I am writing here for the first time. I don't know how history begins in principle, but I start by reading similar problems to mine, but I can't hide it in myself and I want to share it with you. I'm ashamed to talk to people, in the store when I order something during the big break I'm so quiet that the sellers make me repeat what I said at least 2 or 3 times. When I see someone I do not greet him because I am ashamed. Sometimes that's why they call me rude. When they test me I barely open my mouth and I don't say what I think and when I say the wrong answer then I say the right one and out of shame I sometimes say "I'm wrong" and a girl starts making fun of me and yells "oh so" and I'm just like I started to be too ashamed, I don't know where to look out of shame, but I've been in the habit of looking down for a week. When someone in my class calls to ask me something, I say it quietly, and when they ask me what I said, I am so ashamed that I turn around and start rummaging in my phone or looking somewhere. Yes, even when I wrote it, I thought what a rude person I was. I have a terrible character. I can't have a conversation with people and when I start a conversation I start saying strange things and lying a lot so that they don't think I'm totally antisocial psycho. I don't know why I'm like that. I'm afraid to talk to people. The girls keep asking me why I'm like this and I just leave the room, and the boys rarely harass me in any other way. They keep touching my shoulder behind my back and sometimes startle me by making noises.
I get scared and when they see that I'm scared they do it again. In the old school they made fun of me for my personal problems and because of some of my relatives they invented nicknames for me and I just told them to "shut up" but they didn't hear me. I've always been bullied, now in the new school just because I'm shy, rude and scared at the very least. I act like I have a social phobia or social anxiety. I always avoid talking to people and when I have to talk to someone I am tormented by the thought that I have to talk to someone. When they talk to me, I act strange as if I'm mentally ill and I'm already wondering if I'm mentally ill. I always avoid talking to people and when I have to talk to someone I am tormented by the thought that I have to talk to someone. When they talk to me, I act strange as if I'm mentally ill and I'm already wondering if I'm mentally ill. I always avoid talking to people and when I have to talk to someone I am tormented by the thought that I have to talk to someone. When they talk to me, I act strange as if I'm mentally ill and I'm already wondering if I'm mentally ill.
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Dear author, First - do not rush with the heavy assessments "mentally ill". In the sense that you are definitely not crazy, a freak or something. The described symptoms make me think that you have social anxiety. You may want to see a psychotherapist (not a psychiatrist). I myself had a similar problem and attended therapy until recently, and will probably continue until I completely neutralize it. This is an unpleasant disorder that often interferes not only with social contacts, but also with professional realization, so the sooner you clear it - the better for you. In the general case, however, this is not a condition that requires medication, psychiatric treatment, etc. See a psychotherapist first and start therapy - it might be a good idea to visit a few therapists and choose one. with whom you feel most comfortable (this is important for the success of the therapy). 6 months of therapy helped me a lot, I strongly hope that you will succeed!
You are not mentally ill. You are completely normal. Judging by your words, I would say that those who mock or harass you in one way or another are not normal. Unfortunately, children, especially teenagers, can be very cruel. I know your feelings. I was also anxious and bullied at school. We are not the same - some are disturbing, others are not. Maybe you're just more sensitive. Take your time and realize something very simple - you are normal. Say a good word to yourself in your mind or out loud when you are completely alone. Something you would like to hear in difficult times, or that you would tell someone in your situation. You probably have very good qualities - focus your attention on them and evaluate them. This will gradually increase your self-esteem, and this is very important in your situation. Try not to pay attention to the taunts, I know it's hard, but if you attach yourself to them, you just make them angry. Of course, even if you ignore them, they are very likely to keep doing it to test your patience. Find an environment - friends, activities with which to feel good - this is also very important.
It's all in your head. And not as a mental deviation, but from how you live and have been brought up. A therapist will start asking you about your past until he finds out why you are so shy. I'm not a therapist, but I have the same problem as you. Unfortunately, I grew up in a time when there was no free literature and the Internet. I'm already 39 and I still feel like I'm not looking people in the eye and I'm ashamed to talk to them. I fixed the greetings 20 years ago and I meet quite greasy greetings and smiles. I'll tell you what you have to do, but you have to will. You have to impose it yourself. I guess you've seen ugly people? They are ugly for you, for me and for someone who can't stand the sight. But for some, and even for many more people, this "ugly man" has a kind of radiance that attracts the other. Do you think ugly? Why ?! You have everything like the other girls! Respect yourself as a person. Look people in the eye and show that you are a person! Boys your age show that you are liked. I don't know why, but all of us who have gone through this age have approached this rude way of showing that we like a girl. I remember in 8th grade I was 14-15 years old, I really liked a girl who was well shaped. The law was to push her somewhere and make her cry by touch. Again, I don't know why we were so rude when we liked a girl. Don't run away from conversations. They won't laugh at you. They don't bite. You have to impose it yourself. The most important thing is not to pour your soul drores on your best friend. Don't share family problems. Lift your head and you will find how interesting and liked you are by others. You woman was a girl! Women rule the world. Lift your nose and be bolder! There is no room for shyness and shyness in this life. Grandpa Tosho
Relax! You are definitely not mentally ill! You are just very shy and you have to work on this problem. It is best to make an appointment or go straight to the school psychologist. The person will talk to you and see why this is happening. Most likely the reason is in your early childhood and someone intentionally or unintentionally crushed your self-esteem, but this can only be established by a psychologist and give you ideas on how to deal with the problem. There's nothing to fear. With proper therapy, you should be completely fine.
One thing is not clear to me. Why do people always hear a mentally ill person and immediately think of schizophrenia or a person who talks to himself? Yes, social anxiety is in the spectrum of mental illness and disorders and is not something normal, but it is also something you should be ashamed of.