Eh ... it's me again, it just started to get interesting to me :)) ... the author of the topic below about how my life will go in making money :). Out of boredom, I decided to look at what Love is, in fact and realistically, and why it doesn't come to some people .... Perhaps the best explanation for love is given by Erich Fromm (who dedicated one of his books to love: The Art of Loving ). He says love is not just a feeling, because sooner or later feelings die, in essence it is an action, that is, an action, an art that most people think we control, but it is not. Fromm formulated his thesis on love as an answer to the problem of human existence, love is the only way to achieve unity on the basis of equality and thus to save ourselves from the unbearable feeling of loneliness and helplessness. Blah, blah, blah: ) My biggest insight is that IF you are too intelligent and you just know what it is - love cannot come to you, simply because your mind already controls everything. Falling in love and Love ... two different things. I characterize falling in love as a tendency to attribute positive qualities to negative ones to the object of falling in love. I can't define love because obviously we are not as smart as creatures yet ... It's good that this site has it so that I have a place to write something intelligent, where someone will always understand me (as you understood me for the topic below) . Unfortunately, my current environment is not highly intelligent and just if I comment on something like that and they look at me as if I told them something in Chinese :)) And remember: Fear of Love is usually formed on the basis of previous experience and inherently have protective function.
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I completely agree with what has been written above, and I think that there is a great deal of truth in Erich Fromm's definition. And the fact that if you are intelligent and know what is what or more precisely what you want ... love really will not come to you.
You know, you really deserve something better, you're looking for love but you can't find it. But there is another reason why when I read these lines I feel that they are somehow sad as if you lose hope. And these little people don't characterize you, you put them on for fun, but you're actually sad and lonely, don't be what you are not. Come on, take a breath and enjoy even the smallest thing you have.
Е, добре. Според теб повечето хора не са интелигентни. А ти как реши, че си достатъчно интелигентен? Първо, според мен, имаш прекалено високо самочувствие. Второ - критериите са ти прекалено високи, трето - ако продължиш така, наистина няма да срещнеш момиче за теб. Защото си един страхливец и самотник, с високо самочувствие заради парите и с празна душа. Съжалявам, че съм груба, но се дразня, когато някой съди така хората... Знаеш ли какво? Не мисля, че разбираш достатъчно от психология, но все пак те съветвам да прочетеш по-обстойно проблемите за самотата. Има и цяла книга, посветена на самотата. Ако те интересува... И ако си толкова интелигентен, намери си някакво друго занимание. Не тук да четеш коментари на умни и прости хора.
Up to 3. There are no ordinary people, there are people whose mind is open to a certain topic to someone else is NOT directed. There are also low-intelligence people, unfortunately, and this statement cannot be refuted due to the presence of a simple intelligence test, on which many people can not pass the minimum .... I have enough activities, do not I have the right to write here. .. I'm not a coward, I'm not very self-confident, I'm a completely normal person. My money, it doesn't exist here for me, that's why I'm writing here to shake it off. If you are thinking of attacking, find a worthy opponent, I am not looking for one here, but just elementary opinions from intelligent people, as I have noticed that there are only such here. And I have not directed the topic of love to myself. It's just a reasoning :) A line follows ..... :)))
I support №3 for the frank opinion. I do not share the last sentence in particular - the very idea of this site is for everyone to write their opinion and share their thoughts in space, without worrying that in real life they will be recognized. I would supplement opinion 3 with the fact that the author looks like a man who has never truly loved. In theory, it is one thing, but only a person who has truly loved and suffered, or has been loved and has known love, can comment. And secondly, one cannot speak of love in principle if one cannot experience love in the spiritual sense - love of neighbor. Why do I have the feeling that what the author has written speaks of a kind of desire to escape from reality. And secondly, the fact that all the people around do not seem to be worthy of respect, they have low intelligence, below the level of the author, it is a bit like the phrase "on a curved rocket, its space is crooked". Will there be in the whole universe another worthy and great as the author, to be at his level ..... "Man learns while he is alive". And how rich he is - maybe only in words, just as rich as he is smart. And he knows and understands so much from everything that he no longer needs to learn anything - everything is clear to him, everything bores him and almost no one understands him. And what is so understandable? There are an awful lot of people who have a problem with communication and communication - they can't explain what they want, they can't tell what they like and don't like, they can't stand the people around them and they are terribly nervous, they can't love. , cannot explain and answer the questions asked and are angry that no one understood them. In fact, in their soul - complete emptiness, they have no value system - since they cannot explain what they like and what they are looking for and what they are striving for. I think that before one criticizes others one should look at oneself and honestly answer the question donate one likes and whether one is really perfect and flawless.
