Hello. my question is completely serious. my friendly family has a problem conceiving a child. word for word, my husband suggested that I kind of become their "donor" in a natural way, rather than looking for expensive in-vitro procedures and, if his wife became pregnant, raise their child. how is this case viewed by the Bulgarian legislation and what can I do? I am not looking for personal gain in this case to sleep with another woman, because I do not have this need, but I know their situation and that they have been trying unsuccessfully for years.
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I don't know about the laws, but no one will do anything to you if you sleep with a woman and she gets pregnant. Otherwise, have they investigated who the problem is? That if they are not, it can be with the woman and no matter how much sex you have, nothing will happen.
Surrogate father. There is no such thing. There is no wear and tear on your child. Look, there was Lubomira Benatova for one in the Netherlands, I think it was. And why in vitro, as if it is ok insemination is done. Besides, have they done any research? Even if there is a minimum percentage of live quality sperm, they can still have a child. Otherwise in this report or sex or did at home with the help of a tube insemination. This was the father of many children. I don't know the law to advertise what you want. Otherwise she becomes pregnant by you and when he is born, he is his father. No one does paternity tests.
It's not bad to help them, but how will the husband know that you sleep with his wife, it's still normal for her to have a good time, orgasm, etc. The other thing is how you will know that you have a child and you will sleep peacefully, I couldn't.
Congratulations on your wish, but unfortunately if you intend to channel things, donation is strictly tied to anonymity. That is, they would not allow you to take a chosen one and say that we want Eddie from him / her. Of course, where there is no money, there is more money, so there is hope and do not give up.
You may feel good about doing it, but then won't you be very sick to know that your child doesn't know you as a father and others are watching him? I personally would not agree for this very reason.
And if it doesn't happen the first time? And it is almost certain that it will not happen after years of trying. How many times will you sleep with a woman to get it? Do they have a diagnosis at all, is the cause in the man? If the woman is old, it may not be possible even in vitro. Are you married and have children? If so, what is your wife's opinion or do you not intend to inform her at all? To me, this is complete nonsense. Even if you are not married, how will you look after these people and this child afterwards. Sooner or later it will learn the truth. For me, surrogacy is not normal, but that is another matter. Won't you yourself feel uncomfortable around this child, if at all? What will you explain to your wife one day? That you did a favor, you have a good heart and friendship is above all? Even friendship has limits. I can't believe you're even thinking. Just admit that you want to sleep with the woman. I don't know what kind of man would suggest such a thing. In vitro it is different. There you do not know who the donor is and de facto no sex. If you want to help them so much, give them material in a sterile cup. The woman will know what to do. For me, such a thing is wildness, and if my husband offers it to me, he probably won't be my husband anymore. Tomorrow another family can offer you, you will accept, of course. You didn't miss sex, for sure ..
Bullshit. As a person with reproductive problems, I know very well what to do in this situation. Either the topic is made up or it is total ignorance.
From the AUTHOR: I will answer directly to everyone. yes, I am married and have a small child. maybe that was the reason they told me, as well as my appearance (I don't consider myself handsome, but I use chemicals to have a body, drugs or alcohol) and this family knows it very well. through a canal clinic, they are afraid of what the other person will be like and whether there will be any hereditary diseases (it is still anonymous). yes my wife knows. I do not intend to hide anything from her in my life and I shared. her answer was that if they pay and then they don't look for us, she agrees ... she's generally quite mercantile and she's attracted by the monetary benefit. I'm not looking for one. I do not lack sex or female attention - on the contrary. I work in an environment where I meet a lot of women every day, many of whom are mild-mannered ... I feel sick from such. our initial arrangement with this family was if this happened to be entirely aimed at conceiving a child. I mean that the meeting will be mandatory in the week of a woman's ovulation, as well as during the act itself to avoid any side things that are not related to conception (b. r. anal sex, French on the part of the woman ... ) the problem is in the man that there are not enough swimmers to do their job and after several years of trying and wandering in hospitals and clinics they reach such an extreme. Would I be uncomfortable with someone looking after my child? "mine" is too binding. it is not a commodity to be traded or to be targeted by anyone. for me personally it is a child and parents are the ones who take care of it. It's like plucking a flower from the ground because of its beauty and smell, and the soil getting angry that it's hers ...
Why do you attack a person like that? Everyone decides whether he agrees to such a thing or not. An acquaintance of mine did such a service, but to not so close people, and he never saw the child. They may have liked you in terms of appearance and intellect, in case of anonymous donation they will not know at all whether the person from whom the material is is smart, dumb, funny, etc. Think about the situation and if something happens you should you know that you will not have the right to vote in raising this child, they will be the parents, they will raise and care for him. I personally do not see anything wrong, as long as there is no emotional attachment from anyone.
