Hello. I would like to tell you just like that about a more unusual day of my life. I am 25 years old, I mainly work and spend part of my free time studying for a master's degree at the University of National and World Economy. I don't know why and for what reason, but my life has flowed in such a way that I have no friends or social life. I don't have a girlfriend, I never have. I haven't had sex either. But that is not the subject of this story. The new year and the month of January began as always hopefully. I had an exam session and a lot to learn. I work as a mechanic in a truck service and this month also due to my nature, the work is a lot. And as I said above, I have no friends, so it is at work. Of course, I maintain a good tone with my colleagues, but only up to that point. Definitely our relationship is purely professional, the others get together, go out for coffee, pubs of beer or two, but I'm always out of their accounts. I'm used to people not taking me seriously, because that's been going on for many, many years. It can be said that this is the attitude of my colleagues from the university, although in general the situation there is everyone's own. It was a difficult month, in my work some of my colleagues turned against me and tried very hard to make me leave. Even a colleague whom I helped and guaranteed for him before my superiors - and he slandered me now. I didn't pay much attention to these attacks because I had a lot to learn and I didn't have time to deal with nonsense. It was also quite difficult at the university, exam projects, etc. In general, everything was getting blacker and blacker and harder. On the flip side, it turned out that I hadn't made enough to take a full salary. And so until Thursday, January 31. This Thursday I am sure I will remember it for a long time. I went to university to teach a project. I thought that only I in my group had not betrayed him. It turned out that another colleague would broadcast with me. She went to the teacher first, and I waited outside. And then an unknown girl came. Very stylishly dressed and quite ostentatious.
We met, it turned out that she was from our group. I had never seen her before, and I can say that I was one of the students who regularly attended lectures. We talked a little, I quickly explained to her what we had done during the semester and we agreed to wait for her to give her some lectures after the submission of projects. I handed over the project, talked to the teacher and just forgot to wait for the new colleague in question. I left and after about 15 minutes, my phone rang. It was her, she asked me where I was. I told her I was gone, she asked me if I could come back if it was convenient. I came back, we saw each other and after I gave her the lectures she asked me to stay with her a little longer if possible to tell her about the other subjects and exams and what we did during the semester. We sat on a bench, and she started telling me about her, what she does and why she decided to study just that ... And at that moment she literally blew my head off - literally. It turned out that I was sitting and talking not to a muffin and my mother's princess, but to a successful business lady my age, ambitious and following her dreams. And now, as I saw no point in going to lectures, I am determined to go so that I can help this colleague with anything, because she does not have the opportunity to come to lectures. So a few days after that happened, I actually realized, that even in just 2 hours it was worth the whole month being so difficult. I'm not writing this for a purpose, but just to tell you about one of the very few interesting days in my life. :)
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Bateee, this one only uses you and when you are no longer needed, it will forget you and throw you away like a dirty kitten.
You look like a mature and intelligent man to me. Act boldly with the colleague as soon as you like her. Maybe this is the beginning of something very nice. Fingers crossed! :)
Continue the relationship, you can one day go to bed together. That's how it is in life, if you go to the forest you don't know which bush the rabbit will jump out of.
By comment 1- I have such thoughts in my head, but I tend to help a young person who is trying to do something meaningful in his life, and not to waste it like most of our age. As for comment 2- I admit it quite honestly, I do not have the courage for such things at this stage. At the moment, I only admire her achievements. It is obvious that her parents are not accidental, it is obvious that she is quite wealthy and I definitely cannot compete with her. And the other thing I don't know is whether she is bound or not. In short, our relationship is purely professional, just maybe in some way began to inspire me to take in, hands and try to achieve my dreams. From the author.
Well, in my opinion, number 1 may be right, but number 2 may also be right. Keep being a positive person no matter what.
These are familiar to me - they revolve around you for lectures and to ensure the passage of the semester. I'm a woman, but at one time my university friends revolved around me for lectures in the same way. Try not to give her lectures and info and see how long she will stay with you. I hope she's right and become boyfriends. You deserve something good to happen to you. Honey, I'm sad. At 23, I was already married and living alone. I am already 36 years old and I am with the same man again and we already have two children. Courage boy, if it's not her, it will be different. But if she has captured you, don't give up, just take a test to see if she's using you for lectures and info, because it will be naughty to give everything and then stop looking for you.
