Today I made breakfast for my brother for work, but he was not at home. He called me on the way home to tell me "Put me to eat", I told him I made him pancakes for breakfast, he said good and hung up. When he came home he started shouting at me to fix the clothes he was throwing when he came home and he started insulting me that I was simple and didn't think with my head (it hurts me a lot when they tell me because I have memory problems and I'm always I was depressed that it was difficult for me to remember, although in this case it was not something I had to remember). A week or two ago I was going to leave, after 2 days in a row I had cleaned and tidied, ironed and so on, to surprise ours and my brother when they came home from vacation. Result: My brother accused me of cleaning.
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Apparently they are used to being your maid at home and they take for granted what you do for them. In order to give you good advice on how to act in this situation, it is important to give a little more information about yourself: - How old are you? - How serious is your illness? Can you work to earn some money or does it prevent you from being able to work? - Are there other people in your life who can support you morally? - What is your education? Ana
Stop being a maid and then you will be appreciated.
Darling, when you bend down, your naked ass will come out, you shouldn't be angry with me later. If you haven't gone on vacation with yours, if you've been thinking about moving out, I guess you're an adult. Get out and don't look for them.
They go on vacation without you, and then they accuse you, you follow their asses and they just shout at you? Is this story true ?? If you have problems or an illness, shouldn't they not leave you alone and leave, but take you? I almost don't care about things ..
Author: Up to number 4 and number 3: The story is completely true, I do not have a serious illness, just the most common problems with memory and concentration. I have a hard time learning, I have a hard time remembering, but I experience it. And yes, I'm an adult, but I can't move, they provide for me. I am 19 years old, just turned. Up to number 1: At the age of 19, I have a high school education, "Illness" interferes with my ability to work so much that I can't learn my lessons and memorize them. As for moral support: My friend is very caring and supportive, but he is not serious. He promises to take care of me, and then he refuses. With it, things happen only if they are spontaneous. To number 2: If I don't serve, it won't happen ... I've been told to grab my rags and disappear, or they can't wait to get out, or I don't know what ... But usually the opposite is true, they don't give me the freedom to do it. They don't let me work, they don't let me live separately. I just stay locked up at home, without permission to go out and go somewhere, and I repeat how they can't stand me, and at the same time they don't want to let me go, because .. I don't know exactly how Cinderella feels
Well, author, you've been an adult for a year because someone had to "give" you. If you are told to jump over the bridge, what? First take it and secretly start looking for SOME job. You have a high school education, what did you study for? 2/3 of the people are not university graduates, it is not scary and your "illness" will not harm you much in life. I know people - lawyers and computer scientists - with your disease, but not everyone has the will ... Anyway - find SOME job, move out, if you have to go live in a room somewhere ... Find another friend, if you don't want to ruin your life with this one, you have no future with a frivolous man. Your people show you with attitude what they want - to move out. You are their material burden and they will never appreciate your work. There are people who would pay you for this - you can even go to work as a maid somewhere, they provide sleep there,
If you have girlfriends, you can stay with them for a week, for example. Or in the other case, once you have a high school education, you go to the Labor Office and they will find you a job from there. If you start earning money on your own, go to a dormitory, find a soulmate and live your life in peace. Good luck
Girl, how can you tolerate such an attitude !!! Get to know your friend, explain to him the situation you are in and if he loves you and is really so "caring" he will take care of you. If you don't have the dignity, stay there, but you don't deserve to be crushed and trampled! There's nothing to sit there for, it's not worth it. Just get away, if your friend doesn't take action you just have to find a job, it may be low paid, but it's better not to live in luxury but to be independent and not tolerate such treatment! Good luck darling, write how things are going. This is the idea of the site! :)))
The author: My friend is going to study in Sofia, I'm thinking of asking him to stay with him and do something for rent while I get a job. But he will have a roommate there and he told me that for now we can't live together because of the other boy (who is his friend, not a random person to cut). But at least temporarily ... Otherwise he offered me to live together, to stay with him, but then he withdrew because he promised his friend to be with him, not to leave him alone. Anyway, friends are more important, aren't they? Still, the important thing for now is to find a way, my friends all go to study abroad (my closest ones), the others are not close enough to shelter me.
Find a place to stay. You can't stand such an attitude.
As far as I understand, everyone in your family goes to work and it is assumed that when you are at home - you do your homework. I have an explanation for why you get insults - your people come back tired and nervous from work and start thinking about how they worked for 8-10 hours, and during that time you couldn't do anything significant in an hour or two or three. I'm pretty sure you spend a lot of time in front of your computer or TV, and if you don't know, it's just the reception of super-information that leads to memory problems. In the end, you don't even realize how your day went, and yours may have been on fire in the service during that time, and it may have seemed like an eternity. For you, things will always be a struggle for justice - you think you are giving enough of yourself, and they think you are lying on their backs.
You have two options. As mentioned above, you must leave ... otherwise you do nothing and sit on the same ledge. As the saying goes, you have to find a job and move out ... you can look for rooms to rent. In larger cities, not entire accommodations are offered. You don't need a strong memory for a waitress or a saleswoman - waitresses are better paid. The other option is - you apply to a university and you go to a dormitory - they are not more than BGN 100 per month and you find a job. In the end, even with 3 you enter, there are easier specialties such as pedagogy, etc. and you can work while studying and even if your memory is weaker for a year you will still learn about 3 and push. And for studying so much change in our universities in lighter specialties you do not need - rather diligence and hard work. Ana