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By TwojaJedyna October 03, 2020 23 answers Last updated October 03, 2020

I don't know why most women talk so fondly about childbirth and pregnancy. Yes, it is good to have a child, but more than one pregnancy can ruin your health. Even while I was pregnant I got depressed. I gave birth two months ago and I still can't get out of it. I love a child, but I'm already wondering whether to wind up for a second or to adopt. Before you spit in my face, I will tell you that I do not think, like most of you, that pregnancy is such a great experience. I had pain in my joints, abdomen, bloating, weight gain, depression, varicose veins, stretch marks, complete horror! Not to mention the pain of childbirth, which is corrosive - why didn't the doctor anesthetize me ! Well, at least all day while I was pregnant I was sitting at home and being wheeled out so I wouldn't get tired, and I was studying remotely from home, that if I went to work and to lectures pregnant I would go completely crazy. How to deal with postpartum depression? I love my child, but this love and the joys my baby gives me cannot erase the horror I went through. I know it may seem ridiculous to you, because my pregnancy to others seems to have been light and, according to the doctors, problem-free, but if this is a problem-free pregnancy, I imagine what the problem is. Galya

Answers 23

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themistressofmygame answered · October 03, 2020

   There is no easy pregnancy. No one denies that there are nasty pains throughout the pregnancy, hormonal problems appear and so on. But it's not the "beauty" of pregnancy, it's not the physical and emotional signs ... it's the spiritual. It is a woman's privilege. Didn't it feel great to know you were giving life? That something real is growing inside you? Postpartum depression passes. It will not be easy to take care of a child, no one says it is easy, but it is yours ... yours created. Love it :) Meg *

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cute_cute18 answered · October 03, 2020

   ???, damn it! What a mess! Galya, I have a second pregnancy - at the first birth, unfortunately I lost my baby. I gave birth for about 30 hours ... without anesthesia. I got rid of postpartum depression by studying and dreaming about ... the next time everything will be fine! 10 years later, I am at the end of my second pregnancy and I can refute you at any level! "I had pains in my joints, stomach, I swelled ..." - all this can happen to you without you being pregnant !!! "I gained weight ..." - well, if you splashed like for three, you can't help but gain weight. I personally did not change my diet and gained 6 pounds in 8 months. "varicose veins, stretch marks, general horror!" - You can get varicose veins during prolonged standing, and as for stretch marks - there are piles of cosmetics designed specifically to protect us from them. Take care of your body - pregnancy is not your fault! "Not to mention the pain of childbirth, which is corrosive - why didn't the doctor anesthetize me ?!" - because he was annoyed by your ligature, most likely. But what "breaks the darkness" is the moment with lying down and the wheelchair !!! To tell you the truth, few things have happened to you in this way of life. Your depression is due to your complete inactivity for months! Get tight, look after your child and don't spare so much - you are no different from other women who have given birth! is the moment with lying down and the wheelchair !!! To tell you the truth, few things have happened to you in this way of life. Your depression is due to your complete inactivity for months! Get tight, look after your child and don't spare so much - you are no different from other women who have given birth! is the moment with lying down and the wheelchair !!! To tell you the truth, few things have happened to you in this way of life. Your depression is due to your complete inactivity for months! Get tight, look after your child and don't spare so much - you are no different from other women who have given birth!

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BoobsieBarbara answered · October 03, 2020

   I'm just disgusted with this with a wheelchair! Can you manipulate your relatives like that ?! Just because she was pregnant and slammed into a wheelchair! Weren't you ashamed to show up like that? When they ask why you are in a wheelchair, what will they say - because I am pregnant ??? Egati perverted people, honestly!

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AudrinaALT answered · October 03, 2020

   And I can only say "OOO, poor thing!" I gave birth to two children and I didn't have your problems! With the big 6 kg - baby 3,300, the small 10 kg - baby 3,500. Until the end I went to work, no varicose veins or stretch marks, I recovered completely in a month, and yours is just a ligature! If you take matters into your own hands and take care of yourself and others a little more, you would feel much better! And make sure your husband doesn't get tired of taking care of a "fat muffin" because you're trying to become one.

