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By ea69xx October 06, 2020 42 answers Last updated October 06, 2020

Good day ! Or in the evening, I don't know ... :( My life just got better, I was accepted as a student ... Everything is wonderful so far ... I have a friend of 5 months, I'm 20, like him, but it seems we didn't protect ourselves ... I'm pregnant .... And my decision is an abortion, he agrees with me, he's 6 days late, I took two tests and both were positive ... I'm scared, I know it's our fault, I understand the consequences of all this very well, but I am dying of fear, nerves ... I want everything to end as soon as possible ... Tomorrow I have an appointment with a gynecologist ... I feel very bad! My boy's mother will pay for everything, his grandmother is also behind us ... But I don't know how to deal with the stress that has pressed me so much that I can't sleep ... I would like you to tell me the development of things after the abortion ... I will be Thank you very much ...! :(

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lesbrunettes answered · October 06, 2020

   They do it with anesthesia and you don't feel anything. Then they prescribe you pills, take them, they are mandatory. And then nothing. Life goes on. Don't stress so much, you are neither the first nor the last. Good luck.

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badwifey answered · October 06, 2020

   There's nothing to worry about. I tell you from personal experience the same thing happened to me a year and a half ago. They do it with anesthesia, you feel absolutely nothing, only when you wake up you will feel very exhausted and you may feel sleepy. Otherwise you have nothing to worry about, some say that then you may not get pregnant again, but medicine is already much more developed and unlikely. A friend had 4 abortions, two of which were spontaneous, and then she managed to get pregnant again, so don't worry. Only I was very sick of the fact that you kill a creature that is not to blame for appearing at the wrong time, but this is forgotten over time. Good luck from me!

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markdsikes answered · October 06, 2020

   I think think twice before having an abortion. The wound from the operation will heal, but the wound in your soul and heart will remain for a lifetime. Talk to your mother, not your friend's mother. Because everyone looks after their own well-being. It is true that it is difficult to build a future and a career with a child in your arms. But don't forget that life is the greatest value in this world. Hundreds of childless women would give everything to be in your place ...

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leo_french answered · October 06, 2020

   Your pregnancy is a gift from God. If you love each other and make plans for a common future, you better have a child. Everything else is arranged, as long as there is peace and love. I could never get pregnant. This is a great misfortune for every woman. Life is in front of you - there is time to study, to dig, and to work. Think hard! SAVE THE CHILD!

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scottty2hottty answered · October 06, 2020

   I know you feel awful, to put it mildly ... When I was 17-18, I once found myself in a similar situation. Well, thank God, I wasn't pregnant, but by the time I realized it, I must have gone crazy with fear. And you are in a much more unpleasant situation because you are pregnant. I want to reassure you in some way ... I'll tell you that a friend of mine has had at least three abortions and said it's nothing that scary. Only then be careful what medications you take - for example, do not take aspirin because it increases bleeding. You will have one, but I don't think it will be much more abundant than menstruation. You won't have much pain. At least my girlfriend wasn't there. I can't tell you anything about the moral aspect, but at least she didn't bother very much. You're still a kid, it's not a good idea to screw up your future so early. The option the child is looking at the child is not good for both. It sounds cruel, but it's the truth. There is time for everything in this life - study, have a cheerful, carefree student, become a full-fledged person, and then connect with children, family, etc. He never has rosy illusions about this. I keep my fingers crossed that everything will pass easily and quickly. And I want you to remember something very well once and for all - so that you don't have such terrible headaches, NEVER have unprotected sex again. It's so simple, and people complicate it. As much as you want and hurry, people still differ from animals in that they can think and decide when to have a generation. And the subtraction number doesn't work, understand it - I'm a living PROOF of that - that's how mom and dad made me. I am a convincing proof when I think about it. Don't be fooled by nonsense like he didn't feel anything. When you get pregnant, you both feel it nice, don't you ?!

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smdhsmdh answered · October 06, 2020

   Honey, you have yet to realize yourself as a person, you are an accepted student ... My advice is to look at your future, in the first place you have to love yourself and then think about others, your friend, etc. !! At this age it is too early for you to become a mother, study your university and then whatever comes! Your mother would give you the most adequate advice and I guess it's not to turn your back on your future with a boy you've known for 5 months!

