Hello. I am a 24 year old girl. The story is very long and complicated and I need a lot of advice. I live with my best friends, we get along great, or at least we got along until recently. I started dealing with one boy, it all started after a drunken night when we slept together. Then we continued to do it, but at one point I fell in love with him, and after a while he too. Everything was great, we behaved like a couple, but there was no way we could be together because our best friend has feelings for me and generally made us choose between friendship with him or our happiness. And of course we decided not to ruin our friendship, but we kept doing everything secretly. At one point, the boy I was working with started writing to his colleague, seeing each other, sleeping together, and he knows how much I love him and how I would do anything to be together. One night after going out I go home and see him at home with her. I freaked out, but did nothing, because he always tells me that I have no right to hold him accountable, etc., but I forgave him and continued to deal with him. 1 week later I found out they were asleep. I experienced it very hard, I cried, I got depressed, I wanted to break everything with him, but I couldn't. He kept saying that he loved me and that if we could be together he would go with me right away, but there was no way. The worst thing about the whole situation is that I see him every day and it's really hard for me to stop everything. Although he said how sorry he was that he slept with her, he continued to deal with her, to go out while I was waiting for him at home and not reflecting on anyone else. I only wanted him, but at one point the glass overflowed. We had gone out to a disco the whole company and on departure he agreed with her to go to another disco together and asked us all if we wanted to go with him and everyone refused, but I agreed, but he hinted to me not to go because I would be annoyed as I watch him dance with her, etc. I got very drunk and went with one of the boys, slept with him to do him a disservice. The next day I confessed to him and he was furious. He said that I was a whore and that he no longer wanted anything with me, after which he slept with her for 2 nights in a row. I feel really bad and I'm so sorry for what I did, I just wanted him to feel what I've been feeling for a few months now. I haven't stopped crying, drinking and blaming myself since then. I hated myself. The worst thing is that we see each other every day. I keep telling him that I'm sorry and that I love him, I try to hug him, kiss him, I humiliate myself a hell of a lot. I'm so dumb that I slept with the other boy, I turned into some kind of garbage.
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So he doesn't have the courage to fight for you in front of everyone and he has very cleverly manipulated you, that if you see he can do what he wants, because you can't be more than friends, but otherwise he cares who you sleep with, you have no right .... You're a big goose. Stop all intimate contacts with him, keep cool and catch a valuable person who will sleep only with you and will love and respect you. She loved him. So you like to be lied to, to have someone else behind your back and to be told some fabrications, and at the same time not be able to start anything new? !! She came to her senses. You have no self-esteem. You don't have a relationship, you deal with someone else who will take care of you? !? !! Her way and look after her work. You are rubbish, not because you have slept with someone, but because you allow them to treat you like rubbish. Have a little self-esteem and open your eyes to the truth. But looking at how emotional you are, I wonder if it's better to move and change the environment. It's even necessary as I look at you. Come on up and no drunken stories, show that you're a tough and proud woman, beat his clown. Stop whining. Only you and your nerves suffered.
So he can sleep with another, but the moment you do it with another, you're already a whore? It's not worth dealing with. His logic is just amazing. Either he doesn't know what he wants, or he's playing you on purpose. In both cases - it is not worth continuing to communicate with him. Or rather - he does not deserve to communicate with you. :)
Bad situation, but you are both immature. What are these children's stories: "we can't be together because someone likes me"? And then let's fuck with this and those ... Sit on your ass and realize that you are a 24-year-old woman and such dramatizations do not suit your age. He treated you very badly. You decided to give it back to him, but now you don't feel better and you still want it. But it can't happen - you both acted inadequately and now you are taking the consequences. The best thing you can do is distance yourself from it, even at the cost of temporarily withdrawing from your mutual friends. Nothing will come out of this relationship at this stage - and get together now, you are both hurt and angry, and everyone will try to get it back to the other. If you don't back off, you risk him continuing to be with you, and with the other girl, and constantly getting into similar teenage dramas. Not worth it.
I don't see why you regret being even. And he has the slightest right to call you a whore. I found myself in a similar situation, only I slept not with one, but with several, but the "ex" never insulted me for it, and I told him everything. It's not worth poisoning your nerves for such a person. Have fun and move on.
The people shouted, one slept with one and you slept with someone. what is wrong with you, what is this relationship?
You are both very, very bad. In general, as you put it, "I've turned into some kind of garbage", only it's also garbage ... When two garbage is added ... it becomes even more garbage. Stop a little with the indiscriminate fucking, huh? Won't you have a stable partner one day, have a family, have children, have a meaningful existence?