Hello, My problem is that my friend is terribly cramped. First I want to clarify that I'm not a muffin, when we go out somewhere I eat a little - one dish and not the most expensive. Since my friend and I have never taken the initiative to pay the bill. Sometimes it was about 5-6 BGN. Even when we took ice cream for 2 BGN, everyone pays for it separately, even sometimes I bought it and he doesn't say anything, as if I am indebted, and he is the man. This is not about opportunities, but about attitude. Once I didn't have to pay a fine of BGN 10 because I lost a gym key and he gave it to me and then reminded me several times that I had to return it to him the same day, I would give him the money. the next day, but is it right for him to tease me like that. Otherwise, in general, there are no other bad traits, he says good that he only loved me, he's not a womanizer, he hasn't even had almost any other connections. In general, as a person he is not bad, but this trait of his repulses me a lot, a lot. It hurts when we are in the company of all the girls and their friends pay the bill, and we pay separately. He says that he wants to have children from me, but how can I count on one, I will have to look after my children alone . He doesn't drive a car because it was a big expense for him, it didn't make sense. I wonder if I should break up with him. I know I will hurt him a lot. When I open this topic, he cries, but tell me, do you live with such a man ?! How would you do? and we pay separately. He says he wants to have children from me, but how can I count on one, I will have to look after the children myself. He doesn't drive a car because it was a big expense for him, it didn't make sense. I wonder if I should break up with him. I know I will hurt him a lot. When I open this topic, he cries, but tell me, do you live with such a man ?! How would you do? and we pay separately. He says he wants to have children from me, but how can I count on one, I will have to look after the children myself. He doesn't drive a car because it was a big expense for him, it didn't make sense. I wonder if I should break up with him. I know I will hurt him a lot. When I open this topic, he cries, but tell me, do you live with such a man ?! How would you do?
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Oh, you don't have to, you're not good with him right now. Family will not happen. Do not waste your time . My husband also falls in love, but he paid for my coffees and took expensive gifts from me sometimes, and I want him to be a little more relaxed sometimes.
Since you don't even live together, everyone has to pay their own bill. The problem is that he is not inclined to treat you even once, and if he has given you any money, he tells you a hundred times that he wants it. Talk to him seriously about this topic and ask him what his views are on the budget of your future family. Not to have to support your family, but for him to collect the money aside / I had such a case of my relatives /. The other option is for you not to realize and therefore to behave like that. But talk to him and do not rush to have children with him. You better live and see how things will be.
I have dealt with such specimens and I would no longer tolerate one. Splitting a penny in two and clinging to the person you supposedly love is no love. Drop him to save as much as he wants and find a normal man - a gentleman, for whom you will be more important than money. You are right about the future and you have already understood that this one cannot be a responsible husband and father. It is best to get rid of it while it's time. And don't spare him the real reason for your decision.
If you don't like this thing in it, break up with him. In time, it will deepen and you will become even more irritated. And if you talk to him and he doesn't widow, he doesn't tell you a specific reason, there are no arguments and there is no dialogue, you have nothing to wonder about. Do what your intuition tells you.
Wait for some more serious money scandal to happen to you. At least don't hesitate in making the big decision. If it is for less than BGN 100 and for less than a week ... to know that it will be a nightmare to live with it. Research, you may have caught him at a time when he was saving for some big plan - business, truck, setting up a home laboratory for genetic research. Notice if you make a preliminary estimate of the money are the week, the month, you can learn something, it is useful and interesting;) Ask him if he can cook ... as long as you have eaten in foreign restaurants, open your own.
I don't see anything wrong with the two paying their bills separately. As for the car, he is still right, apparently the boy is not able to maintain a car and that is why he did not buy it. But like most girls, you look at the person next to you as a sponsor. If money is such a problem you let the boy find, you may one day find a girl who will love him. I really despair of my generation with each passing day. The power of money is really great
What happened to gender equality? Do you expect him to support you completely? In principle, men ALWAYS pay, and now you do it, because obviously he is bad with finances, what prevents you from continuing? Aaa? Where did the equality go? I'm tired of reading topics from some leagues like: I'm taller and it's not normal because I'm a girl and I have to be 1 meter below my husband otherwise they will think I'm weird, horror I can't pay 1 bill not to like laugh people, if I take the first step will it pull away from me? And all sorts of them ... otherwise they dream of going abroad and of some sophisticated rich people ... a tragedy ...
