Hello! I am 18 years old. In general, I don't have many friends, I'm not antisocial, but I still can't find a suitable environment consisting of more people. Is it normal not to like going to discos I don't understand how some people prioritize this, I don't understand how hanging on a table for 5 hours and pouring to the point of fainting can be fun. I can't dance, quite often chalga is played, which makes me even more desperate and the only thing left for me is to die of boredom. Don't get me wrong, I'm not boring! I just feel like I've outgrown my peers and I'm excited about other things. It is much more interesting and pleasant for me to go to new places, to travel, to try something different, to gain knowledge, experience. I unload mostly when I am among books and nature. However, it is hard for me that because of this, I lost many acquaintances and friends. You will probably say that the real ones would never go away. Well yes! But the interests of most revolve around posers, Facebook photos and drunken dinners. I will be happy to share your opinion on this issue! I hope there are others like me, now extinct. Write and age! Thanks in advance!
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Hello! I am 26 years old and I have always remembered your situation, I did not go to a ball (and I do not regret) or a graduate or something like that ... I never had a desire for discos and hanging out and getting drunk .. I keep thinking that obviously that's why there are almost no friends ... I've always loved more non-standard things and obviously people don't understand that ... I've loved non-standard music for a long time and I don't care about selfies and Facebook and things like that at all .. I can't I say that I have swallowed it, that there is no one to understand me, but I am not in a position to choose .. don't get me wrong - I don't look naughty or something like that, but obviously these things scare people stuck in the status quo ..
No, you're not weird, it's just your environment.
It's as if I wrote it ... The same goes for me, I'm a boy of 18 and I don't like things like that, I'm also not a big fan of the facebook. I don't know or rather don't understand some of the things that others do, but in general, as they say, every train has a passenger, even though our passengers are fewer. You're not weird, you've just gotten wiser before, and that rarely happens these days! :)
I'm a girl of 14 and I'm up and down in the same position. One day we talked to my classmates and I shared that I do not like discos. Everyone looked at me in amazement, as if I had said the strangest thing in the world. Also, most of them had already smoked a hookah and tried alcohol. I'm not like them and for this reason I don't have many friends, but honestly, I prefer to be myself rather than pretend to be someone else just to please them :). Do what you love, and you will surely find real friends who like you the way you are. I wish you success!
I am 2 years younger than you and I am also different from the others. I don't listen to chalga (except when I'm drunk), I listen to rock, I dress formally (not 24/7 with a suit like most). In my free time I go to the gym or play the guitar (I'm still studying). Whenever I'm in company I'm the center of attention, I get noisier, a lot of people tell me I'm a lot of fun. To your question "Am I weird or what?" "I will answer that everyone is strange, everyone has their own point of view and the ideals of some people should not be respected. You are one of the few people who are yourself.
Like you, I'm a girl of almost 18 with the same interests. And for me it is meaningless how to have a good time means to get drunk to the point of unconsciousness in a disco. Not to mention that among the other girls, reading books seems strange to them. As for my friends, I realized that even though we have known each other since childhood, this does not mean that we will be friends for life, because each of them has found a new company, and I stayed with only one friend from school and I do not go anywhere. It's just weird for our peers that there are people like us who think about the really important things in life.
I think the same way. 17 year old boy
Well, you think so. Find friends who love books, nature, excursions ... with whom you have common interests. Those who hang out at discos will do it for a few more years, then they will stop. Life will turn them - work, family, children ... And they will stop.
I recognized myself in your words (I'm 23). The bad thing is that more or less all the "friends" withdrew, leaving me as a boring and unpleasant person. In their eyes, I was weird because I didn't live like them - listening to chalga pouring into a disco, dressed in cut-out clothes and talking only about Facebook posts. Instead, I like to read books, walk in nature, listen to music different from them (Black Sabbath, Axel Rudy Pell, etc.), paint, write and do various things. But at one point I was left alone and the feeling is awful. It was as if I was wrong and they were right, but I chose my own path. Sometimes I regret that I have become more mature in years internally - mentally, otherwise I am terribly young on the outside. Sometimes I regret knowing because it hurts to be alone in this high place that separates you. But sometimes I rejoice because I have so many things that I develop in myself, as you say about the accumulation of knowledge. I try to gain experience and knowledge, to upgrade more and more and I secretly hope to find out someday that all this was really worth it.
Hello. I'm glad there are still people like you. We are many and we are not an endangered species. You just don't come across such people. My advice is to just start going to places where you like it and you will meet people with similar interests. :)
I'm the same, the fact that you don't like listening to chalga, getting drunk and going to discos doesn't make you boring, on the contrary - normal.
Hello! Like you, I feel much smarter than people my age, and reading is my favorite hobby. Besides, I write to her, I hope well. As for friends, yes, they are hard to find when you don't like pretending to be a monkey, but it's not impossible. You are not DIFFERENT, but you are REASONABLE - which most young people unfortunately are not. But you can only be proud of that.
Don't worry, I'm 16 and I'm the same. I wouldn't say you've outgrown others, you just have other priorities at this point in your life. Reading instead of going to a disco and getting drunk is commendable.
Don't worry, you're completely normal. You don't have to follow the crowd like a sheep. I also don't like going to discos, drinking alcohol and breathing cigarette smoke. I play sports and because I communicate constantly with people like me, they are my environment, because we have common interests with them. One day you will meet the right people for you, and for now just find a hobby.