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NaughtyInsu answered · October 06, 2020

   From the author: I have decided to remove it. I'm not ready for a mother or my boyfriend. We do not have the financial ability. I will be a first year law student. He is also a student and works for 350 leva ... We are nowhere! There is no place for a child. I'm not asking you whether to keep it or not, because I decided to. I just wanted to hear someone who went through this journey. I don't have a gram of maternal instinct in me, it's really not his time for a child ...

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miss_ella_ answered · October 06, 2020

   Do not rush to have an abortion. Don't you fall in love with the boy?

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Olivia_Taylor answered · October 06, 2020

   Hello !!! The procedure itself should not scare you, because it takes a few minutes. You have the support of your loved ones, which you believe is very important. As for whether to keep the child, the answer is in you and your readiness for it. You have to be very sure that this is the person you will give birth to. From now on, be careful with these abortions, because they can play a bad joke on you. Good luck!!!

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alice_pablo answered · October 06, 2020

   If you are confident in your feelings, do not remove the child. People have said that the first child is not removed, after that you can remove 10, but first never. No matter how advanced the medicine, no one can guarantee you what will happen during and after the abortion. It will be really difficult for you, but the grandmothers will help, then let's see how much his mother and grandmother will be behind your back. And I think if you have an abortion sooner or later you will break up. Think good-luck.

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skysportde answered · October 06, 2020

   Read what 3 and 4 write to you. Ask your gynecologists and everyone will tell you that after an abortion there is a risk that you may never have children again. Number 2 tells you that medicine is very advanced, but I will tell you that only 30% are successful attempts at "in-vitro". Call the health insurance fund, ask and you will see how many people are waiting to have a child. There is no guarantee. And how much does fertilization cost is one thing at hand ... His mother and grandmother will now pay for everything. And tomorrow they will pay to give birth or because of that he will leave you? And for some other reason to separate, then ... Do you want to be without a child or because of that to be completely alone? It is true that it is very difficult, but studying can wait. And forgetting over time is a complete lie and deception. Number 2 she wrote it because she had an abortion. So remember.

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jimsundies answered · October 06, 2020

   From the author: NO! Studying can't wait !!!! I HAVE DEFINITELY DECIDED THAT I WILL REMOVE IT! And no one and nothing is able to change my mind! Today I was a gynecologist at a very early stage. He sent me to a clinic where they would take blood tests and everything should be over by Monday. I thought well. This child would ruin everything in my life! I have ambitions, I am not stupid, I have achieved everything as a goal in education and development. Now is not the time!

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urnaughtyjollychix answered · October 06, 2020

   It's a pity for you and the baby who will never be born and see the world in which you want to organize your life ... If you weren't wondering if you really want to get rid of it, why did you write in the forum. What you ask can be explained to you by doctors. As I guess they have already done. Almost everyone who joined the forum with an opinion probably did so with the idea of ​​saving a human life (or rather two human lives :) But really the choice is yours personally. Everything said below will sound banal and worn out ... The fact that you talk about your unborn child as an object clearly shows what your attitude towards him is. It is a pity really ... It is a difficult way in which a person turns his heart into a stone ... and endless ... because there is always some spark that reminds us that we are human ...

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Jasminka answered · October 06, 2020

   I also had an abortion 7 years ago. My situation was similar to yours. The boy and I have been together for about 4 months - we lived in a dormitory. He is a first year student, I am a third ... I am writing about this for the first time and it is very difficult for me ... I can't say that I don't regret what I did, because I can be sorry, for example, that I didn't bought a blouse. But then I decided. General anesthesia, then bleeding as a cycle. I took an antibiotic for as long as I can remember. I got more bleeding after a few days, I think I had pain. Then I started taking some more pills (on prescription). The worst was the day after the operation itself, I was asleep, dropped out. But he was next to me then. Today we are still together and I dream of the day when we will have a family and children. This remained a wound in my soul and heart. But then we decided. I keep my fingers crossed that everything will go well. Then we had to be very careful, because it was easy to get pregnant again. I started taking birth control pills. But these are things that doctors will explain to you. Success!

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exhib969 answered · October 07, 2020

   From the Author: Number 13, I wrote in this forum because I wanted faster information. I have no dilemma whether to keep it or not. So what do I do if I don't have a maternal instinct? It's only 2 weeks old could I feel something ??? Nothing personal, but your comment sounds rather shabby and banal.

