I want to tell you the story of my girlfriend ... Not because I have bad feelings for her, but to make today's teenage girls think more about their actions and not make the mistakes she made. It all started when we were 14, 14 and something. Inseparable friends since elementary school, really good friends. We shared everything, we were almost ready to sacrifice our lives for each other ... You remember what it's about ... In high school, however, things changed. Prior to that, she was an intelligent, smart girl, committed to lessons and textbooks, and thought that her education was more important than "cool" parties. But with the entry into high school, everything changed. We hadn't seen each other all summer, we had only heard each other on the phones (for a number of reasons I won't list) and one day she told me that she has made a "huge change." I jokingly asked her if she had become a "cool chick", and she fell silent ... maybe she was offended. When we met in early September, the change was really huge. There was nothing left of the diligent girl, dressed in loose and loose clothes.
Her hair was cut strangely (like the current "freshness"), she wore tons of makeup (starting with foundation, powder, mascara, gloss and lipstick, pencils ...) and she definitely looked different. I couldn't recognize her at first - her style of dress was completely different. She said, "Look, I'm a cool chick now, aren't I?" In order not to offend her, I agreed, but I felt uncomfortable as we walked around the city. The three months I had been out of it had obviously had an effect. She was stopped by different people (and mostly older boys, 17-18 years old), talked to her, hugged her, even kissed her naughtily on the cheek. She had obviously become "popular." At first I thought he wouldn't want to talk to me now because I was ordinary. But her behavior toward me hadn't changed in the slightest! She cared for me, she valued me, she respected me, even though she had changed as a person. He went to discos regularly, and I don't know what exactly was going on there. She went combed, adjusted, and serious, and came home amused, torn, flushed, and sucked in the most surprising places. When we went to bed, she tried to tell me in detail exactly how the "party" went, but I didn't want to know ... I was afraid that she had become a naughty "underage prostitute". (We lived together in my aunt's house because we had moved specifically because of " the more elite teacher "in another city). Her success was rapidly declining. She was shocked by a five in the control, now the four satisfied her. She hung out mostly with boys, was friendly with the older ones, even hugged the graduates several times. Still, she didn't ignore me, appreciated my advice, and was nice to me. I often heard her say, "It's cool to be cool," or "I'm in the column at last." "cool babes" ...
Apparently she liked fame too much ... At 15 she made a set with a boy she hardly knew. We were at a party together, she had come a little drunk and in an hour or so she was drunk by the visor. I had also had a hard time with alcohol, but we "had to have fun!" Make it in the boy's parents' bedroom, in front of several boys, his friends. Two hours later, when I went to see her, already worried, she was cuddling with one of them. There was no sign of the boy who had made her the set. When we got home, she wasn't the least bit embarrassed by the fact that she had sex in one night with two different boys whose name she knew ... and the length of the "tool." And so it began. Coupons, alcohol, lots of boys, sex, and cigarettes.
Indiscriminate sex, "fun", drugs ... We are currently 21. I am a student and I study. She lives with me in an apartment because she has no money for her own. He had two abortions in 16-21 years. She has been addicted to alcohol for several years and smokes weed while not pushing anyone. Even I can label her a whore, but I wouldn't. And she is HIV-positive. I don't know how many years of life she has left, but I try to make them as beautiful as possible. Because the girl she once was deserved them.
He also deserves the girl who wanted to be "cool" and who didn't forget me, even when she could have almost anyone as a friend. Girls, don't try to be anything else for anyone! It's not worth 21 to not have a clear future and probably have a few years of life left, because of a few high school years in which "you lived your life"!
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Really touching :( maybe there was a reason for the radical change, but it doesn't matter, it's in the past. The important thing is that now she suffers from it and so do you. I completely understand how you feel. Good luck!
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Emmy, what can I tell you ... Be by her side and that's if she can go to any meetings to at least stop the drugs. But then what .. It's a pity she's so young ..
Hello darling :) I'm a boy and I'm 16, this story he told touched me a lot and I seriously thought about what kind of life I live now. Something in the middle of drugs, weed, amphetamines, coca, parties and discos, but I do not sleep especially for school :) Your friend has wasted her life in truth aimlessly :( I wish you some wonderful days lived with you, for the rest of your life and !!
