Hello! A girl of 22 writes to you. You may find it funny what I am going to write about, because in this period I should have outlived what it is about, and it is true that these are the anxieties that are called. but that's the way it is with me. In essence. I have never liked myself in person or body since I was a child, and a lot of people have told me things that have made me even more insecure and complex about my appearance. I am from a family, how to say exactly - my father has many siblings, they are a big family and we are a rarity, maybe, in those times it was so obvious that the families had many children. I say this because some are darker, with dark eyes and hair, and others are the complete opposite of blond and light. I fall from the dark ones. You must have thought we were Roma now ... but it's not like that, I say this because, as they say today, it is rare to meet such a large genus, and people at first glance draw these conclusions. As a child, I was jokingly called a gypsy, obviously because of my slightly dark complexion (I'm not too bright, but I'm not light), but that's what most young children say. Well, from acquaintances and relatives, this is not an insult, but later they started calling me that and at school some people thought I was a gypsy and I didn't like it. Now you will say it if you have nothing to offend. Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT aint for me either, Looks like BT aint for me either. Then after my primary education I changed school, there were Turks there and when I moved with a classmate and she met an acquaintance very often these acquaintances of hers thought of me as a Turk and started talking to me in Turkish ... It's a little funny, but on the other hand, I was still kind of sick. I don't know if my features are like that. And I don't like myself, I just don't see anything good in me. My cousins are very beautiful with nice features, and I look like a black sheep, I took the ugliest. I even dare to say that my mother is a very beautiful woman and I have always wondered why I have come up with the ugliest duck. I don't scratch my nose, I have ugly teeth, many things, I just don't have the right thing. My complexion has never been the same, a yellowish spot and spots, a small forehead, my face is small, my left and right sides are different, it is true that no one is symmetrical, but I have the feeling that mine is too visible. I am short with a normal physique, even in my body I do not have the natural gifts that it is called. Everyone will say abe you suggest nonsense. Yes, not all of them are perfect, but I still see at least 1 good thing in the others, and I don't have one of them. I look at acquaintances I haven't seen in years, they're all beautiful, and I'm still ugly and unattractive. There is no way to fix things with make-up, hairstyle and clothes, in my case, just to finish, I still don't like it, then the features can't be changed. No one has complimented me and I haven't been liked much by the opposite sex, I understand them. And my friends told me that I was ugly ... What can people lie to me, they are right. There is no need for self-deception. When I go out to the store, I always put on make-up, it's not some striking, light everyday make-up, but simply, if I don't make up, I'm very insecure, because I don't have natural beauty. Looking at the others and without makeup they are still fine, I'm even bad with make-up, what can I say, and I have make-up skills, but that doesn't help much either. I know it's stupid what I think and say, but it weighs on me and makes me complex. And my skin is not perfect for everything. When I hear girls complain that they were fat, they wanted to lose weight, I get angry at them because most of them are beautiful, I had a nice body, I was thin, eh !!! What helps me is that I am weak. It doesn't make me beautiful. And don't say -As you think you are - that's how you are for others, because no matter how hard I try to feel good, I just can't, I don't feel comfortable in my own skin, not to mention that never, but never will to feel sexy ... I stop here because I guess it got very annoying, some kind of lame, I know there are some more serious things than mine, but just don't tell me that appearance didn't matter, we all know the truth very well, everyone looks at it. Being beautiful on the inside is now rare for anyone to appreciate, and in many cases, the chance of coming across someone who won't look what you look like is minimal. This weighs on me because there is no way to change it. Thank you, if you had the patience to read it all, I know it was very annoying and I don't know why I actually wrote it, in fact, I know in a moment of depression, it will pass me by, then it will call again ...
