Hello! I'm 31, he's 47. He liked me - at least that's what a man 15 years older than me looks like, and I still can't say - I don't know him that well. I am very worried about this age difference. Are there any such cases? Thanks!
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I look at the West, it doesn't bother them at all. I lived for 4 years in Germany, 3 in Sweden and now I'm in the United States.
the author has no wife and children, is not divorced
Again an old goat and a young willow .... From experience I say, there are few successful relationships with such a difference. Besides, men who are looking for relationships with much younger girls are not literate in my opinion. He's probably a crook, and you're tied to his courtship.
I have a girlfriend of 30 with the same difference as her husband. They have been together for 10 years, he married her as soon as she graduated. Well, I don't know what their relationship was like before, but for the last 3 years she broke up with him, it wasn't a tinder, it wasn't a miracle. As untied. It's just that the younger partner in such a relationship at some point begins to think about what he missed and wants to catch up and make a living - the older at the same time he is excited about completely different things. It doesn't work well :)
Age largely ceases to matter when you are both responsible and prudent in your relationship. Does being 15 years older mean he will respect you less than someone disoriented at 30? I know serious people in their 20s and 50s, as well as frivolous people in their 20s and 50s, so it all comes down to each individual. It is not possible to judge everyone under a common denominator, based only on their age. However, think about it, when you turn 40-45, he will then be 55-60. If this suits you and everything else is fine, go ahead! I don't agree with number 3 that a man who has an affair with a much younger woman is an old goat. Yes, there are some, but as I wrote above, there are all kinds of people. I've had a relationship with a woman twice my age, but outwardly no one could give us such a difference (I am young for my age, and she seems more mature for her age), and most importantly, we had a similar value system. And vice versa - I came across extremely childish young ladies aged 40 and over, who seemed to have forgotten that they have not been students for a long time and still lived with their dreams of what unearthly princesses they are.
Number 3, why are you so simple say?
I have such a case - my husband and I have a difference of 17 years, which does not bother us in any way. We have been together for 4 years, we met when I was 25 and he was 42. He had not been married until then and had no children. Our first child will be born soon, and we are planning several more.
Well, my wife and I are like that, but with us the difference is 19 years. So far we have no problems. Well ... I'm not the first youth, which I'm a little sorry for, but what to do - life. Luckily we have a son of 3. Great kid! We were worried about Down syndrome, but there is no such thing. He is more alert and naughty than his peers. We will have at least one more, for sure. I play sports, I take care of myself, and I hope we raise them at least up to 20, and above!
Happy denouements with such a large age difference are rare. Number 5 made an extremely sober statement. Everything else is gravel and blah blah. number 1 sincerely made me laugh, because I remembered how in the bg forums everything that comes from the West is presumably spit. If we have to be objective, this fashion with older men is more typical of the Orient to this day. In the West, people are basically not bothered by anything. As it happens here, as in the West, I will stop speaking disapprovingly in such topics.
My ex-wife and I had a difference of 4 years and ... a divorce. My current girlfriend, with whom we are 12 years apart, and I are wondering what to quarrel about and we love each other a lot. Well ... these years the difference is that I don't pay attention to them, but not very striking differences from the variety of 20-30 years
He must have been married, had children, divorced. And you are free, without commitments. It will bind you to a child, and there will be no movement.
I don't understand those of you with big differences why you have such a great need to write this, to talk about it at all, to explain it here on the internet even. Well, you homosexuals will overshadow with this desire to talk about being different. It remains for Pride to start doing. Yes you are different and so what? Why should you talk about this? If the topic is real, which I doubt, what is the point of the author looking for opinions at all about who to sleep with? A big man is 31 years old after all, that's why I think the topic was invented in order to open a conversation about the big age differences. Let everyone go to bed with whomever they want, but if it is not the norm not to demonstrate it, even with explanations on the Internet on an anonymous site. Big age differences are something that is NOT the norm, just like homosexuality. Accept it. You are not sick, but you are not the norm, you will not be. Love each other, but do not intrude.
The difference interferes, we do not go on vacations and trips, he was there and there is no need.
Everyone makes their own choice and is responsible for it! It is extremely clear that as it is much larger, there will be other interests and attitudes, it will age faster, and so on. Miracles do not happen. There is always a natural outcome. You deceive yourself, then roar on the forums. Your life is yours, make a decision. My opinion - better alone than with the wrong one. You are in the prime of life, he goes to 18.30. Things just don't fit together! M. 38
I also think that this is another fabrication aimed at inflating this topic about the big age differences. Quite banal. These people will probably not calm down until they get approval on the Internet.