Hi I'm twenty-one, and although I graduated with honors I don't go to university. For me, this is not a problem, maybe because I have not yet found myself, but for my mother, who is ambitious by nature, it is a big blow. Let's just say that our views on my future are a little different. She sees me as a successful lawyer or architect. A polished diamond to brag about to the girlfriends at their ladies' dinners. And before you decide that I'm a spoiled girl who cares about her mother, who, like any mother, thinks only good of him, I want to point out that I actually have an idea of what I want to do for now. I want to go to sixteen months of voluntary training in Africa. You may already remember that no one liked it. My sister was amazed at my sacrificial spirit, and my mother was ready to declare me mad, and so in a fit of despair I thought that at least my friend would stand by me, but where he was more surprised and angry even than my family. I tried to speak meaningfully and cleverly, pointing out some well-known facts to them. According to UNICEF, 22,000 children die every day due to poverty. They are dying "quietly" in some of the poorest areas of the earth, far from our sight and conscience. And because there is no publicity about this fact worldwide, it makes the deaths of these children even more invisible. According to a UNICEF report, nearly 1 billion people have welcomed the 21st century without being able to read and write their names. If human development means broadening horizons, then poverty drastically limits these opportunities and deprives man of even the most basic and necessary things for a normal and healthy life. These are just some of the facts I pointed out. Now my question is what to do to listen to my mother and follow her plans for my future or to fuck everyone and do what I have decided. Thanks in advance for your advice and help.
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The greatest battle you will ever fight is the battle to be yourself! If you want this, do it. Why your mother has to stop you. There is a popular belief in society that all mothers should be lawyers, engineers and some high positions, but isn't it if you want it. Don't hesitate about that. If this is your desire, if this is what you want to do, then do so. If you like it, go on, if you don't like it, you can always become a lawyer again or whatever you like there. Although, if you do what you want, many more people will be happy to have you than if you become a lawyer. These positions have long been not working for justice, but for money. Personally, if you were in a position to be tried, which lawyer would you trust? If you are in a position to save your life, would you trust someone who wants to help you? =]
You sound like a pretty inflated and brainwashed! I returned from Nigeria 2 weeks ago, after a month-long business trip there ... What can I tell you - a banana republic is everywhere! All year between 25 and 30'C, they have no winter, their food grows on the trees - you just reach out and break away! The world's second largest oil producer, after Saudi Arabia, also has diamonds and gold. They can live like kings, but they live like animals - because of the great intelligence, education and diligence they have innate in abundance :) Corrupt country, corrupt government, and the common man thinks that money is taken from trees, like bananas .. From the airport, they start clutching you to fill in some of the countless papers and declarations they have made up about staying in their country against the "modest" and "voluntary" on your part a reward of $ 10-20 ... To be able to see only their disappointed and evil faces after you don't give them ... :) So if you go in order to educate them something, to show them that there is something in life and difficult periods like winter, where people have to mobilize and unite in order to survive, and in general to give themselves a little more effort - yes! Go, educate them! However, if you are going to "save" them from themselves - forget it! Lost cause! Look, if you plan to comb it with someone local - you will succeed immediately. UNICEF keeps good statistics, but they don't mention exactly what children die from (this "poverty" is a very expansive concept) ... In Africa, to die of laziness or ignorance (as well as those of your parents) is a very good reason! They and the flies always lay hundreds of thousands of larvae,
Girl, do you know what diseases are rampant in Africa ????? You better open this link to realize! http://www.24chasa.bg/Article.asp?ArticleId=4219834 It's good that you want to help, but when you ruin your health you will not be very well. You decide, but think before you act. Write what you plan to do, because I follow your topic. :) A boy
So, young idealist, listen to your mother and read 3 carefully, this is the truth of life. And by the way, these people just don't want to be saved, that's why they can't be saved. Something like our gypsies. Go with your noble intentions to one of our gypsy neighborhoods, I think you will quickly understand how right all the critics of your noble intentions are ... M, 36
What is it for you to fight your way to Africa? Go live with a gypsy katun for a while and try to ennoble them. The more you succeed with them, the more you will succeed with the Africans. You are very good-natured and very naive, you think you can change the world and that everyone in a difficult situation is a victim, but the truth is that most of them are a scoundrel who not only deserves nothing more, but is also a threat to civilization. And even if your cause is really good, you still can't change anything with your idealism. You will only ruin your life. Choose whether to use your best years to get an education and contacts with people at your level or to sacrifice for your utopia. At most, to return with a tropical disease or a pregnant nigger. Your poor mother!