Answers 13
I read it and ... I fell silent without reacting. What can I tell you, people crush you, and you resign yourself, people are artificial, and you consider yourself a monster. Your situation is not colored at all. However, the problem comes from you and your self-esteem. Don't think that everyone has an even complexion, there is no way only 10% of women have one, the others either use make-up or go to beauticians. Everyone has a glitch, I broke down as a child, I have scars on my face and body, I broke my nose and lips, and I was born with problems in the nerves of the eyes. (No, no, I need glasses and no, my eyes are not crooked). Still, I don't admit to being ugly, it can always get worse, and I've received enough compliments. Imagine young women with burn scars all over their faces, with broken teeth and exhausted hair. Nothing in a person is perfect and beauties are thought to be super ugly, but NA- male audience and friends. And as for the comments on your address that you are ugly, etc. - Why are you attached to them !? No man can tell you you are ugly or beautiful, no man should have power over how you are perceived. Yes, but you believe them. And did you know that popular stars are called ugly, whores, they didn't cost money without make-up, they were rubbish ... Is Angelina Julie ugly? And Jennifer Aniston? We are people and we are different, we have different tastes and different views on things. There is no way everyone will like you, but there is no way everyone will not like you, and what kind of friends are they if they comment on how ugly you are and the like. It's normal for me and there are some comments between women when it comes to appearance, but not so directly, it's acceptable - Well, yes, your nose is a little crooked, but come on, big deal ... Well, if he's going to tell you in a nutshell that you're really bad, but still ... don't be so influenced. Tip: Go in front of the mirror and look again at the face you've been cursing and insulting for years, damn it, it doesn't deserve it. You have good features, everyone has your eyes, lips, if you will, in the body. Common combinations - ugly face, sexy body OR cute face, horrible body ...
I think that from the first sentences it is clear where the problem is rooted. If a person grows up insecure, he is left with complexes that are extremely difficult to eradicate. They may even last a lifetime, but that doesn't mean you can't fight them. I think you can live normally if you manage to like yourself to some extent. You will certainly not gain great self-confidence, but at least YOU must have SOME! Otherwise it gets very bad ... And those "girlfriends" who tell you you're not pretty, get rid of them! Try to surround yourself with people who value you, support you and like you with all your shortcomings. I'm sure you have many positive traits (physical and mental). If you can't see them on your own, friends and relatives should show them to you! Accept compliments, don't pull away, and build self-confidence.
It is a pity that you suffer from complexes, and it is not necessary. Even if you were Turkish or Gypsy, you saw it with your girlfriend (Turkish), didn't you? has interfered. I myself was the ugly duckling until my 16th birthday. Then I took it and lost weight, started dressing sexy - with clothes on my body, let my hair grow almost to the waist and dyed it in natural blonde. I had glasses, I put on my lenses. I had crooked teeth - I straightened them with splints. I bought the lenses, the splints and the clothes myself (everything from the cheapest). And I cut my own hair, I make myself. I had acne, I learned to put on make-up so that it would not be noticed. I turned into a swan. I was noticed by a very wealthy gentleman and today I wear shoes from 1000 BGN, I drive an expensive car, I have a very well paid job and I travel a lot. And I was the ugliest and most clumsy in my class. Even today, people tell me I had a crooked nose. I will not operate on him, nor have I operated on anything on my own. The disadvantages just make me interesting. I already go without makeup because my acne is fine. Above all, however, I invested in education, books, education, relationships, friendships. Do not be a slave to your complexes, but think about how to beautify yourself. Why don't you start with your hair and teeth, your clothes? I'm telling you, almost no money is needed. I still buy second-hand clothes today, because they are western, and there are almost no clothes elsewhere in our country (not from the most expensive brands). If you are weak - well, sorry, but you are one step ahead of me, because I still struggle every day with my tendency to gain weight. Success! Do not be a slave to your complexes, but think about how to beautify yourself. Why don't you start with your hair and teeth, your clothes? I'm telling you, almost no money is needed. I still buy second-hand clothes today, because they are western, and there are almost no clothes elsewhere in our country (not from the most expensive brands). If you are weak - well, I'm sorry, but you are one step ahead of me, because I still struggle every day with my tendency to gain weight. Success! Do not be a slave to your complexes, but think about how to beautify yourself. Why don't you start with your hair and teeth, your clothes? I'm telling you, almost no money is needed. I still buy second-hand clothes today, because they are western, and there are almost no clothes in our country anywhere else (not from the most expensive brands). If you are weak - well, I'm sorry, but you are one step ahead of me, because I still struggle every day with my tendency to gain weight. Success!
