I met the man of my life. Or so I thought. Until I realized that I hadn't been able to buy coffee for home for a week. I just don't have free time. My boyfriend and I have only recently been together and see each other non-stop. If we don't see each other, we talk on the phone for at least three hours. We met two or three weeks ago. after about a week we left. I've always looked for a man like him - hellishly sexy, handsome and well-groomed, tall, with a great education, intelligent. His attitude towards me is perfect. He gives me a lot of attention and tenderness, I think every woman dreams of such a man. However, I have been single for a long time and this sudden change is stressing me. I'm not used to not having personal time. The other day I just wanted to sit at home and listen to music all day. I haven't seen my friends in a hundred years. However, he seems to have no friends. I asked him and it turned out that he had serious family problems. His mother is very ill and that is why he closed himself in the last year, he did not go out with acquaintances much. In addition, just before we met, he left his job of his own free will. Apparently at the moment our programs are a little different, because I go to work regularly, while he has a lot of free time and wants to see each other every day for a long time. Saturday or Sunday all day. The other thing that worries me is that we haven't had sex yet. We have already gone out as boyfriends 7 times, one of which was for a whole day, I don't think it's in a hurry. I have a lot of sex, I don't want to cheat on him, but I do a lot, and he doesn't take the first step. He lives alone, his aunt lived next to him and he didn't invite boyfriends to them. It was not convenient, because his aunt comes in when she decides. This is quite strange. It also worries me that once we were at the bar, he kissed me for 1 hour. Which I'm literally tired of, but I can't tell him. Otherwise, I like it very much, I want to kiss and talk, but to have some balance. Not to kiss for 1 hour and if they hadn't closed the restaurant maybe another hour ... Besides, I didn't see him aroused by so many kisses. Give me some advice.
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According to your detailed description, he is either bi-or gay, sorry
My advice is to talk to him and tell him these things very carefully and with love. You need communication, that's how things are smoothed out.
Take him to your house and have sex there. It is clear that it will not happen with him.
Now read this, make notes ... And go to him and tell him these things ...
Do you want advice? Run with 200 of a man who has left his job due to family problems - the rest I will not comment that will be a long dissection. When you were at the bar who paid the bill, if he was unemployed he probably counted the pennies, if he paid he forgot about the excuses with his aunt, he probably has a job and a wife - the next suggestion would be to see him at a hotel. And 7 times as boyfriends for me is in a hurry for sex, but this is already your problem.
If everyone could run with 200, there would be no vehicles - buses, trains, ships and planes, and everyone would fly like that without needing a car! Before you write nonsense, you better think sober!
She met the man of her life ... safe from the hasty conclusions of women who had been in a relationship for a long time
This instead of telling us. Tell him. If he's the man you've been dreaming of, he'll understand you and things will get better. He is not married since he manages to give you so much time. He's just obviously an outsider, a little weirder. Until sex, I had a girlfriend who loved to kiss and cuddle for hours and not that I didn't like her but you really like her at one time and want something more, in the end she turned out to be a virgin. Apparently he suffocates you and doesn't give you personal space, you have to discuss this and explain to him, don't worry, because I know what's in his head. He thinks that when he's not talking to you and he's not with you, you're with someone else, believe me, that's what he's thinking. Make him understand that you want him and do not want another and in 2 words to trust each other, you have recently been together, trust is built over time. My current boyfriend and I started in exactly the same way, as I was the annoying boyfriend but over time I realized that I was really overdoing it and I started to trust her and everything passed and at the moment we have a great relationship. And I had sex with her for the first time only after 7 months, she wanted it many times before those 7 months but she told me that she was not sure yet. Just to tell you, strange as it may seem, as there are women who guard their vaginas and try not to have sex in a hurry, so there are such men. In my opinion, you should appreciate his quality, that he wants to enter your heart and soul and not his pants. Your problem is trust, and it builds slowly. she had wanted it many times before in those 7 months, but she told me she wasn't sure yet. Just to tell you, strange as it may seem, as there are women who guard their vaginas and try not to have sex in a hurry, so there are such men. In my opinion, you should appreciate his quality, that he wants to enter your heart and soul and not his pants. Your problem is trust, and it builds slowly. she had wanted it many times before in those 7 months, but she told me she wasn't sure yet. Just to tell you, strange as it may seem, as there are women who guard their vaginas and try not to have sex in a hurry, so there are such men. In my opinion, you should appreciate his quality, that he wants to enter your heart and soul and not his pants. Your problem is trust, and it builds slowly.