A Young Girl With A Visibly Older Man

   First, don't get me wrong. If she's your daughter, she can already. Second - the current 22-25 year olds are on the mind of the previous 16-17 year olds. Such a 'man' can not impress a woman of 22. Third - a doctor, a family - what of it. The chick wants to be with an intelligent man who can help her grow without accidentally getting pregnant. So much from me;)

   Well, my wife and I have a difference of 19 years. We have two children. And now what, are you going to break me too?

   If you are decent and punctual as a father, this will not happen to your daughter, don't worry. Girls dating drastically older men have DADDY ISSUES - google this thing and read, there is a lot of information, especially in English. Now here the old gamblers and scoundrels will get angry with you and jump in, that you have allowed yourself to start such a topic at all ... well, don't get attached to them, but you know where. Your question should have been asked the other way around: WHAT DOES A 35-40 YEAR OLD MAN DO WITH A 22-YEAR-OLD GIRL ... - after all, the old man is the one who is expected to be the thinking and reasonable person in such a situation !! What to do about this girl - NOTHING, because if you tell her parents they can react sharply, which will aggression her and push her categorically to deal only with various uncles, even out of stubbornness she can decide to do the worst - to give birth to one ... And now, if no one is wrong with her, there is still a chance that in a few years she will catch a boy her age and have a normal relationship. What you can do is advise your friends, who are parents of LITTLE girls under teen age, to be careful about their attitude towards their daughters, so that when they grow up they don't have daddy issues - just advise them to read about it! Otherwise, BRAVO and thank you very much for allowing yourself to raise such a topic. I'm just afraid that a lot of meaningless comments will be poured in, especially those advocating for the old man. who are parents of LITTLE girls under teen age, be careful what they have to do with their daughters, so that when they grow up they don't have daddy issues - just advise them to read about it! Otherwise, BRAVO and thank you very much for allowing yourself to raise such a topic. I'm just afraid that a lot of meaningless comments will be poured in, especially those advocating for the old man. who are parents of LITTLE girls under teen age, be careful what they have to do with their daughters so that when they grow up they don't have daddy issues - just advise them to read about it! Otherwise, BRAVO and thank you very much for allowing yourself to raise such a topic. I'm just afraid that a lot of meaningless comments will be poured in, especially those advocating for the old man.

   Do nothing unless you are very close friends. And about what she does - most likely she has sunk, a common phenomenon at this age :) For plaster and rest - no comment. We don't live our children's lives - you can only give advice and say what you think, nothing more. Everyone learns their own lessons. And some things are really lessons - if it doesn't happen the easy way, it gets harder, if it doesn't get harder, it gets even harder. There is no empty.

   I don't think you're the one who has to go tell your parents what he saw, much less mentor the girl. Now, if you were 15-16 years old to worry rightly, but here we are talking about an adult young woman, free to be with whomever she wants. She may like the man in question, they may be having a temporary affair, or they may be in love with each other. You don't know how things are, nor do you care. What will you play if you intervene? In her eyes, she will be a gossip, not to mention that we don't know how her parents would react, especially if they were more conservative. Don't push where they don't want your opinion and help. Whether right or wrong, everyone walks a path that brings them life experience. I will give two personal examples: my 20-year-old cousin had a secret relationship with a friend of her father (23 years apart). At one point, "concerned" acquaintances and neighbors suggested to her parents when, where and with whom she was dating, ostensibly for her own good. But her parents knew, they weren't very happy, but they hoped it was a hobby. Well, my cousin married this man, they had 2 children and they live no differently than any other couple with a smaller age difference. Well, it's not very ok for me either, especially when I think about the future, but that's why I emphasize that everyone has their head on their shoulders and makes their own decisions. Another case - a former classmate, also caught up with a much older man. They spent 2-3 years together, but neither she intended to marry him, nor he - to divorce because of her. It's just that someone rattled in front of her parents, who took him so hard and embarrassing that they kicked her out of their home. She has not set foot with them since. She is already married with a child, with a man her age. Well, maybe the story would have developed differently if no one had intervened, either out of good motives.

   Ma'am, this is not your problem. It is better not to interfere in the girl's personal life. It is already big enough to decide for itself. Love has not known for years.

   "My first question is ... What does a young girl do with this 40 man, it's definitely not about money ..." - It's about money, author! It's for money !!! Unfortunately, in this world, some succeed with skills, and others with the gap between the legs ...

   you're wrong, you know.

