I have been married for 16 years and have two wonderful children. We have been living with my mother-in-law for 16 years. At the beginning of our family life, everything was normal. But over the years, my mother-in-law's dominance over my husband prevailed. From the very beginning, there were disagreements between the two families. But let's not go into details. I will briefly describe my current situation. Due to the fact that my parents completely rejected me from their lives, that is, they transferred their property to my younger sister, they rejected me for no reason. All my life I took care of their health, although I did not live with them. Their attitude at home was a real hell for me. In the attitude of my husband and mother-in-law - humiliated, insulted and unjust. For my husband, I have no price once I am rejected and have no inheritance. According to him, I should live in his home, without conditions and claims - without rights. My mother-in-law insults me for being a "bastard" thrown into their home. Over the years, I look after my children, my home and my responsibilities, I don't have time for entertainment. But they are never happy with me. A year ago, I started working on a second employment contract at a medical center because my income was insufficient. For 2-3 years my husband has been on a separate budget, and I raise my children with my own funds. Tell me how to deal with this situation? After so many years of a decent marriage, don't I have rights?
Protection for myself and peace of mind for my children? The above-mentioned lives his personal life. That is, he justifies that he takes care of the family by paying some other bill, otherwise he has fun with companies and leads a profligate life. I have been repeatedly threatened with expulsion. The apartment is his and if I don't play by his rules, it can happen. I appeal for your help and protection, because I am not a slave after all and I have rights and we live in the 21st century!
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I don't know what your financial situation is, but I think the best option is to get a divorce and go to a place to live with your children. This is not life. Besides, it's not worth living with a man who insults you and kills his complexes on you, let him stay with your mother, save yourself, the hardest thing to think is that you will be able to deal with the accommodation, not with it you leave, but the fact that it will be difficult for you does not mean that it is impossible. Run faster from there until they have completely ruined you.
Precisely because we live in the 21st century, you should not tolerate humiliation. It is a misconception that in Bulgaria a woman alone finds it difficult to cope. Think about it, does anyone support you right now? By the time you turn around and the years have passed and the children have grown up ... you will be blamed for not leaving this house! Success!
16 years of marriage is not small at all. How did you survive so long in this environment? Why did your parents reject you for no reason? You can't be blamed for that. How do your children treat you? Do you have their support? If so, and if you have a clear conscience, I advise you to look for a lawyer who will explain exactly what your options are and leave. For the mother-in-law - no comment ("all-blood")
In my opinion, in order to live peacefully with your children and to improve the relationship with your husband, you must kill your mother-in-law.
Horror! Reading such stories, I understand that family life can be terrible! Leave them! Let your mother and son live, take your children and you will not be there. It will be very difficult, but at least you will be without money, but calm. Now what - both without money, and internally (and probably externally) harassed. I know it's easier said than done, but it will be for the best. Success!
Your situation is really delicate, given that you are rejected by your parents. You really are not a slave and you should not live as such. You are a good mother, but in order to rub the nose of your husband and mother-in-law, I would tell you to leave this home and let their children take care of them. I know that if you decide to take such a step, it will be difficult for the children, but if you are with them and go out, it will be difficult for you from a financial point of view. So again, the decision is ultimately yours alone. Either to be silent and humiliated, but to be with your children, or to leave this home when you decide that you have the opportunity to take your children with you. I don't know how big they are, but I guess they are big enough now that they don't need constant parental care.
Rights are rights, but reality dictates other laws. If you divorce and take the children with you, there is a possibility that your husband will completely abdicate from caring for them. I will throw you a meager alimony and you have to consider whether you will cope with the burden of raising your children fully. Remember that after your separation, he may start another family and completely disinherit your children, as happened to you. It would be good to consult a lawyer and start hiding at least part of your income. In this way you will be aware of the legal side of your situation, you will have some capital for a new beginning, and in the meantime he will have to participate more actively in the maintenance of his family. And if you change the line of behavior towards your mother-in-law and manage to "get under the skin",
Chick, you must like living like that, why are you whining here? It was the same with me, she and he just drove me crazy. Besides, the witch didn't live with us, but she had a key and it was hell. I got tired and divorced without blinking. I kicked him out of his own home and looked after my own children.
This idiot darling condemned him !!! What kind of father not to feed his children !!! If I am straight, I will save it !!!
Hello! I will allow myself to give you a piece of advice, nothing that I am not married and I do not have your life experience .... after your home is his personally, file for divorce with 10 years of married life, it is already half yours and if the court rules correctly and objectively, he will find himself outside ... so don't hesitate and don't think much of him, this person doesn't even deserve to be greeted, let alone talked ... I wish you success and I hope you get rid of it soon from him Greetings!
I think give him another chance on behalf of the children. And he is: Find a mother's home or so on. I guess he won't take you seriously, but it will be to your advantage. Second step - but be iron and safe, leave it with the children and you go to Sofia, find a place to live and a job to survive. Keep in touch with the children but not snow for at least 4-5 months. If he's looking for you, always tell him it's over. That way, be sure to do whatever you want. IF he fulfills your requests, it means he sticks to you, if not, he doesn't love you. REMEMBER DON'T BREAK FOR MINUTE 4-5 MONTHS, if you hurry there are no fixes. Show will, strength, and character. IF YOU SUCCEED IT WILL BECOME LIKE A LAMB. TESTED RECIPE --- SUCCESS