Hi, I'm not sure how to start, I'm 27 years old and I think my whole world is collapsing and there's nothing I can do to change anything. Almost a year ago, I was a happy young girl who loved her job and her life in general, but what happened next had a serious impact on me and my outlook on life. I will try to tell my drama briefly. One day at the beginning of last summer I had just finished work and was walking to my car when a stranger stopped me and spoke. This type of dumps doesn't impress me, so I behaved politely, smiled and left. After 10 days at the same place I met the same person, this time he introduced himself and asked to meet and I agreed. 1 month later I was in love as a puppy. Most of you will probably think I'm just another fool who thinks that the world revolves around her and her problems, but believe me I have always been strong and persistent and I emphasize that I have never liked drama. For the first time in my life I began to love with all my heart a man who turned out that I still do not know. He is 13 years older than me and believe me a great storyteller. In the second month of our relationship, he stopped working, making up various excuses not to start again.
My accounts have naturally doubled and so far I am completely bankrupt and with a lot of credit. In time, he lied to me about many things, but I was blind. Things escalated when he wanted us to go abroad and I dropped everything and left. There he started hitting and humiliating me. Of course, things didn't work out there and I decided to leave, and he followed me because he "loves" me. We came back here and at no point did I think of leaving him despite everything just because I was in love. That's how I lived with him. I started working, and he rested and didn't care that I was exhausted. I still didn't care because I loved it.
The beatings became even more brutal. By the time I understood everything - I was comfortable, he always had another woman next to him who also lied. Then I left and thought it would be forever. After two weeks I realized that I was pregnant - we were trying all the time. The same day he called me just like that, or rather because the other woman had left him, but he didn't admit it until she called me to talk. 1 month has passed since then, and we have continued with divisions, dramas and lies. He is with this woman again, and I am alone and pregnant. I'm writing all this, not to pity me because the blame for everything is mine and no one else's. I write everything because I need advice from strangers.
How do I deal with all this hell of mine? I don't think I can handle myself this time, and I realize I need help and advice, but I don't know where to look. I will appreciate any response from you
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Really very naughty situation ... I don't know what advice to give you ... but I give you my spiritual support <3 don't give up - all evil for good
Your story sounds scary. I don't know how to calm you down. Your situation is complicated and challenges you to cope. If you decide to keep the child, you will need relatives who are by your side and support you. I hope there is someone. You will need help and time to cope without a job, without serious income and with loans. In any case, the decision is not to return to the child's father. Good luck and head up! You are alive, you are young and you know yourself - you are strong.
At 27, should a man lie to you as if you were 17? At first glance, I see the following options: 1. You do nothing, you continue with beatings and humiliation (because, love), as now, plus you look at his child. 2. You have an abortion and cover yourself somewhere hoping he won't find it (otherwise at the first meeting you understand that you can't do without him and option 1 becomes). 3. You detain the child, tell him that he is from someone else, write to him with an unknown father so that you are not connected forever (otherwise it becomes option 1). Bonus you put him in jail.
Nothing irreparable has happened. She took the first step, soberly aware of the situation. Everything lasted only about a year and you can easily write it "temporary insanity" and move on. I do not advise you to reunite with the "father" in any case, and whether to bear and give birth to a child is a matter of personal choice / no one would give you the right advice /. For a start, he got back on his feet, found a job and regained his old contacts and valuable people in life. Sometimes it is written that a person "breaks his head" to learn a lesson and to avoid far greater simplicity in his life .. it was for the good, believe me. Don't let bad memories and emotions guide you, get together with your old friends. In their smiles and warm feelings lies the solution to the situation you are in.
Dear girl, your only transgression is that you are naive. And this man, not at all EU balls between the legs and is a disgrace to the whole male class! I think you should tell your parents and your close relatives and solve the problems one by one. You simply have no other choice. What month are you pregnant? For the sake of the little man, use all possible human resources for support that you have and kick that fly out of your life forever! Love this child the way you have never loved in your life! He needs you because you are everything to him!
