A Question Only For Men

   Of course, whoever says anything, no matter how much the world has changed, love is the main engine and force capable of making everyone's life better! I have had all kinds of relationships with women: love, sex, friendship ... but I have never found all this in one person, namely they are so important and the lack of one always dooms a relationship to failure! I am firmly against the cliché "soulmate" because there are no perfectly complementary people and everything is based on mutual compromises. They say that opposites attract, as well as the very same ones get bored. Everything is very relative! At the risk of repeating myself, love will always be the basis of a relationship backed by feelings of patience, trust and devotion! Regarding the "wounds", I am of the opinion that one has to deal with certain conditions on one's own without expecting it from others, but if you meant by "healing" to restore your faith in something you have stopped believing, I think the right person will teach you how to love and yes what is it like to be loved! M, 25

   M28 more or less fit. It's good that you're like that, and even better is your ideal man. But why aren't you so sincere outside? Unfortunately, most girls reject such men because they consider them weak-willed. It has never happened to me to be played because I can't stand it. I have direct observations from my best friend who has had many attempts. Everything gives, dear, dear, time money. He endures infidelity, they lie to him and in the end they make him out that he was too kind, there was no thrill and he was sticky: D They weren't interested. That's why I don't care (not that I haven't had any problems). I'm waiting for my chance. He is interested in me, but he is from small leagues at the age of 17-18, and to go with them temporarily and cheat on me (because they are unconscious and frivolous) will not happen. I can't just have sex, I've thought about it at times, but I can't do things like that. Somehow I can't pretend and I don't want to. Recently, a schoolgirl asked me for my coordinates. I didn't take her seriously at all, because she was small and I know what they are. Well, I only gave it a chance because I was uncomfortable cutting it. I gave signs and indications that I was not interested, but she was very insistent. Well, I had to cut her off ... First, that she was swearing like a cartwright. Secondly, she had already slept with three boys (for her fragile 17) and thirdly, I was pressed for a first date. He did it very cheaply, not to mention he was in a hurry. Wow, well, before we made an appointment, he was provoking me in the chat. Anyway. My advice to you and others like you is to be open. Not to wear a mask and hold a position as if you were a man-grinder with great self-confidence. I've never seen anyone confess like you live, otherwise I've set things in motion. They all pretend to be inaccessible and on their foreheads it says I need you, not you on me and so on. Don't live for other people's opinions and don't follow other people's tendencies, because you won't be happy. For example, if you pretend to be someone you are not, how can I approach you, how can I recognize what I am looking for? Meaning, I already understand that you are serious and you know what you want, but live, if there are masks and grimaces, it would be difficult to talk to you or get closer even if we have common acquaintances or are colleagues. Coldness and arrogance are very repulsive, even if you are a good person inwardly. There are some, but they keep the style imposed by the tables. It is clear that this is fashionable for muffins and walking types, but we should not be like that. Taa on the topic .. I am of the opinion that we men should be cavaliers. To give flowers, to remember dates, to respect, to be careful, not to be simpletons. To be caring for women, even romantic, gentle, gallant, and they consider him a weakness, a beta masculinity, a softness ...: X No, I'm just a man and I behave like one. I'm basically treating people the way you want them to treat you. What's left for my partner. You are obviously disappointed with your wrong choices before and you have realized what is right.

   I'm not sure a woman only wants the things you listed. It would be great. I just don't believe it. You can't be satisfied with love alone. Surely you want, like others, a leader, a leader, to think slow down, where to go, what to do. Guarantee you have a bunch of requirements. That is why those where they know how to give love and carry you in their arms are considered jerks. It's different to be with a split old man to beat you and cheat secretly. It is important to have tattoos and a BMW at a disco non-stop. This is a man

   There are all kinds of people and there are certainly many like you describe. I wish you to meet one;) M27

   Hello, I am a man of 32. Yes, I am ready to give all the love I have to a woman. Even at the moment there is a specific woman for whom I am ready for this, but unfortunately it is not shared. Instead, I live my life in solitude and isolation. You are still quite young, I wish you at least to find this love!

