Hello! I will quickly share my story in the shortest and clearest possible way. 2 years ago we broke up with anyone I still can't overcome. He broke up with me. I was small, I didn't know what I wanted, I was a child and I was right. Initially, after we broke up, we went out for a few more months, but as a friend. He called me often. At one point we stopped meeting. He found a girlfriend. However, he called me from time to time. There was always something to talk about. We ran into each other once and he offered to take me to us. He asked me what was going on, if there was anything interesting, and I told him it was the same. The next day he called me to ask me the same thing again and I told him to tell me if he wanted to ask me something specific and he asked me who this boy in the photo on Facebook was. I explained to him that I had found a friend. He asked me how I was doing with him and I explained, and he almost told me that he did these things for me. He called me several times a month and suddenly after a while he started calling me less. I decided to call him on his birthday too, but his phone was turned off. He never called me. He wrote to me several times on Facebook for a few months and that was it. For these 2 years since we haven't been together we have kept in touch from time to time. He didn't mention to me that he has a girlfriend, but on Facebook everything is clear. I decided to write to him in December for Christmas and I understood that he would go abroad to study there and I asked him what about your girlfriend and he replied that he would take her with him. He only texted me a few days ago to ask me if he wanted to see me before he left. Can anyone explain to me how hard it is for us to see each other 2 years apart before he leaves? I haven't forgotten him ... I think I love him ... He has a girlfriend and he obviously loves her ... I don't know what to do. I will be happy if you give me opinions on what you think as outsiders. And if we see each other, do you think it makes sense to talk to him about not forgetting him or better to leave things like that. Thanks!
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Let him go. There is no point in telling him anything for the simple reason that he will not stay. It will go away and it will not change anything. You won't make him think. He has already planned his future. And he perceives you as a child. Don't say you love him, etc. Because you're just fooling yourself. Believe me, I was too. You don't love him, he just turned your head with attention and nonsense. That's what most do. He played with you and almost had you as a reserve. It's stupid. Don't believe him. Don't trust any boy. Take it as advice from me. You will probably say to yourself "what is this one here that makes me understand" and you will probably try to justify your "beloved" again. Don't worry, it will pass. Very soon you will begin to remember fragments and you will see for yourself how he manipulated you. You will cool down to it yourself. I know you can handle it. Simply because time helps and erases feelings. Over the years, you will forget what humanity, feelings, emotions and kindness are. Well, of course, it depends on many things. It is relative so do not be afraid. You can stay a good man. :) Come on success. If the meeting is over, tell me what happened. :)
hello, why don't you go and go abroad ... go, because if you don't go, you'll never know what would happen. And to admit your feelings to him, but if you don't want to, that's another question ... you ask for an opinion ... I think go and admit your feelings. Whatever happens after that because I think two years have been enough for you to keep quiet, hide your feelings ... and watch him from afar ... if he leaves ... you may never see him again .. I wish you success :) and write what happened
I can only tell you that life is cruel. And I never understood the meaning of God giving you to experience a love and then quickly take it from you cities, countries, other people, etc .. Leave things like this for now .. After a while, years even if in 20 years your life and your journey may cross again. But only it can ... Sometimes and very often they never continue to stay there back in the past ... Only God knows .. Everything is destiny and is predestined.
He may think you are in a normal friendship. Whether to meet for coffee before leaving is up to you. But now that it's gone, it'll be good for you - you won't hear (try) and you'll slowly forget it, since you're not likely to spot much. When a person has feelings - contact with the person does not give him the opportunity to overcome it. Just stop the contact and that's it.
Yes, you have to tell him how you feel! You did it no matter what he answered you, even if he left and even if you had to forget him later, at least you would know that you were drunk. Thanks to this boy for the friendly relations you stayed with after the separation, it is obvious that he is not someone with a rural mentality. But just because you've heard doesn't necessarily mean you have feelings, it may be something else, maybe some kind of attachment, which is normal. Go to the meeting, tell him everything and you will understand. Success!
See what's where there are 2 3rd place is not, just even if nothing happens imagine that his girlfriend finds out there will be circuses and not small ones, and put yourself in her place how would you feel if your friend goes to is seen with his ex. Here is a simple example, he leaves with her, because obviously their things are serious and do you want to be a reserve? is it that special Why didn't he pick you up? - he didn't pick you up, because he had better company, he had someone to be with and what to do, and he's obviously looking for you when he's alone. Don't expose yourself, it's not worth it!
Up to number 7: I don't want to do anything with him while he has a girlfriend. It's no coincidence that I didn't tell him about my feelings. During these 2 years he kept looking for me and even told me if he didn't call me I wouldn't remember and if something happened to him I wouldn't understand. Then I decided to call him for his birthday. His phone was turned off, he didn't dial me after that. He wanted to see me before he left. I'm glad, but I personally, if I had a friend, wouldn't think or look for an ex, and I'm tormented by why he does it. Yes, it is no longer often from rain to wind, but again .. I will see him and then I want I do not want I will forget him .. he will leave and that's it ..
Author: The last comment was again from me, I forgot to write it. I don't think he'll tell his girlfriend. What will he say to her, I think or I'm going to see my ex ... I don't think ... and I don't know if it makes sense given that he's leaving ... Honestly, I'm already very confused and I don't know if I should tell him at all. .. I think we'll just see each other, we'll talk and I won't share the fact that I haven't forgotten it ... Until number 7 you're right where there are 2, there's no place for the 3rd, I don't want to be a reserve. It is very clear to me that he is with her, if I tell him he will not expect to respond to my feelings, but to relieve me. It is very difficult for me to keep it, it will be 3 years soon and I will not be able to move on ... Thank you all for the advice, I will write if I see you to tell you how it went ... :)