Why are you so obsessed with your appearance? Man has many other aspects - it's not just appearance. Her skin was like that, her nose was like that ... If you are a cool person, if you give joy and smiles to others, if you purr like a kitten in bed or throw yourself like a tigress, if you help and comfort - who will look at your forehead how much it is high and is your face asymmetrical !? ... See, for example, Louis Armstrong's poignant voice and how he enchants people with trumpets, otherwise his face looks like an exploded oil stove ... I wish you to fall in love soon, then in no time all the nonsense you have accumulated in the head will come out of there strong smoke!
Hello dear unknown girl! You are a little older than my daughter, and your sense of self is very similar to mine when I was your age. This is a big mistake, and if you don't realize some things in time, you can screw up your life a lot. I considered myself a fever. My friends thought the same, and many of them shared this observation with me. I didn't realize it was cruelty, I thought it was frankness. Believe me, these are not good friends. People who hurt you for no reason find solace in your pain. It's perverted, but I think it's very common to belittle someone to feel taller. Learn to discover this in others and in yourself and save yourself in time before you believe in some nonsense and make it the motto of your life. I can't tell you how much pain I drank and how many mistakes I made because of it, that I considered myself ugly. They called me Grandma Yaga, asked if she was ugly at home and many other extras. I didn't dare look at the boy because I thought I would offend him with my attention. So I wasted my life complaining about the impossible beauty. I later realized that my problem was with my mind rather than my beauty. Do you know that really everyone wears a cross and that not being the first beauty is one of the lightest. You may be blind, immobile, abandoned. You can be a beautiful slave to perverts or seriously ill. I loved my ordeal. The strangest thing is that I loved myself and now I am happy, and on top of everything, even though my age is twice and on top of yours, people tell me that I am getting better. Understand that when you love yourself and are grateful that you have a body and a life, you will have a charm that many people will prefer to beauty. When your interests go beyond skin color, nose length, waist circumference and other such fun things, the world will be interested in you. With all my soul I wish you to see. You will see yourself in a new way and you will make the world see you that way. You will survive, you will find love and yourself and you will be happy. It all depends on you. Trust a person who has experienced it. Kisses!
No matter how dark-skinned you are, you can't be blacker than me lol. My whole childhood was spent in hints that I was a gypsy. And 10 years later came the BOOM of tanning beds. And the girls who used to insult me as a gypsy woman are now filling someone's pockets for a 10-day tan that turns into flakes and skin. To this day, when I meet someone, I then ask common acquaintances if I am Bulgarian. So what do I do? Should I go to bed to die? If I was too white, they might ask if I was albino. But I'm not you, and hardly so many complexes can be uprooted and turned into pros in two days, whatever you read here or whatever they tell you. I'm even convinced that you're not ugly at all, you just don't get it right. I have such an acquaintance, a very beautiful girl, but go explain it to her. And yet why don't you try to change things, which you do not like - for example, skin, teeth? It is not impossible. Before the physical change you need a mental one - there are the problems, not in the eyes, forehead or ass. Success Bad
Wow, I have such well-known ugly people with naughty features, but they go crazy and with confidence. If you like yourself, you radiate it from within somehow.
comment 3 - yes, yes ...
