I want to ask you because I was quite antisocial in my earlier years from 12 to 18 years old, I am now almost 19 and I am starting to recover from it little by little, but it is very difficult not to communicate with other people. except with his family, and occasionally with some of the teacher. I am currently working to make money because we are bad financially and I still suffer from emotional problems that hinder my work and normal communication between colleagues, but I already control them more, I have the feeling that antisociality has made me quite naive and negative even for the smallest thing compared to the real world and this pretty bad joke played me at work, but anyway I continue to fight the mental damage caused by my isolation from the outside world. I have a feeling, that sometimes I don't show any character and it both irritates me and I can't fix it and it shows a lot of times. My question to the readers is what would you advise me to build a character, what steps should I start to follow so as not to look cowardly in people's eyes, but self-confident ? I would like to read tips on how to deal with this problem or if there are people who have been in a similar situation as mine to explain to me how they were cured of it. I also want to share that I have not lived with my father since I was a child, we have only seen each other from time to time, whether this is also a sign of my low self-esteem and character. I know about my father that he was like me and he spent most of his time at home as a teenager, after the barracks he opened up more about life. Greetings M18 My question to the readers is what would you advise me to build a character, what steps should I start to follow so as not to look cowardly in people's eyes, but self-confident ?? I would like to read tips on how to deal with this problem or if there are people who have been in a similar situation as mine to explain to me how they were cured of it. I also want to share that I have not lived with my father since I was a child, we have only seen each other from time to time, whether this is also a sign of my low self-esteem and character. I know about my father that he was like me and he spent most of his time at home as a teenager, after the barracks he opened up more about life. Greetings M18 My question to the readers is what would you advise me to build a character, what steps should I start to follow so as not to look cowardly in people's eyes, but self-confident ?? I would like to read tips on how to deal with this problem or if there are people who have been in a similar situation as mine to explain to me how they were cured of it. I also want to share that I have not lived with my father since I was a child, we have only seen each other from time to time, whether this is also a sign of my low self-esteem and character. I know about my father that he was like me and he spent most of his time at home as a teenager, after the barracks he opened up more about life. Greetings M18 what about self-confident ?? I would like to read advice on how to deal with this problem or if there are people who have been in a similar situation as mine to explain to me how they were cured of it. I also want to share that I have not lived with my father since I was a child, we have only seen each other from time to time, whether this is also a sign of my low self-esteem and character. I know about my father that he was like me and he spent most of his time at home as a teenager, after the barracks he opened up more about life. Greetings M18 what about self-confident ?? I would like to read advice on how to deal with this problem or if there are people who have been in a similar situation as mine to explain to me how they were cured of it. I also want to share that I have not lived with my father since I was a child, we have only seen each other from time to time, whether this is also a sign of my low self-esteem and character. I know about my father that he was like me and he spent most of his time at home as a teenager, after the barracks he opened up more about life. Greetings M18 that he was like me and he spent most of his time at home as a teenager, after the barracks he opened up more about life. Greetings M18 that he was like me and he spent most of his time at home as a teenager, after the barracks he opened up more about life. Greetings M18
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Maybe it's good to go to a psychologist to see the cause of this condition. Or maybe it's related to your father. I think you can gain confidence by working, you have your own money. Also enroll in a course or club on something that interests you. For example - science fiction, sports, mountaineering, chess or whatever you like. There you will meet people with whom you will talk about things that really interest you. And so you will have a social life.
Hi, I'll start with the fact that you have nothing to worry about. I know a lot of anxious people, I myself am extremely cramped and incorrigible, and the world outside is taboo for me. As you said, there comes a time when you have to take your life into your own hands and fight alone to survive. The advice I'll give you may be a little ridiculous, but it doesn't stop you from trying. I'll start with the fact that I think you need to be alone. But not just alone, wasting your computer time, but thinking about who you are and what you want. Once you have given accurate and clear answers to all your questions about your personality, start thinking mentally about some problems. In the 21st century, the world is facing a lot of problems, so if you can't come up with something, just log on to Facebook and you'll read news that can give you food for thought. Slowly, start thinking about the situation, expressing and building your opinion and position on the topic. Do all this slowly, do not rush, think things through, but at the same time without fattening your mind. Find a way to relax from time to time, because if you decide to listen to my advice, the questions you will ask yourself can certainly burden you. I think this will help you understand who you are, what your opinion is on certain issues and build a strong position. Separately, it was good for me to go out more often, because of course you can't stay at home all day thinking, it will be self-destruction. Enroll in a sport, somewhere where you will have similar interests to other people. I know that your anxiety and antisociality may cause some fear for this decision, but don't look at your problem so deeply, just try to act. When you meet new people, you will slowly begin to relax. You will see how many new friends you will find, topics for reflection, hobbies, etc., etc. If, as a last resort, you can't deal with your fear this way, start by entering dating sites that don't require registration, but provide you with anonymous chat with a stranger. Starting a topic of conversation with a stranger, you will again be able to learn to express traits of your character. And despite everything, I think it would be better to go to a club, a group, where you will meet real people, because on the Internet you do not know who is opposite and things live are different. If you can't overcome your problem, a good plan would be to go to a psychologist who would give you the best advice on what and how to do it. And again, don't hurry, give yourself, your mind and psyche time, just try to face your fear or unwillingness to be among people every day, because anyway, whether you want to or not, you will have to. I hope you understood me correctly and that I did not confuse you even more :) I wish you SUCCESS! Monica / 17
I understand you, I'm 19 and since I was 14 my "life" has been at home> school> home. In high school, I didn't get along with anyone and I just looked at how to finish faster. Things will get better - you just have to communicate more with people, it's hard, but there is no other way - without a lot of trying and failure you can not deal with the problem. Think about what kind of person you want to be and pretend to be him until you become completely into him.
Don't think directly about what kind of character you want to have. Think about how you should act and let that build your character.