Hello. I am a girl of 21. The thing is that I recently went out with a boy, I think I'm starting to fall in love, so I decided to try him to see if he is sincere or just wants an intimate relationship. Two nights ago we went out, had a drink and then he offered me to go to them, after which I warned him not to expect anything, we went to them, kissed and just fell asleep in each other's arms without pressing me for sex. I'm very interested in what's going on in his head and what he really wants from me, because I know him too little. When we went out on a second date, he told me that he liked me and that he thought I was different (which is normal) and wanted to get to know me. At the same time, he calls me to them because he wants my company without doing anything and behaving like a couple, but I am still full of doubts and mistrust. I want to know a side opinion. Thanks :)
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Why are you pulling so hard from this sex? . First, second, and you hold back until the fifth, and you want it when you feel the first sympathy for each other. Imagine that you wait and test it for a few months before going to bed and you don't like sex or vice versa, what do you do then? You dump him, you become the bad guy - you used him, he dumps you, he's the bad guy and so on. You will say that sex is not everything, but it is 90% of the success of a relationship if you do not like sex with your partner, the problems come. Now you will say what I like - if he is rude, if he wants things that you are disgusted to do, if he ends quickly and leaves you dissatisfied and turns to the other side without even hypocritically. pougushka for 2 Min. All this is stressful
You're doing the right thing, yes. If he wants you, not sex, he'll wait a month or two. If during this time he weighs, then either he only wanted sex, or you are not so valuable to him. However, do not go to the other extreme to harass him for too long, because the opposite effect can occur. In my opinion, a month or two is enough time for a test. My current wife also tested me for about a month or two and I know it's painful, but you also understand that this is a serious woman, not a parantia. If she slept with me on the second day, then she would probably let someone else in so easily while we were in a relationship.
"I'm very interested in what's going on in his head and what he really wants from me, because I know him too little." - His head is spinning to have sex, which is normal and not a bad thing. What he really wants from you: most likely he himself is not sure, at least if your man has a little common sense and is honest with himself, if he asks himself this - does he want a serious relationship with you, just because he doesn't know you you are human. And the same goes for you. If you want to entangle this person in your webs purely emotionally - to 'tame' him - to make him feel emotionally dependent on you, then to do the right thing. The question, however, is whether after a while, when the euphoria passes and you stop looking at each other so idealistically, you will still want to be with him. number 1 says some pretty good arguments why not wait to have sex. But, if it doesn't come to you from within for whatever reason, don't do it. I just definitely don't agree that sex is 90 percent of a relationship's success. You can't do without sex if it's about 2 healthy people, but there is something super important that a lot of people ignore in the name of being in a relationship - common views on life, tastes, generally similar thinking, matching temperament, characters to be similar is even more important than good sex for a long - term relationship, because good sex is not a constant. ж30 in general, similar thinking, matching temperament, characters to be similar is even more important than good sex for a long-term relationship, because good sex is not a constant. ж30 in general, similar thinking, matching temperament, characters to be similar is even more important than good sex for a long-term relationship, because good sex is not a constant. ж30
Abe, people! What did he want, well, sex does he want, what does he want? Maybe a wedding and lots of babies? What do you want yourself?
Your title is incorrectly worded: Am I doing the right thing so that he has serious intentions? It turns out that with your actions you strive to cultivate serious intentions. If you really want such a thing, dump it. Either he has serious intentions or he doesn't. I wonder, don't women like you experience sexual pleasure and attraction? You use sex as a calculated means of manipulation. Good thing women weren't such frigid robots 20 years ago. Grandpa Torbalan
Young people, at your age it is not healthy to avoid sex. Author, don't you want to get rid of sex with the young man in question. If the answer is no, let him go and don't waste his time.
I am a man and I think you are doing the right thing. Girls who let me on the first or second date get bored IMMEDIATELY. Sorry, but that's the reality, at least for me. If the woman doesn't show a little resistance, I have to chase her a little (but not too much to push me away), I'm not interested. It's like easy prey for me. On an instinctive level, these things happen. If he lets me go on the first date, he will let Ivancho go on the first date, right? And Ivancho can meet him while we are in a relationship, but in her head we are "quarreling" (um, a real situation in my life) ... Such easy women are unattractive for serious relationships. However, many men are not looking for a serious relationship and are looking for just such women. That's why there are comments like number 1 - to let him go immediately, almost. Well no, it's not a good idea. At least a month of meetings - then.
I'm number one. I got married after almost 3 years of family cohabitation to the man I slept with on the third date, supposedly on the third day. I wanted him to pretend and play. If he had tried on the first date, I still wouldn't have refused. This does not mean that I am light and I would give to everyone quickly. This is proven and shown over time and it can not be said that a woman is easy judging that she went to bed on the first date. Similar interests, etc., even sex do not strengthen the relationship. I don't know from my experience, I'll tell you that my husband and I now rarely have sex for health reasons, but he "tied" me at the beginning of our relationship with our liking in bed. we fight often, we are very different as characters. In a sense, he is more open, his bad traits are many. So he is an accountant, he does nothing without being selfless and has no benefit for him, and I am the opposite, I am compassionate and I try to help with what I can and I can give many examples of our opposite characters, but the most important thing is that this person is my family. I feel it and I will never give it up. With it I feel that I am "at home" and at home it is the best. Whether we go to bed on the first or second date. Some things are inexplicable
He certainly wants sex, rather he doesn't want to scare you and push you. That's why he behaves like that. In general, men always want sex first, and then decide if they want a relationship. If you want it too, let go - why deprive yourself of pleasure. And it doesn't matter so much when you let him go - with my friend the original idea was just sex and things happened very quickly - within a few days, and we've been together for 6 years. Rather, be careful how you behave after that - do not be obsessive, do not call him constantly, do not make him explain to the whole world that you are together. Behave normally and like you like him a lot, but you don't want a relationship, at least not now. And watch the magic happen - he will ask for the connection himself.