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tori_deal answered · October 07, 2020

   I had an abortion last year ... it's nothing special. They prescribe you some drops for uterine contractions (it's good to take them), antibiotics too. There's nothing to worry about. It was a mistake for me to get rid of him, because now we are trying to have a baby with the same person, but something doesn't work ... but I know that everything will be fine, one has to be patient. It's completely different with you, don't be afraid, everything will go well. Success!

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baby_brat619 answered · October 07, 2020

   I'm sorry, but reading your reasoning, I wonder if you'll ever have a maternal instinct at all. What if she had found out you were pregnant at a later time, when she could no longer leave, then what would you do, give birth to him and leave him at home for learning. If you are not stupid, as you write, you will be able to cope with both a child and learning, you will not be the only one. Read very well 4 sentences of number 16 and whatever you decide, I hope it doesn't play a bad joke on you in the future.

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nicole2020 answered · October 07, 2020

   Abe, isn't there anyone to pull the ears of everyone here who advises you to wave the child. Are you normal? And to tell the author because you want everything to end quickly - this is not the case in life and you will not fix it, rather you will fix it that way. And since you are very precise in your words, I will tell you that the excuse of friends, mothers, grandmothers (who smells of dust already) does not work in front of anyone, It is obvious that you are still a kid, but not only that, but you are also a baby killer. It doesn't depend on money - only people who struggle in life succeed, and those like you, where first students then life ..... if you're so smart to put on a condom it was! Come on, think again!

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boginiseksu87 answered · October 07, 2020

   If you haven't read or viewed abortion material, you can do so on Google. I was thinking of sending a link, but it would be psychological harassment against you. You decide if you want to see what you will actually do.

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jasonaldean answered · October 08, 2020

   Hello again. I'm the author of a comment № 5. What's wrong with you, darling? Write to us again. I decided to get involved again because I read the comments made after mine, and my hair stood on end ... Almost all of them declared me a child killer. Oh, what is happening to these people ...! Honestly, I was amazed. They advise you to throw everything away (or at least to postpone it in the distant future that happened to her, not her) ... They advise you to give birth to a child you don't want to stay with a person you know for the rest of your life only for 5 months ... Oh, can you imagine what kind of women they are and what kind of thinking they have! Because I KNOW what at least some of them are. I have met such people already. For such, the only purpose in their lives is to marry and give birth. And so far. They are just learned from their mothers (I will not use the word "educated"). And that's all they know. Well, then they wonder why they haven't really achieved anything else and why there are women who have achieved OTHER THINGS in their lives. Well, I can easily give an answer - when you try to get married at the first opportunity and have children and imagine that this is a big deal, you will not get further from the nearby park - and with a stroller ... Life does not is pink, clear and predestined, dear. Today you are with this boy and you are convinced that it is for you, and after 2-3 years you grow a little more and you already understand that you don't really want that. It happened to me. My school friend was decent, intelligent, kind, broad-minded, and yet he wasn't for me ... Never rush these things. One has to spend at least 4-5 years with someone to know if one can REALLY dedicate one's life to it. I'm telling you this, because I've been through it and I want you to remember it, no matter what happens to you in the future and what "smart" advice you get. Babies are very cute, but it seems to me that at your age they are the cutest from a distance - when you don't have to give up your future as a lawyer to give birth when you don't have a huge belly while your peers they dance at their prom when you don't change diapers and don't wipe aki and vomit while your girlfriends are in the whirlwind of student life ... Unhappy marriage with a half-stranger, scandals, problems, lack of money, he's out, and you are a 24-hour solitary confinement at home , subjected to a constant baby roar while you think what it would be like if she hadn't given birth ... Hmm, I don't wish it on you, definitely. If marriage and childbirth were such a unique success, then the Roma would be the most successful people - they get married the earliest and give birth the earliest and more ... Honey, the truth is that THERE IS TIME FOR EVERYTHING IN LIFE. Or at least for everything in the lives of smart people :) I graduated law last year. I became an investigator. I have been living with my current boyfriend for 6 years. And I'm in no hurry. I don't spur anything in my life. You know - the fast bitch gives birth to the blind!

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NiktTaki73 answered · October 08, 2020

   From the author: Hello number 5! After the attacks, I decided not to write. I had an abortion, everything went well, even more than well, because I was at a very early stage. The manipulation was with a vacuum. I really couldn't hold him back, I didn't like the comments that I was a child killer, it's easy to come to my senses, but I know that if someone gets into such a situation they will hardly keep him. I know that life is difficult, I do not have the attitude that it is pink, if I thought so I would keep it, but I am realistic. I think I made the right decision, otherwise I would have gone through everything you said. There is time for everything. Thank you for your support!

