Hello! I am a man of 37 and I have been in Bulgaria for about a year. I spent an awful lot of time abroad - I worked for the same company for almost 15 years on 3 continents. I'm not a virgin, I don't suffer from complexes and I think I look pretty good. I like to play sports and keep fit. I have no family in Bulgaria, I was a single child with one parent - mother only. She died when I was 22 and had just finished my education. I had absolutely nothing in Bulgaria - no property, no car, no relatives. We went on a brigade with friends and I stayed there. I have had relationships with all kinds of women, of many nationalities and even of different races. My longest relationship was 2 years with a Serbian woman, supposedly identical culture and thinking. There was an option to return to Bulgaria, because my colleague HR in another company with a business like ours was looking for a person for their new branch in Bulgaria. I speak English perfectly and Spanish almost as well as English, but mostly due to the fact that I am Bulgarian and I also speak Bulgarian, I was just perfect. I instinctively accepted, then I was afraid to return, I had not set foot in our country for 15 years. I have problems with adaptation and love life. I had decided that things were going well so that it was time for my family, so I was at home, I had saved a little over $ 350,000, enough to invest in my own home, to buy a few more by renting them out. My salary is also very high, the same as it was in the United States, no matter what. After the initial enthusiasm and excitement, things went awry. When I returned, I toured our entire country. I couldn't be happy, I went to Tarnovo, to Varna, Burgas, Golden Sands, Sunny Beach, Borovets .... But I'm still alone! All my friends have been married for a long time, they have children, some small, some already directly with teenagers. Those who do not have and are not married have failed a lot. There are alcoholics, there is a person ruined by gambling, I can't contact such people, I don't want to get in circles with alcoholics, and casinos for me are a place where I have no idea what to do, I only know that people lose their money .
I went into the casino bars, but this friend of mine, he played, and it quickly became clear that we had no common interests. I have a hard time communicating with other people. For example, I was buying breakfast the other day, the saleswoman was a very nice girl and I just said good morning, how are you on this wonderful day? She looked at me badly and called her to leave me alone. Did I say something bad? People don't say hello, in the United States, even on the street, strangers say hello, how are you, etc. and for me this now seems quite ... rude and rude. I tried to meet women at Diamond. I was looking for free ones, I put some frameworks like the same or at least close education, we still have to talk, I didn't look like Angelina Jolie. I wrote to several - they do not answer me. 2-3 people answered me, it quickly became clear that they considered me a joker and made fun of me for the way I wanted to start a conversation. I'm not used to being without female company for so long. I forgot to say that I also had problems with colleagues in the office. I passed once and heard how they discuss this one, who came from somewhere - boss, I work here ... I will not enter into controversies, even less with subordinates, so they taught me never to quarrel with subordinates, for not to undermine your authority and fall down. I asked everyone to provide me with courses and qualifications for something. Zero. They didn't have any. I also placed mine so that everyone would see them as such, so that they would be aware of why everyone is appointed to a certain place and for a certain job. I heard that I was arrogant and very confident. There is a girl, a student, who combines learning with work. She is constantly late or has not slept. I asked her why she didn't fall asleep, she said - well, because I'm studying! I'm not a bad person, but I have criteria, the work requires a certain level. Anyone who brings their problems from home or puts something else above work is simply fired. That's how they taught me, fired dozens of people in front of me for far smaller things. I told her that she either came to work fresh and worked, or I fired her. I became even worse in the eyes of my colleagues. The main thing is where to look for my partner? Bulgaria 15 years ago and now it seems to me quite a changed place. It's beautiful, I like it, but I can't communicate well with people, I feel like a foreigner, even in Australia when I worked for a year and for 1 month I didn't feel isolated and alone.
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Brother, the truth is that you made a mistake when you returned to Bulgaria. Bulgaria's biggest problem is the Bulgarians. This is a tribe (not a people) with absolutely no values and morals, always grumbling and blaming others for their own problems. I currently live in Bulgaria, but I want this not to be the case at all costs and for my children not to be part of this breed. The way you behave is completely normal and adequate. The problem is with the people around you. I advise you not to change, but also not to try to join the people in Bulgaria. Go back to where you feel in your place, it won't get better here.
In my opinion, it is not too late for your family, if you have money, buy a car and nice clothes, they will smell you at 200 km / h. It must be up to 30 years old if you want children. But with your character, you are unlikely to spend much time, but at least to have children. You treat the student badly, she must be admired for her studies and work. In Bulgaria almost everyone is sullen, here is not America.
No, it's not too late for anything. You have to believe in yourself and look for new ways after the ones you tried don't work. You're smart enough to handle it. People with much less experience with women than yours find ways. Otherwise, you mixed two different topics - women and your relationships with colleagues as a boss. Forget what they taught the capital sharks in the United States. Here is BG, the workers have other habits and no motivation, because they are neither satisfied with their situation, nor do they see the prospect of something better if they work hard. You will fire one, two, a dozen, but in their place will come the same, and maybe worse, and eventually you will run or you will be fired because of the high turnover of staff.
Grandma, there is no more complex nation than the Bulgarian one. You will always encounter difficulties, especially in terms of work. An envious and lazy nation. He wants to snap his fingers, eat meatballs, and if he can, they don't bother him much, much. Tune in to that. It is also available abroad, but it is not inherent and is rather rare. Otherwise, I know what you're talking about, here I am greeted in the elevator in the mall or in the supermarket as I am. In our dear homeland they look at you as if you want to rape them, not to mention go and greet them, you will be "some crazy person, talk to me today out of nowhere". With women ... I personally have also been with several nationalities, but I have always had much more success in Bulgaria. It seems that women are very easily impressed there. Perhaps the average Bulgarian is more sloppy than his foreign counterparts. at 37 you're not too old, not at all. But now ... it is important not to be a cane. He can't say "good morning, how are you on this wonderful day". You say "Hello ... I'm sorry to ask so directly ... but you're very beautiful ... don't you want to go out sometime" with a sincere smile, and it will show. Don't be a cane, socialize as much as you can, because it doesn't come if you don't look for it. Brother.
