I share my story, hoping to motivate other women in a similar situation. It took me a long time and consultation with a psychologist to realize that I was harassed by my ex-boyfriend. We were together for only 4 years, this was my way to Hell and back. I met him by chance, he was a mutual acquaintance of a friend, he started writing to me and after a very short time we lived with his mother, I was blinded by love and believing that I had found the happiness of my life. I didn't realize what a mistake I had made, I didn't see that the man next to me was obsessed with his mother and her opinion. She kept trying to dominate, to criticize me, to follow me, to create all kinds of intrigues, and he trusted her with everything. Despite everything, I got pregnant by this man, I was in the seventh heaven of happiness, I thought things would change and we would even move out just the two of us, but alas, he told me he would not leave his mother. After the child was born, my hell began, his mother did not stop intriguing, he became terribly suspicious of everything, imposing and controlling my every move. He isolates me from everything and everyone, even my family, by telling me "that he is my new family." He kept writing to me during the day while he was at work, if I didn't answer, he started even more insistently, we often quarreled, about all sorts of things, he never apologized for anything, telling me that I was guilty and I had to sorry to make things right. These series of quarrels did not stop until dawn, he slammed doors, slapped our baby, who was one year old, if he was touched by something out of curiosity, and the greatest horror was when he installed cameras. Our house has become a constant observatory, the cameras were everywhere and I felt disgustingly controlled, to my displeasure he blamed me, I almost cheated on him, then I decided I had to take my life in my hands and I left it with our child. Here I want to confirm that he did not hit me personally, although he threatened me a lot, but the mental harassment became constant. To all women reading this ... you don't have to get external bruises, violence can also take the form of control and disrespect, isolation from your friends, etc. You don't have to live like that, love and respect yourself! I will be happy if other women share other positive stories, be healthy and happy. that he did not hit me personally, although he threatened me a lot, but the mental harassment became constant. To all women reading this ... you don't have to get external bruises, violence can also take the form of control and disrespect, isolation from your friends, etc. You don't have to live like that, love and respect yourself! I will be happy if other women share other positive stories, be healthy and happy. that he did not hit me personally, although he threatened me a lot, but the mental harassment became constant. To all women reading this ... you don't have to get external bruises, violence can also take the form of control and disrespect, isolation from your friends, etc. You don't have to live like that, love and respect yourself! I will be happy if other women share other positive stories, be healthy and happy.
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It took you 4 years and a psychologist to understand that this is harassment? It's not about self-esteem, you're emotionally infantile.
Very well written topic. I agree with your statement that harassment is not just physical.
Number 1 proves that he knows absolutely nothing, you are emotionally infantile, people who have experienced such horror do not realize that they are being harassed. Have you ever heard of Stockholm syndrome? Or are people who have experienced something similar "emotionally infantile"? You lack any sympathy, I hope you never fall into such a situation ... well, good health
"To all women, victims of domestic violence" What an inadequate title! What experience do you have? It could be as you describe it. And I have heard my wife claim that she is mentally abused! Why, for no reason? This "mental harassment" began after I revealed her one-year extramarital affair. Beginning of harassment - I forcibly ended this relationship. Further - she lost the "privileges" to go at night to drink with a friend (the official version) and to get along when she decides and during this time the children are alone (when I'm at work I'm absent). I don't trust her at all, and she still deceives me. And it's not for something serious, obviously a habit or to keep fit (women are given this a lot). Otherwise she lives well, I take her on trips, she has no financial worries. So who is the victim here? PP: I think about cameras too, but it's obviously nice to keep them a secret, that most want to be "free" and "whine" unaccountable! Otherwise you will hardly have such a problem.
Author, women usually find out how bad her husband is (in your case, 4 years) after holding on to another branch. Is your case an exception?
6, and since she's as bad as you describe her, why don't you get a divorce! And don't make excuses with the kids. There is no power in the world to force you not to take care of them if you want to. To love and take care of your children, you do not need to be married, you can get a divorce! Putting cameras in the home is paranoia, in any case harassment and abnormal behavior. When you don't get along with the person, you don't trust him, you don't love him anymore, you get a divorce, you don't follow him, you beat, kill, torture and I don't know what else.
It amazes me how no one reads. Avorka wrote that she had lived with the person in question for 4 years, not that she had consulted so much.
Number 5, if your standards are lower than crippled pygmies (yours are obviously yours), then your ligature would be adequate. With one catch, that the signals sent by the mom and son in question must be a pretty clear sign from the start that something is wrong. You want a clearer indicator - the little one lives with mom. Read this again: with mom. And he puts his partner there. More interesting: together 4 years, the child at the end was 1 (born about 3), 9 months of pregnancy. That is, just over 2 years after the marriage, there have been conscious attempts to conceive. Yes, it sends from maturity. Everyone respects themselves to a degree, I very much doubt that you like people to have you for garbage and to push you on the street. The inability to see the obvious, to sink into someone as if you were 16,
Hey author, this female pride after female emancipation makes women unhappy, thinking they are equal to men. What does domestic violence mean? Statistics show that women verbally rape men, with the excessive rights of women granted to them by law. Men today no longer want to get married, they do not want a family in which the woman will be the head of the family. This has already worn off with domestic violence. When you left your husband, you freed him from the nightmares that would haunt him. Cameras at home do not bite the author, and it was better not to know about them. Women's infidelity, which is tolerated today, is easily proven with cameras. If your husband didn't beat you up, then there was no domestic violence. I have witnessed a case in which a man expelled his wife together with the child. He caught her in his own house putting horns on him. The woman begged him to beat her, but not to persecute her, because they were not married, they lived on a family basis! So, when you left the man, you did not punish him, but rewarded him. Instead of taking his eyes out, you painted his eyebrows!