Number 4 to think about whether at 16 it is normal to deal with drugs and write so illiterate. Because if you don't sleep for school one day, I don't know what you will work for and how you will support yourself. Take matters into your own hands, because your story is not very in the right direction either. I tell you not to regret one day. Because you're still a child at 16, and you think you think destroying your life with drugs is very "cool", eh? They are very "cool", as you can see then they are not very cool ... Think about it and take matters into your own hands while it's time. And for the girl: Well done for supporting your girlfriend and sharing this story. It's all sad, and it's not easy for you either ...
Failed life! in our time there are many, so I'm not surprised :)
Very sad :( Poor :(
I'm also very moved by your story ... or rather your girlfriend's. To tell you the truth, I thought about it ... at one time my girlfriend "stumbled" a bit towards the cool ones, but in a much weaker version ... She was just moving with other people (from other classes) ... because I I don't like companies - she used to go to them and leave me ... I was walking alone, they started throwing things at me like "Oh, your girlfriend found a new company and charged you, huh?" I was very naughty, but I didn't stop her ... I was glad that she had friends ... a lot of friends, as she wanted ... I saw that she didn't want to leave me, but she also wanted others - I said yes walk, I was glad she was happy ... even though I was without her ... It made an impression on me that she was friends with you all the time, that she appreciated you ... But I want to ask you .... why when i saw that she started to become a whore (and later she got up) didn't call her and seriously didn't tell her how things were ... Once my girlfriend and I were at a birthday party and she did something that just shocked me ... I won't say what is it, but it was very .... whore unfortunately ... I didn't react then ... I was too shocked. Then she called me and we discussed it ... I felt very guilty that in a moment of her "weakness", I was not quick enough to react and prevent her from doing it .... (don't fantasize, it's not something such as sex in the toilet, etc.) My thought is that in time you should have told her what it is and try to tighten it ... Gray I didn't react then ... I was too shocked. Then she called me and we discussed it ... I felt very guilty that in a moment of her "weakness", I was not quick enough to react and prevent her from doing it .... (don't fantasize, it's not something such as sex in the toilet, etc.) My thought is that in time you should have told her what it is and try to tighten it ... Gray I didn't react then ... I was too shocked. Then she called me and we discussed it ... I felt very guilty that in a moment of her "weakness", I was not quick enough to react and prevent her from doing it .... (don't fantasize, it's not something such as sex in the toilet, etc.) My thought is that in time you should have told her what it is and try to tighten it ... Gray
I'm 15 years old and it's like that in schools - cigarettes, alcohol, drugs and of course "cool chicks". It "can't" without them! As for sex, I think today's boys only want that! If you have a short skirt, a neckline to the navel, high heels and make-up - you get up, if you don't give in - fuck you!
I'm 15 years old and it's like that in schools - cigarettes, alcohol, drugs and of course "cool chicks". It "can't" without them! As for sex, I think today's boys only want that! If you have a short skirt, a neckline to the navel, high heels and make-up - you get up, if you don't give in - fuck you!
Honey, I'm sorry this happened ... I really cried when I read your story. In the same way, my sister wasted her life and I lost her forever! She missed at 10, lost her childhood at 12 and a half, drank at 13, smoked weed at 14, tried all sorts of drugs for the next 5 years, eventually became addicted to drinking, drugs and sex, contracted hyphae and died. I tried everything to stop her, we fought twice, but I couldn't help her. I often look back and blame myself for not being able to save her from all this ... but could I do something after she was constantly pushing me away, and really somewhere out there, deep down, I knew she loved me ... Think about this story! Good luck, darling!
Really unfortunate. What a good girl she was, and then what she became to dumb fame, friends, and attention. There is simply no point in proving to others how cool you are, because in order to be accepted as cool and put in the "Cool" category, you have to start with sex, alcohol, drugs, discos and such life-destroying activities and only then do they start to you enjoy and be respected and valued. However, when you help them in a difficult situation, they do not see it and no matter how much you helped them, they do not respect you and do not realize what you have done for them and what great help and support they have received from you and you just can not do well. to make friends, in fact you can but it is very difficult, but at least you make real friends. It's easiest to make friends with alcohol and drugs and discos, but what are these friends? None. I wanted to be cool for a while and I was really cool in class but then things were different, we were 1-2 grade when I got cool and so on until 5th grade, but then we didn't even know what grass was. Then I failed but I realized just in time and now I'm happy that I'm not some disoriented oligophrenic. Beware, my friends, that a friend of mine missed it a bit, so he got together with some of the most failed people in the city for me, and it was the end of 12th grade, a very important moment and we thought that "at the end of the river he will drown". But it's good that he realized and we got it back and he's already with us and not with those failures. And to the author: a wonderful topic, it is good that he shared it so that others know not to be deceived and to ruin their lives, because drugs, alcohol, sex and parties are not the meaning of life.
