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A Girl From The Village

By lilyandkatycam July 30, 2020 25 answers Last updated July 30, 2020

Hello! I have had a problem for many years that has been preventing me from living like a normal, young girl lately. I am from a village, but I study and live in a big city. My problem may seem ridiculous to you compared to most young people, but ... it really worries and complicates me. I am from a village and I am ashamed to admit it when I meet new people, especially men. I'm beautiful, smart, funny - I have no problem with men, and with people in general. I am sociable and good, but I see how people react and how they insult - "this is rural", "egati the peasant", etc. It is clear that people are prejudiced, even I for some things. I think it's normal. I think it's normal to also expect them not to accept me or to consider me inferior to others because I don't accept myself, which is the worst thing. I'm very ashamed, this makes me close in on myself and avoid any contact. I had two serious relationships. Both my friends hinted, and even one insulted me seriously by saying that I was a "village stick", which hurt me a lot. I'm not simple, I'm limited, I don't behave like a wild peasant ... and I have my shortcomings, but I think I'm a valuable and good person. I was very hurt by his words, and I've been even more worried ever since. I know that it is foolish to worry about such things, I know that my life will pass in a waste of time and unnecessary worries, so I want to overcome this shame, to accept myself and others to accept and respect me as I am. What to do? How would you react if you like a girl but she is from a village.

Will you be ashamed of him, given that you have to introduce him to friends and relatives? Both my friends hinted, and even one insulted me seriously by saying that I was a "village stick", which hurt me a lot. I'm not simple, I'm limited, I don't behave like a wild peasant ... and I have my shortcomings, but I think I'm a valuable and good person. I was very hurt by his words, and I've been even more worried ever since. I know that it is foolish to worry about such things, I know that my life will pass in a waste of time and unnecessary worries, so I want to overcome this shame, to accept myself and others to accept and respect me as I am. What to do?

How would you react if you like a girl but she is from a village. Will you be ashamed of him, given that you have to introduce him to friends and relatives? Both my friends hinted, and even one insulted me seriously by saying that I was a "village stick", which hurt me a lot. I'm not simple, I'm limited, I don't behave like a wild peasant ... and I have my shortcomings, but I think I'm a valuable and good person. I was very hurt by his words, and I've been even more worried ever since. I know that it is foolish to worry about such things, I know that my life will pass in a waste of time and unnecessary worries, so I want to overcome this shame, to accept myself and others to accept and respect me as I am. What to do? How would you react if you like a girl but she is from a village.

Will you be ashamed of him, given that you have to introduce him to friends and relatives? I'm not simple, I'm limited, I don't behave like a wild peasant ... and I have my shortcomings, but I think I'm a valuable and good person. I was very hurt by his words, and I've been even more worried ever since. I know that it is foolish to worry about such things, I know that my life will pass in a waste of time and unnecessary worries, so I want to overcome this shame, to accept myself and others to accept and respect me as I am. What to do? How would you react if you like a girl but she is from a village? Will you be ashamed of him, given that you have to introduce him to friends and relatives? I'm not simple, I'm limited, I don't act like a wild peasant ... and I have my shortcomings, but I think I'm a valuable and good person. I was very hurt by his words, and I've been even more worried ever since. I know that it is foolish to worry about such things, I know that my life will pass in a waste of time and unnecessary worries, so I want to overcome this shame, to accept myself and others to accept and respect me as I am. What to do? How would you react if you like a girl but she is from a village?

Will you be ashamed of him, given that you have to introduce him to friends and relatives? that my life will pass in a waste of time and unnecessary worries, so I want to overcome this shame, to accept myself and others to accept and respect me as I am. What to do? How would you react if you like a girl but she is from a village?

Will you be ashamed of him, given that you have to introduce him to friends and relatives? that my life will pass in a waste of time and unnecessary worries, so I want to overcome this shame, to accept myself and others to accept and respect me as I am. What to do? How would you react if you like a girl but she is from a village? Will you be ashamed of him, given that you have to introduce him to friends and relatives?

Answers 25

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jhonny_b_hunter answered · July 30, 2020

   I don't think you have anything to be ashamed of. Several of my classmates (girls) are also from the village, but that didn't stop them from being the most liked boys. Meaning, it is important to accept yourself as you are, to like yourself, to be sociable, etc. Leave these rumors "this is rural" and so on ... they Bulgarians are used to talking nonsense without giving meaning to it which they have said only because they have nothing more to say or otherwise express themselves. Do you hear such a hint that "this is rural or fuck the peasant" you just don't pay attention. I live in a small town, ie I'm from the countryside and what? Not everything is Sofia, Varna and Burgas ...