In my opinion, you need to take yourself very seriously and socialize as much as you can and leave the idealization and adoration of your colleague in the background. As a successful business lady, what is it for her to learn things that she cannot even attend, not even partially, but completely? I also don't understand what is the use of all the work for you? Yes, I know that looking for personal gain is very hypocritical and insincere, but something has to happen to you, right? Even people who pretend to do things out of pure altruism usually do so because they satisfy some of their inner needs (to feel needed or important, to "redeem" some sin, ie as an indulgence, to feel that they are contributing, and so on). .), ie they get something again. And what do you get? You think that licking her soles while bringing her lectures will you like her? You don't know women. It's really not strange that you didn't have sex at 25. As I said above - start communicating with others, look at yourself and be self-critical and don't live in a pattern imposed on you by your parenting environment, that you are perfect as you are and you don't have to be able to communicate with others. I'm not the most sociable either, but I've always had colleagues at work and in the unit to go out with. Respectively, from there I created acquaintances with women, etc. but I've always had colleagues at work and in the unit to go out with. Respectively, from there I created acquaintances with women, etc. but I've always had colleagues at work and in the unit to go out with. Respectively, from there I created acquaintances with women, etc.
By comment 6- I will definitely listen to your advice. I'm certainly not useful, but I don't think it bothers me to help her, because I go regularly anyway. Do we always have to have a personal benefit from something. I give an example - I am an engineer by education (no matter how much I don't like this word). I worked as a designer in various places and I was the chief designer of a project related to hydropower. And after a year of work on my part and developments that are absolutely my work, the manager decided that I was no longer needed. The benefit of this thing for me should have been in the amount of several tens of thousands of levs, as well as open the door for future development, but it did not happen. Before these events, again in my work as a designer, without any financial or other benefit, I made friends with people from whom I can ask for advice when I need it. I say this only as an example. In this particular case, my desire to help is also caused by the fact that the expression "I can't" does not exist with this colleague. And since for a number of reasons I have not been able to make my dreams come true, I want to help her in any way she can. Regarding socialization, I will say that only the last week out of 20 colleagues in my work 15 16 do not speak to me, they shy away from me and when I try to find out what the reason is, they do not say, but shy away. And to say that there is no family environment. From the author :) that only the last week of 20 colleagues in my work 15 16 do not talk to me, they shy away from me and when I try to find out what the reason is, they do not say, but shy away. And to say that there is no family environment. From the author :) that only the last week of 20 colleagues in my work 15 16 do not talk to me, they shy away from me and when I try to find out what the reason is, they do not say, but shy away. And to say that there is no family environment. From the author :)
Come on, the hollow hosts started killing the boys' complexes ahahahaaa. 6, have you been married at the age of 23 or have you already lived alone, that in the way of elementary logic there is no way for both things at the same time. It is also called MARRIED, not married. You are very simple, I feel sorry for your children. In fact, aren't you one of the teaching uncles here?
And so. It's been a month since I told you about my extraordinary day. What happened? Well, I saw the girl in question a few more times, of course, our meetings were entirely related to our studies, but ... As I said above in the story, I was impressed by her achievements purely professionally, ie I mean that love at first sight certainly did not exist. But after seeing each other a few more times, she began to behave more freely with me, while I, as they say, could not break the ice. More and more often she started telling me how I had helped her a lot, how she didn't know what she would do without me. There were also tales like "Who sent you into my life." He once asked me, "How can I thank you for helping me?" Of course it was in my language to tell her I wanted to try to be together, but I still did not have the courage and the situation was very awkward. The thing is, I've taken the bait very seriously. I don't know what it's like to be in love, but I think I am. I constantly think about her, how she is, what she does, if she is well, it never leaves my head. Many times I wanted to write to her or call her, just to hear her voice, but I do not have the courage to do so. I can safely say that the time I spent with her was the best thing about this month. I haven't seen her in a week now, but I found her profile on social media. So far, she has not told me if she has a boyfriend or not, but I saw in her profile that it says bound, but what bothered me more was that in one of the photos she had a ring on her hand, very similar to an engagement ring. The thing is, if she's really engaged, it all makes sense, because I can definitely say that I feel some feelings and love trembles for her. In my school years it can be said that to some extent I had such unrequited love, maybe it affected my life in some way. And that's why I definitely don't want this thing to happen again. I would ask you for advice on what to do or at least try to do it, but when I think about it I don't have many options. From the author.