And where were you at that time? Friends are about to say "Ehooo, realize !!!"
Think what a turnaround for 7 years .. I hope most people think about it.
Terrible ... or touching, I don't know for sure. The truth is that a lot of girls are making a similar change for high school, you know, "New Repotation." the city next to the other, with excuses that there was no room in the car, as if I don't know that it can accommodate 8, 9. It's really great that you wrote it, I hope a lot of people are now considering their change ...
"What a man has done to himself, no one can do to him." I think that was the thought ...
You will find other girls
This girl was like me, smart, intelligent, good, etc. Now I am 11 years old, when I was 8-9-10 years old, I was a smart and very good girl, not that I am not now, but I've just changed .. From smart and good I go down from smart to dumb (from sixes without a single bad grade, now I have 3-4-5-6 ... From good now I'm a little nastier (more spoiled) .. But when I wish I can again dumb or become smart, good, intelligent, etc .. girl .. I know that you can, as long as you ask for it deep inside ... I wish everyone good , a pleasant, successful and loving life ... !!!
I'm sorry about your girlfriend's condition ... I hope it is read by more people to influence the thinking of current teen thinkers (I would say). I'm 14 years old, although I'm not one of the "coolest" people. because I hang out with decent people ... The "cool ones" are very interested in me, they are always around me asking me questions like "doll, why are you messing with these carcasses" ... on the male side there is always a lot of attention to me. I don't know if they have another job to try to separate me from my friends and join me as a godfather to their company of stupid twelfth graders (interested only in sex, drugs, alcohol and partying) ... stay away from them! !!
This is a very sad story, I have no words ... but in fact nowadays there are no boys who are interested in you ... they want their boyfriends to look like a star they fell in love with and do not appreciate the real girl. and that in his head; (
Once you got drunk in those years, you were no different. Pickles with pickles, you will pretend to be big. And your girlfriend is not to be regretted ...
What's up with your girlfriend? It's been 4 years. - shared.
here's what happens when a person pretends to be someone he is not ....
I want to congratulate you for being with her. I'm sorry about your girlfriend's condition! But she obviously really valued you as a friend and a person to stay with you all the time. I hope it's okay! But I think you are very brave! This is called being a NDP !!!
so the story is old but I will still express my opinion .... first as number 24 said "this is what happens when some pretend to be interesting" so I never try to be like others because it does not lead me to anything good. .. secondly, if she doesn't listen to you, let her do what she wants ... sooner or later she will regret it .... (write in Google the most devoted dog Akita I think will intrigue you) ... thirdly try not to get up and you like her ... :) The fallen angel :)
And I was like that and she was still a TRUE FRIEND it was completely different, it wasn't her. And yet she treated me as always, but she was so different; /
your friend didn't think in time that we live only one life and she wasted her good life. this is how the person with drugs, weed, cocaine spoils, but people, rejoice in your good deeds, don't take this rubbish and be very careful.
FIVE YEARS HAVE PASSED - is your girlfriend still alive!
Well done, full in front just like that, once lived. Grab life with a handful - be it drugs, alcohol and even incurable viruses !!!
What's sad? TRAGEDY! HIV is a traveler! Written off! I took cocaine and was in rehab, but I never broke any boundaries. Cocaine is still a treatable thing if one has the will, but HIV - it's like a time bomb that slowly counts down the minutes / hours / months / years of your life - and finally there's a way out of that bomb - BOOM! It's like being sentenced to death after which he knows that in 2 hours the jailers come and take him to the executioner, and then he doesn't care. I do not know what to say!
it's really awful :( your girlfriend shouldn't overdo it with these things
I read and I don't know how to react. Basically, this is a very nasty incident, but no one is to blame for the "cool chick". Didn't she think so much about the consequences ??? I wish you courage, my dear, be strong, because this is a tragic moment! Experience the remaining time as before! And let this be a lesson for all girls and boys ... !!!