Hello, I decided to share my problem here and if by chance someone went through the same to give me advice. I am a 22 year old girl and I have had a boyfriend for a year. Everything is more than wonderful, we even live together. I am a bit shy and a bit closed-minded, but not too much. I have friends with whom I feel great and I go out, but when he introduced me to his friends I just didn't get along with them. They are not bad people, but I just can't find a common theme with them and for most of the time I just keep quiet with them. They often tell me to say something, don't be silent, but I just can't find common ground with them. Every time we have to go out with them and I start to worry, I get to the point where I start to feel sick before going out with them and even vomit. I can't explain it to myself, but it's very nasty and I just want to deal with this problem. Everything is obviously on a mental basis and I have to do something to cope. Please, if anyone can help me with advice, let him do it. I will be glad to read your opinions. Thank you in advance !!!
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Well, it seems to be on a mental basis. Try to tell a common story. If men talk about fish, cars, etc. male interests, it's normal you can't get involved. I think it will be easier for you if you communicate with their friends. It won't look like you're just silent. And gradually you will get used to it.
Don't talk to idiots. Do not care.
Don't try to like them. Communicate kindly with them and that's it. You don't owe anything.
You don't have to go out with your boyfriend's friends, relatives, do you? Just tell him in a delicate way that you can't go out with them and you're done.
Thank you all! (by the author)