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exotic_dovesx answered · July 30, 2020

   Complex people would just cling to where you were born. This would even help you weed out the shoots of nature around you.

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_ryantrey5 answered · July 30, 2020

   In my opinion, there is no reason to worry or to be complex. What matters is what you are, not where you are from. There is a thought of Isaac Azimov that all geniuses are born in the countryside and die in the capital, you don't think it's accidental :) And those who insult you based on your origin obviously had no other arguments to vent their anger your, which doesn't really speak well for them, not for you. I wonder what you found in people who can offend you so simply? !! Rather, think about how valuable the people you choose as your life partners are. I am proud of my origin from the countryside and so far I have not been indebted to any oligophrenic, born by some coincidence in Sofia, and showing contempt for the rest of Bulgaria. Provincialism and the peasantry are a state of mind and have little to do with your place of birth. Remember it well and raise your head high, I want to see the confidence in your eyes, to see the smile of a successful person, as you undoubtedly are, because it is far easier to cope with life if you are born on the yellow pavers and mom and dads trample you until death separates them from the spoiled child, than if you achieve your own far from home, without protection, without a parental shoulder. M, 34 than if you achieve your own far from home, without protections, without a parental shoulder. M, 34 than if you achieve your own far from home, without protections, without a parental shoulder. M, 34

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hungdwarfx answered · July 30, 2020

   Words like "peasant", "village stick" - can be said to anyone, whether from a town or a village, depending on the behavior, as well as the perception of those around you.

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sammy_lyn answered · July 30, 2020

   I can't understand your problem ... What if you're from a village? !! Being a peasant by birth is not bad. It is bad to be a peasant in mentality. I have a girlfriend from the most remote village you can imagine. They do not have a school because the village has less than 200 people. And she's a super decent girl. She was never ashamed to be from a village. When he leaves, he always says that he is going to the village. We all respect her because she is a worthy and very decent person. I would say that she has a more conservative upbringing than the "citizens" - she is just more respectful. She manages on her own, does not rely on mom and dad. Uri, works and looks after a child. And believe me, no one has ever laughed at her. that she is a peasant. She is neither proud of this fact nor ashamed. Fact as fact. He's from the village, he can't change that. You have absolutely no problem, except for the complexes. It's not your problem,

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pssiquiss answered · July 30, 2020

   I'm number 5 again (at least I guess so, because before me there were 4 posts not yet published). See how you write - no mistake! Very few people can boast about this lately. Believe me, no one will make fun of you for being a peasant, but if you were illiterate - this is already a mockery. Look at your life, these people you were with were not for you. And yes - it's stupid to be worried about such things :) Eheeeee, how much more important things will worry you, and you're sitting to complain that you were from the village. That Sofia sees her - who can say for sure that she is from Sofia? !! I have lived here for 18 years, but I am also a peasant :) And my parents are peasants, and neighbors, and colleagues. I do not know any real Sofian. Ah, yes - I remembered, I know a girl, but she's so drunk that that's probably the only advantage. I hope I've been useful to you at least a little. J., 36

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emma_curtis answered · July 31, 2020

   Wow ... that numbs me, if I may say so myself! But not because you are from a village, but because you are worried and ashamed of it. What, for God's sake, is it shameful that you are from a village? !! Does that mean you're miserable or caught in the woods? !! In my opinion, you do not distinguish between a rural MENTALITY (behavior) and a rural origin. Well, I assure you, these are 2 radically different things. People who say "peasant" or "peasant stick", first, that their vocabulary is obviously poor, second, that in my opinion they use them when they want to offend a person, because of his QUALITIES and BEHAVIOR, and not because of his origin. A person can have a rural mentality and not be from a village. And in this case, words like "peasant" are used when a person is limited or lacks manners. And one more thing, I can assure you that there are a hell of a lot of successful people who grew up in villages and small towns, but that didn't stop them from developing and rising high in society! The conclusion from my whole novel is that you should not worry about where you are from, on the contrary, you should be proud. However, one must never forget where he started from, one day you take stock of how you started from scratch and looking back and seeing how many times you walked to get to where you are, this is a cause for pride! T. one day you take stock of how you started from scratch and looking back and seeing how many times you walked to get to where you are, this is a cause for pride! T. one day you take stock of how you started from scratch and looking back and seeing how many times you walked to get to where you are, this is a cause for pride! T.