The important thing is that you are happy, and it is obvious that you are not at all. You better drop it quickly and get away from it. It won't work. You don't care if you hurt him or not. If he doesn't give 2 lei for you ... It's better to be alone than with such a man.
End this relationship immediately, but it is very important to explain to him why, I do not say at the time of the break, but after a while. With such a man, a disgusting life awaits you, I have an example around me, even my past experience, although it was a little better there, he was still compliant and not to the point of sharing accounts. But for example, he gave me soap for my birthday, we were still boyfriends. I considered it strange, but I didn't get to the end because of it. The end came again, but much later, already with marriage and a child, and it was not only a cause of tightness, but complex reasons, all due to this upbringing. If you are brought up in a completely different way, be sure that the basis of a possible marriage will collapse. Either you give yourself time to re-educate him and if you fail, you leave, or you leave now. The third way out is to become like him in n years. Because this will happen to you, be sure! But you will find it normal.
Get rid of this Uncle Scrooge, it's okay, it's okay, but this is his disease!
Run away! Even after a while, if you have a child, you can't expect it to change. It will get worse.
If you had a child, you would probably share the money for diapers ... Horror!
Horror. I wouldn't want a man to pay my bills, but it's still gentlemanly to pay you juice or tea from time to time.
No, it is not right to squeeze more. Gesture is important. I don't think you'll be happy with this man. Well, you have to talk to him openly about how you see things. If he tries to change things well, if not, think. Your happiness or his. If you stay with him he will be happy, and you are not quite, if you leave there is a chance that you will both be happy later.
"First I want to clarify that I'm not a muffin" I had to stop there, because nothing else can follow from there except muffins ... Otherwise you're right, most men continue to encourage it, and somehow it doesn't just work you to be with such a "narrow-minded" who wants to share the bills.
Run with 200! What other connections to have and how to be a womanizer by splitting the penny in two? How do you even tolerate being with such a person?
Isn't it fun? Any comments advising separation have a low rating. It is clear that some light without 2 quintals in cash has been recognized in the author's friend. Probably 16, the vicious virgins are visible for miles. So, author, let's check what you said - he doesn't show elementary gestures (5 leva is not a sum for dying), he didn't have almost (that is, did he have or not?) Other relationships before you, but ... he wants children? What normal person wants to mate if they haven't had enough relationships before? Leave it, who wants to breed if he clutches his partner for a penny? He will also give the baby the diaper bill one day (if he hasn't sold it to an Arab family already). It is wonderful that it is good, the other thing remained. "Good" does not pay for electricity in the winter. Kindness does not buy food for the children in question, and it is far from being such a rare trait. Let him roar alone and muffle another, you don't have to put up with him. The choice is yours, I hope it is the right one.
I wouldn't have a family with one. F31
Run away from such. Clarify to him the problem that if he does not stop being such a sucker you will end. Yes, it's about relationships, not dumb money ... he's a gentleman after all, and you're his lady. If he gives you a gift, it's no wonder he tells you several times how much it costs: D Such people are horrible! If it doesn't change, get rid of it, you don't need such people in your life, at least you should know that you can count on the person next to you ... and not be ashamed to ask for something.
Why do you always interfere with EQUALITY ?! It's about attitude !! Tomorrow he will not give her a gift for a birthday, anniversary, etc. because he will like BGN 100-150 for a gift / bouquet, etc ...!
Why don't you sit down and talk about these things?
With such a character, a person has no future ... Just breaking nerves again and again and again. I know such a man and no woman stays with him. You will be a laughing stock to all your friends and relatives, but that is not the most important thing. The important thing is that you will realize the mistake when it may be too late, ie. to have children, etc. Save yourself!
That won't work with conversations, author. A man with a built character does not change like that just because he is sitting and talking about something. I personally did not tolerate a tight (not frugal, but tight) man. I have worked all my life without interruption, but to this day I have not paid the bill if I am with my husband / unless I have no reason and I have explicitly said that I will draw /. I don't understand these relationships ... equality, blah blah. And I can't feel a gram of respect for a man I'm in a relationship with if he mutters every time that we have to share the bill. What kind of man is this?
