Hello, I am 21 years old, 2 months old and I have little contact with a girl. Which is really special to me, I've never wanted or loved another girl like this. She is 20, and is a virgin. I have known her for a long time and I know that she had a lot of relationships, although not serious before she was with me. She didn't do it to anyone according to the words and because she thought none of them were the right person. I don't press her and I told her that I understood her and that I would be patient until she wanted to. I noticed that when we pressed and kissed, she very timidly kept her distance from my member. We have been kissing and pushing for 2-3 times already, as she rubs her cock through my clothes and I put my hands in her panties. She tells me that she likes it and that it arouses her. But the other day, while we were pushing like that, he suddenly stopped, jumped out of bed, and somehow seemed angry. When I ask her what's going on, she tells me "don't ask me." I ask her if the problem is in me, she answered me categorically that the problem is not in me but in her. And nothing tells me more. Which makes me think a lot of bad things. Like, I have a complex for the size of my penis, but after visiting a doctor and talking to various sexologists some time ago it turned out that I have absolutely no problems. And it makes me think that she felt it and didn't like how big it was, so she stopped, which I think is pretty stupid. She is a rather strange character with extremely strange and changeable feelings. For example, at the moment she is happy, after 1 minute she will be angry for a reason that she herself does not know. I know that she loves me very much and really wants to be with me. She recently told me that she had an affair with a man years ago with whom she fell in love. They were together for about a year, and she decided to do it with him, rather he insisted a lot and she agreed, they started kissing and undressing but she got scared and told him she didn't want to, he got angry and ended all relationship with her. . Which literally ruined her. And at the moment I think that in addition to being afraid of his first time, he is also afraid that he will not be the same as the former. The truth is that I will wait for her as long as necessary because, strange as it may seem to people in this relationship, sex is not so important to me, the only thing I want is for her to be happy, calm and to love and be together. . I will be patient and wait for her when she decides she is ready, I will approach her very carefully and with a lot of passion. I am currently seeking advice mainly from women, I am not a woman and everyone knows that the first time for a girl is not like the first time for a boy.
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Take an interest in how her emotional state is, have patience and so she will trust you and you will win her. Then the initiative will be in her.
It is very likely that she was sexually abused as a child. Such behavior, which you described, is typical of victims of violence - demonstrating intimacy and then a sudden withdrawal due to traumatic memories. I've talked to experts who have told me exactly that. The problem is not in you, I hope things improve over time.
Most likely she is not a virgin, as she made the set she received a psychological trauma. The fear is stronger than the desire, I was with 2 virgin girls, none of them behaved like your girlfriend, and they didn't even have previous relationships. (GV)
I will tell you from experience that a virgin girl does not quite know which member is big and which is small, unless it is something striking. Forget about this version of the story, it's crazy. My friend is very smart. Indeed, I take off his hat because he was fully aware of the psychology of an inexperienced girl. My story may be helpful to you, so I'll tell it. First, he never pressured me. We only talked about it once, then I started the conversation just to tell him that I hadn't slept with anyone. To put it mildly, I was worried, he had experience and I didn't know what he would think, I was still 18 and none of my girlfriends were virgins anymore, I think it's weird. People reacted differently, usually in shock. It was very comical, I blushed, covered my face, he just hugged me and told me that everything was fine and not to think about it. I wasn't scared the first time, I just couldn't accept the idea of letting someone so close to me. I didn't know what to expect, I didn't want to push him away with one of my mistakes. He waited for me to relax in time, it didn't take long. At first, I tried not to touch his intimate areas because I didn't want him to misunderstand me. I wasn't ready, I didn't want to decide otherwise and make it unpleasant. Then I relaxed, we started shaking hands, then we talked calmly, he didn't insist on anything. He waited for me to do something. One night he took off his blouse and set it aside, nothing more than that. The next night we were alone miles from town, made ourselves something to eat, took off the car seats and started pushing. He asked me to take off my blouse. Nothing more than that. We kissed, hugged and went home. I relaxed, got used to the idea that he had already seen a part of my body. A week or two later, I wanted to undress completely on my own. The attempt was unsuccessful because I was worried, and he was startled that something was wrong. He didn't raise a question. He hugged me, told me he would wait for me, and I told him I was ready and I wanted him, but at the moment I was worried about the situation. It was like putting a green light on him. We did it two days later. The first night I was worried because I didn't know what to expect, I was ready to go on, but it wouldn't be so pleasant for me and he stopped. The atmosphere itself was not good, we were locked, but there were people in the house and I did not feel calm that they would not interrupt us or hear us. He pulled away and said he didn't want me to be nervous. Two days later we were walking and passing a pharmacy. I asked him if he had condoms, he said no and I told him to take just in case. Well, this "just in case" turned out to be exactly for the same evening. My friend just did everything gradually, and when we got to the action, he wasn't in a hurry, he didn't talk too much, and he followed my body language. Do it this way. Take steps, be brave, but do everything gradually, not all at once.
I was also waiting for me for four years. And they never complained, and now the boy does not regret it. You need to talk to her. Maybe not directly about making an appointment, but talking about how you wouldn't leave her for such a problem. Tell her how gentle and caring you will be, etc. You need to CONVINCE her to trust you completely. And it may not happen from the first conversation, but be patient. One day you will be really happy with her. I wish you luck! <3
How are you sure she's a virgin? The girl certainly has a big problem. Can he be afraid of your genitals? She may have been raped, but she doesn't dare tell you. Is the girl plump? If he is ashamed of his body. She doesn't have to be raped, she may have been through events that disgusted her with sex. Sex is as good as it is harmful ... I hope your problem is solved. Talk to her, make her relax and tell you everything. How long have you been with her? Wife of, 20