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A Colleague Slept With My Girlfriend

By mikuraander August 17, 2020 26 answers Last updated August 17, 2020

Hello everyone! I am a boy of 24, I have been working in a company for a year and a half ... I have been in a relationship with a girl for four months, but ... a doll! I love her very much, she is very kind, smart, beautiful ... she takes me back 10 years, our love is so pure. She slept with two, which is surprisingly good for a 20-year-old pretty girl. I didn't want details about them so as not to irritate and get angry because I'm jealous. Two weeks ago, we broke up and I saw a colleague. I decided to meet them, whereupon he said "oh, I know her very well ... both front and back, top, bottom" ... After this simplicity, he said we should have coffee. It has always been unpleasant to me, but now I hate cynical rubbish. Then he had sent her text messages that he hadn't forgotten her ... that it was easy for her, not for him ... Now this pendulum has taken aim at me ... Have we taken intimate photos, send me some of them? !? He reveals to me some details of their relationship ... I'm going crazy! I'm ruining our relationship, I'm constantly nervous. I've shouted at her for nonsense several times already. Last night I would even hit her ... She's not for a fight, but this one ... She's constantly sprinkling some nonsense. The whole company realized that we are Badzhans already ... I don't know what to do! I love my girl, she is also bullied and I don't know ....

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ganesh_gadu_rtf answered · August 17, 2020

   Look, I, as a woman, have an understanding for her, but you still write and I will give you advice. First, the probability (probability theory!) That she slept with only two and you came across one of them and even if she was your colleague is negligible, unless you live in a village or town with up to 5,000 people. Most likely the girl had 5 partners somewhere, but why irritate you. Anyway, you'll never know, and you weren't a virgin. My girlfriends were all only two :) I just happened to meet my husband at a very young age and he is my second, but for example I know 35-year-old women who claim to be almost virgins, but we know each other in a female way. numbers - it is not a problem for a woman to find as many partners as she wants ... at 37 she was usually over 25, if she did not live in a serious relationship or marriage. Worse about her talking, that she had ever unwound with a similar guy! What does this say about her? But you, if you can't live with that, at least break up with her, because it's ugly to hit a woman and she doesn't deserve it. On top of everything, when you get so excited, the elementary type becomes much more interesting and will continue. In harassment, the only answer is to ignore. When you ignore this one, he will find another object of harassment

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pcdobnacamara answered · August 17, 2020

   I don't deal with him, after all, you weren't a virgin before you left, so try not to ruin your relationship, but for the colleague, a simpleton more ... it's just stupid to brag like that .. isn't she with you ....

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karlita_69 answered · August 17, 2020

   H 1 I will not comment on it that ... she judges by herself only openly. Your colleague is dying of jealousy and he provokes you as the last fool. He will eventually achieve his goal, he may not return it, but he will separate you. Beat where it hurts was a man. Answer something like "that's why she's with me, because she didn't understand with you what it's like to be with a man". He cracks at the seams, don't let him provoke and manipulate you like that. You're going to lose the girl because of this complex? !! Tighten it up! And for her to cut it off, as only a woman can - sharply and deeply!

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alexis_texas answered · August 17, 2020

   Oh, you want to keep in touch ... get out of this company ... because you're going crazy ...!

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newshantallts answered · August 17, 2020

   Number one extremely low comment. Leave her and why ??? Because she was with her current colleague some time ago. You're 35, and I'm ashamed of your reasoning. And what if you were ONLY with two. Don't be golden. The man wrote that the girl was worth it, from then on she had nothing to think about. For one reason or another, she was with his colleague. arrogant, rude with her may have been different. Why she has to pay for past actions. No one killed. author, try not to tease her about this. Remember that he was a part of her life and respect her. The past is the past. She is with you now. Be above things, act like a man. Ignore him, he tries to irritate you and when I look he succeeds. If you continue like this, you will lose it!

