The story is as follows: I am 18 and my girlfriend is 27. She is the perfect girl for me - visually and as a character. I had girlfriends before her, but I didn't love any girl like her, nor did I treat them like she did. I also get love and affection from her, we are both faithful, we get along great, and the sex is more than amazing. Nothing to worry about as most of you would think, but here I am now feeling the end of things. It's all there that she is ready and wants a child. Not that I don't want a child and for her to be the mother of my children and for us to be in a family, but it seems like she feels insecure. In general, it has never been a problem for me to become a father at the age of 20. In principle, I have plans for the future that would provide us with security. I can't lose her, let alone see her achieve my dream of having a family with another man. I'm a pretty strong character and I've never suffered so much for lost people, but I just don't see how my life will go on without her ... just the thought of losing her makes my desire for life evaporate. I will appreciate any opinion on the matter! :)
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I did not understand anything. How do things go to the end and you will have children and she is insecure? I don't know how things are, but if you love each other and are sure, be together and start a family when you decide.
I know family, neighbors, the difference is 10 years. He became a father at the age of 24 and 26. Their children are now students. A strong connection, at least from the side. Many people "exercise" to divide them. Children adore their parents, very interesting. In my opinion, old kindred spirits have simply been found.
in general, men do not care for and participate in the child's life for at least the first 4 years, some fathers and beyond. So you don't care. I understand your friend, 27 is a good age for children. I was born at the age of 32, and I must admit I am a bitch for the child and the park. If you are well and your soulmate, why waste time in stupid thoughts ?!
Either your story is fake, or you're too ugly to be avoided by 18-year-old beauties. (I suspect that the old scattered kicked fantasy is still fantasizing.)
Your strong enough character is quite weak, don't attribute qualities you don't have
In principle, I have plans, especially in Bulgaria, there is no security at all. Everyone has plans, but sometimes the reality is quite different. If you make a minimum of 1500-2000 BGN, you may be able to start a family.
Can she support a child alone. I guess you want to study. After school you will hardly take a lot of money. I find it strange that she got involved with an 18-year-old. You want it now, but in a year or so it may not be. I see that the appearance attracts you mostly. Otherwise, my father at the age of 22 has become a father .. The child is not a brake, there are also young fathers ... The responsibility for looking after is mostly female, the husband continues his life as before.
With this big age difference, what do you expect?
Boy, my husband's whole life has dragged on because he became a father at 21 years old. What experience do you have? Well, every sex will seem "incredible" to you, because so far you have been pushing with various juvenile pickles in the gardens. You know nothing about women. You know nothing about family and child responsibilities. I will write the script for you, because the age difference between my husband and his ex-wife is the same. So. The child will be born. You will be on top of happiness. Of course, you will not receive an education, because you will have to work and support a wife and a child. The woman in question will serve you that she will never work because she has to raise the child. You will make a second commitment so that you can feed them. You won't be able to get your head off work, but you still won't have enough money. Scandals will begin. After 4-5 years, your relationship will cool down to such an extent that you will not be able to tolerate each other at home, but you will live somehow "for the sake of the child". Sex will be a thing of the past. There will simply be no more sex, or if there is once every two months, it will be such that it is better not to have it at all. Then you will meet another woman. The hope of being happy will reappear. You will part with the previous one and embark on a new life. Yes, but the past will haunt you because you have a child. So half of your income will go to your previous family, and your new wife will work like an ox to support herself and you. Until she's fed up. Then he'll just throw you out. And you stay between two chairs on the ground. Without education, without a penny behind your back, but with obligations and monthly maintenance, which until your child is your age, you have to pay. Your only prospect then will be for some aunt to take you home for raising some delicate services. She will also get tired of feeding you and you will look for another aunt, etc. I have a friend who has been making a living this way for years, getting used to it. That's the way it is, boy.
You are still very young, if after 10 years you are still with her and you want her for a wife, get married. But not now.
This is the problem for you men that you are cowards, you are afraid to have a child, not only from her but in general, and if another were your age, if you wanted to, you would react like that again.
Child, you have to have someone to look after you, and you want to be a father ... this child won't eat his snot, you know? I can imagine how smart she is when she relies on an 18-year-old to feed two throats ...
You suck more pacifier was diapers .. What. child and what she is sure of ... Not to mention the funny difference.
Do you know, dude, what life is for me - THE EARLIER (with the children) - THE BETTER! One thinks: "Now I am 18 and I will" live "for another 10-12 years, and then I will think they are his family!", But it turns out that this is a gross mistake! I got married at 30 and my good friend at 20 ... Now we are just before 50. His children are already big, educated and working. And mine are furious teenagers ... He and his wife are having a second youth, because at the age of 40 and a few they haven't turned around, and mine and I are struggling like sinful devils and we are constantly enduring teenage nonsense and atrocities. So for the airmen, the whores, etc. it can be very important to spin boyfriends for 10-15 years before they settle down. But for serious people who are monogamous and really care about their partner, 20 years is a wonderful age for parenthood! Don't listen to the idiots here at all, which will fill your head with nonsense about how you should live, get to know and we have nothing to do. Grab your poop, make your family, raise your children and at 40 and a few you will have a career, money and big children, and the others will write here "I'm 40, and I'm still alone!" and crocodile tears will fall ...
15, when I became a young father I absolutely agree. While my sets fucked whores, I watched family and children. It is true that my mother fucked when I was young, but I hardened myself and grew up early. Now my children are big and self-sufficient, and my wife and I are free, we have some accumulated savings and we travel the world and feel more alive than ever. At one time, my sets teased me with remarks like "he just got married and had kids, he doesn't do nonsense," but now that I watch them struggle with teenagers in their old age, I feel sorry for them. I am already returning from there, as they say, and they are still struggling in their old age. When you are young, you have energy and it doesn't weigh on you, but at 50, dealing with teens is a difficult endeavor. It is not by chance that nature makes us most fertile in the 20s, not after 30. In my opinion, a person at exactly 50 lives best when he is free. Because when you are young, living is just drinking and whoring, and at 50 you have savings, you are mature and you can make an enriching, circling and you can appreciate things much more after everything you have been through. At 20, you can't evaluate things the same way and with the same depth, simply because the wind blows you on a white horse.
How pathetic you are, walking on whores was life .. did that mean living ...
Yes, this is the end of the relationship. The reason is the age difference and accordingly you want different things from life. Calm down, you'll pass. This one is not for you.
to 22 I am convinced that if I ask you for specific arguments why you think so, you will not give me a meaningful answer, except that you have confessed. That's why I won't ask.