I can tell you right away where the problem is coming from. Your problem comes from low self-esteem and especially from the fact that you do not like yourself and do not accept yourself as you are. I've been like you for as long as I can remember (I'm 19) I put on a lot of make-up, but even in this way I still miss something to be the way I want to be. I think that this is exactly what is lame in you too ... that you have not found a style, something that is only yours, to like yourself, to be different ... Ah, how painfully familiar this is to me. You know, the only way to get out of this unpleasant period in your life is to go shopping, to buy what you like and what suits you well. It is very important not to copy someone who is too far from your styling, because you will not succeed. That's what I'm telling you ... be yourself! He said you can do make-up ... well, experiment! Nice makeup is always nice to look at! I can tell you that I am ugly without make-up and I am not a beauty with make-up, but definitely with make-up you can achieve good results, even just for a few hours to feel good in your skin. I know you don't want me to tell you to accept yourself the way you are because you don't like yourself, but if you don't really have any facial blemishes, why not like yourself? Try to 'beautify' the facial features that you like the most, and the defects will not make such an impression on you ... :) that you don't want me to tell you to accept yourself as you are because you don't like yourself, but if you really don't have any facial defects, why not like yourself? Try to 'beautify' the facial features that you like the most, and the defects will not make such an impression on you ... :) that you don't want me to tell you to accept yourself as you are because you don't like yourself, but if you really don't have any facial defects, why not like yourself? Try to 'beautify' the facial features that you like the most, and the defects will not make such an impression on you ... :)
Ще говоря от опит: Твоята диагноза е ниско самочувствие. Имах проблем подобен на твоят, мислех си, че съм мургава. Ползвах дълго време разни избелващи продукти и в един момент ефектът дойде, мислиш си, че тогава всичко вече е било наред? Не, вече бях прекалено светла, пак не ставаше. Пак се мразех. Пак бях грозна. Косата ми също беше проблем. Не си харесвах цветът. Намирах го за отвратителен, направо ми се повръщаше. Смених го... Много пъти. С всеки цвят сякаш ставах по-грозна. Не харесвах тялото си. Мислех, че съм дебела. Отслабнах. Вече бях торба с кости -пак не ставах. Бях изпробвала всички възможни начини на гримиране и всички прически. Четох много литература на всякаква тема свързана с външният вид, подобряването му и това да приемеш себе си. Опитвах се да се обличам в различни стилове, докато намеря своя. Имаше и още много трансформации и опити спрямо външният ми вид, докато един ден не се събудих и не видях в огледалото момичето, което винаги бях търсила и което смятах, че никога няма да се появи. След всичките опити, които бях направила бях успяла да изградя един уникален външен вид и ако не ги бях направила нямаше да стигна до тук- да се приемам, даже да се харесвам. Разбираш какъв пример искам да ти дам, нали? Не бих ти препоръчала да правиш някакви фрапиращи промени, ако не искаш, но защо например не оправиш зъбите си? Твърдиш, че са криви, а това е нещо съвсем поправимо и би ти вдъхнало много самочувствие. Можеш и да ги избелиш. И аз преди казвах, че само един грим или нови парцалки няма да ме направят красива и всъщност това е истина. Това какво самочувствие ще ти вдъхнат те ще те направи красива. Експериментирай с грима, прическите и дрехите, докато не намериш това, което ти харесва и подхожда най-много. Инвестирай в (разумно) скъпа козметика, продукти за коса и дрехи, качествените продукти често могат да те накарат да се чувстваш по-самоуверена. И нямам предвид да подхранваш егото си със скъпи неща, не ме разбирай погрешно. Просто един качествен фон дьо тен (например) би стоял много по-различно и хубаво, би прикрил хубаво кожата ти и пак би стоял естествено. Казваш, че си слаба - това е голям плюс стига да знаеш как да го подчертаеш. Забелязвала ли си, че манекенките, които дефилират по ревюта почти никога не са хубави в лице? И все пак те са едни от най-желаните и обожавани жени в света. Хубавото тяло е невероятен плюс. Всеки би предпочел невзрачното слабо момиче пред дебелото момиче с хубаво лице (не целя да обидя никого, просто констатирам от лични наблюдения). Всичко зависи от това какви дрехи ще облечеш и по какъв начин ще подчертаеш тялото си. Носът ти лесно може да се прикрие с грим (виж уроците по гримиране в ютуб и ще видиш каква фрапираща промяна може да настъпи). И гледай много уроци по гримиране и за прически в интернет, все ще