Meet Him and She, so to speak. In middle age, with 2 children and a relatively long marriage, full of contradictions, scandals, discrepancies in expectations and reality, immature actions and ... lack of love. The truth is, they shouldn't have been together because they are too different in libido and love. She - over the years more and more frigid and alienated from him. He is aggressive, demanding sex, trampling on her personal space, jealous. The situation today - for a year and a half she refuses any physical contact with him, wants to live as a brother and sister. The reason it gives - long-standing accumulated resentment, insult and the like. She has not yet left him due to financial dependence (the children are relatively small) and unwillingness to deprive her children of a father. He - insists on his rights - regular, quality sex, whether she wants it or not. She doesn't want to look for him outside, she doesn't want to leave the family because of the children. In his eyes, she is obliged to let him go, whether she wants to or not, it's just right and normal. In her eyes, she no longer wants to force herself to be intimate with someone who does not attract and respect her. No one wants to take a step towards dissolving this semblance of marriage. Is there a way out of this impasse?
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Lack of physical attraction is very important. Alienation will accumulate and one day this marriage is doomed. Forcibly, panties are not removed ...
I am a woman, and I have always defended the female position in such disputes - just out of pure female solidarity. But in this case, I can't, I just can't. I have no idea who wrote the story - the woman or the man - but my opinion is that the woman wrote in this unfortunate marriage. That is why I will turn to a woman-lady, every partner has the right to ask for sex from the person he is going to live with. If he wants it from other places, it's a million times worse, believe me. If you're frigid, you don't care about sex, why did you get married at all? Do you know, do you have any idea how many women dream of being in your place, of their husband wanting and wanting them, just them, and not foreign women? There is no justice in this life, and there will never be cold-blooded serpents like this woman, their husbands want them, they pray for what is rightfully theirs, and they are loving, hot girls their husbands don't look at them — just because they're women. If you are a married woman, do not complain - a normal person will not protect you.
If there is no love and sex, this marriage is only on paper. If I'm in your husband's place, I won't stay with you for a minute. Where do you find such fools to stay without sex for years and to pray to the woman. Shoot in the ass and get well, women and girls free as you want !!!
Number 2, do you understand the nuances? The woman feels used, not respected, I guess she refuses, not because she feels wanted and loved, but on the contrary, used. This woman is financially dependent, otherwise she would have left her husband a long time ago.
The way out is for the woman to find a source of finances and part with this man. I don't think she loves him, maybe he doesn't love her either. There is simply nothing else suitable for sex, he does not stand without sex and wants to use it. You number 2, do you realize that?
№4, it dawned on me that I didn't understand. Both her husband supports her financially and she feels used. So where is the nuance here? Whether we like it or not, once we get to support someone, we still have to pay in some way. Unfortunately there is no free lunch. If this situation does not suit you - you stand firmly on your feet, you ensure some financial independence - when you find a job, of course, you leave a marriage that suffocates you. Hard but achievable. And I don't want to argue with you or anyone - that's just the way I understand things.