Hi, my problem is this. In the company where I work, a colleague seems to be in love with me or at least he likes me very much. But I am married, I have a child and I made it clear to him that I am a faithful and respectable wife and do not want extramarital sex. He said he understood me, but he seemed to set a goal to ruin my reputation. He constantly tells our colleagues, and even guests of the company, that I am liberated, freedom-loving, that I am, I quote "a modern woman with modern thinking", to read k ....., you know how to read. I'm an attractive woman and I know it, as well as I know I have a dirty look and that's why people believe in it, and for me they think I'm just pretending to be inaccessible. As a result of his nonsense, I already have several assertive candidates, it has happened that even external clients hint at me or directly want me. It sucks! Anyone who has not experienced it cannot know what I am talking about. To tell someone that you care about your family and that you are in love and only want your husband, and that he answers you with "Come on, what are you pretending to be, I know who you are!". Do they know me? They know nothing! They brought me to tears, very, very unpleasant and I don't know how to deal with the situation. Even this morning, I tried to talk to this colleague again, and he replied, "You seem to have made a lot of films." I am asking for advice on how to repay him for all the humiliations, to repair his reputation and get rid of unwanted suitors. Please post my story, I need a side view to make things right. and let him answer you with "Come on, what are you pretending to be, I know who you are!". Do they know me? They know nothing! They brought me to tears, very, very unpleasant and I don't know how to deal with the situation. Even this morning, I tried to talk to this colleague again, and he replied, "You seem to have made a lot of films." I am asking for advice on how to repay him for all the humiliations, to repair his reputation and get rid of unwanted suitors. Please post my story, I need a side view to make things right. and let him answer you with "Come on, what are you pretending to be, I know who you are!". Do they know me? They know nothing! They brought me to tears, very, very unpleasant and I don't know how to deal with the situation. Even this morning, I tried to talk to this colleague again, and he replied, "You seem to have made a lot of films." I am asking for advice on how to repay him for all the humiliations, to repair his reputation and get rid of unwanted suitors. Please post my story, I need a side view to make things right. and he said, "You seem to have made a lot of films." I am asking for advice on how to repay him for all the humiliations, to repair his reputation and get rid of unwanted suitors. Please post my story, I need a side view to make things right. and he said, "You seem to have made a lot of films." I am asking for advice on how to repay him for all the humiliations, to repair his reputation and get rid of unwanted suitors. Please post my story, I need a side view to make things right.
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In other countries, such conduct is expressly prohibited in a company's internal regulations and is punishable by dismissal. Do you work in a big company? Is there a staff or, as it is now called, "Human Resources." There are "specialists" whose job is to deal with internal control. Talk to your boss, as well as other colleagues. I don't know what company you're in, but it sounds more like a bar to me. Otherwise, there is a lot written in English, called sexual harassment. I do not see another solution. Your colleague in question is probably a psychopath.
don't pay attention to them everywhere, it's very unpleasant I've been in your situation, and I just learned not to be impressed ....
Well, from bitter personal experience I will tell you - for ten or twelve years you will pretend to be a faithful and respectable wife, after which you will be surprised to find out that you are actually a liberated modern woman with modern thinking ...
After 10-20 years of faithful and respectable wife, it does not matter much whether she is a free woman with modern thinking, because at 50-60 years hardly anyone will look at her.
Do you have a dirty look? Why? The radiance comes from within and is a mirror of the inner feeling. Be more modest, work on this filthy look as soon as you attract whores this way.