In Africa, apart from animals, I do not recommend doing anything else.
There are too many poor children in our country who are malnourished, ill, suffering and in need of help, attention and care. It will be much easier and more successful to help them, for linguistic and other reasons. As a young man, I was outraged that children in third world countries were starving to death. Now I look at it differently. I myself refrain from having children because I see that I do not have the means and will be miserable, and the parents of starving Africans do not take their situation into account, even though they are worse than me. I do not approve of the stimulation of irresponsibility and primitivism, and in our country there are also these things. Well, it's true that here you are familiar with the situation and it doesn't seem romantic to you, like in Africa - you go to see the world when you are attracted by adventurism. The bad thing is that because of your frivolity you doom the people who care about you,
hello, in my opinion if you have an education you could change many more things! What prevents you from finishing something good - international relations, for example, and then devoting yourself to the cause. Only in this way do you have the opportunity to do things. Otherwise now - what? at 22. You go in 2 years. in africa to look after children - you go back to 25 - what are you going to do? without education at 25 and with work experience babysitting ... and how do you imagine you can change what you quote?
It is normal for your loved ones to be against. Africa is a very dangerous continent - many diseases, rapes, murders, terrorist groups. I have two acquaintances who have lived there for 2-3 years and advised me never to go. The wild animals that walk are your least problem, the "people" where they are lurking to orgasm YOU ARE at least significantly bigger. So think carefully about whether you are ready to sacrifice your security and life, and whether you are ready to make your mother and sister and your boyfriend worry so much about you. Otherwise, what exactly will you help there? I don't know what can be done on the spot. If you really want to help them, deal with politics, with finances - in fact, everything is decided there.
Either it's all a fabrication, or you're just looking for a reason to "go crazy" with Africans for 16 months. Number 3 summarizes well the whole situation in Africa. So, if there is at least a gram of truth in what is written, then you are looking for personal reasons, not noble causes.
It's not like I think you're wrong number 5 even in your most difficult days, even when you don't see a future everyone secretly wants to be saved, but most just don't admit it, and what's worse is that those who do we refuse to hear. From the young idealist
And asking? Fuck everyone and follow your dreams !!! This is your life and then you will be happy / unhappy with the choices you have made, not your mother, your sister, or your boyfriend. P.S. Aren't you worried about Ebola in Africa right now? Maybe it would be wiser to wait a while until the epidemic is over?
I'm number 3. If you want to do something really meaningful in your life, as others suggest, just follow this Man's example: http://vbox7.com/play:4a0bab65ee&start=2 There is an article about him here: http: // www. vesti.bg/bulgaria/obshtestvo/goliamata-mechta-na-fizika-teo-koiato-trogna-bylgariia-6026555
God, protect from such cowards, pessimists and prisoners of your "perfect" lives that they advise !!! When you die in your bed one day, you will remember Africa and your life, but only on a card drawn in your mind, if you follow other people's words and expectations, not your own!
To number 15: Better on a card than 21 years old dead Africa is a place where the chance of getting a deadly disease is over 97% and the chance of surviving below 0. Do not go there so that your loved ones do not suffer, think hard whether you want to live. Everyone has dreams and wants to help, but life is 1 and there is no point in killing ourselves in the hope of something :) DT