Talk to a psychologist. You are neither late nor a joker.
Honestly, after 15 years. outside you will find it difficult to adapt to the local environment. I have also studied and worked abroad for many years, from 3 years. I'm in Bulgaria and I still don't feel at home, and in general I define my return as a mistake :) It's just that life here is very difficult and people are dissatisfied. In most companies, those who work diligently consider them bales and exploit them. There are exceptions, but for that you have to find yourself in the right environment, which will be very, very difficult for you during these years. It is worth coming back here if you have a stable family, friends, some environment, connections, people to help you, which is not the case with you. I hope you really manage to find a suitable party for a woman, start a family and have children so that there is something to make your life meaningful.
There are few single women your age and those without children. If you want a woman with a child from a first marriage, this is the more important question. Just don't become an aging uncle.
I don't know, maybe that's the case in Sofia. Although, when I went to Sofia on business, I talked to random people about various questions and they did not behave rudely. As you have traveled around the country, you may have noticed how people in small towns are smiling and kind. For about 15 years I have been living in a medium-sized city on the scale of Bulgaria. That's where things happen with communication in a normal way. For example, when I go out for something and sometimes I pray that I don't meet a lot of people because I'm late. Almost everyone in the neighborhood is willing to greet you and often ask you a few words about your days. Yesterday while I was in the neighborhood store (it's big) and I managed to talk to 2 acquaintances and finally we exchanged information about our lives with the cashier (because I shop often and we already know the staff). But nowhere is there such a rude attitude. Even at bus stops I happen to communicate, mostly with older people. Maybe you need time. Take a home, settle permanently and you will get to know your neighbors, the neighborhood vendors, and the neighborhood community in general. When you settle somewhere permanently, then people will start to see you, remember you and, accordingly, the more communicative ones will respond to your greetings. The circle of friends is obviously another problem. I suggest you try to create one according to your interests. For example, a person often makes new friends related to his hobbies. Your family friends can also help you find a mate. They certainly have suitable acquaintances, so keep in active contact with them. Ways to find a circle of friends are also - participation in folk dance clubs, participation in sports and cultural events, fb interest groups. In the workplace, people will get used to respecting you, just give them some time. You have already demonstrated knowledge, experience and tenacity. You can offer the student a shorter working day or flexible working hours. In Bulgaria, you do not have to use stress and pressure to motivate employees. People in general are sufficiently burdened by everyday life. In Bulgaria, the more liberal approach is rather valid, because people have large inferiority complexes and react sharply to pressure. Ie professional commitments and problems should be discussed and a solution sought together, they should be involved and feel important, otherwise their fragile ego makes them counter you and accept you as a threat, not a leader, whom to trust and whom to respect. In case of problems with discipline, light fines are imposed, when it comes to persistently bad work habits. But before that, it is mandatory to try to solve the problem in another way together with the offender. I work with people in the field of management and these are my personal observations. Things will work out, you're just experiencing a culture shock. It is important not to stare in individual cases and to draw general conclusions.
Let me just say that as a woman who has lived abroad for many years and at your age - women my age give birth quite normally, number 2. They have a lot of mental problems here.
What you describe is called reversed culture shock. And it's normal! Just as you have a period when you feel like an alien abroad, so when you come home you have a period when you feel strange at home. :) I think the problem is not your women or age. Moreover, you are not many years old and if you are as cool and successful as you claim, there should be no problem. Rather, you do not fit socially. You have to think about it. I'm talking about the way you approach your people. And the cultural difference! My first months in the United States, for example, were a nightmare in that regard. I will not forget how one evening I was coming home and someone was following me because he was "staying in the area" and talking to me as if we were first friends. This was stressing me out. Or, I don't smoke on the porch and some images from the street come to talk. But here, for them it is accepted as something kind. And a Bulgarian woman interprets him as if you are a psychopath. :) This does not mean that Bulgarian women are bad or withdrawn. I even think we are a better choice than the Americans. We just have a different culture and expect behavior that doesn't make us uncomfortable.
In general, most people here are nasty, but you don't think that as they were taught in America, it's automatically right and good. For example, I do not find it a good solution to issue an ultimatum such as "either you come fresh or you are fired." The fact that this is done in extreme capitalist America does not mean that one should not first seek some purely human dialogue, instead of directly resorting to a crude form of ultimatums. So every society is bad in its own way. If you give me such an ultimatum so directly, you have no idea what awaits you next. Rejoice that you only got away with disrespect, because some people wouldn't stop there. You just didn't come across the man. I am a meek and good person, but I am a supporter of dialogue and a purely human attitude. To sit down to say human " we are all friends and a few friends, without overdoing it. You've missed that balance and you'll never get it back because it's very delicate, and you corporate sharks have obviously made you think that humans are robots, and if they don't work for you, you just throw them away unceremoniously. From my experience I can tell you that even from business ch. it is not a good solution, because the environment becomes very unstable, tainted, and stupid mistakes begin to be made only out of fear and tension. And no, I'm not saying to dump and roll them, but to learn balance. My personal opinion is that you can't be a good boss without learning to be a good person. I have worked for both types and I know very well what I am talking about and what the results were. People like you, who only threaten and pretend to be bad, don't stay long. It's just that the environment is getting too unstable,
It's too late when they sing. Until then, you can do anything.