He beats you, cheats on you with money and cheats on another woman, and you get pregnant by him? I have no words to describe how you got yourself into hell because of one stupidity to stay with the bad boy !!!
So banal and at the same time so nightmarish ... and this female naivete, naivety bordering on stupidity, leads to the nightmare again ... The advice could be the following - you remove the child and forget about this person ... You forget, because you have already realized what a lowly He is an individual, and once you realize it, breaking all ties with him will be an elementary job! And women, as long as you lose your mind about garbage! This site is full of similar stories!
I don't know, how is this possible to happen? !? !?
My advice is to dump this man, because after he stayed with you. It probably won't change for the better. You deserve to find someone who really appreciates and loves you. Good luck.
The situation you find yourself in is quite complicated. First of all, whatever you decide, you must end any relationship with this man. Then you have several options. You have an abortion and continue your life with the conscience that you killed your child; you give birth to a baby and find a couple who can adopt him and provide him with full care, or you give birth and raise your child on your own with some possible minimum maintenance from his father. Whatever you decide, do not deprive your child of the right to live. There are many couples with reproductive problems who would give him all their love and affection. You also have the option to raise your child alone, but know that this child will always connect you with this man, and the life of single mothers is not easy. These are the options ...
I don't know, is this man Brother Pete, is he so handsome that you tend to endure him completely? My advice is to come to your senses, if you respect yourself, to throw it away lightly. The child is obvious that you will watch alone. You have done a great foolish thing with this man, even my advice is not to write him down as a father, because he will not take responsibility and in that case he will have no rights. If he has rights, 18 years will. you are addicted. You can't have a holiday in Greece without his consent. Not to mention that in time you may meet another person and if you decide to travel, you will have to ask permission from the father. And if the child recognizes it, he will have to start working and support him, which I doubt. The other option is to have an abortion, end this person forever, and start fresh. And don't give in to him falling in love, there are so many great men, who deserve to be loved, you fell in love with this mold. I don't know how you can be attracted to a man who doesn't work and has no money and you support him? Is it amazing in sex that you tolerate this? Come to your senses, it's up to you. no
You break up with him forever! Once and for all !!! Then you can think about the child. Do you want it? Can you grow it? If the answer is yes, if you are sure that you will love this child, even though you know what rubbish his father is, then give birth to him, but if you have the slightest doubt, have an abortion and move on! I think you have learned your lesson and you will not trust it so easily anymore, and even if you do, you will leave as soon as you see that something is not right. You should have done it while he was hanging around your neck to withstand it, not to mention that he even allowed himself to beat you, but the past is over. There is no way to continue it, for that, you break ANY relationship with this person, if you can change your job, home and phone number and go on with your life. If you agree to see each other, think that he has again entangled you in his webs with lies and sugary tales, how much he loves you and how wonderful everything will be. You know it won't be! So don't do it again and again. Save yourself while you are still young. The more time passes, the harder it will be for you to get out of this trap. For this act !!!
I hope you have relatives. If so - rely on them, even if they are not your best friends. Blood is thicker than water. AND ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACTS WITH THIS CASE. For no reason. And remember, it's darkest just before dawn.
Was that a bit of a drama? What is meant by a lot of drama? Are they sure to cut off your head? I hope that the lovers of "bad boys" will read the topic and draw the appropriate conclusion, but hardly. I can advise you like the others - dump the garbage, have an abortion and start fresh. This should be a lesson for you. If you still leave the child - do not seek paternity from this waste, so that you have absolutely no connection with him.
Because it is love, give birth to his child and try to win him back from the other woman. I know it will not be easy, but if you succeed, you guarantee a great life, full of adventures for you and your child such as beatings, humiliation, misery and infidelity. As a bonus, you will never complain about the gray daily life of family life like many other women, because you will always have variety. Keep following your heart, as I watch you are well organized so far ....
And my advice is to keep the baby, delete this person from your life and share with your parents! You look like a smart and educated girl who is going through a difficult period. Just don't remove the baby. Write what happened