But how did everyone attack ... I bet most of them haven't seen a gift for 150 and that's why it's negativity. I am a man and my experience shows that a woman is what she is. I mean that if she is lying and always grumbling, no matter how expensive gifts you give her, she is still like that and will always look at your flaws, even a plane. and give. I have been with such women and I have made expensive gifts, they did not help, their attitude does not change or changes but for a short time. On the other side are women who are always positive and loving. They always stay that way and enjoy, even 1 rose. They deserve the expensive gifts. But they are not impressed and they are not there, because they are not with you, because of that. "You don't love me unless you give me expensive gifts" or something like that is a sure sign that such a woman's place is far from you. For cafes and restaurants, it is normal for a man to pay if he has invited the lady. I have dated women who do not allow me to pay on the second or third date and take offense if I insist. Of course, independent women with a good profession, not another glue who dreams of not working all his life. I apologize in advance to those who will recognize and be affected. Have a nice rest of the day everyone!
I wouldn't put up with this one on the first date. A man who can't or doesn't want a cup of coffee for his girlfriend has no place in her life. This one will let you starve to death if you touch it. You will be miserable all your life and you will stretch on your own. Today he likes you, and tomorrow he likes your children. How to create a home and a family with one. That you will also fight over toilet paper, what if you eat 1 slice of bread more than that? Drop it and find someone who appreciates you. This one just takes advantage of you.
How many women have milked your friend so far to get so obsessed.
Get rid of it the fastest way - as they say today if you can. What rubbish. Such a person will throw you into misery and ruin your life. It is not just about equality, as some above suggest. He will be like that for everything, you will become a miserable woman, you will wear the same clothes, you will eat miserable food, you will go to miserable lodgings on vacations, such people will not take you to a hotel, as most normal average families do. Now that it's time for a cat to be one, imagine it later. Your children will wear the cheapest clothes until they break, and it will probably not give them pocket money, because you see there was food at home. I have such a colleague, he doesn't turn on the air conditioner in the car, so that it doesn't increase his consumption, and at the same time he bursts with sweat. Life with such a person is AD. To have such people and money will still keep you in misery.
I'm probably tight too. I don't give presents for birthdays, I don't like to give flowers, etc., but. I pay almost everything like bills at home. My wife has been helping me for the last 2 months because a lot of expenses have come out. When we go out, although rarely with her, I always pay. I don't care about equality and brotherhood. We are not and cannot be equal. We are equal as human beings, with souls, but we are also different and everyone has some tasks in the relationship. I also pay a lot for the child. In general, I think I should buy the food and pay the bills. As well as if we go out somewhere, I would always pay and only I, as long as I have the money. But, make-up, bags, clothes and a bunch of nonsense that the female mind can give birth to (yes, only the female mind buys an "important" vase for the kitchen, provided that your roof is leaking: E) I do not pay for such things. Most things I pay for, but most things my wife does at home, so she deserved to have food and the bills were paid 100%. And so ... Otherwise, there are tits that count every penny. There is no love with such a person, he will love more the 20 leva that you did not return to him. This may be everything, but not a good person, but okay;)
I am a woman and I have such a friend (not a boyfriend, but a friend). When we sit down to dine together, he only orders a parlenka. After a while, when the dishes of the others arrive, he starts to "sting" them. Supposedly to try them. Or he orders a small pizza Margarita and when there are two pieces left, he offers them to everyone at the table to share the price with him ... When he starts to get used to me with his finger and whisper something to me, I already know - he will want 7 -8 borrowed that he had to go through the ATM, but he forgot ... (and always to the penny - for example 7, 30 , so that he could return to me in a week rounded 5). If we get up, he repeats that he will download them now and give them to me, but then he forgets to do it. Or he orders beer after beer and in the end instead of 4 beers, he pays 2. Once he is with us, the bill still doesn't come out ... He brings onions and diluted house wine to guests. You will think that he is poor ... Nothing like that, his job is good, he doesn't pay rent, he lives a nice bachelor life in one of his parents' apartments, who even pay for his phone. He's just like that. And this is transferred to personal relationships, conversations, the way of thinking ... He becomes smaller and smaller, and he is still a young man. We accepted him as such (Tony, if you recognize yourself, it's good to think about it). I talk to him about it from time to time, but he doesn't change. And it's no wonder that the girls who go with him dump him in a month or two. Only he still does not understand why this is happening. the way of thinking ... He is getting smaller and smaller, and he is still a young man. We accepted him as such (Tony, if you recognize yourself, it's good to think about it). I talk to him about it from time to time, but he doesn't change. And it's no surprise that the girls who go with him dump him in a month or two. Only he still does not understand why this is happening. the way of thinking ... He is getting smaller and smaller, and he is still a young man. We accepted him as such (Tony, if you recognize yourself, it's good to think about it). I talk to him about it from time to time, but he doesn't change. And it's no surprise that the girls who go with him dump him in a month or two. Only he still does not understand why this is happening.