Hello! I am a man of 25 and approximately 6 months ago I ended a relationship. I had 3 attempts with this girl. She is the strongest love in my life so far. I gave too much for her, I don't know why and I gave her 3 more chances after the first failure, maybe I just wished she had changed. The reasons for the separation are not important. I don't know exactly why I'm writing after I've tried almost everything to forget it. Alcohol did not help, nor did sex with another, sports, fighting, hobbies. I am afraid of the next relationship due to repeated disappointments, I can't even work or study, the thought of it has obsessed me all my life. This depression hasn't let me go for so many months, I've lost hope that the pain will stop somehow. Many people kill the old love with a new one, but somehow I know inwardly that I can't trust and have feelings for the next girl, and I don't want to hurt anyone for who I am. I am terribly lonely, but no one would tolerate a lifeless ghost that, even if not so lonely, would hurt the man who gave it a chance. So I can't have a relationship, but I can't be alone. Sex doesn't work, I tried, even though it was against my principles. I only think of self-destructive things.
Nobody understands me and why I behave like that, everyone thinks that I am exaggerating and suggesting. My friends think that in time I will pass, but I do not think that this thing is in time. The first 2 times with this girl were damaging, but somehow I learned to live with the pain and continue, but I already feel how everything is different, I have too much burden. I will be grateful if someone gives me some way out that I like. who, though not so lonely, will hurt the man who gave him a chance. So I can't have a relationship, but I can't be alone. Sex doesn't work, I tried, even though it was against my principles. I only think of self-destructive things. Nobody understands me and why I behave like that, everyone thinks that I am exaggerating and suggesting. My friends think that in time I will pass, but I do not think that this thing is in time. The first 2 times with this girl were damaging, but somehow I learned to live with the pain and continue, but I already feel how everything is different, I have too much burden. I will be grateful if someone gives me some way out that I like. who, though not so lonely, will hurt the man who gave him a chance. So I can't have a relationship, but I can't be alone. Sex doesn't work, I tried, even though it was against my principles.
I only think of self-destructive things. Nobody understands me and why I behave like that, everyone thinks that I am exaggerating and suggesting. My friends think that in time I will pass, but I do not think that this thing is on time. The first 2 times with this girl were damaging, but somehow I learned to live with the pain and continue, but I already feel how everything is different, I have too much burden. I will be grateful if someone gives me some way out that I like. I only think of self-destructive things. Nobody understands me and why I behave like that, everyone thinks that I am exaggerating and suggesting. My friends think that in time I will pass, but I do not think that this thing is on time.
The first 2 times with this girl were damaging, but somehow I learned to live with the pain and continue, but I already feel how everything is different, I have too much burden. I will be grateful if someone gives me some way out that I like. I only think of self-destructive things. Nobody understands me and why I behave like that, everyone thinks that I am exaggerating and suggesting. My friends think that in time I will pass, but I do not think that this thing is in time. The first 2 times with this girl were damaging, but somehow I learned to live with the pain and continue, but I already feel how everything is different, I have too much burden. I will be grateful if someone gives me some way out that I like.
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As the reasons for a separation are not important, on the contrary they are very important. Each coin has two sides. You are only one. No one can help you - the decision is inside you. A relationship ends not when people are physically separated, but with souls. You decide, you say end and that's it. Sometimes it takes more than 5.6 months to regain your faith in people, in the good - do not force yourself with relationships, take a break and think carefully about where the mistakes, omissions, especially on your part, because the girls change, and you stay. Success Bad
I completely agree with Bad, the reasons are important, you say that it is your strongest love, how did you understand it? You say you gave too much, you gave three chances, good, but don't you think that for a full-fledged relationship both sides should give, not just one. You are afraid to trust and not hurt a new girl, you are disappointed and do not want to act like "your strong love", give yourself time, but do not think that by thinking constantly and returning to the past you will be able to live in the present hurts, but your pain will not pass. And specify the reasons, you say the first two were harmful, write.
The truth is that I'm experiencing separation right now just like you, I know what it's like not to be able to be with someone you love and I don't find meaning in anything, my opinion is to find a hobby, do something, spend more time with friends.
Take your time, friend. And forget about plans and expectations for the future. Let him surprise you and you will see that nothing is done for you. You just don't see what started now. BC
From the author: The reasons for the separation are that she runs away from people she can trust or fall in love with. She lost a loved one years ago and this formed a reaction to abandonment. I said that the reasons are not important because they have already happened. With her, when we saw each other, there was an incredible attraction, it was always very nice. She admitted that I understood her better than anyone. But then she started thinking, thinking and deciding that we have no future, there is bad company around her that hurts. I have hobbies, I find new ones, but they do not bring me pleasure. I want to give myself time, but I can't. My thesis has been on pause for a long time because I can't recover. Number 2, she is the strongest, because I have not fallen in love only once, but only this time I have felt so helpless before the feelings, before her ... We went together for a year and a half, no matter how many times I saw her, it was as if I fell in love at first sight again, my legs softened and my breath stopped. Mrezi for the comments, you're right, everything should be given by both of them, but she was just afraid of her and didn't want to.
You are a roarer, a man tells you and I do not tell you to insult you, but to tighten up. You say what she said, you feel sorry for her and almost, but in action things look different. From the side, the situation is such that you are also the mistress, that is, the person with whom you have sex from time to time due to some of her criteria, but according to other criteria, you do not become a permanent partner. What's even worse is that he plays you in the best way. If she thought of you at least a little, or if she was a man of honor, I guarantee you that after she makes you want to, she wouldn't dare call you, because she'll know she'll hurt you again, and she won't. to have the strength to do so. And 6 months is no suffering at least in my opinion :) People suffer for years, of course they do not admit it to everyone, you have been sitting to plow for 6 months: ) Otherwise I was in a situation like you many years ago. Then a girl dumped me and, just like yours, listed some factors for the separation that had nothing to do with the real ones, so that she wouldn't feel bad. And I suffered, thinking that I knew her, that she was almost a victim, and that I had clung to the idea that I was her prince and had constantly idealized her. Then, like you, I tried everything, but I thought about her. One day he came back, promising to be together, but that didn't last long either, because again something started to twist and give strange signals and words to things that hadn't happened and he left again. Then I connected things a little less and saw her real face, that during all this time she played a role, and the excuses and the desire for separation were not because she was hurt by someone else, but because she herself had problems with herself and could not balance well strong feelings that she could not control. And of course he called me a third time later, but then I was in a different mind. Since then, I have learned not to believe in words, only actions. Accept that people are false at heart because they are afraid to take responsibility for their actions and it is far easier to deceive you and yourself to attribute what happened in your relationship to "time" and its consequences. You still have to study, I hope you succeed :) because they are afraid to take responsibility for their actions and it is far easier to deceive you and yourself in order to attribute what happened in your relationship to "time" and its consequences. You still have to study, I hope you succeed :) because they are afraid to take responsibility for their actions and it is far easier to deceive you and yourself in order to attribute what happened in your relationship to "time" and its consequences. You still have to study, I hope you succeed :)