My story, like many others, may seem pointless and somewhat silly. Maybe I'm the fool in this case, I don't know I can't say ... I've never been the center of attention, I've never wanted it. I have a few best friends that I know I can count on, and that's enough for me. Or at least I've had enough before, I'm not so sure anymore. I am 17 years old, I have never had a boyfriend and not because there was no one to go with, but because I did not want to. The thing is, I don't see the point in dating someone I can only be friends with. I didn't get my first kiss because I wanted it to be something special, something I will remember for a lifetime.
I don't believe in love and maybe that's why she doesn't believe in me either, she didn't look for me - I didn't look for her either ... And then about a month or two ago everything turned upside down. I met a boy ... only not live but in chat. I've been writing to him for 7-8 months now and in the beginning, everything was a joke. For me, he was just another one from Skype, someone I shouldn't be bored with. But gradually I started chatting just to see if he was there. I didn't dare tell him, but he made me talk as if only he could get through the glass wall I had surrounded myself with. He admitted that we play with feelings, I did not deny. He made me look at the world differently. But something stops me. For me, this is not reality, but rather a fantasy. We haven't met live and I think that's what I'm most afraid of. I am afraid that he will be disappointed, that I will lose my last hope that someone can love me.
And this is not the reality. And now he asks me - can we just be friends or give him hope? ... and I don't know! I am afraid to tell him that we can be something more because I myself do not know if it is so but to tell him that only friendship connects us - I will lie. Should I promise him to hope? Should I lie to him? Should I lie to myself? .... or am I just another fool running away from reality...
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Hello! I was in the same situation as you, I wrote to a boy from the chat as a joke, but things got worse between us, we met, we talked for a long time, then we fell in love, now we have a 1-year-old son and we can't live without each other. we know when the next train of happiness will come! Success!
The same thing happened to me. I shivered as I read it, as if I had written it. My advice is: if you really like him and want to be with him, give him hope. Don't miss this chance to be happy with the boy you want. It is clear that you are confused. Just think if you are in love and act. Good luck
Don't make a decision before you go out together, before you talk and get to know each other. I was in the same situation, but after I met the boy in question it turned out that my feelings were not as strong as I thought. So be sure of what you feel and then act :)
Don't lie to yourself or him. Meet and when you see how things develop it will not be difficult for you to avoid how to continue. Why should you lose the chance and then ask yourself "wouldn't I be happy"
If you don't know what to do, ask him to give you time :)
:) I'm 17 years old ... a long time ago I loved to chat to enter mirki and his various nonsense there..and you know darling one night in the chat I met a boy..which at first did not impress me .. .but at one point I, like you, started logging in to Skype just to see if he was there ... and do you know that this boy in question is the boy I have loved for 3 years:) .... when you tell someone - "we met on the net" turns and you laugh ... but in most cases .... the end is happy! But for me it was so that we are from the same city and from the same school ... this is also very important .... because there is no point in being with someone who is away from you and your only connection is Skype! this is stupid and the other thing is ... this way the feelings cool down ... I tell you this from personal experience .... if there is no chance to see each other and be together ... you better not go deeper, because then you will ask yourself - why didn't I stop when I could! and yet whatever I or anyone else tells you ... you have a heart ... ask him :) good luck darling
Hello darling, see in principle and I am not alone with a lot of experience licking wounds of love, but remember LIFE is one and is very short to waste it so love know everything and nothing, it is very sweet but also very bitter but it is. life is so arranged constant struggle but do not deprive yourself of the joys of life, namely of love, after all, for every train there are passengers, if not, it will be someone else, etc .. Life is nasty, but you still have to live . Good luck.
It's as if I wrote it ... for me the distance was about 300 km and unlike most here I chose to stop everything, I knew about it,, What if I had tried and the end was nice? "but I didn't care. Because maybe the ending may be good, but it may be bad. Someone says it's a matter of luck, but if you can't be sure that the person opposite you is really someone your age or that I really feel that unique feeling, you better not take any chances. You feel something, see yourself, as long as you can, of course. D I know how stupid it was to just relax without thinking about him, about me about our characters, about the distance. I'm not saying you won't mind, but security is more important. However, don't look at what we are writing to you, look at the comments, but know - the most important of all is your own. Well, is it worth it? Everything you experience, the risks, are different for each person, therefore each end is individual.
Well, you haven't met him, you haven't seen him in person, I don't know, I don't think it makes sense: X