   In general, I am romantic and idealistic and I give and have given a lot for the woman next to me, but only "complete devotion to the partner both physically and mentally." It depends on what exactly you mean, but still I have a personal life, work, hobbies, what does "full" mean?

   They exist, but I have noticed that for most men I know, the desire for love you describe disappears after a long and painful relationship or after some infidelity by their partner. Then somehow they do not have the confidence and desire to start a new love affair. I even have acquaintances who don't look for women for sex, they just don't care and prefer to live in peace, they go chat-pat and pay for sex. And in fact, they are the ones who do the most in other things in life - work, sports, etc. Also, the long relationships I have witnessed have started, as in the beginning my acquaintances were only looking for sex, but later they liked it, my relationship also started exactly like that, it has been going on for 4 years now. If it so happens that we break up, for sure 2-3 years I will not even think about commitment, I will take a break, because such a strong connection also has a lot of negative sides, everyone who has gone through such a connection knows what I am talking about. Especially after the initial period, not everything is flowers and roses ... Women are also to blame for men looking only for sex. There are exceptions, but most are looking for love, no matter how much they say they are looking for love, if you have noticed here, in many topics, women are looking for lovers because sex with a partner does not satisfy them, otherwise everything else is perfect. ... Male, 23

   And if you don't like us, it all starts with sex. The other thing you listed is nonsense from chiklit novels. By the way - with my wife it also started 25 years ago;)

   We have a sweetheart, calm down! You will find one. M, 25 and a little up :)

   9, which "us", sir? If you mean "us men", I'm sorry, but for me it doesn't start with sex.

   May you receive all my love, and yours to me if it can be transformed into three or four healthy babies

   The girl said that men up to 30, not over 30, should write to her.

   For boys from 20 to 28 at least, do not look for what you want, of course there are exceptions, but it is unlikely to meet one (I wish you so). I'm 27 and I have a lot of friends in this range, to tell you the truth, the priorities of 90% of them are who leads the other with how many pieces, sorry, but a fact

   Number 7, by "complete surrender to the partner both physically and mentally," I mean literally that. To open and give your heart, to say how you feel, to trust. With all these things I have listed, I have difficulties :( Otherwise, thank you for the comments of all of you! You gave me back my hope! :)

   There is of course, but it must be sought. It's the same with women, there are decent but they have covered themselves. I am a man of 31.

   today's women simply do not deserve the work, effort and time. M24

   You think that's what you want, but you're wrong. One relationship is much more than kisses and caresses and you will quickly get tired of them if the other is missing.

   I tried to surrender, I received the punishment for this naivety. A person's reticence is not a sign of a lack of emotion, but an unpleasant life experience. I will never do such nonsense again. M27

   Number 2, thank you very much for the comprehensive answer. I like the way you think. I have the same opinion as you, but about the "masks", yes, I wear one, although I don't like it. I try to be restrained, but not bloated, of course. I have been very disappointed and I do not want this to happen again. I am waiting for the other party to take the first step, and maybe the next. I am terribly distrustful, and I am very ashamed to show interest first, so that they don't think about the next *****. The chances are high, huh? And don't they say that a man likes to chase or is it just a myth? Speaking of which, what do you men think about assertive women? Quite honestly. And that's very curious to me. The author

   Absolutely not, as I said in another topic - I want a HEALTHY relationship. And not some pet to "cuddle" and spend money, this is WASTE.

   M, 22 ... sounds great, really ... who doesn't want that at some point in their life? I also accept that the person on the other side would be the best support, also the best friend, but it depends on him ... many people want the same from what you wrote ... but from the side, seen from the eyes of the other can be interpreted as, too much restriction, suffocation, drastic reduction of his personal life and space, for example ... it can be interpreted in a thousand ways, that's why the other person's attitude towards you is important ... it's important how he / she sees things, if then they coincide with yours, this is the person, if not ... there are other people in this world, you are young, even younger than me, we have not seen anything in this world yet, it is too extreme to think that no one is interested in such things as described by you ... I think you understand what I mean: ) have a nice day P.S. "men" of 20-30 years you can tell people who behave as such, the years are just numbers ... most of us are boys, our actions make us men, not the years