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sircumsalot555 answered · July 31, 2020

   Do not worry and away from people with prejudices. They are stupider than you, some of them have complexes and that is why they react that way. Obviously you have good behavior, a lot of knowledge and that makes them complex and nervous. See how many associate professors and professors there are from small and unpretentious villages, but this did not stop them from developing and gaining knowledge. Find the right environment and you will be OK.

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cockbeef answered · July 31, 2020

   Say you're from the city, but from a more remote neighborhood, for example, if it bothers you so much!

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butttercup answered · August 01, 2020

   The insulting word PEASANT does not mean a person living in a village, but a limited and simple person, but anyway.

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sexynicol69 answered · August 01, 2020

   That the people from the village are the coolest :-p Like you, I live and work in a big city and I'm not ashamed to be a peasant. I'm not a simpleton, I don't speak a dialect, I take a bath Not only on Sunday, if it's not a question, it's not obvious that I'm a peasant. I have an older sister, she used to kill her in complexes, because she is a peasant, now she is the mother of a 1.5-year-old boy and she wants to live in a village and the child to live his childhood like we did at the time. It doesn't matter where you are from, it matters what you are. Drive the village away from you and be proud that you have been taught to work, brought up on your own and know how to take care of yourself without expecting help.

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darthdebacle answered · August 01, 2020

   Dear people, thank you very much for the comments! I definitely needed the opinion of different people and now I feel much calmer and more confident. Once again - a big THANK YOU!

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hannahomemaker answered · August 02, 2020

   It doesn't matter where you are from, it matters who you are. 70% of the population came from the countryside (we are talking about BZ), through the so-called urbanization or urbanization (the relocation of people from the countryside to larger cities. She draws her own conclusions. :)

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lilibig1 answered · August 02, 2020

   I am from Sofia, but in my opinion the people who came from the villages are more industrious and smarter than those who came from other cities, especially those from the big ones like Plovdiv, Varna, Burgas, and from many born here.

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hott_ladyy answered · August 02, 2020

   By 3, you are supposed to be very broad-minded, but you call everyone born in Sofia oligophrenics, right? May I have your broad cut! And why do you automatically think that everyone born in Sofia relies on mom and dad? !! So you don't want to be put under a common denominator, and you put everyone born in the city under a common denominator!

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sophie_miller_ answered · August 03, 2020

   We are all from the village :)

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cplriniianami answered · August 03, 2020

   I only read the last comment and I generally agree. I will tell you the story of my friendship with my wife, I hope it is not annoying and give you courage. I am already 40 years old. I'm not a supermodel, but I've always been liked, and sometimes the most liked. Popular as you say today. I had many girls and women. The one who captivated me and is the mother of my child, and makes me happy, and fills me with pride is ... as he said, aaa yes - a village stick. In fact, I'll save the story — which I said is enough. I will only add that I know well the peoples of several countries from different continents and my personal conclusion is that the people of the villages are generally more humane, albeit limited. Maybe because they are not corrupted by the city. Please do not offend anyone, which I said - I said it with kindness. I myself was born and raised in a big city

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sellya_sin answered · August 03, 2020

   Look, for me personally, it doesn't matter where, but how you behave I will give you an example. So there is a boy in my class who is from the village and what? Nobody makes fun of him for that. On the contrary, hardworking is a lot of fun with a great sense of humor. Most boys in the class completely forget where he is from when he starts making them laugh. There is no girl in the class (except 2-3) who does not they liked him because of the fun part of his character. There is no child that he could not laugh ... The fallen angel: *

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xxxdallasstarrr answered · August 04, 2020

   I know many people who are from the village, but I never think about it when I contact them. There is nothing shameful about where you are from, when you think about it, we all come from a village, only some have settled in the cities before. Do not be offended by innuendos such as "peasant", "rural stories" - because it is behavior that is meant, not origin. In general, your problem is not who knows what, so upstairs, no one cares where you are :)) And for friends I can only tell you that he probably knew that this is a sick topic and wanted to affect you ...