   For starters, you're no match for this girl, to be confused, you're not a father, brother, etc. Second, the girl is an adult. Yes, it may seem strange to you, but after she is over 18 she is free to go out and have dinner with whoever she wants. Third, just because she's having dinner with someone doesn't mean they have a romantic relationship. And you yourself said that you often go out to dinner with business partners. That you even asked about the man in question, if he was married, how old he was ... aloooo, and if someone interferes in your life like that and starts watching who you have dinner with, who you talk to on the phone, etc. how will you feel ?! Understand, for you this girl may be the "daughter of friends", but in reality she is a completely independent adult and can do with her life whatever she wants! Even her parents are no longer in a position to tell her who to date,

   I'm not, but it would be worrying for any parent. The problem is that the girl is 22 years old, she is an adult. Even if it depends financially on your parents, this can change quickly. At this stage, it is normal to make your own decisions, especially those on a personal level. As unreasonable as it may seem, that's the way it is. You can talk to her, but the age at which her parents can forbid her from dating is long gone. Even if they do, she is not a child, they will just quarrel. There is an unpleasant moral clash here. I wouldn't want my daughter to see a married man, much less if he's much older than her. I think every parent would like to know if their child is in the place of the girl in question, but he can hardly do anything special. I know what it's like to be young and in love, you do stupid things, no one can stop you from smashing your head on the first wall. Anyone more mature than her is able to raise the issue, try to explain to her where and how they are wrong, but not to change what happened or make a decision for her. In your place, I would talk to the girl because I accept that she is a young person, a person, not just a child of friends. About sharing with her parents, I have no idea, really. I'm glad I'm not in your place. Internally, I would like to tell my friends, but as a bystander of the story, I suppose it would not end well. What will happen? Parents quarrel with their child. The child continues to see the family man. The father eventually arranges for the gentleman to step in, eventually contacting the wife. The gentleman, stocky or not, had already been with the student, probably even got under her skin. His wife cries, gets angry, rages that her lover has walked on young lambs. Ours also cries, takes away her anger because of the broken marriage, takes away the cries of her parents, takes away the stories from her ex-wife. And? The next may be the same caliber as the former. Talk, but until she is convinced that she is making a mistake, no one is able to reason with it. Very nasty situation, it is complicated and unpleasant. You shared that your daughter is smaller than the one in the story. I sincerely advise you to talk to your child like a friend about life. You will remain an authority and a parent, but in order to educate teenagers, we must communicate with them openly about hypothetical events. Thus you will have a real view of the development and thinking of the child, and he will absorb from your experience and opinion. This is what my father did with me, and he was a good friend of mine. My conversations with him often brought me back to earth and helped me. It is good when the daughter hears the male opinion from a man who would never lie to her and would not wish her anything bad.

   You are the problem, ma'am. "6 months in a cast" ... this is not even about pedophilia. You probably envy that the girl is happier than you and is not only from a well-off family, but has also found love in the face of a realized man. There are many happy couples where the difference is so great. The girl is an adult, remember. You are not only vicious, but also narrow-minded, with a particularly flat mind and no sign of intelligence.

   The doctor must have a big cock.

   It is not your business. You have no right to interfere in the life of an adult. The girl is not harming herself or anyone else - if it was about drugs or crime, you may have some moral right to tell her loved ones, but not about it. What does a 20-year-old do with a 40-year-old? Well, she may be in love, she may like his attention, she may not know that he is married, she may know, but she doesn't care ... There are many options, but I don't see how it affects you. She's neither your daughter nor anything. Even if you have the best intentions, just don't. You will bring her headaches with theirs, you will bring headaches to them, to the man and to his wife ... And if they are in love, they will still see each other again. In general - find another job.

   My advice is to limit yourself to interfering in your daughter's life and letting people live as they see fit. The girl may want a relationship with an intelligent and successful man, not necessarily for money. I am happily married to a man 17 years older and I find nothing strange in such relationships.

   The girl is 22 years old, not 16. It is not good at all to meet a family gentleman, a fact, but she is old enough to make decisions for herself. If it's not for money, she obviously likes him, she decided to see him. You also don't know what their relationship is like. If you don't mind the family and just enjoy a little stolen time together, so what? G.22 dating a 40-year-old family;)

   This is not a problem, this is a global danger. Their brains are just limited, most are. You better tell them.

   Are you from the moral police? And why do you think a 35-year-old man with a 22-year-old woman is abnormal? You can't determine a man's age or marital status, but you make assumptions that you accept to be true and then impose your opinion on them. Don't confuse it, where you don't care, otherwise you will take a lot of wishes from everyone involved in the case.

