Hello. I'm a robot. The whole story starts with a very poor family. It's not even a family, because my father left me and my mother when I was a baby and never cared about us again. Otherwise, it was a great true love between students ... and here's a mistake, I was born. I am a huge mistake. If they had studied, right? Anyway. My whole childhood was a misery. I've never been hungry, or at least I don't remember. But I remember watching what other clothes they had, what toys they had, how happy they were ... I asked my mother why I wasn't like them, why I didn't have the things they had, and she told me "be good and you'll have everything". I was good and I tried to get better, but still nothing changed. I studied a lot because I had nothing else to do. Soon the others started making fun of me, beating me. I was rejected. They had all sorts of activities, and I just stood by and watched and dreamed. I dreamed of being a boy like them ... And so for so many years I tried and dreamed of one day being happy, but things just didn't happen. I couldn't make friends with anyone. Catch a boyfriend? What was I supposed to do? To kidnap her? NO no, I couldn't even do that because I had to be good. But I kept telling myself that one day I would find a job, change, meet a good woman, and do my best for my family so that they would never be unhappy. Naive, isn't it? Well, that day never came, and a lot of years passed ... and one big nothing. I once fell in love with a colleague because, apart from work, I didn't find women anywhere else, but I just became a laughing stock. I didn't understand the others at all anymore. And I'm sitting alone and that's ... It's been many years. Now all I do is eat, sleep and work. I'm a machine, just a robot that will run as long as it can and then be thrown in the trash. I write all this because I want help. But I don't even know what help I need. I'm so desperate. Please man, have mercy on me and try to help me because I can't. I want to be human too. I don't want to be a robot.
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First of all, to start with the reason for your condition, you are looking for it in the material lack, I find it in the lack of proper upbringing. I'm not saying that you are rude, but that you have shortcomings, because an upbringing includes both being good, respectful and excellent, and not being jealous of other people's property, finding ways to do something, being sufficient / not having a toy carve from wood, fix a found toy /, the ability to defend yourself from attacks by classmates is also a kind of upbringing, you lack social skills, the ability to treat women, the ability to be a leader, etc. Of course all parents do omissions and we should not be angry with them, because it is really impossible to teach your child everything, and most parents have so much capacity, that is, whether they are all of themselves and have made us as much as they can, that is why we are what we are. How to help yourself The first thing I recommend is to develop your social skills, read psychological books on this topic, start with "How to Make Friends and Influence Others" - Dale Carnegie has it on the net for free. In the future, if you can't ask yourself, I will help again. I had a similar problem as a child with the difference that I had the ability not to envy, everything else was like yours, but 25 years ago I came across this book, then many others, now I have a perfect family 18 year old son and most importantly I learned what is happiness. I wish you luck! In the future, if you can't ask yourself, I will help again. I had a similar problem as a child with the difference that I had the ability not to envy, everything else was like yours, but 25 years ago I came across this book, then many others, now I have a perfect family 18 year old son and most importantly I learned what is happiness. I wish you luck! In the future, if you can't ask yourself, I will help again. I had a similar problem as a child with the difference that I had the ability not to envy, everything else was like yours, but 25 years ago I came across this book, then many others, now I have a perfect family 18 year old son and most importantly I learned what is happiness. I wish you luck!
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Man, it's good that you realize the need for help - this is the first and most important step to be able to change something in your life. You have become antisocial. You have missed the years in which one learns to communicate with one's peers. Look for a good psychologist to deal with you or refer you to a psycho- / hypnotherapist. The process will not be quick or easy, but if you put in enough effort, you can achieve your dreams.
Seek a psychotherapist. He helped me.
Hi, my story is similar, strange as it may sound. But I'm a girl. And I'm with two parents, it's a matter of mentality. And now they avoid me (colleagues) because I'm a terribly boring person and I never have anything to tell (and I live like a robot). You don't say more details about yourself - how old are you, what do you work for, do you live in a big city or a small town, how do people accept you now and if it's bad - why do you think ... I would like to help you, because my life and dreams are similar ...
To move forward, you must first overcome the past. I know it's hard, but I've been an outsider too, it's just not a big deal. It was like that then, but now you can experience everything you missed. You have an income, so you can afford nice clothes, choose your own style, modern and stylish enough, but at the same time emphasize your individuality. Take time for yourself and you will always find one or two activities that you like, turn them into your hobby and improve in them, for example you can attend a course in cooking, painting, dancing, gym, etc. Needless to say, you can meet friends there, if it doesn't work, try it on Facebook or something like that, smile more, talk to people with a smile, even for a short conversation at first, for example, you can compliment the saleswoman in the store or just talk to her in a non-committal way. Make a program for the week and include all these things and things like that. which come to your mind, no matter how difficult it is to observe it, so little by little you will change yourself and then the world will change for you.
Number 1, I read this book by D. Carnegie, but it didn't help me.