I am the author, well number 3, I am currently 36 years old, if I manage to keep myself as a faithful and respectable wife for 10-12 years, I think that my chance to turn to 50 becomes even more insignificant. When I say "bitter experience", I mean that you were not the cheating partner, but you were cheated on. I'm sorry about that, but I'm not your wife and don't make fun of me, at least not in this topic. And I don't "pretend," I AM, and you act just like the men I'm complaining about. Number 1, I work in a big company, it's by no means a bar, I can't say more, I can do something. But I doubt I can count on Human Resources. However, if things go very badly, I might give it a try. Number 5, I don't know why. That's what people tell me, even my husband told me. Well, I have slightly elongated eyes, thick lips, white skin, black hair and a large bust. When you add a little make-up and the fact that I'm tense because I've been a dancer for over 10 years ... well, the picture should be clear. Separately, I'm not shy and modest, I'm more open, I'm arrogant, so to speak. I don't know how to explain it, so that it doesn't turn out that I'm advertising myself :) But that by no means means that I'm like Gitsa General. Naturally, I'm so gifted, what can I do. My husband adores me and is proud of me, after all he took me for that. I have two higher educations and speak 3 foreign languages. When I wrote this, I was affected after another argument with the colleague in question, I did not explain many things, I know, but I also did not know what questions would arise if someone wrote to me on the subject. Let it be clear, I have no intention of apologizing for the way I look, just as I have no intention of trying to suppress and conceal what nature has given me, I am still old, I will not be beautiful for a long time, which is not to say that I walk obviously naked and begging for my attention. I try to be moderate and polite, I don't go out to bars, I don't go crazy at parties. I have worked in many places, but this is the first time I have encountered such an attitude. I am an intelligent woman and a professional in my field, I am a good wife and mother, and at the moment they make me feel like a walking female genitalia. It's not fair, it's very offensive! but this is the first time I have encountered such an attitude. I am an intelligent woman and a professional in my field, I am a good wife and mother, and at the moment they make me feel like a walking female genitalia. It's not fair, it's very offensive! but for the first time I encounter such an attitude. I am an intelligent woman and a professional in my field, I am a good wife and mother, and at the moment they make me feel like a walking female genitalia. It's not fair, it's very offensive!
Number 5 is not true. I have such a radiance, and it never crossed my mind to convey the trust of the person next to me. Once even a boy thought I was in love with him because my eyes were dirty and I didn't think anything like that. And since some people's imagination works to the max, should I close my eyes ??? The author too? When you are told "No", it means NO, so if you want blood to write on your forehead!
And I have one such acquaintance with a super perverted look, but because we've known each other since we were little kids, she was devastated by the way she looks and remained a virgin until 18 because gyms kept chasing her on the streets after graduating from university and finding a job. , started digging up expensive make-up and now looks like a doll, modest and gentle. And since you are arrogant and dress perversely, even if you do not have the appearance of a pervert, they will still treat you like that, if you really decided to stay hrisima, change your behavior.
Author, number 1 is writing to you again. If there are "human resources" you have to ask them. Ask for a meeting with the head of human resources and explain that this behavior of your colleague harms has a demoralizing effect not only on the microclimate, but mostly harms the daily business.
Hi, I was interested to read the comments about your problem, but I did not see them give a solution! In my opinion, there are two options for action, namely 1. You get into his role, you spread malicious rumors, you put him on the slide - make him the opposite, complex, simple, mostly incompetent in the work. Make a montage of a photo-shop in an unpleasant light ... If he doesn't calm down, you go to option 2 - talk to your husband, he should be aware of your magnetism, there may be a peaceful option to solve the problem ... I would break his head if I found out about such things against my wife!
Well, no, it's actually worse. try talking to the people around him first. Decide either to hurt him or make the gossip so that he is not able to insult you in this way. For example - you can use this with a gay man - .. you saw him with a man for example, with whom they were friends, but the other man cut him off because he realized that he was gay and on top of that he was not comfortable in his body, for to kill these complexes he is probably nagging with you because you saw him on the day of the accident and you thought to keep quiet, but he has gone too far and you prefer not to spoil your family because of your insecure sex. And you decided to share with your colleagues. In the end, he will definitely hear the rumor, on which you rely and you will tell him the deal or he stops harassing you or you keep calling him that he is the opposite and if he decides to attack you you will call the police.