   You are very worried. Are you rather angry that such a young boyfriend will never pay attention to you? And without money, as he said, the girl is insured.

   The girl is an adult and has the right only to decide with whom and where to go out. And what if he is older or married? Respect the privacy of others!

   Everyone is free to be with whomever they want! My husband is 10 years older than me and certainly everything is out of love.

   The girl is 22, has long been an adult and has a head on his shoulders. Some things are learned only from personal experience and by banging your head against the wall - you can't save someone's mistakes, no matter how much you want to. Your intervention will have the opposite effect - you will discredit the girl and she may get a bad name, you will stress the parents, and possibly you can ruin her partner's family. Do not interfere in other people's family relations - there in the end everyone will get along after the crisis is over, but you will have an unpleasant feeling about it, because you will remind them of what happened and they will just avoid you, and maybe they will get it out of you.

   So look now, buddy. Being 22 means nothing. There are so many ugly 22-year-olds that not 40 but 80-year-olds will not roll. In other words, if the chick could find a better party, she wouldn't go for it. By the way - I'm not talking about your daughter. I don't feel like lying in plaster;)))

   You're not well, that's all I can say. Take care of your daughter and do not deal with other people's children.

   If he is 40 he is quite, but up to 35 he is perfect, if only he is not married

   Abe people, what's wrong with you? Some are completely nerdy already. Why would you poke your nose into other people's business? No one has asked you or invited you to interfere in their lives. The girl is an adult, knows what she is doing and is responsible for her actions. Enough with these gossips and this mania to go where you do not have work. Respect their right to privacy. They know what they are doing together and why. Respect others if you want to be respected. You probably won't like it if someone interferes with your personal life and gossips about who and where you have dinner with. You are not the father or friend of this girl, so you have no job there.

   Have you ever wondered what would make a young girl go out with an uncle, if her father gave her what attitude to look for in men?

   Well colorful world. What is the girl learning? If it is something related to medicine, maybe she is "looking" for a job through the bed. In my observations, the fact that a girl comes from a good family with opportunities is not an indication that she stumbles upon older men with opportunities. They are again looking for and providing the bread with the soft. At least I have two acquaintances like that. Both are from families with opportunities, but are light women. One even divorced a friendly family of theirs and now lives with her father's husband. She tells herself to keep the Lord.

   As far as you are concerned, who is she dating, she is an adult, she has her head on her shoulders. Or do you envy the one he is currently with?

   It is no coincidence that most of them thought of a woman. It's just that your behavior is that of a village gossip. And this about gypsum will not comment on it. To me, it could have happened to your wife at one time that her father had decided on his own that you were illiterate and dragged you into a forest battle. Just because something looks weird to you doesn't mean you have to plaster anyone. If something is done with the mutual consent of both of them and they are adults, what are you like in this case? Don't be plastered in the end for lying to yourself where you don't care. You don't care who she's with and why. They may love each other and think about getting married one day. Maybe the girl just wants sex and doesn't care that he's married. Maybe a lot of things. Whatever the reasons, what are you to ask for an explanation and who asked for your help? Do you experience yourself as a moral savior, as an authoritative judge, who judges and dispenses moral justice, what? Don't tell her family, you won't achieve anything, at most scold them. They may know, but they don't want it to go public and just embarrass them. You don't even know exactly what the situation is, but you will go to fight, "talk", almost want explanations and gossip about her parents. And in the end, what will you achieve and who are you fighting against, since the people themselves want it and do nothing against their will? Or it may not be exactly what it seems to you. And then how would you feel if you just accused her like that? however, you will go to fight, "talk", almost want explanations and gossip about her parents. And in the end, what will you achieve and against whom are you fighting, since the people themselves want it and do nothing against their will? Or it may not be exactly what it seems to you. And then how would you feel if you just accused her like that? however, you will go to fight, "talk", almost want explanations and gossip about her parents. And in the end, what will you achieve and who are you fighting against, since the people themselves want it and do nothing against their will? Or it may not be exactly what it seems to you. And then how would you feel if you just accused her like that?

   "if this happens to my daughter ... this one will lie in a cast for at least 6 months, a month off ... and again" First, you won't do it; secondly, if it is - there is a prison, there are other people who can do the same to you. Thinking for more than 5 minutes in the future is not bad. "Should I tell my parents and what I've seen, should I talk to her about this?" What's in your job, excuse me? I ask again - when did your job become, what do other adults do, what are you going to do to enter someone else's personal life? Who are you? Because just as you pretend to be a man, claiming what you would do if you were something, so she can send someone to feminize you in the second when you start to hint to her who you would tell. Is it ugly to have a family type (if so)? Yes, of course. Is it your job - me, not much.