Okay, I think I know what love is. At least that's how I think I met her. But she's younger and I can't make her relax and let go of her feelings, she's constantly thinking and saying what's going to happen. He doesn't let things just happen. He tells me you are very cool, considerate, you gave your best. You are great. But we broke up. He says it's because of me, but because of her. I want her back. What can I do? Thanks in advance.
Number 5, you judge me the same way ... and I don't have a communication problem, but don't make me laugh. I'm just thinking anonymously here ... :)) and you don't take things so seriously (oh how could I say that - I don't have one) .. drink some cold water and come to terms with the fact that not all people with money are bad ... and that there is NO love ... God has said: "Blessed are the ignorant"
Great thoughts about life and love! Well done!
I'm number 3. Thanks to number 5 for the support and the correct addition. And you, the author, give it a little calmer. You remind me of a man I know. And he, like you - with money, without friends, can not love. Do you know why you never loved? Because you are afraid. I'm not attacking you now, I want you to think. You say you're not a coward ... But you don't say that. Life is so good, but you are a pessimist. It's complicated, yes. But that is exactly his beauty. And how not to have a problem with communication. You managed to get nervous here, I imagine how you are in real life. But people said to themselves, "Money spoils a man." Don't think very good. I personally think that you are a loner (I repeat, but I'm just convinced enough). If you don't want to have so much money, you're super good ... but give it away. There are orphanages, there are people who need operations, finance something that would benefit society. Not just writing what you are and what you are not. If you don't have friends, it's completely clear who you are ... PS I really don't want to be picky and I didn't want the tone of what was written to be so sharp, but I'm tired of people like you. Get down on the ground. To live a dignified life you need much more than money and intellect. Learn not to look only at the material, because your life will end not in "making money", but in a mental hospital! but I'm tired of people like you. Get down on the ground. To live a dignified life you need much more than money and intellect. Learn not to look only at the material, because your life will end not in "making money", but in a mental hospital! but I'm tired of people like you. Get down on the ground. To live a dignified life you need much more than money and intellect. Learn not to look only at the material, because your life will end not in "making money", but in a mental hospital!
Is it love ?! They really have no one to define it. Last day my son, who is 4, asked quite simply "Mom, what do I love?" a very simple question that I had to answer quickly - after all, a child is now learning, isn't he !! The answer ended with the following - "To hold someone very much, to respect and understand him". Is this the simple definition of love ?! I don't know - but pressed by the circumstances, for me that was the most logical answer. There was no time for high-sounding words and imaginary principles, there was no time to paint in pink, nor did I have the desire to build illusions ...
"IF you're too intelligent and you just know what it is - love can't come to you just because your mind already controls everything." This is the truth itself, I experienced it on myself :(
№3 fully support you in your last wait. In general, overly tall and intelligent people find it much harder to adapt to the real thing. I'm a typical peppermint for a supposedly intelligent girl, but to tell you the truth, I'm already a psychiatrist. In order to experience love, you do not have to think about it, but to feel it, to experience it, just to relax. He who thinks a lot gets nowhere. The bottom line: it seems easier to be dumb!
№10 my congratulations. №12 great conclusion. To the author ..... when was the last time you were in love? Because you're not anymore, are you? It was too soon, or not quite, but you gathered a lot of bitterness. We can talk about the implication of your confession. When people love, they hardly think, they do not look for definitions in popular editions, or not so popular and accessible readings from specialized literature. They hardly ask themselves how many points they have in their intelligence test when they are in love. As for your environment, you will probably get more valuable definitions of what love is right there. Maybe you have a colleague who is struggling with a malignant tumor and needs your understanding, or you have an acquaintance who has lost her child in a ridiculous situation, or a colleague who is moving on floating sands and waiting for his dismissal at any moment, and you think about your money, how much they don't understand you, where others are at your level and whether they know what love really is. I understand, you're bored and that's a problem too. Well fall in love with someone. You will probably find someone super-intelligent who needs variety to save you from boredom. I would recommend you to supplement your intellectual knowledge with the parable "The Three Doors of Wisdom". The Internet is available to everyone, you will find it. I wish you success. The Internet is available to everyone, you will find it. I wish you success. The Internet is available to everyone, you will find it. I wish you success.