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queenbritt29 answered · October 08, 2020

   Don't bother! You are small for a child! I'm against abortion, but in your case, you did well! Do not worry!

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yasir.hussain131 answered · October 08, 2020

   To number 5, number 21 You are nothing but a careerist. You graduated last year and now the future is blooming in front of you. There is no equal to you - You are under everyone. The others intended only to give birth. And what is yours? Wait another 10 years, if not more, to achieve your goals and then go give birth. And the one who needs 4-5 years to find out if the other one is for him, has mental retardation.

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sexytsdiva answered · October 08, 2020

   Haha ... You will make me laugh ... How exactly did you make these conclusions? I said that "The others only aimed to give birth"!?! Yes, it is true that many women only aim to get married and give birth, but not ALL others .... I did not say that I will wait 10 years to give birth. Nowhere. But at least I waited to learn and shape myself as a person. From personal experience I think it takes 4-5 years with one person before you decide whether to take him, because in general after so much you get used to each other completely, and when a man feels SAFE then he begins to show interesting traits of his character. It's clear to me that I can't change your mind, number 25. There's no point in being picky - let everyone go their own way, as they see fit.

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alitaliaofficial answered · October 09, 2020

   From the author: I did not want advice on whether to keep him or not. It is very easy to give a mind and call a person by heart epithets. Your mouth and imagination know a lot, you are hardly such moralists. Attacking someone who has a different view speaks to limitations. No one has the right to judge the other. I removed it because I have nothing to give him. Now is the time for me to develop so that in time I can be a capable person, independent, mature, with a stable person next to me and then I will be able to create a home. Have a nice day everyone and lots of smiles!

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aldious.officialpage answered · October 09, 2020

   Have these people who write that they are against abortion found themselves in this situation ??? It is better to be a child killer than a mother alone or not to be able to give my child what he will need or even worse to blame him for his misfortunes in life, of course I do not rule out happy cases but for me they are an exception !! I fully support the author of the topic, I have also had an abortion, it is very important to be informed about what is happening to choose the right method and it is good to do frequent preventive examinations and to monitor the condition as a whole! Indeed, the stress is not small and all the comments against it are just unnecessary, it is obvious that she is a mature girl, I wish her success and a lot of positive emotions for the future!

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busty_bimbo69 answered · October 09, 2020

   However, people are really crazy. Years ago, when there were no abortions, how did people live. It's like that when you have a child, the world ends, his mother bass. Go have abortions and then, when you shake the ground for children, we will see you. I just read nonsense and nonsense, a woman was created in this world to create life, there is no more beautiful woman than a pregnant woman or a mother.

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julianaalvarezreposteria answered · October 09, 2020

   You decided to get rid of this baby anyway, I don't know why you're even interested in others' comments. I will tell you that 10 years ago. just when I was accepted 1 year student I got pregnant. Then I asked my parents how to act, but in general the decision was mine and my ex-husband's / because 5 years ago. we got divorced /. I left the baby and now I have a wonderful daughter in 3rd grade. I also finished my education, all the time my mother was behind me and to this day it is so. Before I became pregnant with this child, however, 4 months. before that I had an abortion that no one knows about and 1 year after I gave birth I had another one. The truth is that you do not feel anything, there is no physical pain, but my soul still hurts. Not a day goes by that I don't remember the creatures I killed. I feel like a killer to my own children. This is my biggest sin and I am afraid that one day I will want another child and I will not have one and this will be my biggest punishment. Everything is in your hands success.

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Taiss_Sweety answered · October 09, 2020

   This will be the biggest mistake of your life !!!

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lavender2424 answered · October 09, 2020

   To number 30, can you tell me if when you gave birth you were asked if you had abortions before? What information do they want?

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MorenaHotAss answered · October 10, 2020

   True, I also had two abortions - one at 18 years old. and one at the age of 20. Nothing is felt as a medical manipulation, neither during nor after its performance. There were no complications with me. And everything passed for days, but the pain in my soul remained for years, especially hurting me for the first child, because I wanted him and because he was from a man I loved. But I was like you - at the crossroads, I started working and studying, and even worse - I was alone, neither my father stood behind me, nor my relatives. I can't describe how many times I tried to imagine what my children would look like and how big they would be ... It's good that God had mercy on me and after 19 years gave me a child, a beautiful girl from a wonderful a man who is by my side every minute and by my little treasure.