   Okay, do you shine on him that you know he's married? Even so, you don't know his stuff. She may be about to divorce, she may not get along with her wife and be together only because of the children, she may have an open relationship, she may be asexual, for example. Do you shine on him? And you really don't know exactly what their relationship is. Aren't you ashamed to ask "discreetly" who he is and why he has a relationship with a woman?

   And I think that when she is an adult she has the right to do whatever she wants. I just want to ask everyone who has commented so far would react in the same way if it was a 22-year-old boy from a wealthy family dating a 35-40-year-old woman?

   The problem of the younger generation 20-30 is that they are dumbfounded like babies, which is very strange to me, even though I am a young person. Maybe this mass infantilism makes them look for uncles. I had a high school classmate who was drooling and mostly talking in a pretentious baby voice, and that lasted until the end of 12th grade. Even her teachers rejoiced. This infantilism of young people and their parents, who do not see that you can not keep your child in a pot, especially after 18 years here in Bulgaria is amazing. Young women, some of them looking for their older dads to buy them anything and entertain them, and young men, on the other hand, in many cases can not run a washing machine, are disoriented in life, there are many those who do not work at pi 30. That's not all. But this is where the reorientation of young women to older ones comes from, and if they are over 18, no one can be accused of pedophilia, it is a personal choice of two. Even if there are mentally injured in this situation, only personal and tactical advice to the girl. In any other case, this is a gross invasion of privacy, which is seirdzhiyskoy.

   Number 7, 12, 17 you said it very accurately, thank you! Women only support themselves from the man, they want to fuck them and give them money. Women are disgusting and insidious creatures, living on stereotypes. If you can't take care of them, you're not a man. This is the thinking of a prehistoric man, but as I see it, nothing has changed since then - men do the work and women sit on the sidelines and grumble. Then they want to be equal to men, there is no way, get used to it.

   You write that you have a daughter yourself. Well, then instead of going to work where it is not your job, but in other people's lives, you better concentrate on raising and educating your own child. That one day some "benefactor" will not come to you and tell you where and with whom he saw your daughter.

   Author M52: Thanks for the comments, whether malicious or constructive. Of course I studied the gentleman in question and of course he is heavily married ... twice and children and women and so on. This girl from a friendly family grew up in front of my eyes, with her parents and we are friends long before she was born. So the topic ... interference in her personal life is not quoted and is not subject to comment, she is part of my family, as many of the commenters do not understand. Of course, I won't tell her parents, but I wonder why she does it: Of course, with her parents, like any normal 22-year-old, they don't have serious scandals about her upbringing and education. She does not live in luxury or affluence, but her parents cover all the necessary and inherent costs of her student life. As a character she is a bit closed, she is having fun, but she is not a big party girl. WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN THIS MAN? So on the question of plaster. I think I'm a broad-minded man. But everything has some limits guaranteeing morality in our lives and purely human relationships. When an arrogant bastard, like this bastard, a thug, just stands in front of you, just ... whatever called him called, tolerance ZERO! Fathers of daughters will understand me ....

   Author: Thanks №3 !!!

   In my opinion, the author is angry that he does not have a young boyfriend. This is the truth itself, otherwise why chew. They are neither the first nor the last ones, I don't see what has burned you so much, even if you post topics. I am sure that if you have such a candidate, you will not refuse her. Nothing that you are married.

   Hardly married? Is he married now or not? If he is free, he can do whatever he wants, just like her, he is not under 18 years old. The fact that a person has not done well with his ex does not mean that he is not worth it as a person. If they are both free, it is their job what they will do and what they will not.

