Hi, I'm a 16 year old girl, all my girlfriends only get boyfriends, I don't. The problem is that I like men 2-3 times older than me, I'm already wondering if I'm normal. I read on the internet that the reason for this was problems with the father, but I did not have any. I'm not ugly, I have a relatively nice body and a beautiful face, I don't miss the attention of boys my age. Some may say that this is just a phase, but for as long as I can remember I have been looking at my father's friends, that even at him, because he is handsome with a nice body even though he is 45, even my girlfriends are I was told that, and I pretend to be a moralist because I'm ashamed to admit what I really like. I use this site because it is anonymous. I've been asked more than once why I don't have a boyfriend and, I don't know what to say, I even lied to two girls that I was a lesbian, haha. I want to have sex, but I'm worried because most cool men this age are married, I'm still a virgin, if that matters. Share if you think this is strange and even normal.
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As a 32-year-old man, I'm glad there are people like you. And I only like those of your age and a little over your age.
We cannot determine our own sexuality. In your case, it's good to think that you actually like men between the ages of 30 and 45 somewhere, which I don't find strange at all. These are real men who are still young, but experienced and built characters. I myself have such an attraction and of course with increasing my own age I do not like 2-3 times older men than me, and about 20-30 years older. This preference has been maintained over the years. I read a lot of psychological literature, Freud, Jung and co. and I decided it was stupid to fight my sexuality. I also don't have a problem with my father and I don't like men at all who look like him in any way. My father is actually young, but he is not a mature and self-confident person either. I don't know what to advise you except to tell you, that if you fight against your preference, you will only be tormented and you will not achieve anything real. I did not compromise with myself, I just stayed alone and a virgin until the end of high school, and after I went to study in Sofia there was more choice and in general a person can be himself there. My first friend was 39 and I was 19, 14 years later we are still together, we are a family and we have children. I do not regret. I live a very good and quiet life with a man who has found himself, while many of my friends from high school are divorced and have changed a lot of men at that time. They scare me a lot about what I would do if my husband died. I don't know, to be honest, but until that happens, I intend to enjoy every minute with him, and besides, my husband has been with me for 14 years, and the husbands of everyone around me dumped them after 3-5 years. with two small children. Do not live for others, but for yourself. I will not go into details, but sex with such a man is great because he has experience. To this day, I do not like young men or men my age, and I find only men who are at least 20 years older than me attractive and interesting. Not that I have to look for a man, but I generally talk. I do not regret anything and this was the best decision in my life - I did not compromise with myself. I was at my prom alone and had a great time! but in principle I speak. I do not regret anything and this was the best decision in my life - I did not compromise with myself. I was at my prom alone and had a great time! but in principle I speak. I do not regret anything and this was the best decision in my life - I did not compromise with myself. I was at my prom alone and had a great time!
The old pedophile is looking for an audience again!
1, you don't get up because the young lady said she fell in love with her father, who is 45 ..., unless you look older for your age. Otherwise, author, it would be good to go to a therapist. It is not forbidden to have relationships with older people, but mentally these people can at some point ruin you a lot, because as characters they are much more angry, than life, than the difficulties they went through. And even if you fall for your father ... there is something a little crooked in you, now I'm not judging you, but think and be careful.
Author, I am number 2 and because of people like 4 I advise you to be silent for now and when you go to a BIG city with LITERATE, EDUCATED people, then to live your life. Number 4, "looks", "therapist" And even people like you are called "functionally illiterate" - you do not understand what the author of a text means. The author does not like her own father, but men 2-3 years older than her. - that is, number 1 is exactly at the age that the author likes. She doesn't need a psychologist either, because I don't see her going through any difficulties and being "angry." The neighborhood aunts are angry, who deal with gossip all day, and their own husbands are either in the pub or at the mistress's.
It's very funny to me when someone starts making fun of someone's spelling, but they don't have it at all, God forbid. But, anyway. The author is a virgin, you can't talk about her sexual preferences at all yet, she flies in the clouds, it is very clear that she will like cool men, her peers are pimply teenagers who don't know what other world are located. And I repeat - she likes it, she didn't write anywhere that they arouse her, that they attract her and the like, come on, calm down.
I just said that I find my father nice, not that I want to chat with him ..
