's how you crush them and they degrade themselves. A friend roared at him in front of the block and wanted to blow on him because he was cool and cut her, and before that he played with her and gave her hope. And one more piece of advice - don't fall in love with girls under 25 for serious relationships, nor with women in their 40s who put horns on their husbands. Don't tell them "I love you" they will make fun of you a lot. I could sleep with ten for 4 years, but I made a selection and slept with three. Three, but for a miracle and a story in bed! M27 with experience and outlook on life. they will make fun of you a lot. I could sleep with ten for 4 years, but I made a selection and slept with three. Three, but for a miracle and a story in bed! M27 with experience and outlook on life. they will make fun of you a lot. I could sleep with ten for 4 years, but I made a selection and slept with three. Three, but for a miracle and a story in bed! M27 with experience and outlook on life.
I have observations as to why things are not going well in communication. Women are waiting for the man and are terribly passive, critical and seem to be not part of the communication but bystanders who give ratings. It is normal that women in the vast majority of world history have never made a choice for a partner, this is always arranged by parents and society and now they do not know what to do and confuse everything, use some of their ideas, tests and judgments that do not have no objective significance and make decisions based on them. Men, seeing that their initiative is not valued more with dignity but are judged superficially, also become passive and closed. In such an environment, there can be many lonely people who are just waiting for a miracle to happen while time passes.
The most banal advice - collect BGN 300 and go to a prostitute. When I say BGN 300, I mean look at a prostitute for BGN 300, not for 50-100. To have a good memory and to be inspired, and not to be disgusted by doubts whether you are already ill from something. Then again. And then you will get acquainted with the accumulated self-confidence. Keep in mind that women over 26 are slightly damaged and are wrong (if they are not already married / engaged).
It's worse if you loved that, but you were left alone. Then you see the feeling, but you have never shared and realized it. He is not interested in life.
Eh, they vomited the poison again, hahaha. Author, by no means listen to individuals like number 6. If you do, you will be alone for the rest of your life. For decent women, it is enough to be kind, polite and not consider your penis the center of the universe. This is the most repulsive thing possible for a decent woman. We run with 300 of them. It is also good not to rub in bed and not to be deceived that women owe you to every pervert. It is also important not to lie, to be honest, kind, to be trusted, to be an interesting person with your own opinion and a rich general culture. It's wonderful when we have something to talk about with men, exchange opinions, ideas, etc. And as for shame, don't think so much. It is fixable. There are many self-help articles on the Internet. And the most important thing is to love and respect the woman next to you. Don't try to make it a rag, because it will run away very quickly. Take care of your appearance. He is the first thing that makes an impression. Always be clean, tidy with fresh breath and well dressed. Train. Women like athletic, slender types (not fat and bodybuilders, nor fat). In general, this is. I hope I was useful. Success! F, 22
Number 10, are these tips for the author, or for you?