Hello! A little for me - I'm 16, from a small town, I've been living in a bigger city near my hometown for 2 years, because the education here is of better quality, and we had plans to move from before. So my story in a nutshell - my parents divorced when I was 4. It was lawyers and screams, courts, scandals - the worst moments of my life so far. My mother took custody and did not allow me to see my father for 2 years, setting me against him and I naturally believed her. After 3 years misery went to work abroad and Dad contacted me and we started to keep in touch, see each other and so on. (otherwise I lived with my grandmother) .. She "supported" us with my grandmother, and my father didn't have much money, but he was a great father and helped as much as he could. Things were fine (as much as possible) until he decided to come home this year. My father kept talking to me, that he was not a good man and shared terrible things with me, but I did not believe him because I loved her. Well, this winter came and unfortunately for me, he was right. Not just a bad person, a freak. He kicked my grandmother out of the house, wouldn't let me go home to my father and beat me on Easter because I was ill and shared it with my father, and he called her while she was with her boyfriend and took him to me and all the neighbors they saw and heard us. I cried in front of them and asked them to help me because she was crazy, and she also cried and said that I had beaten her and they believed her. Since then, we quarrel for the least and threaten me, tell me terrible things (you are nothing, slut, idiot, idler, ungrateful, I don't care about you, I don't owe you anything ...), but it weighs on me the most that he doesn't let me see my father and go home and only tells horrible lies about him (that he wants to sleep with me, that he is a swindler, etc.) just retaliates with this! She also dug into my things several times, as well as on the phone ... before she forbade me to even talk to my father! She manipulates me in every way she wants, she is kind and good, but she can go crazy at any moment, she chases me away from home, and when she reaches out to leave, she locks me up or doesn't let me take my things because they were hers.
I've been on my toes for months to avoid her harassment, but now summer is coming and makes me work here and not go home, which is unthinkable for me! I can't stand her anymore, I hate her! I have no one to live with, my father can't support me permanently, I don't have the opportunity to consult a specialist, and court and child protection are absurd. I just want if anyone has any advice to give me, I will be very grateful! (thanks for your attention in advance) She also dug into my things several times, as well as on the phone ... before she forbade me to even talk to my father! She manipulates me in every way she wants, she is kind and good, but she can go crazy at any moment, she chases me away from home, and when she reaches out to leave, she locks me up or doesn't let me take my things because they were hers. I've been on my toes for months to avoid her harassment, but now summer is coming and makes me work here and not go home, which is unthinkable for me! I can't stand her anymore, I hate her! I have no one to live with, my father can't support me permanently, I don't have the opportunity to consult a specialist, and court and child protection are absurd. I just want if anyone has any advice to give me, I will be very grateful! (thanks for your attention in advance) She also dug into my things several times, as well as on the phone ... before she forbade me to even talk to my father! She manipulates me in every way she wants, she is kind and good, but she can go crazy at any moment, she chases me away from home, and when she reaches out to leave, she locks me up or doesn't let me take my things because they were hers.
I've been on my toes for months to avoid her harassment, but now summer is coming and makes me work here and not go home, which is unthinkable for me! I can't stand her anymore, I hate her! I have no one to live with, my father can't support me permanently, I don't have the opportunity to consult a specialist, and court and child protection are absurd. I just want if anyone has any advice to give me, I will be very grateful! (thanks for your attention in advance) she had forbidden me to even talk to my father before! She manipulates me in every way she wants, she is kind and good, but she can go crazy at any moment, she chases me away from home, and when she reaches out to leave, she locks me up or doesn't let me take my things because they were hers. I've been on my toes for months to avoid her harassment, but now summer is coming and makes me work here and not go home, which is unthinkable for me! I can't stand her anymore, I hate her! I have no one to live with, my father can't support me permanently, I don't have the opportunity to consult a specialist, and court and child protection are absurd. I just want if anyone has any advice to give me, I will be very grateful! (thanks for your attention in advance) she had forbidden me to even talk to my father before! She manipulates me in every way she wants, she is kind and good, but she can go crazy at any moment, she chases me away from home, and when she reaches out to leave, she locks me up or doesn't let me take my things because they were hers.