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mitdick88 answered · August 17, 2020

   Off number one, come on, as long as you judge others by yourself. I'm 30 and I've had 3 - I don't like serious one-day relationships. Almost all my girlfriends had 2-3 men, only one about 7-8. And we're not ugly or crazy - we just don't have sex that draws our attention to sports. So you have 50 partners and your girlfriends do not give a definite opinion about everyone. Not to mention how many men there are also 1-2, I personally know and they are nice and successful. But they work and thrive, not wondering who to sleep with all day. So don't make the boy unnecessarily nervous that his girlfriend slept with more, if you don't know for sure, don't comment. To the author - the only problem is that this one irritates you and you work together, otherwise the fact that she has slept with someone before should not spoil your relationship. Be with her and ignore the colleague.

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vctrknly answered · August 18, 2020

   Hi, I'm Annie and I'm a psychologist. This story is rather a discreet story about a girl who slept with two or three men / colleagues /. Somewhere the fault is yours too! . You should have acted more organized, you should have shown understanding ....! So you only led to an argument ... And of course your girlfriend will leave you ..! Somehow, you have to push away, this cynical colleague of yours. SUCCESS!

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nct answered · August 19, 2020

   "Now this pendulum has taken aim at me ..." - the pendulum is not him, but you in this case. Knowing that he is such a crocodile, why did you have to deal with him at all? Wanted to meet his girlfriend !? It's not your job, but it's your problem when you're such a soft wrist.

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rosemoores answered · August 19, 2020

   Tell him that your girlfriend told him he was small and tell him in the office ... then he will stop ...!

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syllyworld answered · August 20, 2020

   Виж и аз съм ревнив за бившите на моята, която вече не е с мен, даже това е пречило на връзката ни, фактът че ги знам, не лично, но съм чел хронологии на фейсбук, а и в началото ми ги е говорила. 10 момчета за секс и още 2-3 за други извращения за 23 годишна при мен беше шок, но има и по-зле. Аз лично един от нещастниците не можах да приема, защото когато тръгнахме заедно постоянно и пишеше и досаждаше, а тя уж да му прави на инат му отговаряше и го дразнеше с мен, но аз по-скоро го приемам като подигравка, защото знае за мен. Случая с него беше, че са излизали 4-5 пъти, първия път му е ходила на гости и нищо, но на втория и крие ключове, вещи и насила спи с нея, прави му сви*ки, но ако си умно момиче няма да ходиш да спиш при някакъв дебил, а най-обидно ми бе това, че до 6-ти, 7-ми месец я търсеше по скайпове и фейсбуци и тя уж го режеше, ама и тя го е питала (а ти какво правиш). ТОй.. искам да те видя, тя къде да ме видиш и някакви такива. Въобще не е хубаво да знаеме историята до такава степен на приятелките си, защото аз до последно не можех да приема тази нейна афера с въпросния нещастник и фактът, че общуваше с него докато бяхме заедно. Вярно, че за един път са били каквито са били там, но ми е крайно неприятно. Скъсахме за други неща, но казвам от личен опит, че ако си като мен, това ще ти тежи и след години даже. Имахме връзка година и 6 месеца и все за тоя се сещах. Веднъж даже го срещнах на някакъв купон с мой приятели, тя не беше с мен, направо се разтреперих и ми идваше да го убия, мерна се само за малко и си отиде в стаята с другите, през цялото време ми беше нервно, даже после й го казах, оня къде му духа и т. н. нещастника го видях, как може баш на тоя и я храних, курва и виках и прочие. След време разбрах, че на сила е и спала с него, тежеше ми до последно. Освен да го смажеш от бой и да си смениш работата, аз друго не виждам, аз лично това щях да направя. Грешки допускат момичетата, и ние ги допускаме, но ще ти олекне. Аз лично бих пребил онзи, но вече не съм с това момиче, така че вече не ме интересува.