The Bulgarian just thinks that every stranger will want something from him, will envy him and / or will want to fuck him somehow. It's just a projection, because he usually wants something from someone, envies and / or wants to fuck him :) Fortunately, this mentality is increasingly changing for the better, mainly with the help of new technologies. You are not too old for a family or for children. A co-worker at 40 got married and is now 44 with two children. His wife was over 30 (for number 2 to say), so '30' is not some magical age after which women become infertile. The question is finding the right woman. This is not an easy task. I'm a man like you, though a little younger. Most decent women will not find them in bars, but there are exceptions and this is a place where you can try to socialize. Another very suitable place are the dance courses. I made connections from there, but keep in mind that it is a long-term investment. It wasn't until about a year of dancing that I was confident enough to act. But good things happen slowly.
I understand you very well, but understand this is a mentality, a way of thinking. There is no way to change people. If I were you, I would choose Australia / New Zealand or Costa Rica. The Bulgarian poor are very crushed by various complex Bulgarian matchmakers.
№ 2 to №9 Regarding the birth after 30 years, especially after 35 years! There are many births, even after 40 years. but the risk becomes high from problems with the baby or difficult pregnancy. The other is that if a woman gives birth at the age of 42, she will be 60 years old. when the child turns 18. - there will be no proper communication and help in life. If the author wants two children, it will be very difficult if a woman starts giving birth to the first one at the age of 40 ..... In my opinion, most people are comfortable and convenient to postpone as much as possible, but often the reality is different, the most problematic is for women. An acquaintance of mine is pursuing a career, travel and relationships until she was 39, when she decided she was old enough to be a mother. She couldn't get pregnant normally, she went to clinics for several years, she had an abortion, she couldn't have a child !? She thought I was 27 years old and had to look after my life. Now I have a son at 7, and she is perhaps 47 and alone. Nowadays, many families have reproductive problems, so you need to start trying early to have time for experiments and clinics. An acquaintance of mine started experiments at the age of 27 - the poor girl succeeded at the age of 37 - these are ten years of experiments, clinics and hormone therapies. What would have happened if she had decided to have a child, for example, at the age of 36? I am a man of 34.
Yes, in Bulgaria the sellers do not greet and they look surprised, if you ask them "How are you", "hello" they would accept as a reply, but "how are you" is too personal a question for Bulgarians. While in France, for example, you go through the market and every salesman shouts "bonjour" to every passer-by, which is more interesting, there the sellers mutter angrily after a person passing by the stalls who did not answer them or at least nodded with a smile. The reality is that Bulgarians are warmer-blooded people, they can accept their neighbors or friends as close, like brothers / sisters, they even give them a key to their home, while a European would never accept a neighbor so close. Bulgarians take greetings and questions too personally and when asked "how are you" asked by an acquaintance would answer quite honestly with "oh leave, which he allegedly uses for business development or to sign a promissory note in favor of the employer / boss. Bulgarians often work for 4-6 months without pay before complaining to an institution that they have been working and have not been paid for 6 months. Not to mention all those hundreds of Bulgarians who scalded that they had signed in front of a banking institution as guarantors of the loans of their colleagues. An acquaintance of mine burned a phone bill with BGN 500, took a SIM card from a telephone operator and gave it to a colleague, he did him a favor because his colleague had debts to all telephone operators. After a few months, the colleague left, went abroad and stopped paying, and the bill was accumulated with interest and court, a total of BGN 500. These facts speak for the Bulgarian about how close he accepts the people from his workplace. That is why the scheme of doing business in Bulgaria cannot be the same as in Europe and America, people have a different mentality and you cannot apply the same rules to them and the business to work as in America. As for finding a valuable woman, you will not attract her with money, especially if she has stayed in Bulgaria, believe me, it is not for the money, you will not find her on dating sites. You will find it when you go out with colleagues with similar education or when you go on vacation with them, but first you have to learn the mentality of the Bulgarian and not make mistakes in speech, personal questions, conversations about time with strangers are not the right approach for Bulgarians. . especially since she stayed in Bulgaria, believe me, she's not for the money, you won't find her on dating sites either. You will find it when you go out with colleagues with similar education or when you go on vacation with them, but first you have to learn the mentality of the Bulgarian and not make mistakes in speech, personal questions, conversations about time with strangers are not the right approach for Bulgarians. . especially since she stayed in Bulgaria, believe me, she's not for the money, you won't find her on dating sites either. You will find it when you go out with colleagues with similar education or when you go on vacation with them, but first you have to learn the mentality of the Bulgarian and not make mistakes in speech, personal questions, conversations about time with strangers are not the right approach for Bulgarians. .
You're old, I have a friend at 46, he still thinks he's a little early and the time is ahead of him. So - it's all a matter of perspective and personal choice!
In Bulgaria, if a stranger greets you on the street, it is most likely a commercial traveler who will try to try something on you. Once a stranger told me good afternoon in the elevator and it sounded so unnatural to me that I thought she was crazy. Honestly, I like it better that way. At least you know who is who and what he thinks. And in the West, all the polite fats, even when they consider it a complete zero. And if a boss starts interfering in my personal life and keeps an eye on me, I just point my middle finger at him. If I'm late, I can stay until later. And in general, if you do not have flexible working hours, you are not a good company. And if, for example, I have trouble sleeping, this is difficult to consciously correct, and it would be very annoying for someone inadequate in the local environment like you to give me ultimatums.
