Things are a bit confusing, but I will try to explain them as well as possible. A bit of background - I'm a boy, 21 years old, I think I'm a pretty good person, but my huge downside is the insecurity to which I attribute my almost absent love life. I have had 1 girlfriend so far, but I will not blame the female class, like most unsuccessful men, because I realize that it is my fault. :) After all, several girls have told me that I am a nice and valuable man, but I myself did not know it (uncertainty) and I agree. However, this confidence must be based on something, not blown away by nothing. : Oh Of course I don't have many friends, but I'm grateful for those who are next to me, because they are real. I feel a little lonely, but I am constantly growing personally and I know that everything will be fine. I just see my mistakes, and I don't grumble about how unfair the world is to have good boys fucked. I have been attending an English language course for 2 years and there I met a girl who I later liked. In the first year, our relationship was collegial, nothing interesting. Then gradually, at least in my opinion, we started to get closer. I emphasize that she started looking for me. He shared more and more personal things with me. We had fun together. She was smiling at me, deliberately trying to touch her to see if she would pull away. In short, it was as if things were mutual. Now comes the drama - I invited her to a personal celebration and she gave her consent. She had good reasons why the vision could not take place, separately I was abroad for 11 days and so 3 weeks passed.
I'm sure she didn't lie to me and say it's bad luck. Then we saw each other, I jokingly reminded her and she said soon. Well, I was still waiting for him to remember - no and no. After a month or so, I calmly told her that it's not good for her to unwind me like that, and if she doesn't want the treat, just tell me, because it's a pretty wrong attitude and it keeps me waiting. Her answer was that it was not normal for me to be angry because our relationship was nothing. Honestly, this crushed me, because I don't think I deserved it and such nasty words from any situation ... I don't think it's abnormal to expect someone to do what he said. It is clear to me that this situation shows her real attitude and I do not have many illusions, but I still hope that you will help me to clarify whether there was any liking or I am hellishly deluded and naive? :) I guess I'm a little more attached because I'm pretty alone, but by no means have I bothered her. He continues to behave well after the incident. These human relationships are very bad, I don't think I'll ever understand them. ;)
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SHE fish in the sea, you have prepared the pan
Hello. Judging by her actions, she pretends to be a little inaccessible. At least that's how I understand it. It wasn't right for him to answer you so sharply, meaning, she could have told you otherwise. One can behave correctly on the word and without having a "serious relationship" ... after all, you are still in the phase of friends. Now you step back slightly to show her that you did not lean against her. If I were you I would do so :)
The moment you start explaining yourself, in your case - how she acted incorrectly, you automatically become the weaker side in a relationship. What's more, you really don't have a relationship yet. This does not mean that there is no attraction, just "you have no agreement". In order to be successful, in my opinion, you should not allow yourself to become the weak side - you are the man: you invite her, you say when and where. This will make her feel like a woman. You can succeed if you step back a little and keep your distance. That way you will become interesting again. Success, w26
When two people like each other, things just happen, she may just not want to. Don't bother her, you're still young so your time will come.
Eeee, you're so cute, it's a pity I knew English before and we didn't get to know each other. :) This is a joke, but still as a 22-year-old girl who also doesn't have much experience in relationships, I can tell you that the girl may have been scared. I have consciously distanced myself from boys who are beginning to fall seriously in love with me. I can't explain it any other way than by my fear of deepening things. She may have lost interest in you, someone else she liked may have appeared, she may be depressed even if she doesn't feel like it. Or she may be frivolous and like to spin several boys at once. You just can't be sure. We girls will rarely say one thing directly and clearly, as boys do. If for some reason she didn't want to come to this party, she probably wanted to refuse you with her lack of an answer, but not in a difficult way. You know - "maybe" or "no answer" equals no. At least that's my interpretation. I hope I helped you at least a little. :)
In my opinion, if you invite her out for coffee and she refuses several times - the first is not polite and the second does not want to. That's it. Women are very indecisive sometimes and confusing. She may like the "course buddy" type, with whom she has a good time, nothing more.