Hello! I am very sad now. We had an argument with a very important person for me. I'm a very calm type, but just getting nervous and not knowing what I'm doing. Anyway, during the quarrel, I just told him the truth about him, neither cursing him nor saying unnecessary things. I just said what is true about him, what we all think about him. And he just shut up, after my anger passed, I apologized and said I didn't think these things, he really forgave me. But we are still angry with each other. It has happened to me before I quarreled in the same way with another person. If this makes me bad, I don't keep quiet about people and I tell them what I see. But people already think of me as some kind of bastard or I think so or they just have respect and they keep quiet about it I don't know
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It is not bad to tell the truth, but you choose the most inappropriate way to do it, guided by bad feelings. No, you're not a bad person, but you're a little more primal in your anger and you're reckless. It's fixable. You had to apologize to the man, lower your voice a little, and tell him everything in a different way without offending him or making him feel bad. And first of all, it's not a good idea to communicate with people you don't think good about. It and I scatter truths step by step, but no one tells me I'm rude, because I don't really tell people bad things in a way that is unpleasant to them, and I try to be honest, not to judge or hurt them. During an argument, you should think that these may be the last words you say to the person against you, because if you go too far, he may not speak to you anymore. Put a scale in your mind, on which lie the man against thee and thy wrath. Weigh them and decide what is more important to you.
You don't care who thinks what. You're not bad, you're just being honest. Don't wait for it to accumulate so that there are no quarrels. If you don't like something - say it! If you like something - say it again! Be honest with yourself and others, do not lie that you do not think something - if you say it, then you think it!
Calm down, you're just shit ...
There is no point in telling someone their shortcomings, which they already know. For example, if it is thick, it is thick. If he doesn't get along with women, that he's a checker, etc. It's stupid. Even if you justify yourself later with lies ...
Of course, for them you remain a bastard, a man without tact. What's worse is that if you realize it, you keep doing it, so you'll stay that way!
You are not honored to have lied to him, because you really mean these things, because things said in a moment of rage and anger are real words!
What and how did you say it? People who claim to be honest and straightforward are the same people on a regular basis who are just looking for a reason to be rude. One truth can be told in a million ways: old, old, old, leather bag, aging, old, mature, and so on. If you have explicitly chosen the words to be biting, if you have used degrading and vulnerable words, then you have not said "just the truth", you have cursed. It doesn't have to be swearing to be insulting. So what you said, you know. I have no idea how much the other one deserved. You are not evil when you repent, but your relationships with people are clearly zero. If you value the relationship with the person (obviously them), compromise. If you value a principle more (to be straight), you pour. But post factum to wonder what's right ... me, you're immature.
You sound hypocritical. You are not the one to tell people what they are. If you can - help, if you can't - keep quiet. I tell you that you are a hypocrite because you communicate with a person about whom you do not seem to have a good opinion, you persist and in a given situation you show your true attitude. Do this man a favor and don't associate with him. I in his place - I would not communicate with you.
I support 8, I am also a woman. Not that the other comments are wrong. I will add that you probably perceive yourself as unworthy / not at the level of communicating with people you approve / like ..., which is why you attach yourself to those to whom you feel courage to vomit the negative energy accumulated by your personal complexes. My advice is to work on yourself and your problems.
You are not bad, but rude, unrestrained and tactless. It is very important how you express your opinion about a person, and it is important whether it is asked at all. If everyone sits down to tell you what they think of you, will you care? And what you all think about it is your opinion, it doesn't have to be objective. Learn to be more restrained and tactful, especially when you are angry.
You are not bad, your deed is bad. If you were holding on to someone, you shouldn't be so direct. And I do not spare truths, and I tell them to my friends myself, even if I know that they will be angry with me, but even then I comfort them a lot. I don't hit them to fall and run away. I also help them stand up. Silence means that the person is holding on to you as long as he has not attacked you. You tortured him, and he responded with love.