Up to 16 There is no right to a psychologist who understands the "European" as well as "we Bulgarians" and does not think that this, in Germany, no one pays attention to the guest workers, because they talk like 5 years old, it means that "they are cold" and “we are warm”. Such reported conclusions are dangerous and unethical.
Well, first of all - you can't expect to decide something like that and it will happen immediately. You have obviously achieved your goals in business and you expect it to happen in your personal life as well. Forget the money, you will not attract a decent woman with it. I think you are spoiled in the west, and you depend too much on the attitude of others towards you. Think about why this is so important to you. If you're happy on the inside, you won't care if a saleswoman greets you or not. This happens when you pay too much attention to material, security, money, etc. It's time for you to think about other things, but not exactly a family, as 99% of Bulgarians do. If you still want to go with the herd and do what everyone does, then you will have to start and behave like them. It's neither the United States nor Australia, and you can see for yourself,
You will get used. And you will like it. And to have such an amount on your deposit is strange. I do not believe. How such a sum will stand in the bank at all. I even think the article is fictional, precisely because of the mentioned amount. I know so many people, you've been collecting this money for, say, ten years. You worked in a service of some kind. 35,000 a year, say 3,000 a month. Oh, hide. There is no such service with such a residual dry steam, even more so the taxes for the unmarried are huge. It smells like a lie or a fictional story. There is no way to sell cucumbers to a cucumber grower. Something is wrong here.
You already have a different mentality, different habits, you will not adapt easily here. You're just not one of us anymore. You were wrong to think I came back. And you better get a foreigner, you will have more in common with her. Here, if you announce your salary, you will be attacked by mercantile young women who will see you as an ideal provider, will look to please you, to "tie" you with a child, and then to spend your money with pleasure and at the first opportunity to be find variety outside the home. I'm a woman, but I'm telling you in plain text - not everything that shines is gold, be careful! There are, of course, decent women, but the sites are full of fake profiles, prostitutes who are looking for clients or some who are just having fun. You better go to cultural events, there are more valuable people and there is a better chance to meet an intelligent woman.
"And if the boss starts interfering in my personal life and keeps an eye on me, I'll just show him my middle finger." Nobody interferes in your personal life. They just want information about why you have a problem at work. If you tell me "I have trouble sleeping because my mother is in the hospital and I'm stressed" - Sorry! Let's sit down and find a compromise! If you tell me "I study a lot", here comes the problem - YOU choose to study a lot. YOU chose to sign this contract and work for this company. No, not every company has flexible working hours, not for all positions. And "flexible" does not mean "I can come at 9, maybe after 11:00" or "I will go when I want", especially if you do not have an appointment for such a time. The worst thing is when others have to stay up late because you choose, to study a lot and not have enough time to sleep. Sometimes, several such delays can cost job losses, especially if the company or department is struggling for funding. "You're not a good company." "Great! Then you won't mind packing up and not coming back, will you?"
I really liked your post, I think in exactly the same way. You are all right, you have a chance to make your dreams come true, you just need more time to adapt and look for an environment. Obviously, among the illiterate gossips in your workplace will not happen. Try to find friends elsewhere, good luck!
The problem is entirely in you - in your character. "I have a hard time communicating with other people. For example, I bought breakfast the other day, the saleswoman was a very nice girl and I just said good morning, how are you on this wonderful day? She looked at me badly and called me alone. Did I say something bad? ? " - look now, this girl 100 percent felt that you perceived her as a sexual object, but at the same time she did not like you and just obviously cut you off, in which there is nothing wrong, even the act is very accurate, because she has definitely shown you that you don't like it. Otherwise, if the saleswoman in question was not a pretty young girl of childbearing age, but a 105-year-old woman weighing 105 kilograms, would you just tell her 'good morning, how are you on this beautiful day?' ? Or would you rather turn your head to the side while he marks your things and returns the rest? (answer yourself here) Your employees feel that you are quite arrogant and arrogant. You have the right to be who you are, you have the right to be who you want to be, just like any other person. But you can't behave arrogantly, arrogantly, humiliate these people, albeit in a very intelligent way, and at the same time want to be liked as a person? But you did it because you had heard that they were discussing ... Emmy TV is an egati complex reaction on your part. If you really feel more than they do, you wouldn't want to put so much of their discussion into it. Such are the people, there are employees all over the world who discuss their bosses, it's human. A person with your experience should be above such things .... No child should have a parent with a character like yours is my personal opinion. But I agree with the statement of number 2 and I wonder why they gave him such a bad vote, (probably because of this 'mandatory up to 30 years', which is really rude, but in general he made a meaningful statement about the fact that if you you tie one will be because of the standard you can provide her, but with your character you will not last long) However, in his last sentence he is not right. It is true that there are a lot of negative people in Bulgaria, but there are also a lot of super cool people, and in fact I think this is the case all over the world. You're pretty negative generally speaking, and that's why people with cool characters will avoid you. And don't make excuses for being abroad for 15 years, with the 'culture shock', etc. But I agree with the statement of number 2 and I wonder why they gave him such a bad vote (probably because of this 'mandatory up to 30 years'), which is really rude, but in general he made a meaningful statement about the fact that if you you tie one will be because of the standard you can provide her, but with your character you will not last long) However, in his last sentence he is not right. It is true that there are a lot of