Hello, I am at a dead end, because 8 months ago the woman of my life left me entirely through my fault. Unfortunately, I was not given a chance to make amends (I was cheated on). Since then I am sick, I go out with others, I have sex with others, but I see her. She has already continued her life and is probably seeing someone else and she must have forgotten me. My contact attempts were unsuccessful, I was blocked and ignored everywhere, and I gave up trying to talk at all. I threw away all the photos, deleted everything from the phone, etc., I tried to move on by deleting everything, but I can't delete the memories. Women have always been interested in me, I have a business, everything in my life is organized and quite well financially, but without it nothing makes sense to me. I would replace everything I have so I can hug her one more time. I have many friends with whom I try to go out all the time, because if I am left alone the pain crushes me. I have never experienced more pain in my life, I prefer physical pain to the hole it left in my heart. I know I have to keep going and forget it, I try and I can't. I do not know what to do.
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Every separation hurts. As cliché as it is, one really needs time to deal with this pain and residual feelings. Pour it on yourself, don't mask it behind a fake smile. When you are alone, you can safely suffer. You will feel better because the feelings will not be hidden in you and poison you constantly. You can cry, write stories about yourself, share with a loved one or start a sport where you can get angry purely physically. Whatever you think will work well there, as long as you do not accumulate negative feelings, but "throw them away" from yourself. The rest of the time, distract yourself as before. Everything will be fine, everyone has suffered this way. It's hard, you have the feeling that you will never pass, but the better days are coming. But the more you ignore the pain, the stronger it becomes.
When two people can't sit down, talk and understand each other (including apologizing and forgiving) - then they're just not for each other. Yes, now the pain is great, but in a year-two-five-ten it will pass and it will be you again. If you had stayed together, however, with this attitude on her part, this pain would have remained and continued to smolder in all its forms FOR A LIFETIME! Is that what you want? She left you, moved on - her job. She will do the same with the next one, if she is inclined to such performances. And if the guilt and all the ugliness are really in you - then be clear about it and do not repeat it in your next relationships. It is nonsense to stare at a woman and think that your life without her has no meaning ... There are 3 in the world, 5 billion women - statistically it is impossible that there is no one better and more suitable for you than her ... Catch a young good girl - 20-22 years old. Educate him and shape his character to your liking. Love each other a lot and be happy together. When this happens, you will remember the "current" one with shock ...
Fight for. Look for her at their place or wait for her somewhere after work. It hurts more to give up, so don't give up! And if you haven't cheated, it's hardly unforgivable. Try it, really. It is worth it for Love
Your business is weak. She caught a better party. You have to earn more and he will come back
I know it will sound like a mockery, but I'm terribly serious. Find a good psychologist to like and spend a few sessions to overcome the obvious addiction to it.