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skinyyummy answered · October 03, 2020

   I have no words. Such a league, I don't know how anyone tolerates you at all. A woman when she is pregnant does not mean that she is ill. Go to work, even light exercise can do. You're a psychiatrist. Now and while watching the child you will be completely depressed ...

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bodod answered · October 03, 2020

   Up to 1 - a great privilege, nothing. Pregnancy is one of the nasty aspects of being a woman. The cycle is different.

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chatter1234512345 answered · October 03, 2020

   To 1 - I do not agree that it is only HER creation, for one child it takes TWO to become. Unless it's a test tube baby, but that sucks.

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larubia75 answered · October 03, 2020

   Well, I would say that you are a big league, but big. And I am against those who affectionately tell what a miracle it is to be pregnant and how nice it was, but you are the same as them, only in the opposite version. it was horrible, how nasty it was, generally pampered and drooling. for me to be pregnant is something normal, neither is it so nice and pleasant, nor is it the nightmare you describe. the good thing about pregnancy is that you carry a new life inside you, and that the end result of a healthy baby gives you a new meaning in life. so far with the good things during pregnancy. that you gain, you gain 5/6/10 / or 20 kg. it's still an inconvenience and a climb that your body is changing and not in a positive direction and that's true, your hormones are beating and your nerves often can't stand it, and you become intolerant of others, nausea, malaise, pain here and there I wouldn't say that I see something good in these things, it's naughty.

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uniqaoefbcup answered · October 03, 2020

   Excuse the commenting ladies, how many kilograms you were before you got pregnant, because I strongly doubt that you were in the norm or below it. Anyway. Puppet (where you wrote) the story, how were you not ashamed to share this thing here? Seek sympathy from yours. What can I say when I gave birth for 22 hours without anesthesia and in the end I had so many stitches (external and internal) that it was as if they had quickly assembled me from the rags to the bucket. I was not anesthetized because I am allergic and I have a large diopter in my eyes, so I had to push so delicately so as not to go blind. And let everyone speak with affection about the birth, because these children are wanted, awaited and protected, but not only because of that. The birth itself is amazing.

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porn_corgay answered · October 03, 2020

   to number 9. what are your ideas about the norm, to tell you if we are below or above it. and how long you gave birth is not our problem, you are neither the first nor the last. and as for the fact that everyone speaks with affection about birth, and I think it's amazing, even if you're the majority you're not all. and my baby is wanted and made with love, well, I don't think like you. I wouldn't say that pregnancy is the most comfortable thing that has ever happened to me. not that I also support the author who is lying. I'm number 6.

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shopplanetblue answered · October 03, 2020

   I sympathize with you and hope that you will overcome your depression faster and recover physically, even though I don't think you have taken enough measures. Just because some of the women above had more difficult births doesn't mean yours was easy. Personally, I would do it with a section and I am surprised that number 9 has taken this risk. Weight gain also depends on your body, so the fact that some women gain less means nothing. But this is the situation, you just have to go the hard way to get better. Also, the fact that some drove the pregnancy more easily and were able to go to work does not mean that it is the same for everyone. My mother couldn't even get out of bed. It is not a privilege that a woman can give birth, but a scourge, thanks to which we will never be equal to men. And not all women say how nice it was. Whether you have a second child or not only you can decide, but you have to rethink the things you have to go through and prepare mentally. If the birth itself is a big problem, you could give birth by cesarean section, as well as with epidural anesthesia, for which, however, there must be a revelation. I think you could make things easier, but you have to prepare.

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Burningpurple answered · October 03, 2020

   What's amazing about him - he eats you inside for 9 months, then he eats you outside until he turns 18 or a lifetime. And the whole birth is like the alien coming out.

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tommeken_023 answered · October 03, 2020

   Pregnant at the age of eight months, I was traveling alone on a train and I didn't care at all. Some looked at me strangely, but I was OK. I was consciously moving a lot, I was walking a lot, they said it would help make the birth easier. This was the case, as far as a birth can be "easy", but it happened in 3-4 hours. There were unpleasant moments, I couldn't tie my shoes from my stomach, but I was never unhappy about that. Hey, mom, be braver. And your mother tormented her like that.

