Hello, my friend, whom I care about a lot, has problems with alcohol. He tries to stop, but drinks at every opportunity. He drinks beer, and sometimes hard alcohol, and when he mixes them he freaks out and kills with madness and aggression. Now he doesn't drink every day, he tries, but he looks for occasions, alone or with friends. The bad thing is that he says he can stop at any time and he doesn't like alcohol, so why does he do it, obviously he's lying. When he gets drunk and starts lying and making up nonsense. Sometimes I wonder if there are no mental problems. Is it possible for a mature man to think so. I even wondered if he was taking drugs. He has left his appearance shaggy, not bathed like a tramp. Some time ago he said he had a problem and agreed to treatment, now he says no problem, I don't need treatment. The problem is that theirs doesn't care much for him and feels neglected, a kind of punishes them. I support him, we fight, and I try, but I'm already wondering what to do.
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So, a person who was alcoholic wrote to you. As a child, I loved homemade wine, sweet alcohols like liqueur, in small quantities, of course, because my relatives poured, but whether it was simply due to hereditary predisposition - when I became a teenager, I started drinking. The quality of the alcohol did not matter, I bought for what I had money, occasions - there was none, it was interesting to get drunk in company, we drool. It started to get bad when it became a habit and started to interfere with my daily life (this is the difference between a drinker and an alcoholic), I had no boundaries, it started to interfere with my emotions, my thoughts, you may look inadequate - yes, when not you drank, and you drank, you began to feel not only a mental need, but also a physical one. I stopped without help, without therapy, but it didn't work out. I reduced the amount, I subsequently replaced hard alcohol with light alcoholic beverages such as ciders. Instead of 1 liter of wine or rum or liqueur, I drank one cider, but over time, I increased their number. The insidious thing about them is that they are sweet and tasty, that made me, and the feeling of alcohol - to increase their number. The funny thing was that after I stopped the hard alcohol and the amount, I started getting very drunk, and it turned out that the ciders with 3-4% alcohol had an equally harmful effect on me, and they have sugar, which is very , expensive kidneys, liver ... Well, I realized that they are not a solution, and I just decided to stop. There was a temptation, but I stopped communicating with the people I drank with, I didn't go to restaurants, we didn't bring alcohol home ... there was no alcohol in my daily life, it was a completely conscious choice because I saw that I wasn't doing well. I saw it, I also saw it in the eyes of the people I interacted with, but they didn't drink, they told me things that weren't personal, we weren't close, but I could see how strange they were, how they treated someone who didn't deserve their attention. I like to communicate, I like to get along with people and for me - ignoring and forced isolation are horrible. They made me think. Take yourself as a mirror and show your friend - what he is. Do not criticize, do not try to be a teacher, sage, mother, sister, therapist for him. People are most startled when they see themselves in a way they don't like, that they don't want for themselves. Be sure that he does not want to be like that, but he is like that because he has succumbed to alcohol. There may be side effects, but there may not be - people without serious problems become addicted. they told me things that weren't personal, we weren't close, but I could see how strange they were, how they treated someone who didn't deserve their attention. I like to communicate, I like to get along with people and for me - ignoring and forced isolation are horrible. They made me think. Take yourself as a mirror and show your friend - what he is. Do not criticize, do not try to be a teacher, sage, mother, sister, therapist for him. People are most startled when they see themselves in a way they don't like, that they don't want for themselves. Be sure that he does not want to be like that, but he is like that because he has succumbed to alcohol. There may be side effects, but there may not be - people without serious problems become addicted. they told me things that weren't personal, we weren't close, but I could see how strange they were, how they treated someone who didn't deserve their attention. I like to communicate, I like to get along with people and for me - ignoring and forced isolation are horrible. They made me think. Take yourself as a mirror and show your friend - what he is. Do not criticize, do not try to be a teacher, sage, mother, sister, therapist for him. People are most startled when they see themselves in a way they don't like, that they don't want for themselves. Be sure that he does not want to be like that, but he is like that because he has succumbed to alcohol. There may be side effects, but there may not be - people without serious problems become addicted. how their attitude was like someone not deserving of their attention. I like to communicate, I like to get along with people and for me - ignoring and forced isolation are horrible. They made me think. Take yourself as a mirror and show your friend - what he is. Do not criticize, do not try to be a teacher, sage, mother, sister, therapist for him. People are most startled when they see themselves in a way they don't like, that they don't want for themselves. Be sure that he does not want to be like that, but he is like that because he has succumbed to alcohol. There may be side effects, but there may not be - people without serious problems become addicted. how their attitude was like someone not deserving of their attention. I like to communicate, I like to get along with people and for me - ignoring and forced isolation are horrible. They made me think. Take yourself as a mirror and show your friend - what he is. Do not criticize, do not try to be a teacher, sage, mother, sister, therapist for him. People are most startled when they see themselves in a way they don't like, that they don't want for themselves. Be sure that he does not want to be like that, but he is like that because he has succumbed to alcohol. There may be side effects, but there may not be - people without serious problems become addicted. Take yourself as a mirror and show your friend - what he is. Do not criticize, do not try to be a teacher, sage, mother, sister, therapist for him. People are most startled when they see themselves in a way they don't like, that they don't want for themselves. Be sure that he does not want to be like that, but he is like that because he has succumbed to alcohol. There may be side effects, but there may not be - people without serious problems become addicted. Take yourself as a mirror and show your friend - what he is. Do not criticize, do not try to be a teacher, sage, mother, sister, therapist for him. People are most startled when they see themselves in a way they don't like, that they don't want for themselves. Be sure that he does not want to be like that, but he is like that because he has succumbed to alcohol. There may be side effects, but there may not be - people without serious problems become addicted.
I apologize for some mistakes in my previous comment, I write from the phone. I also forgot to write that the denial process lasted about 6 years. Now I have no desire to drink, even if there is alcohol around me, it is not so difficult for me, I even tried a sip of wine years ago, and it tasted terrible. Of course, I wouldn't associate with people who like to get together and drink, because there's a saying - once you've been someone, you can still be that person.
2, and instead of apologizing, wouldn't it be easier to just correct them? Or are the mistakes not because of the phone, but because of illiteracy? What's wrong with your phone, that you don't know that a comma is not written before "and"?
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Number 3, how unhappy you have to be to pick on others how to write. Yes, you can fix them, but this nagging method doesn't always work.
3, as long as you've spoiled each topic with spelling conversations. I'm just tired of this thing, we're here to help each other. I'm not 1 and 2, I mark it because I'm tired. To me and many others.