My partner and I have been together recently, but our relationship dates back about 10 years. We have always been close friends, we have trusted each other, we know each other quite well. At the moment we live separated and we are separated by many kilometers. We hear each other every day and write to each other all day. We are very committed to each other, because this relationship means a lot to both of us. My problem is that because of the distance between us, I already have a change in character. I have never been jealous !! I value my freedom terribly, I don't let them control me (please don't understand that I do what I want, of course, that to some extent I comply with my partner). Everyone has a past, but when I hear about his girlfriends (and he had 3, 2 of which I know) and I just UNCLEAN! The other day we waited for the topic of cohabitation and he mentioned to me (without detailed, of course), that he has lived for some time with his last 2 exes. The very idea made me sick, as if I had a lump in my throat and a black hole in my stomach, it was like a panic attack. Of course he didn't say anything to him, I just hinted that I didn't like talking more about this topic and we were done. But why did it happen, I do not understand what the reason is For me, jealousy is dictated by a lack of trust, self-confidence and if a person thinks he is not worthy enough for his partner. I have no problem on all these points. Why do I cringe like that and what can I do? I do not understand what the reason is? For me, jealousy is dictated by a lack of trust, self-confidence and if a person thinks he is not worthy enough for his partner. I have no problem on all these points. Why am I whining like that and what should I do? I do not understand what the reason is? For me, jealousy is dictated by a lack of trust, self-confidence and if a person thinks he is not worthy enough for his partner. I have no problem on all these points. Why am I whining like that and what should I do?
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You have nothing to worry about ... you just love him too much and at the thought of being with someone else your heart breaks;] You just said it just jealousy!
In my opinion, when you were just friends, jealousy was not so great, but when you left, it has already intensified. She is afraid I know you are afraid of losing him after he is away from you ... This feeling is very nasty, but as far as I know there is no "cure". As much as it "proves" to you that it is not with someone else at the moment;) NoBody
and I feel the same way .. I get annoyed when he starts talking to me about his ex especially with names and details .. I don't know if jealousy is what it is ..
You have no problem, but you have !!! You feel insecure that you can give him what he needs. That's why you're so jealous of him. It's in your head, not elsewhere. Be sure that a person, no matter how much he loves you, at some point he likes to be constantly suspected and shaped. F26
So am I. :( I'm terribly jealous, just thinking about my friend with someone else, I feel like going and killing her .. I can't learn to control myself .. :(
Seriously, ... you take things! :) And what kind? All things from the past: D Ha, realize, there is no way to compete with the past, it will always be there! ... Everyone has a past, and both he and you;) Well, they had room for worries, nerves and tnk ... From what? From some pale shadows, and things that happened before I don't know when !!! Don't worry, you don't "go crazy", you don't "go crazy", but as a normal loving woman, you care about the person you love and you want to be a part of his life;) But, not only from his current life, but a part of his life him at all. Don't think of anyone but you! See what you shared is a sign that you love him very much. Eee, what if you're jealous, is it forbidden? :)) He is your partner, you are also friends, you can't live without each other, the new feeling is that you miss him, how far he is from you, and you are afraid far away, that someone else will not influence him, that something will happen, and that you will lose him. But he loves you too, otherwise he wouldn't be so honest with you :) So, you have nothing to worry about :) Hmm ... you couldn't cross out his past, because it's his, and it's past, and it has led to him becoming the person you loved;) Imagine, tomorrow, you tell him something about your past, or that some man has complimented you! ... :)) And he should also start to be jealous of you, for no reason, because you know that you love him, and you would not betray your love, even in your thoughts :) Just after you trust yourself, no doubt him, and continue to be what you are, trusting him! ... There is nothing wrong with jealousy if it is within normal limits and does not get out of control: D Hah, there is no way to tie it on a leash: )) but this is a test for feelings! Love, being love, no distance, can affect it;) In my opinion, jealousy in small quantities can even be pleasant and sweet, like a feeling! ... To see or feel that the other loves you very much, or your own strong love for the other :) Do what you do, love him;) But if you ask me, it is good that soon one of you will go to the other, so well, you also need the presence. And you will calm down. ~ winterfire ~ you also need presence. And you will calm down. ~ winterfire ~ you also need presence. And you will calm down. ~ winterfire ~
There is nothing you can do - wait, it will pass. And I'm not jealous, I hold on to my freedom more than anything, respectively in the same way I want to be treated to my freedom, I treat others - just such is my character, from a child. I was never jealous of my friends, never ... I even joked with him "Hey, do you see her ... let's shop for something." And one day, a woman I don't like turned to him and looked at him. with some twinkling eyes. I pretended not to see and we continued to have fun, and then I started acting crazy - I reported her every move. I noticed that he only got up to dance. I noticed she didn't talk to anyone at her table, but she was a lot of fun, when she talked to him and when she saw a lock of hair between her fingers and a palm resting on his chest laughing, I just couldn't stand it. The next time she went to the toilet and I ran to her and when she came out of the booth I brought her back, she was a little startled, then I was startled by myself and just laughed. it's like I didn't want to and she came out. Shortly after that he left ... Then I was such a slut in bed that he still remembers it. In the morning I found it funny how I behaved, now I find it funny to read it ... It's not mine, nor does she have to stay away from me - but as you said "panic attack" After a while I realized that this is the constructive jealousy that people talk about. It doesn't hurt, it doesn't offend you, and then you want to behave great with your man. And to call it by various "glues", that they have the right to steal it from you. Nothing happens to you - it's jealousy! But make it positive and everything will be fine. Hugs!
From the author: Thank you very much for your comments and advice :-) I just wanted to clarify that my problem is not that I am afraid of being cheated on, but that I suddenly see myself in an unfamiliar light - jealousy. I have never played such a role, because I also value and hold everyone's freedom, but these feelings that I told you about scared me ...
Honey, it's normal to be jealous of him. You're not with him right now, you trust him, but you hope he doesn't betray him ... I know how you feel. Believe me, there is no one more jealous than me. You're a bunch in front of me, hehe. Let me tell you ... I don't agree that jealous people suffer from complexes. Even if I am the most beautiful and the smartest, I will still be jealous of my friend or husband. I WANT IT TO BE ONLY MINE !! So ... don't show your jealousy for now, love yourself and don't feel guilty about the miles that separate you. They are certainly for a good cause! Remind him if necessary. Talk more about you ... what do you want to do together and different ones ... Good luck!
number 9 read the topic again please !!!
The word "sviden" was very often used in the Bulgarian language at the time. We say that someone likes us when he is especially dear to us. Losing would be more stressful than stealing a lot of money or losing our job. This unpleasant feeling, which is a very real feeling, is hardly just jealousy. It's just a huge sense of loss at the idea that someone is taking your most precious thing. Probably only children and many lovers know what it is.