Hello, I am 23 years old from a normal working family. The problem is that I notice something bad, at least for me, in my father. So when he is at work he has no problem, he comes home from work late in the evening, pours up to 50-100 grams of brandy with the salad, then drinks 1-2 beers and goes to bed, I accept that. But now she is in hospital for 2-3 months due to a minor accident and I notice not only now but when she is released for 1 month it is the same. So in the morning on an empty stomach drink 1 beer to 1-2 at noon drink 50-100 brandy with 1-2 beers in the evening is the same + 1 glass of wine. When asked why he should drink and at lunch he says, well, I just drink what I want to do and some such nonsense. For me, this is extremely unacceptable to pour in the morning and I think this is the initial phase of alcoholism and is only 55.
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Spoloyno. He is not an alcoholic in the literal sense of the word. Rather a domestic drunkard. For example, I was like that, even prone to alcoholism, because in the morning it starts with beer when I was at home. By the afternoon I was already on 8-10 beers. Evening per liter of wine and knockout. And at work I drank wine all morning. This is close to alcoholism. I haven't licked a sip of beer in a long time and honestly I feel much better, fuller, happier in general. Alcohol gives you nothing but false relaxation and stupid ideas.
It does not matter the amount, but the frequency of drinking. He drinks beer every day, and in fact from the morning, then brandy and wine, it's not small. In Bulgaria we still think that it is normal to drink, for example, a liter of beer plus brandy every day. Or that to be an alcoholic you have to be a tramp or something. Get your father to take two-day alcohol breaks, for example. Gradually reduce the amount.
No, he's not an alcoholic, and that's what a woman who doesn't drink at all tells you, not even a beer or a glass of wine, I just don't like the taste of alcohol. If he can stop after taking 50-100 g at lunch and reach for the next hard alcohol until dinner, for me this person is not an alcoholic. A person is an alcoholic when he feels ashamed or guilty that he drinks, when he starts hiding that he drinks, he regularly drinks more than the amount he intended to drink, ie he drinks until he finishes the bottle he bought, etc. But you, author, with your grunts, may influence your father to be addicted to alcoholism. When a person drinking 2-3 beers and 100-150 g of brandy a day has someone to grumble about alcoholism, the person starts drinking more than stopping because of the grumbler. The right approach if you're so worried is to look for responsibilities,
It's disturbing everywhere, but you can't live someone else's life. If he wants to drink, he will drink and you can't guard him 24/7. You told him he didn't feel it, what more could you do?
Hahaha number 4 broke the dumb meter. The man was drunk, feeling ashamed. I don't know an alcoholic who is ashamed to drink. On the contrary, he is proud. Yes, I have the criterion, honestly. An alcoholic never realizes that he is like that and that he is doing something wrong. Everyone shouts like the author's father, "Well, I'm drunk, what can I do, she's human." Be literate and read what the World Health Organization has written about the criterion of whether you are an alcoholic. I will save you the search and write it. For women - 140 ml abs. alcohol per week and 4 days a week. For men - 210 ml abs. alcohol per week and 4 days per week. Everything up is already a form of alcoholism, where milder, where more severe. The fact that most Bulgarians think that 100 g each is not drinking is a complete illusion. First drink max. 4 days a week and a second for a man you have 210 ml per week, which is 500 ml of brandy. Supposedly up to 4 days a week, 125 g of brandy is OK, from there you are only mistaken that you are not an alcoholic.
№6 I actually copied the symptoms of alcoholism from a psychiatric report on alcoholism because I'm a woman and I don't drink. So you think the psychiatrists who deal with this are dumb, is that so or are you ...!? !! If you read what the WHO means by "everything up", they mean that those who drink more than 210 grams a week abuse, but you can't call them alcoholics. If you dig up where their data comes from, it's actually data from sociological surveys / statistics /, they asked 1000 people and made statistics. With the same success they can make statistics that it is normal to eat 3, 5 meatballs a week. Of course, alcoholics are ashamed and hide the amount of alcohol from the one who scolds them, who mutters to them or who will punish them in some way, or from their children. If you've seen people, who boast how much alcohol they have drunk, you have not seen an alcoholic, but you have seen people who boast of their well-being that they can afford it. These are not alcoholics, but people who abuse alcohol, I hope you understand the difference. And I have seen an alcoholic who literally trembles in the morning, has tremors in his hands, until in the morning after waking up he drinks 100 grams of hard alcohol, then stops trembling, by the way, the person works and does his job well. We line up in the cafe in front of the factory before work to get coffee, he lines up in the queue to take 100g, and drinks them at the bar of the ex. He lives in the factory with one aid, because years ago his wife fired him, but he is also a hard-working and master, I see the men go looking for him to do their job. I notice that men respect him, but no one talks to him in the morning in the queue before he has drunk the first 100g, then they talk to him calmly. Nobody scolds him in particular, the men give him bottles of brandy for a service, and the most interesting thing, no matter how much he drank last night, he is never late for the hour in which he opens the cafe, respectively he is not late for work. This is an alcoholic! A person who trembles, who cannot live without it, who would neglect family and friends to get alcohol.
This is domestic alcoholism. Your worries are completely justified and the phase is not initial, but there is nothing to help him if he does not want to end it himself. He will perceive any conversation on the topic as a provocation and will be offended and angry, he will never admit that there is a problem - he will even demonstratively pour more. I speak from experience - my father was unfortunately an alcoholic. The chance to startle and stop is only when the relevant health problems begin, and if it is not too late.
In fact, the line is quite thin. I never understood that starting in the morning. I drank quite regularly before I had an injury and now I haven't drank for almost 2 months. But before that I drank beer every day, almost without a pass. Sometimes 2-3, sometimes 6-7, and more. I think if you don't have a psychological and physical addiction, you can drink more, but you're okay. But as I said, the line is thin. Now I drink from time to time, but I don't. If I recover, I'll probably drink again, but I'd like to see less. In general, I drink beers mainly because they are delicious to me, then because of the effect of relaxing you, and so on. I just enjoy the action itself, not so much to knock out, for example. It has happened to me 2-3 times to be aggressive (and not much) and several times not to remember, for a long time drinking. In general, I become sociable and nothing more, at most I get enough sleep. But to see my mother on 2 vodkas. Disgusting, nagging, etc. So, if your father is affected by okay and goes to work and does not overdo it then - great. If he gets grumpy or can't do things, then it's a problem.
Yes, he is an alcoholic.