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presidenilc answered · August 20, 2020

   I understand that you must be very annoyed by the situation, but try to fend off the scumbag. Tell him something that will stop the simpleton once and for all. I am a woman, but I know from experience that you cannot fight simplicity in a cultural and normal way, but only with the same means that the arrogant person uses. For example, tell him that you know about the experience of your girlfriend, who of course has been looking for the right size so far, that she doesn't deal with dwarves. And, if he speaks to you in front of others, you also say it in front of them. His smile will cool. And you have to be very serious and confident. And he, to know, is very angry, because of that it is everything and he envies you, and you should not give in, on the contrary - show self-confidence, self-satisfaction and happiness. Let it burst. And you shouldn't be jealous of something that has passed, you know how it is that everyone is looking for a partner, but until he finds her meeting what not. Be happy!

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barbieprincessbbw answered · August 20, 2020

   Dude, obviously this garbage is jealous and wants to take it from you. Don't make fun of him, don't argue with her - on the contrary - behave even better with the babe, take her to cool places, make your relationship strong. And tell the trash that whatever he had with the girl has already missed his chance - she's yours now. If you come up with the number that the chick is "second hand" and he has already "used" it - just tell him in public that it was used only the first 5 centimeters, inside it is brand new: D Complain to your boss, that your colleague is preventing you from working. As a last resort, he broke his head ... Good luck!

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womenfoundation answered · August 21, 2020

   when you are so attached to the tales of some simpleton, it shows that you are either not much higher than him intellectually, or you are insecure and complex. remember that others can only affect you and your relationship as much as you allow them to. whether they did everything he described or not is not clear, and it doesn't matter. everyone can say what he wants, including exaggerating, twisting and presenting things as he sees fit. in this case, he uses the fact that you are annoyed and attached to his mind and accumulate dividends in his own eyes by pretending to be great in front of others. you have several options: - to ignore him (but completely, not in words, but really do not care what he says), - to have a serious conversation with him in person, in which to explain to him that you want him to stop (how much to is the conversation threatening you judge, if you feel strong enough, you can threaten him with a fight) - to break up with the girl, because she does not deserve harassment. whatever happened between her and this guy is before she has a relationship with you, so she doesn't owe you an explanation. F43

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anilkapoor answered · August 21, 2020

   I rarely give such advice, but in this case - Break his nose - problem solved!

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cum2play69 answered · August 21, 2020

   One cannot know with whom one gets involved,. and yua such actors. Even my ladies don't know each other, and to judge her for being with him is stupid. If you love her and can accept her past before you - well, if not, do not torture her and set her free. This man is a pathetic little creature and if you can't protect your girlfriend with words and behavior, then what can you be angry about, but yourself! You say what you think about it, you behave confidently and whatever fa happens, you show nepotism!

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rod.stagram answered · August 22, 2020

   I hope your girlfriend leaves you on time because you don't seem to be a literate person. Once you start hitting her without guilt, I don't think in years what a punching bag and a mat will be for you.

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ahrikhendall answered · August 22, 2020

   from 1 to 2/3, etc. - I just wrote what I think without claiming to be right. And no, I'm not judging by myself, because my husband can't come across my ex-lover by chance, because I've only been with one (WITHOUT LYING) before him and discreetly with a gentleman, not just to advertise our relationship. in a vulgar and peasant way. I don't mind women who have been with a lot of men - this is normal for both men and women these days, but the truth just always comes out, especially when you're not hanging out with gentlemen, but with simpletons and bastards. I know a lot of girls with 5 partners, but still quality men and such an incident can not happen to them, and whoever asks a virgin how many men she was before him, asks himself a stupid and insincere answer. Purely scientifically, there is no way you can just happen to come across a badjanak so easily. if your wife has only slept with 2 people before you and, of course, you are not colleagues or do not live in a village. Let's look at things realistically. If the Author cannot live with this truth, why beat and harass the woman and himself? What is the connection? It is to be happy above all, not to fight, to harass. The most important thing is to be able to accept the person next to you as he is. If the author wants a woman without or with little experience, why did he go with a doll (muffin?) To take a modest girl from the village and there will be no badjans. There is a suitable party for everyone, and a relationship that does not make us happy is meaningless - regardless of the reasons and guilt! In this case, even I find the Author to blame, but so what? He also has the right to happiness and a woman who may not expose him like that in society if it is so important to him, and the girl has the right to meet a man,

