Hello? An 18-year-old girl writes. And here is my story: Half a year ago I met a boy, 2 years younger than me. We liked each other, but the problem was that he kept lying to me, sometimes we were together, sometimes we weren't. In February we finally stopped contacts. He wrote to me a week ago. He asks me what he does and things like that, he says he has found a boyfriend (I don't know how much to trust him), but I don't care. His indifference killed me. He keeps asking me if I don't have a boyfriend, if I won't find one. His self-esteem has risen even more, he goes to the gym, it's already the "big" job. I was the one who ended the relationship and I told him we could be friends, but he refused. But it's my fault, I was deluded and blind. I just wanted to have someone by my side and he was the only option at the time. But I understood that one should not compromise about the person one wants to be with. I have a question: If we stop looking for and wanting something, will it come to us unexpectedly? Are there passengers for each train?
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Hello! Well ... where do I start ... First of all, the boy you were with obviously isn't old enough to have any connection. If he's a complex and bloated kid, that's his problem, let him be like that and come on, good health. If you need a person next to you, obviously this is not the right one. Don't answer him at all as he writes to you and don't give him a reason to be annoyed with you about anything. Let him find some other fun. He may remember that he wants to be with you, not paying attention to him, but the goal is to always want you, not when he wants to, right? Secondly, there are passengers for every train, I agree with this statement, but to some extent. That is, you cannot stand and wait for something good to happen to you without a little effort. Every aspect of our lives requires effort, including love. If you want to find a friend, go out, contact new people, be friendly, sociable ... you can't fall from the sky. Otherwise, yes, sometimes you can find the right person, where and when you least expected, but for this purpose, you still have to be active in some way. And in this line of thinking, you are very wrong that no compromises should be made. As someone who has a little more experience than you, I will tell you that compromises are the basis of a full and true relationship. There is no way two people can fit perfectly in every respect. Everyone has an individuality, character, understanding, which you must comply with and show the necessary respect. You will always have to compromise on something, but here we must distinguish between "compromise" and "blind naivete". In the second case, you close your eyes to something which is in complete conflict with your desires and understandings, you justify actions and behavior that offends and hurts you, just so you don't lose the person next to you. Tolerate disgust, constant lies and frivolous behavior is not a compromise, but a pure mistake. That's not what you should do. So, now you have to learn from your relationship with this boy, keep to yourself and move on.
Hello! Hey, you're not the only one with this problem. I had a similar one before. Yes, there are passengers for each train. You are really mistaken, but for the better, stop all contact with him. If you don't want this connection anymore, once it says to you, just ignore it or something. I feel that you are very strong and you don't need a boy next to you to handle yourself, but alas, deep down, as you say, we need someone. Believe me, sooner or later the right person will appear with you. Then you will just recognize him and love each other a lot, and you will not even remember the past. Let him live with self-confidence, and you move forward boldly! At the most unexpected moment, the best thing will happen! Just wait a minute.
Now you are 18, a year and a half ago you were 16, and he is 2 years younger, so he was 14 ... What do you expect from such a "relationship"? !! These are straightforward stories worthy of kindergarten. Grow up a little and mature, and then do serious things.
I do not understand how sometimes people 15 years old. are more aware of life than someone aged 18-20. We are all differently smart. But sometimes people in their 20s express themselves in such a way that others in their 15s will laugh at their statements. Yes, things happen most often by accident. And yes, there are passengers for every train.
It depends on what the train is
Yes, there are passengers for every train, but some people do not use trains because they are not suitable for them and do not want to compromise on what transport they will travel in life.
To your first question - YES !!!! (from personal experience) On the second question - also YES
Thank you very much for all :) Only forward and up;) Good luck to all with love! by the author
Honey, look, now you've dumped him and he's chewing it from the inside, or he still has feelings or he wants to give it back to you, you decide which of the two. If he had dumped you if he cared about you, what do you think? They say they are looking for good girls, but in fact it turns out to be different ... they like a woman who is bad and unfaithful or the one who shows nepotism. To the questions asked: 1Yes, it is possible, but think about it since we don't want it, what to accept it for again, if it will be just to scratch our ego and we no longer have feelings ... it's just a waste of time. But if you loved someone, it stays with you almost forever, it's not as strong as in the beginning, but there is still a desire. 2 / Yes, for most people! (female 26)