negative people in Bulgaria, but there are also a lot of super cool people, and in fact I think this is the case all over the world. You're pretty negative generally, and that's why people with cool characters will avoid you. And don't make excuses for being abroad for 15 years, with the 'culture shock', etc. But I agree with the statement of number 2 and I wonder why they gave him such a bad vote, (probably because of this 'mandatory up to 30 years', which is really rude, but in general he made a meaningful statement about the fact that if you you tie one will be because of the standard you can provide her, but with your character you will not last long) However, in his last sentence he is not right. It is true that there are a lot of negative people in Bulgaria, but there are also a lot of super cool people, and in fact I think this is the case all over the world. You're pretty negative generally, and that's why people with cool characters will avoid you. And don't make excuses for being abroad for 15 years, with the 'culture shock', etc. but in general he made a meaningful statement about the fact that if he binds someone to you, it will be because of the standard you can provide her, but with your character you will not survive for a long time) However, in his last sentence he is not right. It is true that there are a lot of negative people in Bulgaria, but there are also a lot of super cool people, and in fact I think this is the case all over the world. You're pretty negative generally speaking, and that's why people with cool characters will avoid you. And don't make excuses for being abroad for 15 years, with the 'culture shock', etc. but in general he has made a meaningful statement about the fact that if he binds you to someone, it will be because of the standard you can provide, but with your character you will not survive for a long time) However, in his last sentence he is not right. It is true that there are a lot of negative people in Bulgaria, but there are also a lot of super cool people, and in fact I think this is the case all over the world. You're pretty negative generally speaking, and that's why people with cool characters will avoid you. And don't make excuses for being abroad for 15 years, with the 'culture shock', etc. and in fact, in my opinion, this is the case all over the world. You're pretty negative generally, and that's why people with cool characters will avoid you. And don't make excuses for being abroad for 15 years, with the 'culture shock', etc. and in fact, in my opinion, this is the case all over the world. You're pretty negative generally, and that's why people with cool characters will avoid you. And don't make excuses for being abroad for 15 years, with the 'culture shock', etc.
I join only because, author, you sound like a person who would fit perfectly into my circle of friends and would find in it many pleasant emotions and useful contacts. I don't want to agree with number 16 at all, but so far he has most accurately touched on the problem. And I don't want to agree because I'm sad. I understand what intellectual loneliness means, that you do not feel accepted and included when you give of yourself only warmth and integrity. Of course, at 37, it's ridiculous to think you're late for marriage. Today, people are so busy that we create stable relationships, generally over the age of 35. Personally, I married at the age of 34 to a man your age. At the age of 50, my friend gave birth to her first child and she looks perfect - lively, positive, beautiful, and her husband has a 25-year-old son from a previous marriage. The world has become very colorful - that's what I want to tell you. I understand perfectly how you feel, so my advice is the following: - Forget about dating sites. - Communicate with intelligent people, although platonic, they will connect you with others. - Do not flaunt money and opportunities - this above category would only repel it. - Do not try to understand your subordinates, it is important that they understand that if they do not come to work on time, they will fly away in an instant. - Work the way someone would like to work for you. - And lastly: I do not agree with the opinion that a simpleton should be treated like a simpleton. A smile evokes a smile. It's a human instinct. When you give way to a lady on the subway and she smiles at you, it's a pleasure for both of you. Politeness commands respect, and that respect is the only thing you can count on,
Well, number 18, after accepting as crazy people who are just kind and polite, what are you complaining about? Since you can't impose your personal discipline to go to work on time, what is your "boss" for? Make your own company and sleep until noon to see how long this business will last. Your personal life is what you do in the evening with your wife, at work you have no personal life, but work commitments. Two days ago there was a fire in the house, a power strip caught fire and from there the fire went everywhere. I called at work, explained the situation and of course people showed understanding. But the next day I was at work, I stayed until the shutters closed to catch up, and that night I didn't sleep at all, I worked from my home computer until the morning, because there are tasks waiting for me and it's about deadlines and penalties, which my employers will pay for non-compliance. After a while, even though I haven't blinked and my head is heavy, I go to work because there are things I can't do from here - meeting people, coordinating with colleagues, etc. So I'm talking to you about FIRE and one day of absence, and you're talking to me about middle fingers and that someone has to consider when you sleep.
You're just being cocky with your people. This student girl can study late, she can go out, she can do anything. Do you know if he doesn't look after his parents, or if he has other dirt on his head and only has to think about work? That's how a boss of the time used to get his workers used to work, because there were always candidates for their positions. That when they cross the threshold at work, the rest of their lives are in the background, they only have to think about his business. This is not a boss, but a slave owner. A good boss enters the situation of people, and does not threaten them with dismissal for everything. If someone really doesn't do their job, it's one thing, but it's too much to fire for nonsense. Because this worker can then go somewhere where he will be appreciated and will develop, and you, the great boss, will look for new and new staff. Because people also have a private life, and don't get up and go to bed with your business. Your problem is not culture shock and other nonsense. And you just become the typical privateer who has forgotten that there are people in front of him, not robots. It's the same with women - don't look for them on the sites. Target single women your age, even if they have children from a previous relationship.