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teyahh answered · October 04, 2020

   №9, hello! I am the commentary under №2. Before I got pregnant I was 61 kilograms at 1.75 cm tall. Today I am 67.5 kilograms, and tomorrow I will enter the 9th month of my pregnancy. So, are your doubts justified?

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gentlemenschoice answered · October 04, 2020

   You probably haven't felt motherhood yet, that's why you feel that way. My first pregnancy was pathological. I took her almost only to the hospital, but a few days after I regained consciousness from birth, I was already thinking about having a second child. Well, it came after a while. I like being a mother. I endured the pain and discomfort, but it was worth it. My babies were small and I don't have stretch marks, tears or stitches, but that's in kind.

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bojackhorseman answered · October 04, 2020

   I'm sorry, I'm number 10 and number 8, not 6. bug

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kennypowers11 answered · October 04, 2020

   Until 10 and 15 you didn't understand me ladies, I didn't say it in a tone to insult you or to pick on something, but I noticed that when overweight women gain less than those under normal or normal weight. I was 68 pregnant and I was 76 when I went in to give birth, and I didn't have any problems - no swelling, no water retention, no other discomfort. I don't look at birth with super affection, I just said that the reproduction process itself is wonderful (interesting, exciting ... I can't think of other words), ie. the very development of new life, not "oh it's wonderful" and rolling my sweet eyes up and down. Sorry if you were affected in any way.

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bigtoy4you answered · October 04, 2020

   Until №18: You didn't insult me ​​(me personally). I just answered your question. Also, I'm not saying that pregnancy and childbirth are the most enjoyable things, but a post like the author's is a pure ligature. From the moment of pregnancy? she was generally problem-free, and she tossed her hips all day and moved in a wheelchair, which to me means she's just an incorrigible lizard and manipulator. Greetings! From №15

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biracialgod answered · October 04, 2020

   to 18, from 10 and you did not insult me ​​personally, I got 53 kg pregnant, and now I am 56 and I am 6 months old, and let me tell you whether I will become a pig or not by the end, there is an upload and it is still a discomfort. I agree that childbirth is something extraordinary, but I also disagree with the author who lied. I am somewhere in the middle of your opinions.

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rolacassbigcock answered · October 05, 2020

   You are very stupid honestly, she explains to you that it is interesting from a purely scientific point of view, you still talk that she spoke with affection. The author should take antidepressants and tighten. When I read about the wheelchair, my horse died of a tickle so that it wouldn't get too tired. Horror. Alooo are you normal? Wheelchairs are for the disabled, people who can't walk, not from pregnant cows who are too lazy to make any effort. Being pregnant does not mean immediately throwing yourself on the bed and ending ... 9 months of swimming. That's why overweight, eating and lying down.

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xdivatsx answered · October 05, 2020

   interesting from a purely scientific point of view. and what is interesting to him from a purely scientific point of view number21. tighten it. is not such nonsense, honestly. It could probably be interesting from a scientific point of view, but if people got pregnant yesterday, and not since we existed, as a species. I just have no words. This is a completely normal process, and not only in humans, what is this scientific interest from I don't know you.

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steffycute answered · October 05, 2020

   .... so before I got pregnant, I didn't care what changes in the body the pregnancy caused, because my field of professional realization is far from biology. But then, when it came to my body, I became interested, dug around here and there and it became interesting to me. Showing a belated interest in something doesn't make you a slimy cow, and you ... instead of being picky, go drink cold water, because I'm watching you get very angry.

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leafylive answered · October 05, 2020

   offf number 23. I don't want to offend you or pick on you, there is nothing wrong with showing late interest, better late than never. you obviously weren't there then. As for the changes in a woman's body, which are not described in such detail in the biology textbook, most people know them from a general culture, and now the examination of pregnancy step by step and in great detail is a matter of personal choice. you mean this by belated interest, or at least I hope you mean it, not that you missed a biology class or that you have no general culture. there is hardly a woman who is pregnant and is not interested in detail in what is happening in her or with it. and something I can not understand what problem you have.