I have been in a relationship for two years. And in those two years, I have not received caresses, kindness, understanding, or anything like that. You will ask me what I do with him and why I complain when I don't like to get in my way. Yes, but I don't know why I love this man with all my heart and soul. He is just in me, in my thoughts, in my mind, in absolutely everything. How to make him be nice and I have no idea. I sit down and talk to him, and he tells me that's who I am and cuts it off, it all ends there. I told him ... "if you don't love me I don't keep you by force, you can leave whenever you want" and his answer is "no, I love you, if I didn't love you I wouldn't be by your side" He always said that love it is not said, but it is proven and I agree with that, but for these 2 years and once I have not seen signs of love. Of concern as a friend, maybe, but not love .... I'm so confused, I can't live without him, that's the only reason I haven't left him until now. But if I stay with him, I just don't think I have much life left as a quality person. Either I will enter a madhouse or a grave of nerves. I give my best, despite the fact that he is like that, I am kind, I do whatever he wants and he is still dissatisfied with me. Everything on top lies to me every day and I just go crazy. I make very big compromises with myself and my personality. I humiliate myself, etc., but as I cling to it, I just can't believe there is another for me. Although I see all his bad traits, although I see his terrible attitude, I do not have the strength to tell him the end. Please tell me how to stop loving him, is there a cure for love, if there is tell me.
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Myself, if you liked gentle and loving men, you wouldn't be sitting next to this one :) I can only fall in love with a person who showers me with compliments, never says a rude word, a good person in general. I can't stand bad and rude people, I kick from my surroundings. Do you know how many wonderful men there are, let yours find one for him, you are not for him. And I had one, from which I lost 5 kilograms in 2 days, but I kicked it, even if it's Love, if it destroys you, it's not any Love: P Good luck, darling !!! :))
I was in the same situation as you for a year and a half. But I was his mistress - he was married. I was devastated during this time and cried all the time because he seemed to want me, but at the same time he was pushing me away. I didn't want him to divorce because he was much younger than me, but I liked the way he treated me when he was kind and considerate. And I wonder now how, with all these insults and lies, I wanted him and I still want him, even though he hasn't been looking for me for a month. I constantly dream of him and still suffer for him, but I explain this desire of mine by the fact that he is young and I like to hug and kiss his young body while his character is disgusting. But in the end, it's not worth ruining ourselves with such men - I think they tickle their egos with women like us, seeing us that we can't do without them and playing with us. So, I would tell you: no matter how hard and difficult it is for you, it is not worth bothering with it. And he told me, he can't do without me and he holds on to me, but he dumped me when I stretched out to him and I said that he didn't need to tell me, but to prove to me how much he held on to me. If you stay with this person you will just ruin your life - when you are with him he should unload you and make you feel happy, not to get angry and harass you. Be strong and find your man!
From what I have written, I conclude that you are blind and literate! Open your eyes, life is one ...
For number 1 - finally found a woman who does not claim that all men are the same and garbage.
Don't get involved with such a person and I wonder how you can love him at all !? My husband behaves the same way with me and I feel infinitely unhappy! No caresses, no tenderness on his part towards me and the children! What infuriates me the most is that, shut up! She doesn't even listen to us as we talk. This infuriates me and makes me infinitely unhappy. I can't stand it, but I won't be able to look after my children on my own - from a financial point of view! And they are three, the little ones are twins! So run away from this person until you are committed to children! Otherwise, sorrow and unhappiness await you like me all your life!
I had the same case 1 and a half relationship and he did not show me that he loves me. While we were once at a party on the occasion of our anniversary :) He cried suddenly squeezed and said to me "sorry for all the mistakes I made. Sorry for the times I hurt you and ignored you, I'm like that I don't want to show how much I love you so that I don't lose you, but know that I love you with all my heart and soul and I always want you by my side, so don't despair but tell him that you have the need for caresses but be careful not to take him wrong you know his character you know what to do believe me :)
Abe number 6, did you go to school? How can you write so illiterate ?! Well, you have to guess what you want to say, and you're going to give your mind! For example, what does the word "praeish" mean ??? First learn to write correctly then get involved! Don't expose yourself like that !!!