намериш нещо, което ще те накара да се почувстваш красива. Има много красиви, разкошни мургави жени, които най-малко са циганки или туркини. И всичко е до нагласата ти в крайна сметка, колкото и клиширано да звучи. Ще ми се наистина да те вдъхновя по някакъв начин, но от опит си мисля, че сигурно ще се заинатиш, каквото и да те посъветвам... И все пак ще опитам: Имаше едно момиче, туркиня. Живееше на горният етаж. Беше възможно най-грозното момиче, което някога съм виждала! С несъразмерни форми, пъпки, ужасна гарваново черна коса, която въобще не пасваше на жълтеникавият й тен. Всичко в нея беше много гнусно, приличаше на желе. Тогава беше на около шестнадесет и се премести в друг град. Сега е на двадесет и няколко години, намерих я случайно във фейсбук. И какво да видя? Онова "желе" се беше превърнало в най-разкошната и екзотична жена, която някога съм виждала! Формите й бяха станали толкова апетитни, кожата й беше придобила съвършен бронзов загар и въобще всичко се беше обърнало. Направо, ако бях мъж щях да се оженя за нея! Така че и годините имат значение, все по-красива ще ставаш. Виж снимки на известни личности, като деца и сега. Едни от най-красивите мъже и жени на света някога са били най-грозните младежи, представяш ли си? Това не те ли кара поне малко да.... Вярваш? Няма абсолютно нищо непоправимо във външният ти вид. Майкъл Джексън от чернокож стана бял, пък ти за едни зъби се притесняваш, които са възможно най-поправимото нещо! Относно момчетата... Когато нямаш увереност и само си втълпяваш, че младежът с който общуваш си мисли, че си грозна и няма никакви намерения към теб е нормално съзнателно или не да ги отблъскваш. Прекарвай време с по-грозновати приятелки, за да набавиш допълнително самочувствие. Не може да виждаш всички красиви, а само себе си грозна. Но е хубаво, че имаш високи стандарти към себе си, можеш обаче да ги приложиш по доста по-полезен начин. Не към външният си вид, а към образованието си, например. Така ще има полза, поне. И не забравяй най-важното: Вътрешната красота абсолютно винаги и при всякакви обстоятелства е по-важна от външната. Всеки е красив и може да изглежда още по-красив с няколко елементарни покупки, но вътрешната красота не може да се купи... А в крайна сметка вътрешната красота е най-значима.
Dear girl, we live in the 21st century, plastic surgery, cosmetics and the fashion industry are sufficiently developed. 1) Put on braces. 1 or 1 and 1/2 year and you will have perfect teeth. Bleach them afterwards. And of course don't stop smiling. Use nice lipsticks, make a smile your biggest plus. 2) You're weak, that's great. But still try to train so that your body is tight. 3) Regarding skin problems - go to a dermatologist. It helps me the most to go to a solarium or a series of 3 steps of Clinique. He makes masks regularly. 4) Use quality hair cosmetics. From those who charge the nice salons. And don't limit yourself to shampoo and conditioner - have a mask, serums for the edges, for shine and all sorts of other things. Get a regular haircut once a month. Straighten your hair with a straightener to make it perfectly straight and smooth. 5) Maintain perfect hygiene, walk in clean ironed clothes and use a nice, not very strong perfume. 6) Go to manicures and pedicures regularly. 7) Drink 2 liters of water a day and eat healthy to have better skin. 8) Continue with makeup as soon as you can. I can't do it at all ahaha ... 9) If you feel ready, do a rhinoplasty. That's it. And I want to tell you that I'm surrounded by ugly girls (not just ugly, but even repulsive, who stink of sweat and walk around like bums). But they do not sleep and are confident. And some boyfriends have even lied. I'm sure that no matter how you look, it's 100 times better than them. So come on up! to have better skin. 8) Continue with makeup as soon as you can. I can't do it at all ahaha ... 9) If you feel ready, do a rhinoplasty. That's it. And I want to tell you that I'm surrounded by ugly girls (not just ugly, but even repulsive, who stink of sweat and walk around like bums). But they do not sleep and are confident. And some boyfriends have even lied. I'm sure that no matter how you look, it's 100 times better than them. So come on up! to have better skin. 8) Continue with makeup as soon as you can. I can't do it at all ahaha ... 9) If you feel ready, do a rhinoplasty. That's it. And I want to tell you that I'm surrounded by ugly girls (not just ugly, but even repulsive, who stink of sweat and walk like bums). But they do not sleep and are confident. And some boyfriends have even lied. I'm sure that no matter how you look, it's 100 times better than them. So come on up! that no matter how you look, it's 100 times better than them. So come on up! that no matter how you look, it's 100 times better than them. So come on up!
