Hello! I am writing to you in the hope that something can change! I am a man of 39 years. My problem is that I feel: Lonely, superfluous and useless to anyone. And the story next! The boys I grew up with got married and broke up. I found another company, very decent and nice guys, everything was great, we respected each other, of course, great company. But here too it all ended. A few years ago, two boys went abroad and the other got married, found another company, and so I was left alone again, unnecessary and useless to anyone. And it started again, the old song in a new voice. From work to home, from home to work, and I am not told about Saturdays and Sundays. Even if I want to go out for a coffee, I have no one to call. Why things developed this way I do not know. I have done no harm to anyone, and I have always tried to respect people, to help as much as I can to anyone who has asked me. I don't know anymore, I don't know who to turn to. I once tried to share my grief with someone I respect, but his answer was: Go to a bar, get drunk and grab something, and that's it. I no longer dare to share with anyone. Neither with colleagues nor with acquaintances. I have no one to turn to, I'm desperate I don't know what to do anymore. And for this I turn to you. I want to find a wife, I want when I come back from work to have someone to go home to, to have someone to bring joy back into my life. I'm not interested in bars, pubs or alcohol. I want to find my other half, nothing more. I'm lonely ... Helplessly lonely ... I usually go home. The key in my hand is tired and sweaty with an inappropriate guilt. I'm a little drunk ... I played mosquito again ... I lost everything, your conscience even. And I came home terribly late, and there is no one to punish me ... I fall asleep alone in the hard bed and I dream of my warm happiness ... I dream of what it was, and in the dream for you, Love, I grieve!
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Are you gay?
You must have turned your back on a lot of women to look for the perfect one that still doesn't come. And so the years flew by. People got married because they weren't so picky, and now you're alone. There is a half, as long as you do not have such high requirements and you are firmly on the ground.
It is not too late to find a good woman with whom to start a family and have children. If there are no suitable ones in your environment, you can also try dating sites. That's how I met my husband, who was 42 at the time and was also looking for his partner.
Hello, I am the author! To comment №1mI'm not gay calmly To comment №2: I haven't turned my back on any woman, but I'm picky. I have always respected, and continue to respect, women, and I treat them just as a man should treat a woman (kinder, kinder, etc.), but nothing has ever happened. I think my problem is that I'm a little more shy. I'm not one of those people who are told, not to keep pushing, I'm not rude, I can't do that, I'm ashamed of myself.
Hello, I think it is normal at this age not to have a coffee company, because most are married, have children, work a lot or are angry about everything. Try to find a wife, but know that the wrong one can make you regret that you are not alone, you do not know what is harassment and nerves with a madwoman. These are the ways to get distracted - you find a woman, you buy a dog or a cat, you start playing sports or studying something, when you are busy you will not think so much, again and so a chick will jump out.
Hello, I am the author! To №3: I'm very glad you found yourself and started a family. Thank you very much for the advice you give me, I have a registration on a site, but nothing happens there either. Everyone first asks what I'm doing, and when they hear the answer, the conversation ends. So I don't hope for them anymore. To №5: That's right, but neither a dog, nor a kitten, nor any hobby and job can fill this void that is inside. And with this work that I do, I have no time for courses and sports.
I'm number one. Sorry for the question, but sometimes ... we don't think consciously, but we do or say things that betray us. Your topic talks more about the lack of boys, and you mention a woman only once. Your poem does not suggest a lack of a woman, but rather a lack of meaning. I don't know if, by presumption, men aren't looking for women and women are looking for men, but intimacy is really important, no matter who.
You are in a losing position. Even if you meet someone, he will look down on you. She must be very bad herself, and she will still think she is compromising. You probably have a shortage of money. Even if you don't think so - it probably is. The principle "I can go to a bar, but I don't feel like it", "I have money for the sea, but I don't feel like it", "I can buy a car, but I don't need that much. " And the thing is, you have some small savings and you don't want to waste them. From there, you shrink your life, you lower the criteria, and women start looking down on you. You probably have money for prostitutes, but you see, you don't care. And in reality you are not given BGN 200 for one dump (those of BGN 20 are not prostitutes, but unfortunates or just gypsies).
To the author: You don't mention what you do, that women don't pay attention to you! Aren't you a general worker? I am already 36, I have completed a master's degree, from June I will be an intern in a TV company, I will not mention which one it is! I'm not desperate to be alone, I didn't find the right one at university, I don't enslave dating sites because I read that they are wasting their time - crooks upload stolen photos of girls and women, and look for victims! And I know that love will come when you least expect it!