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samanta_duff answered · August 04, 2020

   Yes. My favorite topic is this and honestly it has always been a lot of fun for me how people in BG take offense at a "peasant", as before communism became a state ideology about 80% of the population was rural !!! I myself was born in Sofia, but my roots are also rural. The neighborhood where I grew up is a former village, there was our house, there we were for several generations, there I was raised in a patriarchate. This neighborhood, now a residential complex, was once an unsightly village engulfed by the city's expansion. My mother was born and raised in a village, but she is a wonderful person, as are her sisters, raised in patriarchy, Christian and family morals. Why do I say that? Well, because I married a woman from a big city (who grew up in a panel) who came out with a wormy plum and ruined my life with infidelity, claims to heaven, with a lack of any morality and honor. If I am going to get married again, I really prefer a modest, honest, moral woman, let her be from a village. Bulgarians are a rural nation and who hides his origin is a complex that has forgotten its roots. Don't be ashamed of your roots. Do you realize that today's Sofia neighborhoods - Poduene, Darvenitsa, Slatina, Nadezhda and many others are former villages? In general, it is a pity that the newly hatched citizens of the panel type pretend to be citizens of Sofia, Plovdiv, etc. These are complexes, descendants of workers brought to the big cities by the big communist enterprises. When I hear about people from Sofia from Lyulin, for example, he makes me laugh. They are the biggest complexes that offend the people of a peasant. It is such people who flock to the sea and give the impression that the people of Sofia are arrogant, vicious and arrogant. It's as if they want to hide their roots because they are ashamed that their grandparents are from the village. It doesn't matter if you are from a village or from the city. What matters is what kind of person you are, not where you were born. No one chooses where to be born, but everyone chooses how to treat other people, how to live with their peers and should be judged accordingly. Being a peasant is not a shame, it is a shame to be with the mentality of a peasant, and such are many people, born and branches in the big cities!

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ellakravitz answered · August 04, 2020

   There is nothing wrong with being from a village. The people of the village are good, hardworking, hospitable. It's not bad to be from a big city - they are more popular there, however. The worst thing is to be from a small town or a rural town - that's where the most horrible people come from. Accustomed to gossip and gossip, they grew up with them. If such people are your colleagues, you will notice a hidden hatred and envy towards everyone born in the big city. They are unscrupulous and ready to do anything to "succeed". They are not industrious, like the people of the village, so in order to rise they use intrigue, nothing can stop them. If the work allows, they are stolen or stolen from the boss - for them Sly Peter is a role model. They always stab you in the back when you least expect it. And the worst thing is that they don't even realize what they are - they think that their behavior is justified, that everything that other people have and have acquired through labor,

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hottielove1 answered · August 04, 2020

   Author, I'm looking for a woman from the village, because I've been watching the citizens for 30 years ..... I just want a man next to me, yes, mainly H, because of the urban girls besides blood and prostitutes left 2-3 no attractive just ... I'm looking for a woman who has seen a broom and a shovel, and understands the buttons on the oven, and last but not least as I buy a house with 1 acre of yard to be able to maintain it even with flowers and shrubs only !! Be proud because you are obviously a smart and good girl and the malice of the people is poured out on you.

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elderslie answered · August 04, 2020

   Dear girl, the origin does not matter. My best friend is from a village, but he is a much more decent person than many citizens. There are other examples. I personally would not look at this, but whether the girl is a good person, her qualities. Don't worry, things will not always be like that. :)

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tegydw answered · August 05, 2020

   "I think it's normal to also expect them not to accept me or to consider me inferior to others because I don't accept myself either" - author, you inflict the biggest insult on yourself, you don't accept yourself, but you want others to accept you. It is not important that you are from a village, it is important that you do not carry the villages with you. One can leave the village, but if the villagers live in it, she never leaves it. Just as natural products are in vogue and are in demand, so natural women (such remained only in the villages) are in demand because they have preserved human virtues and are more modest. Whoever decides to marry, is looking for just such women. I don't know in what circles you move, but when they insult you, you are obviously lying among wolves, and you have the temper of a sheep. If you do not orient yourself in time, you will find the master. Worse happens when an unprepared village girl, falling into the big city, he decided to distribute it liberte, then he became 100% a victim of "CILIVILIZATION". With these considerations, you will obviously be easy prey. It's not bad that you're from a village, it will be bad if it happens like this "God forbid he sees blindly". If you let the vortex of the vicious life of the big city turn you around, write drowning!

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rumataestor1 answered · August 05, 2020

   My dear, the smartest and coolest person I know is from the most remote border village, somewhere on the Serbian border, but this has not only never bothered me, nor anyone else in the company, but we even secretly envy him that is so cool. So being from a village is no problem if you find the right friends. And it's not said that the moment you meet someone you have to introduce yourself: "My name is X and I'm from the village." If that worries you, keep this information only for the people you are really close to (they don't whether they care whether you are from a village or New York). Besides, it doesn't matter where you are from, but what you are. I know such jerks born in the center of Sofia that it is not true! So be cool, be smiling, be positive and you will find friends and loved ones, and those who offend you, that you are from a village just don't deserve a girlfriend like you! Success! And be proud of who you are.