So number 11, by your logic, has to be a residence in order to be violent? What kind of nonsense is this? Nowhere is it written that there is infidelity ... so, let me see what violence and its various forms mean: Domestic violence comes in many forms, including physical violence, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, threats, intimidation, economic deprivation, and threats of violence. . Violence can be criminal and include physical assault and violence (hitting, pushing, etc.), sexual abuse (unwanted or violent sexual activity) and surveillance. Would you like someone who is obviously paranoid to watch you in your own house? To monitor your chats and restrict your freedom? What are you thinking about? For God? It is high time for men in Bulgaria to realize that you cannot constantly dominate, because you are the "stronger sex." And these clichés that women are to blame for you, that you don't want to get married, don't betray them. Since you are very wondering what domestic violence means, here you are in English if you understand: There are different kinds of abuse, but it's always about having power and control over you. If you answer yes to any of the following questions, you might be in an abusive relationship. Emotional abuse Does your partner ever: belittle you, or put you down? blame you for the abuse or arguments? deny that abuse is happening, or play it down? isolate you from your family and friends? stop you going to college or work? make unreasonable demands for your attention? accuse you of flirting or having affairs? tell you what to wear, who to see, where to go, and what to think? control your money, or not give you enough to buy food or other essential things? Are you still wondering? In the Western countries this Balkan mentality is not tolerated, hopefully in Bulgaria one day people will open their eyes to the types of violence. PS: - Women are equal to men - In order for the law to give "many" rights to women, it means that until recently there were none. "You're as arrogant as you want to be." Do you understand?
Number 12, don't you think you're floating in the clouds? By your logic, it will turn out that women are bigger bullies. How will you identify and prove that there has been sexual abuse, emotional abuse, intimidation, intimidation, economic deprivation and threats of violence. Or is it enough for the woman to just say that there was such a thing, and hop, the man is already a criminal? If a man and a woman are married, have become a family, what sexual violence are you talking about? If a man wants sex and a woman doesn't want it, then what? Should the man masturbate her? Or the woman wanted it, and the man is tired and doesn't want to, and maybe she's tired of it, then what? Is the man a bully again, because he does not want to hurt his wife, but wants to spit out someone younger and fresher? No one can follow me in my own house, because I am the law there! And you women, not only in Bulgaria, but everywhere, must realize that men will always dominate, because we are stronger and smarter than you. Therefore, when a woman gets into an argument with a man, she should not pretend to be a victim, because such a woman is not innocent. At least you could translate what you posted in English correctly? Tell me, how do you understand exactly that? or not give you enough to buy food or other essential things? And how much money do you think is enough to buy a woman food, and what are the other important things besides sanitary napkins if there is a menstrual cycle? Now look what you wrote! "PS: - Women ARE EQUAL TO MEN - In order for the law to give women" many "rights, there have been no such rights until recently." What are they equal to? Equal in height, in craftsmanship, in physical strength, in speed, how exactly do you see them equal? Because I, as a gender, see them as lower, fatter and cellulite, physically much weaker and incapable, and very, very evil beings when men do not please them. And since until now they did not have rights, and now they have, then why should they have more rights than men, when they are supposed to be equal? It is these greater rights that make men enforce their rules because they feel disgusted by the law. And what are these abnormal laws that will forbid men from beating impudent women who mock male authority? How will they make angry men obey them? Do you know how much we care about the Balkans, what they tolerate and what not in the west? They tolerate the most fagots there, because they have almost no men, but they are left gay and gay, and they are used to female perverted power, where she turned them into masochists. I will wait for a woman soldier to protect me, a woman firefighter to save me, a woman chief to shine on me and tell me how to work without her having the slightest idea of the activity. Do not worry! And the fagot west is coming to an end! Soon the bearded "refugees" will show him how equal women are to them, and where they belong! I don't know which of us is more arrogant, since you dare to compare yourself with men, and you don't acknowledge male superiority! Do you understand? and where is their place! I don't know which of us is more arrogant, since you dare to compare yourself with men, and you don't acknowledge male superiority! Do you understand? and where is their place! I don't know which of us is more arrogant, since you dare to compare yourself with men, and you don't acknowledge male superiority! Do you understand?
From 6 and 7: "8. 6, and since she is as bad as you describe her, why don't you divorce! And don't justify yourself with the children." Not a very young lady 8! How did it occur to you that I wanted an opinion on my life? I wrote very specifically on the topic! My idea was (apparently 8 she thinks everyone wants advice on everything) that it is quite possible that she and my wife do not have mental harassment at all. It is contradictory to live for 4 years and suddenly you discover that not much happens - this discovery ALWAYS happens when there is another branch! If the woman (not necessarily the author) is fickle and constantly looking, but her husband does not agree 100%. Well, is this violence? So my wife likes to go out at night and drink (for example) and pretend to be tolerant and jealous for so long. E, so if I don't agree to squirm by dumping the kids outside, am I harassing her? I find it very funny when a man says - without trust how to build a family? By giving confidence by default, be prepared to build not the family (it will be temporary), but the horns. Big, big HORNS! There is almost no woman, if there is no control not to cheat. They usually start after the age of 30. It is possible that this is exactly the case with the author. She is ready to cheat, but she knows that she will be caught (because her husband knows that a woman cannot be trusted) and that is why she "runs away from the wind". Naturally, her husband is guilty (always) and after the separation, only a few days later he accidentally meets another - and lived happily ever after (much less than 4 years with the bullies). To be honest, many more men are harassed. And at least 50-60%, but we will hardly hear of any action being taken against any woman. So women can harass men with impunity, and men, even if you want a more responsible behavior of your wife, as goes to the mother, for example, such men are declared abusers.