Until №9: I am the author! Not all of us have a chance to become engineers like you. After all, someone has to work. And whether I'm a general worker, a salesman or a production worker, what does it matter. And the other thing is: I have a technical education, but in the city where I live, it doesn't matter, and I don't want to, I don't want to, I work whatever I have, without the right to choose, and I'm not the only one. And even if I worked very hard and low paid everywhere, there is no other choice.
The problem is inside you. I don't know who chooses to be a bachelor voluntarily, unless he likes it. It's good to go where you want, not to comply, to go home when you feel like it. I knew many men like you, they wanted a serious relationship, but they still continued their bachelor life. They envied colleagues and friends for having children, while running away from responsibilities. Then one complains that he was alone, that he wanted children. Well, no pleasures. Loneliness is a matter of choice to some extent.
Author, don't despair, you're just depressed and everything looks gray to you, but it's not like that at all. I'm 36 and I'm in more or less the same position as you. I live in a district town that is considered big, but in fact has melted a lot in the last 15-20 years. A large part of my friends and acquaintances left after we finished school, and another after that. Some time ago, my best friend apparently decided that he was no longer useful to me and withdrew for no reason. At the moment I have two friends who are from my childhood, but one lives in a town about 25 km. and we rarely see him (once a month, and sometimes even less often). I see the other one more often, but he is building a house at the moment and because he does everything alone with his brother, there is not much time to lose. To tell you the truth, though, I don't feel bad. I am grateful to God for everything I have and I try to enjoy life. Some time ago, along with an unfulfilled great love, and after it another unsuccessful relationship, I had imperceptibly sunk into the swamp of grayness, and although everything in my life was developing perfectly, much more perfectly than I had even dreamed, I could not to be really happy. Good thing God showed me how wrong I was and saved me from this abyss. Well, sometimes it's wrong for me to be alone, but I try not to give in to such thoughts and I quickly drive them away. I have no doubt that I will find my soul mate. I advise you not to poison your life with negative thoughts. Find a hobby and do it, start the car and go somewhere, tidy up some repairs in your house, play sports. Abe, there are a lot of things a person can do. I, for example, I love nature very much and go for a run or a walk in the woods. Two years ago I took a house in the village and now I am learning to plant various things, to look at vineyards, trees, etc., although I have never done such things. When I have more time, I get in the car and go somewhere. I just like to drive and enjoy the scenery. My favorite destination is the Rhodopes and especially the road Batak - Dospat, although I live in Northern Bulgaria. In general, I do not run out of activities, I do not even have enough time for everything I want to do. Start with something and you will see how it will work for you. By the way, I am from Shumen, if you are nearby you can drink beer. that I have never dealt with such things. When I have more time, I get in the car and go somewhere. I just like to drive and enjoy the scenery. My favorite destination is the Rhodopes and especially the road Batak - Dospat, although I live in Northern Bulgaria. In general, I do not run out of activities, I do not even have enough time for everything I want to do. Start with something and you will see how it will work for you. By the way, I am from Shumen, if you are nearby you can drink beer. that I have never dealt with such things. When I have more time, I get in the car and go somewhere. I just like to drive and enjoy the scenery. My favorite destination is the Rhodopes and especially the road Batak - Dospat, although I live in Northern Bulgaria. In general, I do not run out of activities, I do not even have enough time for everything I want to do. Start with something and you will see how it will work for you. By the way, I am from Shumen, if you are nearby you can drink beer. Start with something and you will see how it will work for you. By the way, I am from Shumen, if you are nearby you can drink beer. Start with something and you will see how it will work for you. By the way, I am from Shumen, if you are nearby you can drink beer.
Go to places where there are women. If you want to dance, to courses. Or ask a relative to meet you. From your post, it seems that you love men's companies and friends, but life goes on, everyone goes their own way.
Hello, I am the author! Thank you all for the advice. Di № 12 You are right when you say that I have to find one, I have a house in a village near the city, but this is not a solution to any problem or to go and drink alcohol to forget. This is not a solution, because no matter how much you run, the problem remains, no matter what its nature. Up to № 11, I am not interested in men's companies, I am neither irresponsible nor afraid to take responsibility. Until № 13 I completely agree with everything you said, but after I come home from work I have no strength for anything, that's exactly why I left again recently. And to ask someone to introduce me, with a girl, to keep quiet, one that no one will do it, another that I will then listen to ridicule. I no longer know that nothing is being done to me and I do not hope for anything. I released the topic because, this is the most visited forum, and I thought I could meet people with a similar problem but alas. Thanks to everyone, from the bottom of my heart for the advice, once again.