Oh, girl, girl ... there's something beautiful in everyone, you just have to find it because it's buried deep inside you. From the age of 10 to 15, I was quite ugly. So to say fluffy, short, with greasy, sparse and ugly hair, no taste and style of dress, I did not use makeup, I wore horrible shaggy eyebrows and crooked teeth, to mention that I also have slight hair problems, one of them breast a little bigger than the other ... YES, but one day, despite the ridicule and repulsion of the boys, I decided to draw the line and turn a new page, maybe that's when I can say that I became a teenager. I put braces, from those that are removed when you want, my teeth are fine for less than 9 months. I started photoepilation, I signed up for a gym, I lost 12 kg in 2 and a half months, I started plucking my eyebrows, wearing skirts and dresses, high shoes, my hair is fine because I started to pay attention to it - it's not as thick as I want it to be, but now at least I know how to make it look good. I got from the gym with a very satisfying looking body, which I still support so diligently to this day, my breasts have improved that they even shaped great, I discovered how makeup gives me self-confidence, but not to feel 2 on 3, you can take 1 hour to make up, but do it well and beautifully. The boys started paying me, I would say, too much attention. See me now, 18 years old. I'm from the ugly duckling-in the beautiful swan, people I haven't seen in a long time can't recognize me on the street when they see me, I'm studying fashion, I'm paying more attention ... and I don't know why you're worried about your complexion, the girls spray money to go to the solarium to get a tan that is given to you for free =) so even I myself, I think before the summer to visit the solarium, I do not remember when I have not had a good tan. Everyone can change radically, as long as they want to, know how, be interested, today you can find so much information on the Internet. Start somewhere and know that everything requires patience, there is no way to click a finger and become the new Adriana Lima. For your face, I recommend creams to even out your complexion, I read somewhere that daily smearing of the face with fresh milk also helps. Don't get complex, it doesn't help! cheRRy * you can find so much information on the internet today. Start somewhere and know that everything requires patience, there is no way to click a finger and become the new Adriana Lima. For your face, I recommend creams to even out your complexion, I read somewhere that daily smearing of the face with fresh milk also helps. Don't get complex, it doesn't help! cheRRy * you can find so much information on the internet today. Start somewhere and know that everything requires patience, there is no way to click a finger and become the new Adriana Lima. For your face, I recommend creams to even out your complexion, I read somewhere that daily smearing of the face with fresh milk also helps. Don't get complex, it doesn't help! cheRRy *
You really have to like yourself. I also used to think of something unpleasant for the eye as a child, then came a moment of first love thrills and ... no one liked me, did not bother me until 1 day I fell in love with a boy. she liked my best friend (everyone thought she was beautiful) I was very sick. In the summer I decided to gain self-confidence, the next school year ... I had my first boyfriend and 100 boys where they liked me. and to this day it is so. You have to see yourself beautiful, then you will start to move even in a different way, people will see the change and it will affect you even more positively.