I find it very funny when someone tells me how a worker crosses the threshold of the office and has to forget that he has personal problems and gives 100% only for the work. I will only tell you that this is practically impossible. There is no way to make a normal human being forget about all his problems like a magic wand. It is not a machine, a robot or software, it is first and foremost a human being with its emotions, feelings, problems, thoughts and only then is it an employee. And you can't be respected if you treat people like robots. There are people with sick people in the family, there are people with marriage problems, and so on. any problems. There is no person who is like a robot and these things do not affect his work more or less. If a boss is looking for such people, I will have to disappoint him that he will not be able to find them. Of course, this does not mean that everything is tolerated, but neither can you, at the first illness in a worker's family or at the first marriage (for example), scatter requests to leave with a blank space for signature and date. Even if you demand respect in return. Business is a business, but a little human is not superfluous. Tomorrow the boss may be in a position to help him, he may be ill, he may be disabled, he may be ruined, he may have many things, life can turn you around anyway, and then what will warm this business, this career , this money and spoiled relationships with everyone around? Imagine that this girl has sick parents, she may be an orphan, decided not to prostitute, but to study, she may be a child of divorced parents and they have beaten her to take care of herself. Wasn't it right to talk to her in a purely human way first, to understand the problem and to look for a solution, instead of just threatening, firing people at the first problem and constantly looking for new ones, training them, interviewing them, selecting them if they don't like it, removing the trial period and starting all over again. to make our company understand in the forums that they behave like slaveholders and chase after every personal problem. Do you think that after a few such layoffs, more normal people will start coming to the company? No, they would have taken an interest in the company and no self-respecting employee would come to threaten him and wave requests to leave during the day. to remove the herd probationary period and to start all over again and to tell our company in the forums that they behave like slaveholders and chase after every personal problem. Do you think that after a few such layoffs, more normal people will start coming to the company? No, they would have taken an interest in the company and no self-respecting employee would come to threaten him and wave requests to leave during the day. to remove the herd probationary period and to start all over again and to tell our company in the forums that they behave like slaveholders and chase after every personal problem. Do you think that after a few such layoffs, more normal people will start coming to the company? No, they would have taken an interest in the company and no self-respecting employee would come to threaten him and wave requests to leave during the day.
Up to 21 This is the initial reaction when you find out what striking differences in pay, especially in the United States. Don't worry, it's not just you.
You better go and look for a woman outside until you're 47. And with Elmaz, don't waste any time at all - an absolute illusion that you'll find something there. Women are either abnormal or come in just to see if anyone is paying attention to them. Addicted to virtual smearing. If you're still standing, sign up to study something in absentia and you can hang one. Choose a specialty according to what kind of women there are, not how much the specialty itself makes sense to you. The other option - find friends and go to a club for paralysis, Rotarians and the like. You are obviously disadvantaged among your colleagues and it is difficult to create meaningful relationships. And for work, keep in mind that the working rules in Bulgaria are different from the United States. You can't pretend to be super strict and at the same time give a salary of BGN 1,100 with the excuse "it's so normal here,
"I find it very funny when someone tells me how a worker crosses the threshold of the office and has to forget that he has personal problems and gives 100% only for work." I was funny too, but if salaries are 4 times higher than my previous job, they get all my attention :)
Come on? Do you read moralists at all? "I asked her why she doesn't sleep? Well, because ... I'm studying." Wait a minute. He talked to her, everyone works in one company. The company aims at corporate profit and nothing more, the company does not aim to support the educational system and various students. That is why the West is rich and strong, and the East is poor and shabby, because that is our mentality! Not only learning, immediately sick parents, family problems - yes, everyone puts ALL THEIR PROBLEMS before work and that ... when he is at work. Every boss, when he asks you indirectly why you don't work, and you shoot him because I'm studying, he will send you to study harder and harder. Set your priorities. I can say that I fully understand why the company appointed him as a boss, because that is the boss. The boss follows the COMPANY policy and pressures those below him to do it if they don't, and the goals are short, precise and clear - MONEY! And before you jump, ask yourself, where do your salaries come from? Or the Christmas bonuses you will want now? If you all get hooked in the office where you work and one brings his family problems, the second brings his studies, the third his child's snot ... will there be a minute left for work? You are very open on the subject of morality otherwise .... polygamists. I am a woman, just under 30 and I am also alone :)))
34, OK, but why did you have to pretend to be a third person instead of admitting that you were the author? You call it our mentality, that's why we are poor. And the mentality in the United States is such that they only look at profit and the person means nothing, that's why during the day someone buys a machine gun, cleans 20-30 people in a school and commits suicide. You look at the student in question as a non-profit and throw her away, don't you? She will be hurt by your misunderstanding of her, because she is forced to do so because she has no one to rely on, it is not a matter of priority. OK. However, out of 100 people like her who will be fired because their boss like you is a capitalist and he is not interested in human dramas because they do not bring him profit, one will be a little more signal, he will buy a Kalashnikov and shoot you together with all your staff and equal with passers-by on the street. My thought is that every mentality pays its price. Yes, we are poor, but in the United States they are shooting for meat. And finally - why do you not want to care about people, but you want people to care about you how lonely you are and how they did not understand your mentality. You are not a literate person and your comment only confirmed my opinion. Just don't tell me that it's not you, but you are defending the author with aggression out of selflessness and solidarity, because it's too obvious. You do not deserve good treatment and it is very clear to me why neither women nor your subordinates respect you. There is a reason for that. Nobody wants to communicate with an insensitive robot. You are not a literate person and your comment only confirmed my opinion. Just don't tell me that it's not you, but you are defending the author with aggression out of selflessness and solidarity, because it's too obvious. You do not deserve good treatment and it is very clear to me why neither women nor your subordinates respect you. There is a reason for that. Nobody wants to communicate with an insensitive robot. You are not a literate person and your comment only confirmed my opinion. Just don't tell me that it's not you, but you are defending the author with aggression out of selflessness and solidarity, because it's too obvious. You do not deserve good treatment and it is very clear to me why neither women nor your subordinates respect you. There is a reason for that. Nobody wants to communicate with an insensitive robot.
"Do you think that after a few such layoffs, more normal people will start coming to the company?" A girl will come who or does not have such problems, if they do not affect her work.