I've been on my toes for months to avoid her harassment, but now summer is coming and makes me work here and not go home, which is unthinkable for me! I can't take it anymore, I hate her! I have no one to live with, my father can't support me permanently, I don't have the opportunity to consult a specialist, and court and child protection are absurd. I just want if anyone has any advice to give me, I will be very grateful! (thanks for your attention in advance) and when she reached out to leave, she locked me up or wouldn't let me take my things because they were hers. I've been on my toes for months to avoid her harassment, but now summer is coming and makes me work here and not go home, which is unthinkable for me! I can't stand her anymore, I hate her! I have no one to live with, my father can't support me permanently, I don't have the opportunity to consult a specialist, and court and child protection are absurd. I just want if anyone has any advice to give me, I will be very grateful! (thanks for your attention in advance) and when she reached out to leave, she locked me up or wouldn't let me take my things because they were hers. I've been on my toes for months to avoid her harassment, but now summer is coming and makes me work here and not go home, which is unthinkable for me! I can't stand her anymore, I hate her! I have no one to live with, my father can't support me permanently, I don't have the opportunity to consult a specialist, and court and child protection are absurd. I just want if anyone has any advice to give me, I will be very grateful! (thanks for your attention in advance) dad can not support me permanently, I do not have the opportunity to consult a specialist, and the court and child protection is absurd. I just want if anyone has any advice to give me, I will be very grateful! (thanks for your attention in advance) dad can not support me permanently, I do not have the opportunity to consult a specialist, and the court and child protection is absurd. I just want if anyone has any advice to give me, I will be very grateful! (thanks for your attention in advance)
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You last another 2 years until you reach adulthood and then you abandon it forever. Some people do not deserve to have children. The other option is to file a complaint of domestic violence with social services. If we were a normal European country, it would work. Hardly in Bulgaria. This is unfortunately ...
That's right. I've been thinking about a complaint and that's exactly what's stopping me ... here the police are a horror. No use. Obviously patience is my only option ... from the author
Take a picture of the beatings, record her secretly insulting you and go immediately to Child Protection, there is nothing more to delay, you will break your psyche for another 2 years with her! And even after you turn 13 or 14, you can choose which of your two parents to live with. As for the consultation with a specialist, you can go to the school psychologist before you have finished the school year and share your situation with him / her and he / she can help you. 7-8 years ago, a friend of my classmate saved herself from her abusive father, who beat her for good and bad. In her new school they noticed a bruise on her eye and immediately sent her to the psychologist, and after she told him how things were, he reported the same day to the social services and took her out and placed her with a more normal relative.
Up to 1 - and when he reaches the age of majority and has no profession, how exactly will he drop it? She will work unskilled labor and suddenly she will be able to pay rent, eat, buy all the necessary things and clothes, etc .... If this happened, she can still separate and lives with his father. She is currently economically dependent on her mother.
The traces have disappeared, I haven't been since, because I'm careful with my words and actions. I am well acquainted with the situation here with our psychologist .. once I had shared something related to this issue and she, although I explained to her that my mother does not go out of her way, knew hers .. that's why I said that I do not have the opportunity for consultations with anyone. I can't live with my father because he is unemployed and can barely make ends meet. I have no relatives or friends to stay with. I do not intend to be put in a boarding house, because it is worse than harassment in our country .. It is clear to me that my psyche is at great risk (not even a year and I already feel like I'm going crazy with this lifestyle) . It is clear to me that I am at a dead end, but I decided to share here anyway, at least if someone has experienced something like that to share how he coped ..
I'm 1 to 4 again. Well, he will study and work. Many people do it and they manage. Such a poisonous parent is in the long run much more harmful than working as a cleaner or as a saleswoman - modestly, but independently, without addictions. There is no unworthy work. There are unworthy people.
From 4 to 1 - it sounds good in fairy tales, but do you think how long it takes? People who have education and experience, it takes them months to find a job for less than 1000 BGN, and a girl who has no professional experience and who will have costs many times higher than those of already settled people, so, hitting 18 and he runs with his luggage ... And if he lives in a city other than Sofia or Plovdiv, the chance is almost zero. As a cleaner or saleswoman, she won't even be able to pay her rent. Those who combine work and study come from normal families, where they are neither mentally harassed nor denied material support in extreme cases.
I want someone like 4 or 4 himself to explain why in topics like that of the author / or the author / it is said that at 18 they cannot be exported, but that they will not be able to be exported, that they are / will be dependent, economic . And that the export was something from super difficult to impossible. And in topics where the complaint of the minor is: 'my mother is cheating on my father, should I tell him?', / 'My father is cheating on my mother, should I tell her?', Then always, absolutely always the advice is : 'you are already big / big, you will be 18 for another 2 years and you will move out ....'
Talk to your mother-in-law. Why unemployed? If your father has an income, and since you have the right to choose where to live, you go to him. The island environment cripples you for life. Now, going back, I wouldn't last a day to live the way I lived. There are options, but being patient is not an option. There are a lot of organizations write to them and see what they will advise you. Getting away from your mother is a must.
Until 9 -It is very clear to me .. I have talked, we talk every day and I ask him to come up with some way on this issue with the money, but he still says that there is nothing he can do at the moment. It is true that he is a little old and he can't do any work, but he makes me very angry and sad at the same time that he is standing idly by. We have a restaurant (closed for years) in my hometown that we talked about selling it, but he wants the money from him to provide me with higher education (I study in an elite school and I do not think I will ruin my future without higher education) .. There is an almost uncertain probability that my mother will leave again (as a result things will return to normal) but it is 1 in 100 .. on this "1" by the author
From 4 to 8: I personally have never and nowhere given advice such as "you are already big / big, you will be 18 for another 2 years and you will move out ....". I don't know why he called me such a double standard. In general, I have given arguments, and you have none. You get annoyed and pointless.