It's all very nice, "there are no limits to love", etc., but I do not understand what your topics will be for a conversation with such men. They don't care much about what hairstyle you did, or what nonsense you did at school, or where or how you got drunk with your classmates. On the other hand, you are hardly interested in financial markets, global politics, football, technical details about cars, theater, fishing, symphonic music, craftsmanship in the basement workshop and the like. Honestly, a 20-year-old would be boring to me, unless she decided to become a mother and I would breed her. Otherwise, I do not see how we would communicate fully.
Author, prepare for a strong hatred. My advice is not to pay attention to them and even less to answer them. The more you answer them, the more you will get angry and in the end you will achieve nothing. You're just like that and that's it. Nothing else matters. Try to find a decent and serious man with whom to have a future, and age is not so important.
Do you know what Sugar daddy is? If you don't search the internet a bit, you might be interested.
You are not the only one with such a taste and that is good! We older men like girls like you. Not that we don't like our wives either, but you know how it is ... diversity is a must. You have at least another ten years to entertain and like us. Then if you don't start liking peers, bad. Because, we men who like people like you, we don't make children for them ... Forgive my sincerity! I have a daughter and I wouldn't be happy if she decided to ruin her life with an uncle, 20 years older than her, who would only ruin her youth ...
* It's not bad to like older people, but you haven't really experienced anything to know if you really like them and they only attract older gentlemen. * I, like you, liked older people, I was even 10-15 years old, and I was attracted to 30-40 year old men, but over time my worldview changed. * I communicated online with older men, but I didn't really want meetings, just writing and getting to know each other, the older I got the more I realized that these men didn't attract me and even retaliated. * Everyone goes through temporary periods that disappear sooner or later. -Meryjan
There are two possible options and one is to have a topic invented by an uncle. I will comment on the second option, to be true. I was "in love" with my father. But this has always been a daughter's deep love for her father, respect, admiration for my hero, respect and desire to have the same love and respect, not to disappoint him. I had a stage where I thought that only someone like him could give me the same feelings and emotions, to have what you had with my mother. To follow this model. Yes, but it took me a while to realize that this is the example I had for family and love. I even had a relationship with an older man. Hahahaha, he was just a complex who was looking for a young man, because I was inexperienced and he didn't have to prove himself to a woman his age. It took me a while to realize it again. I'm with a man 4 years older than me now, has similar understandings of relationship and family. He is my man-hero. In it I found what makes me happy as a WOMAN, not as a daughter. Unfortunately, my father died, but I am still "in love" with him, that is, I love everything he gave me with his presence, with his example. But I have known for a long time that this is another love, strong, deep, but different. In time, you will find out if it is just a sexual attraction to older men or if you have a psychological problem and are realizing fantasies that are not normal. However, love ... it has nothing to do with age or appearance! But the fact is that a much older partner can never vibrate along with solid energy, different generations - different needs and emotions, you will never be happy in such a relationship. You can only try if you insist so much and waste some time of your life to convince yourself personally.
I will not lie to you, sex with an older man is great. Especially if someone is really cool, the experience is unique, but only up to that point. However, most who will pay attention to you will only want sex, and a blind person would see that. So for a relationship with such, do not think, you can only use each other for sex.
n 16, your comment applies to young men and all men in general. All men want only sex in the beginning. The trick is how to win a man for more, which is difficult for both adults and young men. If you think that a 20-year-old is looking for you for a family and children, for a serious relationship - you are sorely mistaken.
If you like older men, go with them. What is stopping you? Each person is different and individual.
There is nothing wrong with love, there are no limits to love, as long as there is mutual attraction and equality. And the fact that someone is married is not a problem, because married people are not operated by feelings or the ability to love. So, I hope you come across a decent man! Listen to your heart!
Dear child! Get at least 18 and then look for the uncles that you will put someone in trouble without wanting to. Alla Pogachova is 40 years older than Borodin, but they got married and have been living for years. John Atanassov's wife was also 30 or 40 years younger than him, but they lived together for the rest of their lives. There are more examples, but I do not list more.
Electra complex. Your father is good and protective. You subconsciously expect to find these qualities in other older men. The thing is, there is no guarantee that you will find them, and such a relationship will not be productive in the long run. It is unlikely that you will be able to create a quality relationship with someone 3 times older than you (I'm not saying impossible because there are couples who refute me). Give a chance to men, for example, 5-10 years older than you. There are also good, wise and protective men among them. But it is also more important to understand that no man will treat you like your father, and that is good.
! 7, it is not true that all men are only looking for sex! Don't lie to the little girls here. Men always want me for a serious relationship, where do you find these men, where only sex they want me to take advantage of. Because I do not meet such, but some with a desire to commit .....