37, it's not a question of which girl will come, but that the author (if you're not) is a complete asshole. If they and 100 girls come, the author will still be the same ass. Isn't that the topic - why does everyone play it and fuck it? Well, here's an honest and direct answer - because he's an asshole. Of course, even from one of his comments, let alone in real life. One cannot be not good and all be bad, but only he is cool. If everyone - women, shops and work - fucks him, he's obviously the ass, not everyone else without him. Isn't it more logical? It is not a question of which girl will come and whether she should expel him, the question is in the attitude - profit on a pedestal and above all values, lack of any understanding, dialogue and popping for someone, ruthlessness and inability to tolerate criticism and think and things , given that he wrote the topic, to ask and people tell him directly. What normal person would shave him for a plum? If he's like that, let him be like that, nobody bothers him, but you can't both be an ass and demand that they treat you like something other than an ass. Either you are an asshole and carry your negatives without roaring on the forums, or if you want respect and not be lonely, you take yourself in hand and become human. There is no option to be an absolute ass and be respected.
№ 34 - a woman of 30, our despised, poor and ragged people have a saying “God forbid, blindly see! "When I come across people like you and the author, I think of her. Strange how in this hard and unbearable office work there is always time for gossip, coffee with a cigarette or without, and for heartbreaking love dramas? Every second or third topic of infidelity here is about love affairs between colleagues in the offices. I have not met a single one written by a builder, docker or miner, where the action takes place in their workplace. :))) And the money comes from the work of such people, not from the rattlesnakes in the warm places. Having humanity, compassion, empathy, as it is fashionable to say, is not a bad thing, it is terrible when you put money and profits over them. If, God forbid, you happen to fall on the street and they all pass by with the explanation, that they are in a hurry to work and do not care to be fresh and rested, you will understand. Like the author, he feels lonely and empty despite his money and career.
39, everything is true - just one clarification - this is the author, not like the author. Why do you think she's a "woman under 30" without having anything to do with the subject?
Here you started with the author about his subordinate, her delays and how immoral he was. As a working person, I want to express my opinion. He did the right thing. There is a difference from delay to delay. There are people in our work who come to work an hour or two late. No boss makes remarks to them. And the others - we who come on time, how should we feel? Everyone has a home, children, problems. But you go to work at the right time.
Don't listen to him №1, he is one of those people to whom someone is always to blame for the stupid life they have created for themselves. If their neighbor is not to blame, it will be the brother-in-law. If it is not the state, the people will be. If it's cold - grumble. If it's hot, grumble again. Everyone else is to blame for the logs. Safe from clowns like him. I also spent a long time abroad - 17 years, but I came to Bulgaria every year. Three years ago I married a Bulgarian woman and we decided to return to our homeland. She is now 39 and I am 40. We have a boy and he is already a year and a half old. Neither I nor my wife regret that we returned to Bulgaria. Don't listen to anyone, you have a mind in your head, decide for yourself. It's not too late for anything. One day you will meet the right girl. There are passengers for every train!
№ 40 out of 39 - well, it speaks even worse about him. Probably from the culture shock of close meetings with his miserable former compatriots, he received a serious mental trauma, as a result of a split personality. :)))) Poor author, why don't I sit in America? As Grandpa Vazov would shout.
In Australia, you did not feel isolated and alone, just because people are "broad-minded", but you remained more or less Bulgarian. .... I don't comment ... "God forbid I see blindly". My brother ("prokopsal" like You, who, "slaughtered and hung" after returning here, 'because look I ... I ... I ... I ...' was born a child when he was 39. Now he is alone and thrown away like ... an eggshell Not everything is money, requirements, etc.! Get down to Earth!
Regarding the "work culture", if there is one in Bulgaria at all, and the way of working in general, the author, no matter how much you spit on him, has the right. In Bulgaria I was tired of listening to stories and personal conversations and dramas of my colleagues. Now I work abroad. I don't think I could stand what I endured every day in Bulgaria. Gossip, who what with whom ..... terrible. At the moment, personal conversations are only on vacation, no one allows personal questions and I feel much better. You go to work and leave your problems in front of the office and this has nothing to do with humanity. No one is obliged to listen to the problems of others, as well as personal conversations and opinions, gossip about who is what. The business environment for Bulgarians is still far away. The author may have to work on his behavior and realize that Bulgarians are never satisfied or they have something more or they are harmed.
Well done for what you have achieved, but you have not understood the most important thing. You can't model the whole society according to your own model! The Bulgarians were not like that, they were not like that, the women did not react as you expected ... Well, there are two options, either you accept the people as they are and you try to fit in or just go abroad again. No, at 37 it's not too late for family and children, but with such an attitude it will be difficult to find a suitable woman. And yes, you really are a little arrogant and arrogant! Nobody on this site cares how much money you have saved, how many continents you have worked on, how many languages you know, etc. Suffice it to say that you have lived abroad for a long time and it so happened that you have now returned. As for your attitude towards this girl in the office, I'm sorry, but it's rude! Do you know what it's like to be at work for 8-12 hours and then study all night for an exam? If you don't know, you better not talk! This is not Western Europe or the United States where lectures are designed so that you can combine them with some work without much stress. Here you are simply forced to work full time to be able to survive at all. So instead of getting into her situation and rejoicing that the people below you have a desire to be educated and develop, you are causing problems. Another demonstration of how great you are and how nothing happens to others! It's as if you've never been a student and you haven't studied or worked to support yourself. As someone before me said, "God forbid he sees blindly!" You became great bosses, but you forgot where you came from. So before you spit on everything and everyone that they don't behave the way you want them to,
Abroad gives, but also abroad takes. You have Western thinking and values, I wouldn't even define them as European, but even more Western, typically American, where you come from. Adaptation is not easy, in Bulgaria even European values have not sprouted, what is left for those of the wild capitalism of the United States. Abroad has given you money, self-confidence, typical American arrogance and arrogance, but I think it has taken away your purely social skills and the path to people. Maybe that's the way there, but it's not like that here.