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pregnantmae18 answered · August 22, 2020

   One does not listen to nonsense! The best defense is attack! As I read above, tell everyone in the company that he is small and you know that from your girlfriend! Find a way to repel him, even more aggressively!

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evakosmasflores answered · August 23, 2020

   Number 1, what do you guess who had how many people without even knowing him. I couldn't even read your whole comment, it's so dumb. Next to the author, tell this one that you don't like talking to you like that about your girlfriend and if he doesn't stop, block him. Don't answer him, don't pay attention to him as he writes to you, calls, etc. You just don't care about this girl's past, since she's with you now.

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nicolleddiaz answered · August 23, 2020

   Author, I'm 3, I wrote my opinion above, but I will add something else that seems important to me. Your colleague has NOT "slept" with your girlfriend! He did it with a girl, once, when YOU were not in her life. Maybe you didn't even know her. By coincidence, you get to know / start a relationship with a girl who has not fallen out of nowhere, without a past, without a history, without a memory, without experience. You also have your past, we all have it. In order for the colleague to behave like that, it means that you really have a "diamond" and he knows it. It does not occur to him that he has "dropped" it. But she is with you, BECAUSE SHE WANTS to be with you! Do not allow yourself to get rid of the demons on her, so that you are not the next one, where like your colleague she will wonder how to separate her from the new one.

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marmic1104 answered · August 23, 2020

   Maybe because I'm older than the author, but I can't figure out exactly what the problem is. At different times, he and his colleague had an affair with the same woman. Well, and? The colleague in question is obviously a simple, rude and not very smart person, due to which his shortcomings the girl withdrew and is now in a romantic relationship with the author. That is, the problem is solved. Where is the drama? If the drama is in the nasty hints, they can easily be parried not in any other way, but by ignoring. Simplicity is eloquent, it speaks for itself and needs no translation or comment; it is enough just to stay away from it. In the place of the author, I would not worry about an idiot who, at the moment when a lady is introduced to him, says: "Oh, I know her very well ... both in front and behind, above, below" ... Such a person is completely clear to everyone.

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dwellmedia answered · August 23, 2020

   Wow this is rude what is this garbage? It deserves a fight is it!

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watchingronnie answered · August 23, 2020

   He may mumble these things to you on purpose because you have what he wants. He wants to separate you so he can try to fit her for himself. I've had such fools. The next time he asks you such a question, grin fatly, look at him arrogantly and tell him “You have no idea.” When he touches him, call him to fill your tank, because 100% gas will pee.

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raidergirl2019 answered · August 24, 2020

   12 and 28 gift in front of you.

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carmellarose answered · August 24, 2020

   This bastard gets annoyed because he realizes what he has lost. She dumped him precisely because of his disgusting behavior, and now he can't live with the fact that he's with you. My advice, don't pay attention to him, let him talk what he wants, don't fall for his level, if he tells you something again, answer him "I see that there was a reason for him to dump you" to see what he will say. But it's just not worth wasting your nerves and time with such a limited pathetic little man. The girl realized it and that's why she left him. And don't spend it on her, of course. Just stop paying attention to him and tell him what I wrote to you above as a last resort.

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theofficenbc answered · August 24, 2020

   Are you still writing on this topic, I don't see what's going to happen, I wrote it in my previous comment - try it well ... Tell him that you don't like it and you go crazy behaving rudely if he doesn't get into a situation and don't change your attitude - show him how to go crazy, just so he's not at work ..