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sarah_larson answered · October 10, 2020

   Hello. And I'm not much about abortions, however, when necessary ..... I'm 19 students and I'm already 3 days late. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year but we are not ready for children. Please someone if there is more information about abortions about how much it costs, how and where in Sliven can be done to write to me. I want to be prepared for everything ..... my e-mail is [email protected] Thank you in advance.

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DarlingRanya answered · October 10, 2020

   I am 17 years old and I am very sorry that I have had to face these things since I was a child. But I am 1 month pregnant. He's just not someone my parents approve of, and I have no choice. I want to keep my baby but I can't. I am very afraid of the procedure itself ... if someone can give me some moral support or advice, I will be very grateful !!!

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simonnorfolkstudio answered · October 10, 2020

   Well, dear, the fact that you decided to remove it, I think, is the best solution, due to a bunch of reasons mentioned in the comments of №21. I personally have not had an abortion, but I have a girlfriend who is having one soon. The procedure is quick and painless because you are under anesthesia. After the baby is removed, you should stay in the hospital for about 2-3 hours. My friend, like you, was very worried and very scared, but after the abortion I went to the hospital for a while and we went to drink coffee. It is good to rest for 1-2 days. This is basically it! come on success darling and don't worry! Laura is 21 years old.

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annazap answered · October 10, 2020

   During the abortion you will be under anesthesia and you will not feel any pain, then also. But I just hope you do not regret your decision .....

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hiana22thompson answered · October 10, 2020

   Haha! Author, you did the right thing - at least in my opinion, but would you tell me how, claiming that "I'm not stupid, I achieved everything as a goal in education and development", you did not understand how to prevent pregnancy ??? Another form without content ... Dare! Until the next unwanted baby ...

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breckinurhart answered · October 10, 2020

   Abe, are you okay, I have 4 abortions and I'm pregnant again and as always I leave, you're not okay to roar, I have 2 children, I can't anymore, you're crazy to roar about nonsense

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gleebglarbu answered · October 10, 2020

   but hey, are you okay, ,, that you don't care and it doesn't hurt that you had 4 abortions doesn't mean that other people don't care ,,, what are you calling where you don't belong .... If you want to have 4,000 abortions, it can be seen that you are a woman without feelings ... are you going to explain yourself somewhere else ... should there be such simple people in this world

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francine1974 answered · October 11, 2020

   Horror! I read and I can't believe my eyes. Some people don't deserve to be mothers! Comment 39 was the top! Not that it's my job, but why don't you beware people? I am not against abortion, but I am against forced pregnancy! And to the author - yes, you did the right thing, this is the better option, according to what you shared - but why did it happen? Why did you make this baby? What's the problem, actually - if you don't want it, hop abortion! I'm terrified! I am currently pregnant. I have two children. But I think I will have an abortion myself. I get pregnant for the first time unplanned. Maybe it's because I'm on hormone replacement therapy and it's all magic. It's very hard for me, to the surprise of some, it's hard for me to have to have an abortion - but I don't think there's a way. I have health problems, I am on non-stop pills, I am afraid that the baby will be fine!

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yecum answered · October 11, 2020

   When something is incomprehensible, the fool rejects it ... Such is the case of number 42 .... Medicine is advanced .... you can have an abortion, and then have children ....

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nolanikki504 answered · October 11, 2020

   I didn't understand, should I be the fool? :)))) Thanks. Well, let the fools avoid abortions, in the sense - to beware of unplanned pregnancies, and the smart ones - let them have children and abortions! :)))) I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but when it's an exception, not a habit, then it's forgivable! But to have abortions indiscriminately, just because there is no problem to get pregnant again when you feel like it - for me this is a mockery of the opportunity that nature gives you to be a mother. After all, these are lives - this is a beating heart, from which you take the pulse! I hope you never experience the feeling of wanting a desperate child and not being able to have one. If you go through this, then you will hardly have an easy abortion under the road and over the road! However, I'm not surprised, that's why we are such a nation and we will not recover!

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xxsarahj420xx answered · October 11, 2020

   You made a big mistake !!!