I don't think it's too late. 37 is a good, mature age in which it is assumed that a person is already settled and knows what he wants from life. It seems late to me after 40-50 years, and before 20 it is early.
51 - You're not there because of the work environment, but because of the salary. For a Bulgarian salary - Bulgarian work. In fact, if you worked in a sewing workshop, you would work as a slave without working hours and they would notice how long you were in the kenef, such bosses as the author. But they would pay you like a native.
Look people, the evil scumbag is a vicious scumbag, whether he has lived abroad or not. Whether he is Bulgarian, American, Scandinavian, Italian or Martian. People are people everywhere. Some smotlovtsi are more intelligent and materially successful, but in the end they are the same mega gilded crazy people. 'I was a single child with one parent - mother only. She died when I was 22 '- here is the key to the author, not that he lived where you are, and did or not, what are you. Successful or not, angry people are like that because of their difficult childhood and there are some other experiences in their growing years. But they are too deluded that their experiences are the hardest, the most important, the most significant and the heaviest, etc. They think that everyone around them deserves to be crushed and suffered, especially if he does not meet their standards or if he does not want to worship them. They are considered something unique. They are on the principle - 'if I feel sick, everyone should, especially if they don't admire me and refuse to accept me as a default authority' The student girl may not have been really suitable for the position, on which has been appointed. But why was she originally appointed at all? Apparently the one who hired her does not have enough capacity to judge that she is not the most suitable person for the job? Is the author, despite his supposedly great experience, so deluded in his judgment of people? Well, obviously yes. Now maybe the shepherds will be conveniently accused ;-)? I'm number 25. it should be the case for everyone, especially if they don't admire me and refuse to take me for granted by default 'The student girl may not have been really suitable for the position she was assigned to. But why was she originally appointed at all? Apparently the one who hired her does not have enough capacity to judge that she is not the most suitable person for the job? Is the author, despite his supposedly great experience, so deluded in his judgment of people? Well, obviously yes. Now maybe the shepherds will be conveniently accused ;-)? I'm number 25. it should be the case for everyone, especially if they don't admire me and refuse to take me for granted by default 'The student girl may not have been really suitable for the position she was assigned to. But why was she originally appointed at all? Apparently the one who hired her does not have enough capacity to judge that she is not the most suitable person for the job? Is the author, despite his supposedly great experience, so deluded in his judgment of people? Well, obviously yes. Now maybe the shepherds will be conveniently accused ;-)? I'm number 25. who hired her does not have enough capacity to judge that she is not the most suitable person for the job? Is the author, despite his supposedly great experience, so deluded in his judgment of people? Well, obviously yes. Now maybe the shepherds will be conveniently accused ;-)? I'm number 25. who hired her does not have enough capacity to judge that she is not the most suitable person for the job? Is the author, despite his supposedly great experience, so deluded in his judgment of people? Well, obviously yes. Now maybe the shepherds will be conveniently accused ;-)? I'm number 25.
Only a person who has lived and worked abroad for a long time, and has been more among local people, can understand the decline of Bulgarian society today, and the faded value system in most people here. I work with a lot of people every day (in a hospital) and I find that all the time. Unfortunately, most are no longer impressed. It is normal for them to get off work, to run away for a cigarette, coffee, to constantly click and follow the likes on Facebook, to gossip about this and that, and in case there is someone who does not lie to go to others he was labeled a "black sheep." In general, most people are interested in everything else, but not the work, or it is done, among other things, only because of the need to give some money. For example, which the author gives for the student, I would do the same as him - or I would reduce her working hours and salary therefore. Who wants to work and study will think how to combine it. And I got up every morning at 5 o'clock to get to school and no one regretted it or gave me a bonus. I would advise the author not to deal with dating sites, it is worn out and it seems to me that somehow the time of this type of dating has passed. Look for live contact and do not lose hope! It's never too late for anything! Most things happen when you least expect it! Success! Watch this - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qn9g1wvsgM Me to get to school and no one regretted it or gave me a bonus. I would advise the author not to deal with dating sites, it is worn out and it seems to me that somehow the time of this type of dating has passed. Look for live contact and do not lose hope! It's never too late for anything! Most things happen when you least expect it! Success! Watch this - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qn9g1wvsgM Me to get to school and no one regretted it or gave me a bonus. I would advise the author not to deal with dating sites, it is worn out and it seems to me that somehow the time of this type of dating has passed. Look for live contact and do not lose hope! It's never too late for anything! Most things happen when you least expect it! Success! Watch this - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qn9g1wvsgM Me
Reading here the comments of most of the writers, I am not surprised that Bulgarians have the fame of some of the greatest foreign worshipers. You have spent several years in your "great" abroad and you already consider yourself so modern and sublime that you cannot get used to life in Bulgaria as if you have not lived it. It is a pity that such traitors and apostates are given high-paying positions, it is better for people who want to live in Bulgaria and give birth to Bulgarian children, and not for people like you, who are always guilty or praised by someone or something. the foreigner and the foreigners. That some regretted returning. Well, stay in the Arab Caliphate of Germany or the country of the hypocrites of the United States, no one has forced you to return.