Hello! I am a 29 year old woman. I have a serious relationship for 5 years. I recently met a man by chance because we have a lot of acquaintances and friends. That's why we see each other almost every day, we become closer and closer every time, purely friendly relations. My problem is that I can't stop thinking about him, I'm attracted to him, I want him ... I feel very confused because I have a great relationship and I love my partner, I've never missed anything, but I'm thinking about another man. I'm worried about making a mistake, I'm not an infidel, I've always been true to a relationship, the last thing I want is to hurt the person next to me. What to do Although I don't see the man in question, I still think about him ...
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Well, this is human nature! We didn't invent it ... but we are forced to itch it :) Nobody can give you advice ... YOU have to make a choice and solve the situation yourself. But whatever you do, you will gain invaluable life experience, and you will begin to judge yourself and others less, because, you see for yourself - you are not like that, but it turns out that you are exactly like that! :) That's why their children are called "innocent, innocent souls" - because they have not yet got involved in such situations, not because they will not get involved in time :) And I will not explain to you how cool it is to bake and you string on two bottles at the same time ...
Hey, these are women. How can you say that you lack nothing but talk about another? There is no logic, if you think of another, then either you are missing something or something is wrong with you. How I dream of saying this about a girl we make love to "I don't miss anything with her" That's when I will feel really happy. You watch a lot of movies, I'm sure you're tired of the routine. Tell the person that you want to go somewhere new, do something interesting and don't do nonsense once "you don't miss anything"
Realize that this is just a physical hobby that you nurture with your thoughts, so consciously direct them in another direction and little by little you will overcome it. Take time.
I'll tell you honestly, you say that you love your partner next to you, but obviously it's not like that, don't delude yourself, it's a habit, you respect him as a person, but you don't love him as before. I've looked at a lot of girls, there are beautiful women around me, but if I really love I will NEVER think of another.
Put yourself in her husband's shoes. The poor man suspects nothing. Will you betray him?
For a start, tell your husband. This will make it easier for you and it will pass. Hiding makes it worse.
Aww, a big mistake in choosing words, author! When you say that you feel guilty ... you will see a snowflake how everyone with "special" needs will take advantage to put you on their mental waste. On the subject: if you were a man, you would be advised to slap if you deny to the hole. Since you are a woman ... act like one;)
Stop thinking and avoid seeing him.
Имаш нужда от внимание, флирт и ухажване. При дългите връзки тези неща отдавна са приключили и е нормално да ти липсват. Умната!
Just a hobby. On the one hand ... you can be selfish and eat, drink, live, travel, sleep with everyone you meet, and fill your life with excitement. On the other hand ... to stay true to the man next to you and give him more and more love. To make it boundless. To try new things with it and make it interesting again, not to look from left to right. To start to lie down and feel comfortable and calm all the time. Do not rush, be in harmony with everything around you and start living in eternity. The choice is yours. The choice is always yours ... there is always a beginning and an end, but after the end ... there is a new beginning, but this beginning also has an end and then ... again and again. So ... it's not scary. Be brave and live, because you live only once.
Marry him and you will stop;)