I have a colleague at work who constantly humiliates and yells at me. I treat her very kindly, I don't reciprocate badly, but she still harbors a lot of malice towards me. He constantly tries to expose me and makes me dirty to get fired. He smiles at me and then tells my colleagues that I'm super dumb and I don't know where I am. She is annoyed that the boss liked me and even though she didn't want me, he hired me. From that moment on, he kept trying to fuck me. I stay above all this, but secretly wonder how to solve my problem with it. She crushes me and she likes it, she even said in front of other people that she would crush me like plasticine, because it gave her pleasure. My job is really hard and I do it conscientiously, and it constantly bothers me and makes me serve it and yells at me on the phone after work. The boss doesn't know but I suspect they are close, and I dare not tell him, because he will do nothing. I'm sure my colleagues are of the same opinion. They advise me to keep ignoring her. I agree with them, but I'm dumb that for no reason a woman says how bad I am. And I'm far from bad. I'm even very busy. Maybe I should get used to it and close my eyes, but something is bothering me and I will ask for advice. What would you do?
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Why do I think the same story http://spodeli.net/9/story-48698.html is rewritten here. But after reading these lines here, I want to tell you that you don't have to worry about anything. All your colleagues know what she's like. "But I'm dumb that for no reason a woman says how bad I am." So what of talking about it. She insults herself more than you do. But you have to share these things with your boss.
Make sure they are close to the boss and if he has a wife, just make sure she understands the truth, but so that you are beyond suspicion. Then just watch his wife crush your tormentor and she won't even have the strength to think of crushing you. If there is no woman, then find a way to pour water on her officially so that they have no choice but to fire her. For moralists - to correct someone else's immorality is commendable! The boss must have thought when he got involved. Her colleague should not have been born such a freak! As long as meek people are allowed to be crushed, so be it. You have to solve your problems with such people in this way - they do not understand well, and you will end up like a lamb after negotiations with the wolf. Do you want to be a lamb or survive at the end of the story?
I had such a colleague. And I still have it, but it is meek already. How did it happen? Well, once I couldn't stand it and at her next shout (something was bothering me, she screamed at me) I shouted at her very seriously and said something like "Why are you yelling at me? How long will you continue to treat me badly? What are you talking about?" Do you think you're yelling at me and talking nonsense about me? Tell me what's the problem so we can solve it now! "He didn't expect me to address her like that at all. Something began to justify that she just wanted to remark to me that I hadn't done something right. I told her that she could make a remark to me in a kind tone, and that I would not allow her to call me that again. I also told her that if she wasn't happy with me, she would complain to the boss. Since then (maybe a year) I've been talking to her seriously, I don't try to be nice at all, and I take her seriously and look at her as "above". Good morning I say ONLY after she told me. If he doesn't say - I don't say either. Well ... you can try. I was timid, I was kind and good-natured, I was modest and compliant. But I'm tired and I changed my attitude especially to her !! I hope you succeed too!
Well, tell your boss what the truth is and tell him that he either prefers meanness and insidiousness to it, and that you can't do a good job of it, or conscientiously performed duties and correctness. Ha, maybe she'll pick you up and rub her nose, Ha-ha-ha, it's worth a try! But your boss needs to know the truth!
the problem will not be solved, obviously the girl is not worth it and you be yourself
just be yourself this girl is not right and will not be sorry for her
Older dogs do not like competition from younger ones. The young man is nicer, more industrious. At the time, she must have been hired because they liked her. He'll keep making dirty tricks on you, so be careful! When it keeps you high, don't panic, it provokes you. Don't do what he tells you, no matter how reasonable it may seem at first glance, because he's probably trying to trick you into exposing yourself. Try to please the boss, try to make friends with other colleagues so that there is someone to "keep your back" and say a good word about you.