I was with a boy for almost 8 months, we broke up before 4. This week we would have an anniversary, our first. I was a little sad when I remembered. I even mentally scolded him for simply not listening to me for some things, for not making compromises, for simply refusing to develop our relationship and overcome the problems. I remembered with nostalgia for the boy he was in the beginning, not for what he had become. I just said to myself, look how time has turned, and if he had given in to some things, we would have been together for a year now. And before with other boyfriends on the dates of our annuals I remembered with nostalgia and a certain anger that we were just young, stupid, or too stubborn to change something. My question is, is it normal to remember, and am I the only one who takes stock? Does the other side have a similar thought, or is it just me? Is it normal to associate a date with a specific person, even though you know you haven't been to each other for one reason or another?
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I don't know if it's normal or not ... But I also remember .. I'm a man if it matters and I always think of some things like that whether small or not .. (for information I had a serious problem and I'm talking about it)
Why is it not normal? It is normal, a person does not forget his loved ones for a day or a month. Love is remembered, usually even for years, when you have already overcome what happened and you do not feel the lack every day. Your date has brought back memories, nothing unusual. You may go too deep into the past, but over the years you will learn to look only to the present and forward. Many people remember their spouses when they separated a little before the anniversary and on the respective date they come up with some thoughts and questions that are not worth talking about at all. Your ex may have thought of you, but he may not have. It's different for everyone, the only fact is that once you have loved, you remember the relationship at certain moments and you get a little sad.
You are not the only one. 1. - scorpion.