   "he is heavily married ... twice and children and women" Whether he is heavily married or slightly married does not change anything, because you neither know his relationship with his wife, nor do you know if the girl minds. "We are friends with her parents long before she was born. So the topic ... interference in her personal life is not quoted and is not subject to comment" This does not give you the right to interfere in her life. I don't know why you have this perverted idea of ​​interference. Then let my father take care of you, who you fuck and who you love. She's a separate adult, and you don't have the right to mess with her if you're going to be her father's twin. "But I wonder why she does." I still don't understand why you should care about an adult's personal life who can make his own decisions and do nothing against his or someone else's will. What you are in the whole scheme, it never became clear to me. If I'm a close friend of yours, does that give me the right to keep track of who you're fucking with? You are very obsessive. "an arrogant bastard like this bastard, a bastard, just" I remind you again that he's with her VOLUNTARILY. Just because your opinion of him is bad doesn't mean she's right and she has no right to her own. She may know him in a completely different light. And no, that still doesn't give you the right to beat him. This is some of your perverted notion of justice. In the same way, he may think that you are excited about his personal life and may bother you. And rightly so. And you know that if you shake it, then you will accidentally stumble on the stairs. Not only can you fight, you know.

   I'm number 33, why don't you answer me?

   42 because he did not lose his answer. Out of 40 people, one supported him and he thanked him, and that 39 told him that she was a limited and bossy village gossip, experiencing herself as a moral judge with a perverted notion of morality, did not matter. In general, they told him that, but I said it more directly and without detours. But, of course, he will not bother to understand that he is, but will wonder who to teach, to ask for explanations about his personal life and to "plaster". I just didn't understand why he thought he could plaster himself. With such limited and obsessive behavior, his children will run away from him when they grow up, like incense, and the lamp will still not light for him, that he is an obsessive village gossip from the moral police. But what can we do? With a funnel the mind is not poured.

   Uncle (the author), You make sure that the love of old age doesn't hit you, and that such a girl turns your head. That then you will see who, what and why is doing it ... You will have to whisper her name as a teenager in love, and you will pray that your wife does not understand ... Do not ask an old man, but ask a patillo! And you can be easily embarrassed by your conviction that you know life and people like the back of your hand ...

   43, do you read what I ask at all ?? I'm number 33!

   Rather, if the gentleman in question does have a family, it must be told by chance to his wife.

   In principle, it is not your job to poke your nose into the private lives of others, especially since the young lady in question is over 18 years old and this is not an abuse. How will you do your job, but what's the point?

   Morality is a vanishing concept in our lives. This can be seen in the majority of comments ... Everyone wants, even if subconsciously, to live by some rules and at the same time have the right to choose. Obviously the topic is thought-provoking in many, that's good. I thanked №3 because only №3 gave me direction to think about the problem (because this is a problem for me), also №34 overlaps some of my thoughts and judgments. The rest of the comments are petty, they do not arouse thought, decision and attention on my part. I talked to the young lady, told her what her relationship looked like through my eyes and life experience. She listened to me ... I didn't want a comment from her, if she understood me ... she understood me, if she didn't understand me, her life is hers. It is!!!

   49, author, what morality are you talking about in this case at all? What is immoral about two people going out on a date? What makes you think it's immoral? Because you don't like the gentleman? Or because he is ten years older? Okay, he may be married, but why did he decide his marriage was going well? It may not work and a person needs love. Just because you've made some movies, that he's a whore, doesn't mean that's the case. Even if we assume that it is soooooo immoral, why do you have to give morality and justice, when everything is done with the consent of both? As you, what will you intervene in this case? Knowing her father doesn't give you that right at all.

   <3> "WHAT DOES A 35-40 YEAR OLD MAN DO WITH A 22-YEAR-OLD GIRL ... -" Egati - "married at 40" in this case sounds like a diagnosis, not it;)) If at the moment you can't find answer to this question, wait until you become "married at 40" and the answer will find you;)) <49> I don't even want to think about what the lady in question thought about the "family friend" who takes care of her relationships and I guess thanks to your intervention in the future I will meet this gentleman in much more secluded places. I hope you are happy with yourself;))

   I find very funny people who experience themselves as a higher authority that determines what is immoral and feel obliged to dispense "justice" by fighting if someone, in their opinion, is not moral. They are supposed to be very moral, but they would "plaster" someone because they don't like something or they have made some movies there that are not worth it, which may not have anything to do with reality at all. But as a precaution, without knowing exactly what the situation is, they will plaster them morally. And when they do not find public support for their arbitrariness, they begin to speak instructively about how morality has disappeared, how people have become rubbish, and you see, they are a pillar of morality, the only ones left unsullied by the lack of values. And they don't realize at all, that they have an unhealthy idea of ​​morality and on a subconscious level they paint reality for themselves and believe in themselves, and they are often not black and white. These are typical symptoms of borderline personality disorder. And I would advise the author to visit a specialist in a very friendly way, although I am sure that he will not do it and will even consider my comment arrogant. But it is understandable, since such a disorder is rarely realized.