Hello, For a number of reasons, my husband and I postponed having a child for a very long time, the main one being that we had no relatives to rely on to help us, and our income was not good. We wanted to achieve financial stability, to pay for an apartment, to have good careers ... Well, all this is already a fact, but we are not 20-25 years old. I know many women who have become mothers at the age of 40, but I am more or less afraid that everything will be fine. I ask those who have become mothers after the age of 35 to give me courage. Don't spoil my topic with attacks - I don't need to read morals or explain to me that I'm late. That's how my life went and I did the best I could. I never wanted to look after children in misery like I was looked after. If I fail to become a mother, I will also live my life to the fullest, but I still want this little miracle to happen in my life. I am completely ready and I really want it. Please for kind advice!
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You are not too old, I wish it to you, I gave birth to a young woman, it is not easy, we are two, maybe it will be difficult with age, but if you want, I wish it to you soon.
I don't blame you, but what as a child doesn't have everything provided? We didn't have, we became people, we were educated, we worked, etc. My parents were pretty bad in some respects, but I survived. And yes, you're late for the first time, no matter how much you don't like the truth. And no, most likely if you're healthy, you haven't had 8 abortions and you don't drink and smoke the idiot, you won't have a problem and you will have a baby. And no, if you fail, your life will not be complete, no matter how hard you try to instill it. With this nonsense about "not living in misery" and life passed. Still, I wish you success, because it's the best thing, but you'll understand it after it happens :)
There are many fetal malformations in late pregnancy. It is a pity that they are difficult to catch. I have an acquaintance who gave birth to her second child with Down. The doctors had no doubts until the end of the pregnancy and are now looking after the injured child.
How can you ask about such things in a forum, other people in general. Everybody is different. Someone may have a child / children at 40 and have no problem with it, another may decide that he will not be able to cope at 25 ... YOU must decide whether you want it, and if you want it - you will you can. If not - then it will be very difficult for you ...
Don't worry - you are not too old at all and when pregnancy is a fact you just have to do a fetal morphology. A 46-year-old colleague gave birth to a normal healthy child.
The fact that there was a risk of the child being disabled - the risk is there at any age of the mother, the only thing that can be done is a more environmentally friendly life. Nothing in life is certain, this is no reason not to do anything. Author, after all, this work that you put in to send the apartment, for example, must make sense, this apartment should be inherited by someone ... Otherwise, the excessive material satisfaction of children is just as negative as deprivation. Every extreme is negative. Whether you will feel good and happy to raise a child around the age of 55-56 is up to you. You can have two children and at the age of 60 you should not consider yourself "old", but feel like 40. This is individual. There is no way anyone else can know better than you.
I got pregnant at 36 and a healthy girl was born to us, now at almost 15 ... I did a screening for Down, there was no reason to worry and so on ... Good luck!
Do not worry. If you are healthy, non-smokers, it should work without a problem. At one time, women gave birth while they had a cycle, even at about 50. So whoever tells you that you are old, look after your work. However, within half a year, if you do not get pregnant, see a doctor immediately. Fingers crossed.
There are things like the birth of a child that are either written to happen or not. There is never a guarantee. Every woman is different. Much depends on her physical condition, diet, whether she does sports, whether she is in a calm environment and happy during pregnancy. Just as there are women who are physically wrecked after 35, so there are those who can say with a pure heart that after that age they are in the best shape they have ever been. Some give birth to a healthy child in old age without any problems - others have complications. Each case is different. You can see for yourself that there are many examples of women who have given birth successfully in the interval 35-45 years, and vice versa. My opinion is that some things are just outside of us and predestined. If it has to happen, it will happen.
Honestly, this is a sick topic - I am a man of 26 and I do not want children because I am afraid of how I will raise them and in what. At one time I was brought up strictly And at 40 I still have no desire for children. Still, I wish the author good luck
I gave birth at 36 and everything was normal. The doctors kept scaring me and sending me for unnecessary tests, just because of my age, for no medical reason, to make sure they didn't miss anything. At one point I played them. Don't procrastinate, act, you won't get younger. PS. I didn't stay in the hospital or anything, only my iron was low in the end and I took extra, which happens at any age. I gave birth normally, in 4-5 hours and breastfed my child for a year.
And my father's wife gave birth at that age. My sister is healthy.
My classmate recently turned 54 and gave birth to her first child at the age of 35 and her second at the age of 38. Both her son and daughter are healthy, straightforward, intelligent, and young people who are active in sports. So try and don't listen to the critics.
What exactly are you asking us? Do you want encouragement that it will happen and everything will be fine? This is not an exact science and there is no way anyone can promise you such a thing if you are going to be the greatest doctor in the world. Just start trying, act and see if things work out. There are ovulation tests, so things are done by experimenting, not by writing on websites. Otherwise, I gave birth to my second child at 39, she is alive and well, I know other women, so it is quite possible. Now, only time will tell if this will be the case with you.
I have the most wonderful 8 month old baby! I wish you that! And we have no one to help - we are abroad! But materially we have no worries! G46 and M50
In my work it is something like a tradition to give birth at more years. I gave birth to my daughter at 34, my colleague gave birth to 35, and my other colleague - to 41. They have already grown up and are beautiful and smart girls - yes, all three are girls .. Yes, indeed for all three of us these are second children , we first gave birth to them young and only the one who gave birth at 41 has a second marriage - I and the one who gave birth at 35 have one marriage. As long as you have no problems, I advise you not to procrastinate any longer. Good luck, and may the Mother of God bless you.
Indeed, before contraception, women gave birth while they had eggs and sex. For example, I had a relative born about 100 years ago, when his mother was 56! Seventh child shook. No one in the family even thought about children and hop. Breastfed for three years and growing almost 2 meters man, he lives over 80 years. If nature does not limit us, then you do not have to worry.
Maybe an older person is more responsible, I even wonder why I was in a hurry to give birth early, but I wonder if it is harder to look after the child later. And to name those who gave birth late, did you use a specialized pump or did you get pregnant naturally?
I gave birth shortly before I turned 36. I got pregnant super easily, in a completely natural way. For the record, I am also an active smoker. It is not too late in any case. Just read the comments while you're alone, and when your husband comes ... well, start working on it.
Only in Bulgaria there are these prejudices. The woman of 40 is watched like any other and for a section and a word can not happen in the world. Start trying for a baby, and consult a clinic for reproductive problems. The truth is that birth after 40 is not as massive as it is earned. The chances of getting pregnant after 30 and especially after 35 decrease sharply. The fact that someone has had a chance of getting pregnant after or around 40 is really lucky, rather it happens to those who do not want to. It is tested hormonally. For me, the antimullerian hormone, ie. the ovarian reserve at 38 was already depleted. And the problem is not wear and tear, but conception, because the eggs are shrinking and their quality is poor. I'm squeezing your thumbs. There are also options for a donor egg in Bulgaria. Every month is important from now on.
Naturally, I got pregnant at the age of 3 months. But over 40 children are even harder to look at ... it runs, jumps, the energy is not like at a young age .. separately the difference in generations .. so children up to 30--35 maximum .. my opinion is this, no one I don't have to, no one has escaped from nature yet ..
I will advise you not to procrastinate any longer but to act. And up to 6 months if it does not happen - in a clinic. In vitro didn't help me either.