From the Author to 8 number 10 He said .. they want to see the man .. and then I will not interfere in any way with this family in raising the child and I will not even have any claims
Find the net, I think that on Nova TV it was that sperm donors do a full profile and do research on them, which other times they are unlikely to do. They also choose the external features of the donor. Your acquaintances are quite ignorant. The film was very interesting. You can donate sperm, they will do a lot of research for you and you will help a couple without worrying about problems. They also have no obstacle to receive. Enough. It's not someone going, throwing her material and inseminating her. The process is quite serious.
https://youtu.be/RqcCYZZj9vs has a second part.
I just didn't understand why you should have sex with her? Will it be enough just to empty yourself into a cup and she can do everything herself? How could? !? !! And you have a wife, and the other side is a family ... my head just doesn't fit it ...
I know for sure about such a case in Burgas. Two family friends, one has no children. And the woman offers her husband to sleep with the other woman, to get pregnant. He was against it for a long time, but finally agreed. In the act itself, the man also participated, ie a kind of threesome. Tried three times, but did not get pregnant. Interestingly, they did not spoil their relationship.
Author, I think it's normal. Once you have an appointment, everyone agrees, I don't see anything strange. Greetings
It still seems to me that you can give semen and the woman can get it (with the help of her husband) at home. Without purely physical intercourse. It's even good to have your wife there. This seems very important to me psychologically! Good if you can insure yourself in some way against future extortion. Nothing in this world is certain. I do not think it is possible to get an application before a notary. However, you could make them state their request orally and state categorically that they will never look for you, for nothing if you are prepared and secretly record this conversation. It is true that such evidence is not accepted by the court for now, but in the future ... In any case, it is more than nothing.
Number 18, what is this nonsense you are writing? She was going to get it ... do you have a basic knowledge of biology?
Look what, your life is unique, you don't know if there is a rebirth. Why do you want to confuse him? Everyone is responsible for themselves, not even for those closest to them. Not to mention friends. Don't get confused where you don't belong. Well, you will make them a child, you will remain friends and one day yours with your child, if they like each other, what will you tell them? Don't be silly. You will receive a divorce and a pumpkin medal.
As a sperm donor, I will tell you that the best option is to go through a specialized clinic. 1. Complete research will be done on your genetic material - quality, defects, diseases. 2. You will avoid legal complications that may arise in the future. At least in Bulgaria, the law will protect you from any claims by the woman. No one can make any claims, a whole bunch of documents are filled out for the specific case. 3. The right to remain anonymous to the donor is also guaranteed. His identity is not revealed, even after the child reaches the age of majority. 4. Yes, it will be much more expensive, see the above advantages. You will also not have any moral dilemmas and torments.
From N18 to N19 Explain if you love why if a man has cummed in a condom, the fastest way to suck the semen with a syringe and / or snort and insert it as deep as possible into the vagina, to reach fertilization? Some measures can be taken to reduce her acidity, such as having sex with her own husband just before the donor sperm is inserted. In general ... at a hotel, both couples have sex at the same time (in different rooms). One couple delivers a condom with semen in the fastest way, the other - works ...?
A woman who has no problems does NOT need InVitro! A simple insemination and you're done, the procedure is easy. Apparently your friends haven't checked anything.
I would not agree to my husband doing such a thing. And I immediately say why. What is my guarantee that in time this couple will not separate and the woman will decide to sue you for paternity?
I read so many comments - quickly, I admit, and nowhere did I see anyone mention that this is not moral. People, where is the moral? I don't understand, I don't think I'm wrong! It's a creation of life, it's not a game, how come: well, I'm going to get her pregnant, so what? How do you live with such a secret? !! For both sides? And is the child fair to him? We are all pre-programmed to believe that our father and mother are our biological parents, I exclude adopted children, it is more complicated for them - that is why some accept the truth told at an inappropriate age - because their whole world is shattered! I have no such experience, but I can understand them! If they tell you today that your father is a stranger, because ... do you ever see your mother ... You bastard, right? !! Low and dirty. And I have no such experience, but I don't need it! And if one day this child somehow finds out the truth? Nothing hidden remains in this world! and what if one day the biological one loses his children for some reason (just don't tell me I'm a fatalist, life is unpredictable - deny it if you can) and wants to compensate by looking for the other biological child as his own? What's happening? Never live with ugly secrets! And how will this mother bear the child? !! With what thought? And the father - the other? Wouldn't it hurt? !! Creating life is not "just sexual intercourse", there is a higher idea here, if you understand what I am talking about! I know couples without children who have accepted their destiny, who are together and happy. I also know adoptive parents. I also know a couple who have been successful in vitro after 20 years of waiting. I know another after many attempts and again successfully after almost 15 years. This is life,
If your boyfriend is sterile, fine, but if he is the woman, then you will not have any children and only the uncomfortable memory of having sex with her will remain. Legally, I like the way you came up with it, I don't know why so many people jumped on you. There is nowhere simpler and faster than that. You get pregnant, the woman gives birth and the baby is automatically written to her husband if they are married. If they are not married, he must state that he is the father (I don't know exactly what is being filled in, but it must be elementary). Success!