I don't think it's hard for you to dump him because you love him, but because you're too used to him. Try to be more rude. Go out without him and don't tell him where you're going. Or make up stories he wouldn't believe. Show him that you can do without him. Make him jealous. If he truly loves you, he will realize and change. If not, I really don't see any point in torturing you. Success!
You can't live without him ???? There is no such moment ... you feel like a too weak woman !! You can live without him .. another question is whether you want ... I think your relationship is meaningless .. he has told you thousands of times that love is not said but proven .. and did he prove it to you at least once after thousands are your words transparent ??? Another crack "I'm like that!" We are all like that, but those with experience know that no matter how much you love yourself, when you love someone you become who he wants you to be ... so .. you are too gentle with him, you are too good and he has allowed himself many things .. I'm sorry I'm rude but when something like this happened to me I needed exactly what I'm trying to tell you rudely .. I hope it helps you .. you are a woman, we are strong !!! Do not become his slave in the name of your health and defend yourself .. DROP IT !!!!
Abe number 7, this is not a school of spelling .. if you don't understand, ask ... mistakes are a normal thing .. bahti teachers, you have all become.
I totally agree with number 8. Show him a little indifference but don't make it suddenly easy and STICK about it ok? BE CAREFUL, HE WILL TELL YOU THAT HE LOVES YOU, TELL HIM THE SAME BUT DON'T SHOW HIM, AND GO OUT MORE OFTEN ON YOUR OWN, HARNING YOURSELF AS WELL AS POSSIBLE. If you do, you will know if he really loves you or not.
And I think like numbers 8 and 11. Show him he's losing you! And if there is no reaction from him, just fuck him! Don't waste your time with fools and egotists. I wish you to meet the one who will really make you happy and you will be the only one, unique and beloved and he will really repent and prove it to you! But you have to step away from that and get ready for change, you have to really want it and you will achieve it.
Abe, if I'm going to talk to him and if nothing happens I'll dump him I'll wait for him to tease me and if he doesn't you will understand that there was no point in your relationship just try it and find out the truth even though you love him leave him. ..find another .... be as happy as you want ....
To the author !!! I just have the feeling that we are dating the same person! Hahaha it's like I wrote this! But the harassment has been going on for 1 year and I'm just praying that it will end soon because it doesn't last! The same thing, no attention, he keeps lying to me for good and bad, he may not call me for days, but sooner or later he comes back for a few days, everything is ok and then again. I tried everything, we didn't see each other for 2 months, during which of course he didn't stop looking for me, I turned off all the phones, he came to the office, how many conversations, how many tears, how many scandals, neither good nor bad. I just get up in the morning and in the evening thinking about him and that's it, and he does what he knows, and in the same way he tells me I'm just like that, otherwise he loved me a lot and that's it! And no one else is interested in me, and I'm like horse covers, but I think I just have to go through it, I don't know when and how, but it has to end. There is simply no suitable object for our feelings, not that this is the most appropriate! Really naughty situation I completely understand you! Can I ask the author what zodiac sign she is?!?!?!
Abe women, why do you think so? Well, what about a man who truly loves a woman and wants to keep a serious relationship with her, not to have had a brain teaser to behave very nicely and to admit how he feels about her ... Well, that she she'll drop it right away or start fucking with him on all counts. Men usually say these words and behave the way you want, only with women we want to fuck for a short time and who we care about during that job. - I'm just giving you a little topic for reflection .....
To number 15, because I also have a problem like the author, only my friend is a little kinder. But my problem is at the same time a question to you, how do I know if he loves me and if he cares for me? You say yourself that in principle men do not show their feelings. And if I show my feelings for him, will I be wrong? I'm waiting for an answer from number 15! Thanks in advance!!!
Abe girl, you're not for each other. what do you push where they don't want you. He has another, are you blind or do you pretend to be one because it is more profitable for you. If he loved you half as much as you, he wouldn't hurt you like that. Get away from him and forget him. You will find a real person to carry you in your arms. Give him a green street and bye.